{"id":2617,"date":"2014-08-27T12:20:54","date_gmt":"2014-08-27T12:20:54","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=2617"},"modified":"2014-08-27T12:20:54","modified_gmt":"2014-08-27T12:20:54","slug":"test-doni-te-keni-femije","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2014\/08\/test-doni-te-keni-femije\/","title":{"rendered":"Test: Doni t\u00eb keni f\u00ebmij\u00eb?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Lindja e nj\u00eb f\u00ebmije \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi konkretizimi i nj\u00eb d\u00ebshire t\u00eb thell\u00eb dhe t\u00eb fuqishme. Ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithashtu, n\u00eb shumic\u00ebn e rasteve, fryt i nj\u00eb historie dashurie, i nj\u00eb takimi mes nj\u00eb burri dhe nj\u00eb gruaje. Por d\u00ebshira p\u00ebr t\u2019u b\u00ebr\u00eb me f\u00ebmij\u00eb fsheh nganj\u00ebher\u00eb mungesa dhe aspirata shum\u00eb t\u00eb pand\u00ebrgjegjshme, q\u00eb kan\u00eb lidhje me historin\u00eb e \u00e7do gruaje. N\u00ebse \u00ebnd\u00ebrroni t\u00eb b\u00ebheni me f\u00ebmij\u00eb, n\u00ebse jeni shtatz\u00ebn\u00eb ose keni f\u00ebmij\u00eb, p\u00ebrgjigjiuni 10 pyetjeve tona p\u00ebr t\u00eb m\u00ebsuar nga vjen d\u00ebshira juaj p\u00ebr t\u2019u b\u00ebr\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00eb…<\/strong><\/p>\n

1. N\u00eb nj\u00eb park shihni nj\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00eb t\u00eb re, t\u00eb \u00e7orientuar, e cila mban n\u00eb krah nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb q\u00eb qan pa pushim. \u00c7far\u00eb b\u00ebni?
\na. Ndaj me t\u00eb ankthin q\u00eb ka
\nb. I afrohem dhe mundohem ta b\u00ebj f\u00ebmij\u00ebn t\u00eb pushoj\u00eb
\nc. Kjo m\u00eb duket e padurueshme.<\/p>\n

2. Kur ishit e vog\u00ebl, ju p\u00eblqente t\u00eb luanit me kukulla?
\na. U tregoja atyre gjith\u00eb sekretet e mia
\nb. Kisha kukulla me tonelata
\nc. Preferoja loj\u00ebrat p\u00ebr djem<\/p>\n

3. \u00c7far\u00eb raporti keni me n\u00ebn\u00ebn tuaj?
\na. Jam betuar se nuk do t\u00eb veproj si ajo
\nb. \u00cbsht\u00eb nj\u00eb grua dhe n\u00ebn\u00eb e mrekullueshme
\nc. Si bebisiter, ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e mir\u00eb<\/p>\n

4. \u00c7far\u00eb thoni ju p\u00ebr burrin tuaj?
\na. Ai nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb i dashur
\nb. Mund t\u00eb mb\u00ebshtetem tek ai
\nc. Punon si i \u00e7mendur<\/p>\n

5. Si silleni kur duhet t\u00eb merrni p\u00ebrsip\u00ebr p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsi t\u00eb reja?
\na. Stresohem
\nb. I marr natyrsh\u00ebm
\nc. E kam n\u00eb dor\u00eb situat\u00ebn<\/p>\n

6. Si e imagjinoni ju beben tuaj t\u00eb ardhsh\u00ebm?
\na. Nj\u00eb dhurat\u00eb prej qiellit
\nb. Di\u00e7ka t\u00eb \u00ebmb\u00ebl dhe t\u00eb but\u00eb
\nc. Nj\u00eb engj\u00ebll t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb<\/p>\n

7. Partneri juaj sheh nj\u00eb karroc\u00eb f\u00ebmije n\u00eb rrug\u00eb. Si reagon ai?
\na. Nuk e v\u00eb re fare
\nb. B\u00ebn sikur po i jep karroc\u00ebs
\nc. V\u00eb re mark\u00ebn e karroc\u00ebs.<\/p>\n

8. \u00c7far\u00eb jua zgjon m\u00eb shum\u00eb ankthin?
\na. Frika nga braktisja
\nb. Vrima e ozonit
\nc. Steriliteti<\/p>\n

9. Jeni shtatz\u00ebn\u00eb, por po kap\u00ebrceni nj\u00eb periudh\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb me partnerin:
\na. Mendoni se bebja do t\u2019ju bashkoj\u00eb
\nb. Mendoni se k\u00ebto ulje-ngritje b\u00ebjn\u00eb pjes\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e \u00e7do \u00e7ifti
\nc. Sado t\u2019ju kushtoj\u00eb, ju shfaqni nj\u00eb pamje t\u00eb lumtur.<\/p>\n

10. N\u00eb \u00ebndrrat tuaja prej adoleshenteje, e imagjinonit veten:
\na. Me nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb, qoft\u00eb edhe pa baba
\nb. N\u00eb krye t\u00eb nj\u00eb familjeje t\u00eb madhe
\nc. Shefe nd\u00ebrmarrjeje.<\/p>\n

Rezultatet
\nN\u00ebse keni m\u00eb shum\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje a. Ju i doni f\u00ebmij\u00ebt p\u00ebr t\u00eb mbushur nj\u00eb boshll\u00ebk
\nD\u00ebshira juaj p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e fort\u00eb dhe ju e dini q\u00eb tani se \u00e7\u2019n\u00ebn\u00eb do t\u00eb jeni p\u00ebr t\u00eb: E dashur, e kujdesshme, e dh\u00ebn\u00eb e gjitha pas tij! Mbase do t\u00eb jeni nj\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00eb ndryshe nga ajo q\u00eb keni pasur vet\u00eb\u2026 Jeni gati t\u2019i jepni gjith\u00e7ka bebes suaj dhe e prisni si dhurat\u00ebn m\u00eb t\u00eb bukur q\u00eb mund t\u00eb merrnit. Por, kjo d\u00ebshir\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb kaq e fort\u00eb, sa do t\u00eb ishte e dobishme t\u00eb kuptonit arsyet. Mbase e prisni shum\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb p\u00ebr veten dhe jo p\u00ebr t\u00eb? E ndjeni si nj\u00eb qenie m\u00eb n\u00eb fund t\u00eb aft\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019ju dashur? \u00cbsht\u00eb normale q\u00eb \u00e7do prind t\u00eb ket\u00eb shpresat dhe ambiciet e veta p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebn, por nuk duhet t\u2019i vesh\u00eb atij rolin e riparuesit, p\u00ebr t\u00eb mbushur nj\u00eb boshll\u00ebk q\u00eb keni ndjer\u00eb n\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebri, ose n\u00eb \u00e7ift\u2026 P\u00ebr ta pritur me qet\u00ebsi k\u00ebt\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb, do t\u00eb ishte mir\u00eb t\u00eb pyesni veten p\u00ebr arsyet e thella q\u00eb ju motivojn\u00eb, n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb dini se cilat varen nga lidhja dashurore me partnerin tuaj dhe cilat, nga f\u00ebmij\u00ebria dhe historia e jet\u00ebs suaj, e cila ju p\u00ebrket vet\u00ebm juve.<\/p>\n

N\u00ebse keni m\u00eb shum\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje b. Nj\u00eb bebe dashurie
\nD\u00ebshira juaj p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00eb i ka rr\u00ebnj\u00ebt n\u00eb d\u00ebshir\u00ebn tuaj t\u00eb thell\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb dh\u00ebn\u00eb dashuri dhe p\u00ebr t\u2019i dh\u00ebn\u00eb nj\u00eb trash\u00ebgimtar partnerit tuaj. Ju e doni partnerin dhe ju duket e natyrshme t\u00eb b\u00ebni nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb s\u00eb bashku. Mbase mendoni se lidhja juaj mund t\u00eb marr\u00eb fund n\u00ebse nuk keni nj\u00eb projekt t\u00eb p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt. Ju e mendoni arritjen e k\u00ebsaj bebeje si nj\u00eb dhurat\u00eb q\u00eb do t\u2019i sillte m\u00eb shum\u00eb harmoni \u00e7iftit. Nga ana tjet\u00ebr, nuk trembeni nga ideja e nj\u00eb familjeje t\u00eb madhe; mbase \u00ebnd\u00ebrroni t\u00eb keni ose keni tashm\u00eb shum\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb. Keni arritur n\u00eb nj\u00eb stad t\u00eb jet\u00ebs suaj, kur dini t\u00eb dhuroni dhe merrni dashuri. Ju nuk i b\u00ebni vetes pyetje metafizike (a \u00ebsht\u00eb momenti i duhur, personi i duhur, etj.); jeni pragmatike. Ky imazh i mir\u00eb p\u00ebr veten dhe besimi juaj n\u00eb \u00e7ift p\u00ebrb\u00ebjn\u00eb pa dyshin nj\u00eb fillim t\u00eb mbar\u00eb p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebn tuaj. Jan\u00eb t\u00eb shumta grat\u00eb q\u00eb pyesin veten n\u00ebse do t\u00eb din\u00eb ta duan f\u00ebmij\u00ebn e tyre, apo a do ta duan aq sa duhet. P\u00ebr ju, \u00ebsht\u00eb e thjesht\u00eb: Do ta doni me nj\u00eb dashuri t\u00eb pakusht\u00ebzuar! Megjithat\u00eb, kujdes, mos i dedikoni gjith\u00eb v\u00ebmendjen tuaj q\u00eb n\u00eb lindje. Disa gra e kan\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb bashk\u00ebrendojn\u00eb rolin e n\u00ebn\u00ebs, gruas, t\u00eb t\u00eb dashur\u00ebs. L\u00ebreni partnerin t\u2019ju ndihmoj\u00eb t\u00eb gjeni k\u00ebt\u00eb ekuilib\u00ebr!<\/p>\n

N\u00ebse keni m\u00eb shum\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje c. Lindja e nj\u00eb f\u00ebmije p\u00ebrb\u00ebn nj\u00eb sukses p\u00ebr ju
\nJu e d\u00ebshironi thell\u00eb n\u00eb shpirt nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb, deri n\u00eb at\u00eb pik\u00eb sa, n\u00ebse nuk arrini ta b\u00ebni, do t\u00eb zhg\u00ebnjeheshit shum\u00eb, ose do ta merrnit si nj\u00eb d\u00ebshtim, pasi ky bebe \u00ebsht\u00eb futur n\u00eb projektet e jet\u00ebs suaj, q\u00eb i keni organizuar me durim. Ardhja e tij vet\u00ebm sa e forcon ndjenj\u00ebn tuaj t\u00eb suksesit. Ju \u00ebnd\u00ebrroni nj\u00eb familje t\u00eb p\u00ebrkryer, pra, edhe nj\u00eb bebe t\u00eb p\u00ebrkryer. Por kujdes, n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb fantazi, bebja reale merr mbi vete nj\u00eb barr\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00eb q\u00eb i p\u00ebrket, n\u00eb fakt, bebes imagjinare. Psikanalist\u00ebt mendojn\u00eb se duhet t\u00eb ndahesh nj\u00ebher\u00eb e mir\u00eb nga f\u00ebmija ideal. N\u00ebse do t\u00eb jeni shum\u00eb k\u00ebrkuese, do t\u00eb jet\u00eb m\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb p\u00ebr ju.
\nD\u00ebshira juaj p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb reale, por mundohuni t\u00eb zbuloni arsyet e v\u00ebrteta q\u00eb ju shtyjn\u00eb p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb dhe, mbi t\u00eb gjitha, imazhin q\u00eb keni krijuar p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb bebe. M\u00ebsoni ta pranoni ashtu si\u00e7 \u00ebsht\u00eb dhe jo ashtu si duhej t\u00eb ishte. Mb\u00ebshtetuni te partneri p\u00ebr t\u2019ju ndihmuar ta prisni k\u00ebt\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb me sa m\u00eb shum\u00eb qet\u00ebsi. K\u00ebshtu, do t\u00eb pasurohet edhe aventura juaj familjare!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Lindja e nj\u00eb f\u00ebmije \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi konkretizimi i nj\u00eb d\u00ebshire t\u00eb thell\u00eb dhe t\u00eb fuqishme. Ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithashtu, n\u00eb shumic\u00ebn e rasteve, fryt i nj\u00eb historie dashurie, i nj\u00eb takimi mes nj\u00eb burri dhe nj\u00eb gruaje. Por d\u00ebshira p\u00ebr t\u2019u b\u00ebr\u00eb me f\u00ebmij\u00eb fsheh nganj\u00ebher\u00eb mungesa dhe aspirata shum\u00eb t\u00eb pand\u00ebrgjegjshme, q\u00eb kan\u00eb lidhje […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[51],"tags":[304],"class_list":["post-2617","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-test","tag-test-2"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2617","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2617"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2617\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2617"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2617"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2617"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}