{"id":24993,"date":"2020-04-14T19:38:45","date_gmt":"2020-04-14T17:38:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=24993"},"modified":"2020-04-14T19:38:50","modified_gmt":"2020-04-14T17:38:50","slug":"si-te-rrisim-femije-me-vetebesim-dhe-pozitive-disa-hapa-per-tu-ndjekur-nga-drilona-abazaj-psikologe","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2020\/04\/si-te-rrisim-femije-me-vetebesim-dhe-pozitive-disa-hapa-per-tu-ndjekur-nga-drilona-abazaj-psikologe\/","title":{"rendered":"Si t\u00eb rrisim f\u00ebmij\u00eb me vet\u00ebbesim dhe pozitiv\u00eb? Disa hapa p\u00ebr t\u2019u ndjekur! Nga Drilona Abazaj, psikologe"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Njer\u00ebzit pozitiv\u00eb <\/p>\n\n\n\n

jan\u00eb ata t\u00eb cil\u00ebt rr\u00ebmbejn\u00eb v\u00ebmendjen <\/p>\n\n\n\n

dhe zemr\u00ebn e gjithkujt,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

t\u00eb cil\u00ebt karakterizohen nga mend\u00ebsia pozitive, qasja e tyre inkurajuese dhe motivuese ndaj tjetrit, nga altruizmi, duke u kthyer k\u00ebshtu n\u00eb nj\u00eb shembull admirimi p\u00ebr k\u00ebdo q\u00eb i has k\u00ebta individ\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e vet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Por si mund ta kultivojm\u00eb pozitivizmin q\u00eb n\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebri?<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Edukimi me ndjenja pozitive do t\u00eb sillte p\u00ebrballjen me nj\u00eb bot\u00eb ndryshe, m\u00eb empatike, jo egoiste e ku mbizot\u00ebrojn\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet dominuese. Duke mbjell\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb dashuri, paqe dhe t\u00eb qenit m\u00eb vler\u00ebsues dhe respektues ndaj vetes dhe tjetrit. Kjo, fillimisht duhet nisur nga vet\u00eb prind\u00ebrit pasi ata jan\u00eb pika e par\u00eb e referimit p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e tyre. Sa m\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrmbushur dhe t\u00eb lumtur jan\u00eb ata me veten, aq m\u00eb e leht\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u2019i drejtojn\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt drejt k\u00ebtij edukimi pozitiv.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Disa element\u00eb q\u00eb ndikojn\u00eb n\u00eb vet\u00ebbesim q\u00eb n\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebri, duke nxitur pozitivitetin n\u00eb personalitetin e individit jan\u00eb:<\/h6>\n\n\n\n
  • N\u00ebse duam q\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt ta fitojn\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb lloj vet\u00ebbesimi duhet t\u2019i ndihmojm\u00eb ata duke u evidentuar pika e tyre te forta, duke folur me ta rreth aft\u00ebsive t\u00eb tyre dhe p\u00ebr sukseset e s\u00eb tashmes, n\u00eb ato q\u00eb realizojn\u00eb qofshin dhe minimaliste.<\/li>
  • Duartrokitjet dhe p\u00ebrg\u00ebzimet do ishin nj\u00eb feedback shum\u00eb i mir\u00eb p\u00ebr ata.<\/li>
  • Tregojini atyre q\u00eb \u00e7do njeri \u00ebsht\u00eb unik, ka personalitetin e tij dhe ka interesa t\u00eb ve\u00e7anta. Jo domosdoshm\u00ebrisht duhet t\u00eb j\u00ebmi t\u00eb gjith\u00eb nj\u00ebsoj. K\u00ebrkojini atyre t\u00eb shkruajn\u00eb nj\u00eb let\u00ebr me at\u00eb q\u00eb i b\u00ebn ata unik\u00eb, apo t\u00eb flasin rreth nj\u00eb talenti t\u00eb ve\u00e7ant\u00eb t\u00eb tyre.<\/li>
  • T\u2019i ndihmojm\u00eb t\u00eb identifikojn\u00eb q\u00ebllimet e tyre dhe t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb plane p\u00ebr t\u2019i arritur ato.<\/li>
  • Shmangni n\u00ebnvlersimin e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs tuaj. Kjo e pengon t\u00eb p\u00ebrparoj\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb duke i p\u00ebrcjell\u00eb mesazhin q\u00eb ai nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb i aft\u00eb apo mjaft i mir\u00eb n\u00eb kryerjen e gj\u00ebrave.<\/li>
  • T\u00eb jemi pozitiv\u00eb dhe t\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqemi t\u2019u themi gj\u00ebra t\u00eb sjellshme dhe konstruktive \u00e7do dit\u00eb.<\/li>
  • Mos i kritikoni vazhdimisht; n\u00ebse u b\u00ebjm\u00eb komente negative duke i shprehur pak\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi, do t\u00eb dekurajohen.<\/li>
  • Shmangni etiketimet sidomos dhe n\u00eb sy t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve, si: i prapt\u00eb, dembel, i ngadalt\u00eb etj, q\u00eb do ndikonin shum\u00eb n\u00eb vet\u00ebbesimin e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs dhe n\u00eb t\u00eb ndjerit i paaft\u00eb n\u00eb krahasim me t\u00eb tjeret.<\/li>
  • Jini vigjilent dhe mos injoroni k\u00ebrkesat e tyre.<\/li>
  • Kini interes p\u00ebr at\u00eb q\u00eb f\u00ebmija po b\u00ebn; v\u00ebmendja e prind\u00ebrve do t\u00eb thot\u00eb shum\u00eb p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebn, sepse ndihet i r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm dhe i p\u00ebrfshir\u00eb.<\/li>
  • Mos e krahasoni me motrat, v\u00ebllez\u00ebrit, apo me f\u00ebmij\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00eb; duke u ndjer\u00eb i mos pranuar dhe duke ngjallur ndjenjat e zilis\u00eb dhe t\u00eb konkurrenc\u00ebs.<\/li>
  • Mos e shantazhoni kur ai nuk b\u00ebn at\u00eb q\u00eb ju i k\u00ebrkoni, si pasoj\u00eb kjo do t\u2019i shkaktonte frik\u00ebn ndaj t\u00eb gabuarit, distancimin nga t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt, apo dhe t\u00eb q\u00ebnit rebelues n\u00eb \u00e7do gj\u00eb.<\/li>
  • Flisni me ta rreth fenomeneve t\u00eb ndryshme si\u00e7 \u00ebsht\u00eb varf\u00ebria, apo p\u00ebr individ\u00ebt me aft\u00ebsi ndryshe, duke ngjallur tek ta ndjenj\u00ebn e dhembshuris\u00eb, duke mos i p\u00ebrbuzur dhe duke zhvilluar d\u00ebshir\u00ebn p\u00ebr t\u2019u ardhur n\u00eb ndihm\u00eb n\u00eb forma t\u00eb ndryshme.<\/li>
  • Mos u impononi \u00ebndrrat apo d\u00ebshirat tuaja t\u00eb parealizuara, por l\u00ebrini ata t\u00eb t\u00eb zgjedhin lumturin\u00eb e tyre duke ofruar mb\u00ebshtetje dhe mir\u00ebkuptim n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb pakusht\u00ebzuar edhe pse nuk zgjedhin at\u00eb q\u00eb do t\u2019ju lumturonte ju.<\/li>
  • Jini ekspresiv ndaj tyre me fjal\u00eb dhe gjeste, duke i ndihmuar dhe ata q\u00eb t\u00eb nes\u00ebrmen t\u00eb din\u00eb t\u00eb tregojn\u00eb dashurin\u00eb apo vler\u00ebsimin q\u00eb kan\u00eb ndaj t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve.<\/li>
  • Kultivoni tek ta mir\u00ebnjohjen dhe falenderimin. Sa m\u00eb mir\u00ebnjoh\u00ebs t\u00eb jet\u00eb nj\u00eb individ, aq m\u00eb njer\u00ebzor dhe pozitiv do t\u00eb ishte p\u00ebr veten dhe t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n

    Burimi: Humanum.al<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    Njer\u00ebzit pozitiv\u00eb jan\u00eb ata t\u00eb cil\u00ebt rr\u00ebmbejn\u00eb v\u00ebmendjen dhe zemr\u00ebn e gjithkujt, t\u00eb cil\u00ebt karakterizohen nga mend\u00ebsia pozitive, qasja e tyre inkurajuese dhe motivuese ndaj tjetrit, nga altruizmi, duke u kthyer k\u00ebshtu n\u00eb nj\u00eb shembull admirimi p\u00ebr k\u00ebdo q\u00eb i has k\u00ebta individ\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e vet. Por si mund ta kultivojm\u00eb pozitivizmin q\u00eb n\u00eb […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":24994,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[86],"tags":[319],"class_list":["post-24993","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-psikologu","tag-psikologji"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/24993","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=24993"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/24993\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/24994"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=24993"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=24993"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=24993"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}