{"id":25260,"date":"2020-04-29T10:13:09","date_gmt":"2020-04-29T08:13:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=25260"},"modified":"2020-04-29T10:13:15","modified_gmt":"2020-04-29T08:13:15","slug":"si-mund-tja-komunikojme-divorcin-femijeve-pa-dhimbje-nga-lorela-garuli-psikologe","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2020\/04\/si-mund-tja-komunikojme-divorcin-femijeve-pa-dhimbje-nga-lorela-garuli-psikologe\/","title":{"rendered":"Si mund t\u2019ja komunikojm\u00eb divorcin f\u00ebmij\u00ebve \u201cpa dhimbje\u201d? Nga Lorela Garuli, psikologe"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"724\" height=\"720\" src=\"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/44F7A21A-10E7-4E24-BF28-4670FA8FA46D.jpeg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-24479\" srcset=\"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/44F7A21A-10E7-4E24-BF28-4670FA8FA46D.jpeg 724w, https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/44F7A21A-10E7-4E24-BF28-4670FA8FA46D-300x298.jpeg 300w, https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/44F7A21A-10E7-4E24-BF28-4670FA8FA46D-150x150.jpeg 150w, https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/44F7A21A-10E7-4E24-BF28-4670FA8FA46D-100x100.jpeg 100w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 724px) 100vw, 724px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">N\u00eb mosh\u00ebn shkollore,<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"> f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e kuptojn\u00eb shum\u00eb mir\u00eb<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"> se \u00e7far\u00eb po ndodh n\u00eb familjen e tyre.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"> Edhe n\u00eb rastin m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb kur\u00a0\u00ebsht\u00eb fjala p\u00ebr nj\u00eb divorc i cili po vjen si rrjedhoj\u00eb e nj\u00eb vendimi t\u00eb p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt, familja ka p\u00ebr detyr\u00eb t\u00eb kujdeset q\u00eb ky ndryshim t\u00eb mos jet\u00eb traumatik p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebn<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Megjithat\u00eb, kjo i duhet shpjeguar me qet\u00ebsi e fjale t\u00eb thjeshta, duke i th\u00ebn\u00eb mbase se edhe pse prind\u00ebrit e kan\u00eb p\u00ebrzem\u00ebr dhe e respektojn\u00eb nj\u00ebri-tjetrin, kan\u00eb par\u00eb t\u00eb arsyeshme t\u00eb mos jetojn\u00eb m\u00eb bashk\u00eb. I duhet shpjeguar q\u00eb martesa nuk po shkonte sic duhej koh\u00ebt e fundit, e n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb situat\u00eb ajo nuk ka fare faj dhe p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsi (kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme t\u00eb n\u00ebnvizohet pasi f\u00ebmij\u00ebt shpeshher\u00eb e konsiderojn\u00eb veten fajtor\u00eb dhe shkaktar\u00eb t\u00eb divorceve t\u00eb prind\u00ebrve). Fill pas k\u00ebsaj, vajza duhet siguruar q\u00eb do t\u00eb marr\u00eb dashurin\u00eb, afeksionin dhe mb\u00ebshtetjen e pakusht\u00ebzuar nga ana e t\u00eb dy prind\u00ebrve. Nuk duhet faj\u00ebsuar prindi tjet\u00ebr dhe n\u00eb asnj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrdoret f\u00ebmija p\u00ebr t\u2019u b\u00ebr\u00eb aleat me nj\u00ebrin apo tjetrin prind. N\u00eb parim, p\u00ebrmbajtja e bised\u00ebs q\u00eb do t\u00eb b\u00ebhet me f\u00ebmij\u00ebn duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb pak a shum\u00eb e qart\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb dy prind\u00ebrit paraprakisht, n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrcillet tek ajo fakti q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb vendim i p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt dhe t\u00eb mos ket\u00eb vend p\u00ebr krijimin e konfuzionit dhe mbivendosjes s\u00eb mendimeve apo ndjesive nga ana e vajz\u00ebs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Gabimi m\u00eb i madh q\u00eb mund t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb nj\u00eb cift kur vjen puna p\u00ebr t\u00eb folur me f\u00ebmij\u00ebt p\u00ebr divorcin, \u00ebsht\u00eb kur p\u00ebrpiqen t\u00eb hedhin balt\u00eb e t\u00eb faj\u00ebsojn\u00eb partnerin mbi situat\u00ebn e krijuar, kur p\u00ebrpiqen ta nxisin f\u00ebmij\u00ebn t\u00eb mbaj\u00eb me se s\u2019b\u00ebn an\u00ebn e nj\u00ebrit prind apo ta distancojn\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebn nga prindi tjet\u00ebr. Sjellje t\u00eb tilla nuk do t\u00eb b\u00ebnin gj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr vecse t\u00eb nxisnin ndjenja negative, trishtim dhe luhatje tek f\u00ebmija, pasi nuk duhet harruar p\u00ebr asnj\u00eb cast q\u00eb f\u00ebmija ka nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb dy prind\u00ebrit, n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb secili t\u00eb luaj\u00eb rolin e vet prind\u00ebrues dhe t\u2019i jap\u00eb mb\u00ebshtjetjen e duhur; qoft\u00eb dhe n\u00eb distanc\u00eb apo t\u00eb ndar\u00eb, prind\u00ebrit duhet t\u00eb din\u00eb t\u00eb bashk\u00ebprind\u00ebrojn\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Divorci \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb proces, e si i till\u00eb do koh\u00ebn e vet q\u00eb ky ndryshim t\u00eb asimilohet. Jo vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr ciftin q\u00eb po divorcohet por edhe p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebn; sa m\u00eb i qet\u00eb, gradual dhe i zbutur t\u00eb vij\u00eb tek f\u00ebmija, aq m\u00eb t\u00eb leht\u00eb do ta ket\u00eb dhe ai p\u00ebr t\u2019u p\u00ebrshtatur me situat\u00ebn e re. E mira \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb kjo situat\u00eb e re t\u00eb mos shoq\u00ebrohet me shum\u00eb ndryshime t\u00eb tjera drastike n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs e t\u00eb prindit me t\u00eb cilin ai do t\u00eb jetoj\u00eb pas divorcit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Burimi: Humamun<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>N\u00eb mosh\u00ebn shkollore, f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e kuptojn\u00eb shum\u00eb mir\u00eb se \u00e7far\u00eb po ndodh n\u00eb familjen e tyre. Edhe n\u00eb rastin m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb kur\u00a0\u00ebsht\u00eb fjala p\u00ebr nj\u00eb divorc i cili po vjen si rrjedhoj\u00eb e nj\u00eb vendimi t\u00eb p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt, familja ka p\u00ebr detyr\u00eb t\u00eb kujdeset q\u00eb ky ndryshim t\u00eb mos jet\u00eb traumatik p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebn Megjithat\u00eb, kjo [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":25261,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[86],"tags":[2303],"class_list":["post-25260","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-psikologu","tag-divorci"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/25260","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=25260"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/25260\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/25261"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=25260"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=25260"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=25260"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}