Numri i beqar\u00ebve \u00ebsht\u00eb shtuar shum\u00eb koh\u00ebt e fundit. P\u00ebr disa, kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb zgjedhja e tyre, p\u00ebr t\u00eb tjer\u00eb, jo. Sot, beqar\u00ebt tregojn\u00eb se mund t\u00eb jesh i\/e lumtur edhe jasht\u00eb rrethit t\u00eb shenjt\u00eb t\u00eb martes\u00ebs. Megjithat\u00eb, atyre u duhet t\u00eb luftojn\u00eb kund\u00ebr nj\u00eb presioni shoq\u00ebror dhe familjar p\u00ebr t\u00eb jetuar n\u00eb \u00e7ift, pa llogaritur presionin q\u00eb i b\u00ebjn\u00eb vetes\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cJeta ime prej beqareje \u00ebsht\u00eb e plot\u00eb. Kam d\u00ebshir\u00eb t\u00eb rilidhem me dik\u00eb, por jo me \u00e7far\u00ebdolloj \u00e7mimi\u00bb, shpjegon Kristina, 35 vje\u00e7e, n\u00ebn\u00eb e divorcuar q\u00eb prej dy vjet\u00ebsh. \u201cP\u00ebrfitoj nga variantet e dashuris\u00eb: Ngroht\u00ebsia q\u00eb gjej pran\u00eb familjes dhe vajz\u00ebs sime, mir\u00ebkuptimi q\u00eb gjej te shoq\u00ebria\u2026\u201d.
\nN\u00eb koh\u00ebn ton\u00eb, kur martesa nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb nj\u00eb kalim i detyruesh\u00ebm, kur jeta n\u00eb \u00e7ift i ngjan m\u00eb shum\u00eb nj\u00eb kontrate me koh\u00ebzgjatje t\u00eb p\u00ebrcaktuar sesa t\u00eb pap\u00ebrcaktuar dhe ku shoq\u00ebria prodhon gjithnj\u00eb e m\u00eb shum\u00eb individualist\u00eb, t\u00eb gjith\u00eb jemi t\u00eb detyruar t\u00eb njohim periudha beqarie. Ka ikur ajo koh\u00eb kur vajzat e pamartuara deri n\u00eb nj\u00ebfar\u00eb moshe, quheshin l\u00ebnesha dhe kur talleshim me burrat beqar\u00eb. Sot, beqar\u00ebt e pranojn\u00eb zgjidhjen e tyre dhe nuk hezitojn\u00eb t\u00eb mburrin p\u00ebrpar\u00ebsit\u00eb e jet\u00ebs vet\u00ebm (pa e kthyer at\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb projekt jete).<\/p>\n
Beqar\u00eb t\u00eb lumtur
\nNd\u00ebrmjet beqar\u00ebve jan\u00eb t\u00eb shumt\u00eb ata q\u00eb e pranojn\u00eb se mund t\u00eb jesh i lumtur edhe pa qen\u00eb n\u00eb \u00e7ift, pasi jeta n\u00eb \u00e7ift nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb lum\u00eb q\u00eb rrjedh i qet\u00eb. K\u00ebshtu, ka njer\u00ebz q\u00eb preferojn\u00eb t\u00eb jetojn\u00eb her\u00eb pas here edhe vet\u00ebm. P\u00ebr Lind\u00ebn, 41 vje\u00e7e, jeta n\u00eb \u00e7ift \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb zgjedhje. \u201cUn\u00eb nuk dua t\u00eb martohem, kam par\u00eb shum\u00eb fatkeq\u00ebsi rreth e rrotull. Kjo nuk do t\u00eb thot\u00eb se nuk lidhem me burra. T\u00eb kesh nj\u00eb shok rruge \u00ebsht\u00eb mir\u00eb, por jo p\u00ebrgjithmon\u00eb\u201d. Tani, femrat q\u00eb kan\u00eb fituar pavar\u00ebsin\u00eb e tyre financiare, kan\u00eb mund\u00ebsi t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb nj\u00eb zgjedhje t\u00eb till\u00eb, q\u00eb m\u00eb par\u00eb dukej e pamendueshme. Pra, ka marr\u00eb fund imazhi i beqarit fatkeq, q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb pritje t\u00eb shpirtit binjak. Tani, t\u00eb jesh beqar mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb burim k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsie. Si t\u2019ia arrish k\u00ebsaj? \u201cDuke i kushtuar v\u00ebmendje vetes dhe k\u00ebrkesave t\u00eb tua, p\u00ebrgjigjet nj\u00eb specialist; duke pyetur veten se \u00e7far\u00eb t\u00eb sjell k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi te personat q\u00eb mund t\u00eb takosh\u201d. Gjithashtu, t\u00eb gjesh fusha t\u00eb gjera t\u00eb realizimit t\u00eb vetes jasht\u00eb \u00e7iftit: Profesionale, artistike, shoq\u00ebrore, sportive\u2026<\/p>\n
\u00c7ifti mbetet norm\u00eb
\nMegjith\u00ebse beqar\u00ebt thon\u00eb e st\u00ebrthon\u00eb se mund t\u00eb jetosh edhe vet\u00ebm, jo vet\u00ebm n\u00eb \u00e7ift dhe t\u00eb jesh i\/e lumtur, ata vazhdojn\u00eb t\u00eb shqet\u00ebsojn\u00eb shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb. Izabela \u00ebsht\u00eb 37 vje\u00e7e, jeton vet\u00ebm dhe nuk ka f\u00ebmij\u00eb. \u201cGjat\u00eb mbledhjeve t\u00eb familjes, u shkaktoj t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve bezdi apo indiferenc\u00eb. N\u00eb pun\u00eb m\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb lloj-lloj v\u00ebrejtjesh. M\u00eb par\u00eb, kjo m\u00eb b\u00ebnte t\u00eb k\u00ebrceja p\u00ebrpjet\u00eb, tani p\u00ebrpiqem t\u00eb shk\u00ebputem nga ky pasqyrim q\u00eb ata b\u00ebjn\u00eb tek un\u00eb dhe q\u00eb nuk ka lidhje me mua\u201d. Edhe n\u00eb koh\u00ebn ton\u00eb pritet prej beqar\u00ebve t\u00eb gjejn\u00eb nj\u00eb dit\u00eb shpirtin e tyre binjak, n\u00ebse \u00ebsht\u00eb e mundur para mosh\u00ebs 30 vje\u00e7are, q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb dhjet\u00ebvje\u00e7ari ky\u00e7 apo \u201cshansi i fundit\u201d, p\u00ebr ata q\u00eb nuk jan\u00eb \u201crregulluar\u201d. P\u00ebrsa i p\u00ebrket 40 apo 50 vje\u00e7ar\u00ebve t\u00eb ndar\u00eb, ata b\u00ebjn\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb kthejn\u00eb faqe dhe t\u00eb gjejn\u00eb dik\u00eb pa vones\u00eb. \u201cPresioni n\u00eb fakt \u00ebsht\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb m\u00eb k\u00ebmb\u00ebngul\u00ebs, thot\u00eb specialisti. N\u00eb rritemi n\u00eb nj\u00eb idelogji t\u00eb lir\u00eb, t\u00eb drejtuar nga kulti i individualizmit. Nuk jemi m\u00eb t\u00eb detyruar t\u00eb formojm\u00eb nj\u00eb familje tradicionale, por nxitja p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb n\u00eb \u00e7ift \u00ebsht\u00eb ende shum\u00eb e fort\u00eb\u201d.
\nJan\u00eb mediat, reklamat, sitet e takimit\u2026 Kudo \u00ebsht\u00eb kulti i \u00e7iftit, q\u00eb, n\u00eb shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb ton\u00eb, t\u00eb ashtuquajtur pa komplekse, mbetet rregull. \u00cbsht\u00eb nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb, duhet pranuar, e b\u00ebn ekzistenc\u00ebn ton\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb rehatshme: P\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrballuar jet\u00ebn dhe sprovat e saj, p\u00ebr t\u00eb bler\u00eb nj\u00eb sht\u00ebpi, p\u00ebr t\u00eb marr\u00eb vendime t\u00eb ndryshme, p\u00ebr t\u2019u nisur me pushime, ose thjesht p\u00ebr t\u00eb shkuar n\u00eb nj\u00eb hotel, \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb jesh dyshe. \u201cN\u00eb nj\u00eb bot\u00eb ku gjith\u00e7ka \u00ebsht\u00eb konceptuar p\u00ebr \u00e7iftet, \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb jesh vet\u00ebm, thot\u00eb specialisti. Shum\u00eb njer\u00ebz jan\u00eb t\u00eb bindur, besoj me t\u00eb drejt\u00eb, se aventura e madhe e nj\u00eb jete \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb histori dashurie, gj\u00eb q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb ekzaltuese\u201d.<\/p>\n
Vet\u00ebm dhe i lumtur
\nNe i themi vetes se n\u00eb \u00e7ift ke mund\u00ebsi t\u00eb ndash t\u00eb mirat dhe t\u00eb k\u00ebqijat me tjetrin. \u00abDit\u00ebn q\u00eb u martova, u ndjeva e leht\u00ebsuar, tregon nj\u00eb grua. Nuk e imagjinoja t\u00eb isha e lumtur ndryshe\u00bb. P\u00ebr specialistin, \u00abkjo aspirat\u00eb e \u00e7iftit vjen nga f\u00ebmij\u00ebria. N\u00ebse prind\u00ebrit kan\u00eb qen\u00eb t\u00eb lumtur bashk\u00eb, \u00ebnd\u00ebrrojm\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebjm\u00eb si ata. N\u00ebse jo, duam t\u00eb kemi nj\u00eb kompensim n\u00eb mosh\u00eb t\u00eb rritur. Megjith\u00ebse ne pra kalojm\u00eb periudha beqarie, ideali yn\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb gjesh dik\u00eb me t\u00eb cilin t\u00eb nd\u00ebrtosh nj\u00eb jet\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt, t\u00eb ec\u00ebsh p\u00ebrpara…
\n\u00abDiktati i \u00e7iftit nuk ekziston m\u00eb, thot\u00eb specialisti. \u00c7ifti \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb nga m\u00ebnyrat e nd\u00ebrtimit t\u00eb identitetit. Sot, \u00e7do individ autorizohet t\u00eb jet\u00eb vetvetja, pa qen\u00eb nevoja t\u00eb p\u00ebrshtatet me dik\u00eb tjet\u00ebr. P\u00ebr shum\u00eb koh\u00eb, grat\u00eb e shihnin ekzistenc\u00ebn e tyre t\u00eb lidhur me at\u00eb t\u00eb burrit, por sot, kjo ka marr\u00eb fund. Te gjithnj\u00eb e m\u00eb shum\u00eb persona gjejm\u00eb nj\u00eb k\u00ebrkes\u00eb thelb\u00ebsore: T\u00eb jesh vetvetja, t\u00eb p\u00ebrcaktosh shijet e tua, t\u00eb b\u00ebsh zgjedhjet e tua, dometh\u00ebn\u00eb, vet\u00eb, jo n\u00eb funksion t\u00eb dikujt tjet\u00ebr\u00bb. Po sikur t\u00eb jetosh beqarin\u00eb, k\u00ebt\u00eb rast t\u00eb privilegjuar p\u00ebr t\u2019u gjetur ball\u00eb p\u00ebr ball\u00eb me veten, t\u00eb ishte m\u00ebnyra m\u00eb e mir\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjetur m\u00eb pas, m\u00eb leht\u00eb, dashurin\u00eb?<\/p>\n
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Numri i beqar\u00ebve \u00ebsht\u00eb shtuar shum\u00eb koh\u00ebt e fundit. P\u00ebr disa, kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb zgjedhja e tyre, p\u00ebr t\u00eb tjer\u00eb, jo. Sot, beqar\u00ebt tregojn\u00eb se mund t\u00eb jesh i\/e lumtur edhe jasht\u00eb rrethit t\u00eb shenjt\u00eb t\u00eb martes\u00ebs. Megjithat\u00eb, atyre u duhet t\u00eb luftojn\u00eb kund\u00ebr nj\u00eb presioni shoq\u00ebror dhe familjar p\u00ebr t\u00eb jetuar n\u00eb \u00e7ift, pa llogaritur […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[50],"tags":[304],"class_list":["post-2536","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-intimitet","tag-test-2"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2536","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2536"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2536\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2536"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2536"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2536"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}