{"id":23261,"date":"2019-09-11T19:04:43","date_gmt":"2019-09-11T17:04:43","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=23261"},"modified":"2019-09-11T19:04:50","modified_gmt":"2019-09-11T17:04:50","slug":"hakmarrje-e-cmendur","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2019\/09\/hakmarrje-e-cmendur\/","title":{"rendered":"HAKMARRJE E \u00c7MENDUR!"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>-Mos i beso atij. Ai g\u00ebnjen. -Ishte nj\u00eb mesazh n\u00eb inboksin\ntim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&nbsp;Kish marr\u00eb shkak nga nj\u00eb reagim n\u00eb istagram, kur ish i\nshoqi hidhte foto kujtimesh me t\u00eb birin.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>-Mund t\u00eb thoni verediknin tuaj, -i thash\u00eb, p\u00ebr t\u00eb shuar\nkuriozitetin.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>N\u00eb fakt ai, i shoqi, deri diku m\u00eb kish treguar historin\u00eb e\ntij, t\u00eb cil\u00ebn ia kisha marr\u00eb me rezerv\u00eb, duke par\u00eb tipin e tij prej\naventurieri.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>-Mir\u00eb. Dhe un\u00eb kam nevoj\u00eb t\u00eb flas me dik\u00eb. Faleminderit q\u00eb po\nm\u00eb d\u00ebgjon.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ata i thon\u00eb q\u00ebnd\u00ebr sociale, nj\u00eb banese t\u00eb ve\u00e7uar, larg q\u00ebndr\u00ebs s\u00eb banuar, me personel t\u00eb kufizuar dhe me strehimin e dy tre grave me probleme p\u00ebraf\u00ebrsisht si un\u00eb. Ky izolim i ngjan burgut, por pa rrethim me tela, pa gardian\u00eb t\u00eb armatosur q\u00eb ngjallin frik\u00eb, pa dyer t\u00eb r\u00ebnda hekuri e pa dryne. Me sjellje t\u00eb ftoht\u00eb si t\u00eb tyre, ushqim sa per t\u00eb thyer oreksin, komunikim t\u00eb heshtur, pa informim asistence ligjore, pa sh\u00ebrbim mjek\u00ebsor t\u00eb avancuar falas. Dhe ky \u00ebsht\u00eb nje cop\u00eb vend n\u00eb shtetin e Europ\u00ebs ku k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb t\u00eb dynden shqip\u00ebtar\u00ebt. Natyrisht q\u00eb p\u00ebrtej kesaj cop\u00eb toke, jeta \u00ebsht\u00eb ndryshe, ngjall kureshtje dhe jep shanse per t\u00eb nd\u00ebrtuar jet\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb. Por izolimi k\u00ebtu dhe ajo \u00e7kam kaluar n\u00eb jet\u00eb ma er\u00ebsojn\u00eb mendimin, e ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb humbas shpres\u00ebn p\u00ebr t\u00eb ardhmen, e b\u00ebhem pesimiste n\u00eb zgjidhjen e problemit, hallit q\u00eb m\u00eb ka \u00e7uar n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb streh\u00ebz q\u00ebndrimi t\u00eb p\u00ebrkohsh\u00ebm. Nuk dihet sa do zgjas\u00eb kjo p\u00ebrkohshm\u00ebri!?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ishte dashuri fejsbuksiane, si\u00e7 ndodh me shum\u00eb vajza q\u00eb duan\u00eb\nt\u00eb \u00e7ajn\u00eb rrethimin e mentalitetit familjar, q\u00eb na kufizon n\u00eb realitet. Ndoshta\np\u00ebr mua nuk ishte ky lloj kufizimi ekstrem i liris\u00eb si n\u00eb zonat rurale, por nuk\nkishte trokitur personi i duhur n\u00eb zemr\u00ebn time deri at\u00ebher\u00eb. Ato pak raste q\u00eb\nishin paraqitur, nuk pat\u00ebn plot\u00ebsuar k\u00ebrkesat e pretenduara nga un\u00eb. Ose m\u00eb\nmir\u00eb \u00e7far\u00eb kisha \u00ebnd\u00ebrruar. Tani q\u00eb meditoj shpesh n\u00eb dhom\u00ebn bosh, nuk di as\nvet\u00eb p\u00ebrse isha nxituar n\u00eb marrjen e atij vendimi. Ndoshta ishte m\u00eb shum\u00eb jeta\ne tij n\u00eb nj\u00eb vend europian ku t\u00eb jep m\u00eb shum\u00eb shanse jete, qe shpesh kan\u00eb si\npiksynim shum\u00eb femra. N\u00ebse nuk realizohet me m\u00ebnyra t\u00eb tjera, martesa mbetet\nrruga e fundit p\u00ebr t\u00eb arritur q\u00ebllimin. Ndoshta fjalet e tij plot\u00eb shpres\u00eb p\u00ebr\nnj\u00eb jet\u00eb ndryshe nga ajo n\u00eb at\u00eb qytet t\u00eb vog\u00ebl q\u00eb gjall\u00ebrohet vet\u00ebm n\u00eb ver\u00eb.\nNdoshta dashuria e lindur si f\u00ebmij\u00eb i vog\u00ebl e q\u00eb t\u00eb dy e kishin ushqyer me\nfjalet mjalt\u00eb p\u00ebr disa muaj. Ndoshta varf\u00ebria familjare, ndoshta&#8230;as tani nuk\njam n\u00eb gj\u00ebndje t\u00eb p\u00ebrcaktoj at\u00eb lloj deliri q\u00eb m\u00eb kish pushtuar ato koh\u00eb.\nKund\u00ebrshtimi i prind\u00ebrve, p\u00ebr aq sa njih\u00ebnin familjen e tij por dhe pasigurin\u00eb\ne larg\u00ebsis\u00eb, nuk solli aspak zbehje t\u00eb dashuris\u00eb platonike, p\u00ebrkundrazi ngjalli\nnj\u00eb lloj revolte t\u00eb brend\u00ebshme. Gjith\u00ebsesi ata u p\u00ebgjunj\u00ebn para k\u00ebmb\u00ebnguljes\ntime t\u00eb \u00e7udit\u00ebshme.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Isha \u00e7udit\u00ebrisht e \u00e7mendur nga dashuria.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>N\u00eb fakt edhe kontakti i par\u00eb, kur u b\u00eb fejesa, ishte\nmbresl\u00ebn\u00ebs. Edhe ndonj\u00eb fjal\u00eb p\u00ebshp\u00ebrit\u00ebse n\u00eb familje, p\u00ebr pjestar\u00eb t\u00eb caktuar\nt\u00eb familjes s\u00eb burrit t\u00eb zgjedhur, n\u00eb fakt dhe e drejt\u00eb, nuk thyn\u00eb aspak\ndashurin\u00eb tashm\u00eb t\u00eb konsoliduar, si\u00e7 e quaja pas verdiktit t\u00eb vulosur me\nfejes\u00eb.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>N\u00eb pamund\u00ebsi t\u00eb vinte ai, prind\u00ebrit m\u00eb \u00e7uan deri tek trageti,\nn\u00eb Durr\u00ebs. Udh\u00ebtoja mbi kalt\u00ebrsin\u00eb detit dhe ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb m\u00eb kapte nj\u00eb lloj frike\ne llahtarisur, se mos ai nuk do kishte dal\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb m\u00eb pritur, dhe un\u00eb do\nngelesha n\u00eb tok\u00ebn e panjohur, si e zbritur nga ndonj\u00eb planet tjet\u00ebr. Ca nga\nfrika e ca nga deti, k\u00ebrkova vend ku t\u00eb shkarkoja turbullir\u00ebn e krijuar n\u00eb\nstomak. P\u00ebr fat t\u00eb mir\u00eb destinacioni i zbritjes erdhi m\u00eb shpejt sa e\nparashikova. N\u00eb gjith\u00eb at\u00eb rr\u00ebmuj\u00eb k\u00ebrkova me sy t\u00eb vetmen fytyr\u00eb q\u00eb njihja n\u00eb\nat\u00eb grumbull njerzish. Kur pash\u00eb duart q\u00eb tundeshin n\u00eb aj\u00ebr dhe njoha njeriun\nq\u00eb do mb\u00ebshtetesha gjith\u00eb jet\u00ebn n\u00eb t\u00eb ardhmen, dhe un\u00eb b\u00ebra t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn gj\u00eb me\nduart n\u00eb aj\u00ebr, e vrapova drejt tij. Rendja\ndrejt lumturis\u00eb, drejt \u00ebndrr\u00ebs, dashuris\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Nj\u00eb jav\u00eb i dashuri, (\u00e7&#8217;them dhe un\u00eb ai mizori m\u00eb mir\u00eb), nuk\nvajti n\u00eb pun\u00eb, shijuam\u00eb dit\u00ebt m\u00eb t\u00eb bukura. Sh\u00ebtitje n\u00eb disa qytete t\u00eb Italis\u00eb,\nvende pikante q\u00eb as n\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr nuk m\u00eb ishin shfaqur ndonjeher\u00eb. Por p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb\nk\u00ebtij pushimi humbi vendin e pun\u00ebs. Lek\u00ebt u pak\u00ebsuan dhe ai ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb dilte\nnga kontrolli, duke ngritur z\u00ebrin, shante fatin, dhe duke m\u00eb fajsuar mua p\u00ebr\nsituat\u00ebn.&nbsp;<br>\nNj\u00eb dit\u00eb m\u00eb b\u00ebri nj\u00eb propozim t\u00eb \u00e7uditsh\u00ebm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&nbsp;&#8220;Pse nuk del ti Sildita n\u00eb pun\u00eb&#8221;.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&nbsp;Nuk e kuptoja se \u00e7&#8217;pun\u00eb mund t\u00eb b\u00ebja kur nuk dija asnj\u00eb\nfjal\u00eb italisht. Nuk po gjente ai pun\u00eb, q\u00eb kishte nj\u00eb lloj profesioni, dhe jo\nun\u00eb q\u00eb nuk dija asgj\u00eb. Natyrisht q\u00eb dhe un\u00eb do punoja, por m\u00eb duhej nj\u00eb far\u00eb\nkohe p\u00ebr tu ambientuar, t\u00eb m\u00ebsoja disi gjuh\u00ebn.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8220;Nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e nevojshme gjuha, p\u00ebr pun\u00ebn q\u00eb do b\u00ebsh.\n\u00cbsht\u00eb e leht\u00eb fare&#8221;.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Mos vall\u00eb ishte i \u00e7mendur ky? Apo un\u00eb po mendoja gabim.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8220;Mund t&#8217;ma shpegosh m\u00eb qart\u00eb, se\u2026 s&#8217;po kuptoj gj\u00eb&#8221;.\nPo e shikoja drejt e n\u00eb sy, p\u00ebr t\u00eb kuptuar di\u00e7ka m\u00eb shum\u00eb.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Heshti nj\u00eb \u00e7ast. V\u00ebshtrimin e hodhi n\u00eb trotuar p\u00ebrmes\nxhamave. Pastaj papriur m\u00eb kapi nga krahu.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&nbsp;&#8220;D\u00ebgjo Dita, &#8211; k\u00ebshtu m\u00eb th\u00ebrrisnin shkurt n\u00eb\nfamilje, -ti mund t\u00eb punosh pun\u00ebn m\u00eb t\u00eb leht\u00eb dhe t\u00eb marresh shum\u00eb, m\u00eb shum\u00eb\nlek\u00eb. Do kesh sukses t\u00eb papar\u00eb&#8230;do..&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&nbsp;&#8220;Suksesin e sat\u00ebme&#8221;, -e t\u00ebrhoqa krahun me\nforc\u00eb prej tij, si t\u00eb ishte pinc\u00eb hekuri e ftoht\u00eb dhe jo dora e ngroht\u00eb, q\u00eb\nderi dje m\u00eb kish p\u00ebrk\u00ebdhelur me \u00ebmb\u00eblsi. Si ishte e mundur t\u00eb merrte nj\u00eb propozim\nt\u00eb till\u00eb nga njeriu q\u00eb e kish dashuruar aq shum\u00eb, n\u00eb pak koh\u00eb. S&#8217;po u besonte\nvesh\u00ebve, syve p\u00ebr njeriun q\u00eb kishte p\u00ebrpara, m\u00ebndjes mos qe lajthitur. Ishte\nnj\u00eb gjendje apokaliptike menimesh. Ishte Sildita apo dikush tjeter. Nuk po i\nbesoja vetes.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>-M\u00eb fal Sildita, -nuk di p\u00ebrse e zgjati emrin, -ishte nj\u00eb\nlajthitje nga ana ime. Nuk do p\u00ebrs\u00ebritet m\u00eb. Ta premtoj.<br>\nM&#8217;u desh koh\u00eb t\u00eb merrja veten t\u00eb sistermoja\nmendimet n\u00eb raftet e dhom\u00ebzave p\u00ebrkat\u00ebse t\u00eb llogjik\u00ebs s\u00eb ftoht\u00eb. N\u00eb fakt pas\nasaj dite p\u00ebr fat t\u00eb mir\u00eb filloi pun\u00eb, por dhe me mua ndryshoi q\u00ebndrim. Dukej\nm\u00eb i afruar, me fjal\u00eb t\u00eb zgjedhura ledhatuse, sjellje t\u00eb but\u00eb si prej qengji,\nsensual n\u00eb paraqitje dhe i kujdes\u00ebsh\u00ebm n\u00eb veshje kur dilnim t\u00eb hanim jasht\u00eb.\nMendoja se ishte kthesa e madhe.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>N\u00eb gjasht\u00ebmujorin e dyt\u00eb t\u00eb q\u00ebndrimit, kuptova q\u00eb kisha\nngelur shtatzan\u00eb. Lajmin n\u00eb fakt e priti g\u00ebzuesh\u00ebm. At\u00eb nat\u00eb shkuam n\u00eb nj\u00eb\nlokal t\u00eb shtrenjt\u00eb, ku dhe k\u00ebrcyem\u00eb. Jetonim pranver\u00ebn dhe ver\u00ebn e nxeht\u00eb t\u00eb\ndashuris\u00eb, pas nj\u00eb furtune q\u00eb tashm\u00eb e kisha harruar.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Djali pa drit\u00ebn e diellit disa dit\u00eb pas vitit t\u00eb ri, kur ende\nnuk ishte zbehur atmosfera e fest\u00ebs. G\u00ebzimi im dhe i tij, dublikohej, dhe\nshum\u00ebfishohej sa her\u00eb q\u00eb p\u00ebrk\u00ebdhelnim Orgiton. Ishte g\u00ebzimi i par\u00eb e natyrisht\nq\u00eb peshorja e g\u00ebzimit rrine ajar, n\u00ebse do i vinim n\u00eb pesh\u00eb, timin dhe t\u00eb tijin.\nNuk di t\u00eb them se cila \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00ebsia mat\u00ebse kur t\u00eb p\u00ebrfshin g\u00ebzimi nga nj\u00eb\nsukses i arritur. Shkenca shoq\u00ebrore nuk ka shpikur njesi mat\u00ebse, p\u00ebr dashurin\u00eb,\ng\u00ebzimin, ngroht\u00ebsin\u00eb shpirt\u00ebrore, por ne p\u00ebrjetonim universin e ndjenjave.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Pas disa muaj, fillova te kisha shqet\u00ebsime sh\u00ebndet\u00ebsore.\nMjek\u00ebt, pas lindjes, m\u00eb pat\u00ebn th\u00ebn\u00eb q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb jesh n\u00ebn kontroll t\u00eb\nvazhduesh\u00ebm. Si\u00e7 duket di\u00e7ka kishin v\u00ebn\u00eb re. Nuk pranova t\u00eb shtrohem p\u00ebr shkak\nt\u00eb Orgitos s\u00eb vog\u00ebl. Mora ila\u00e7e.&nbsp;P\u00ebr t\u00eb marr\u00eb sh\u00ebrbimet e duhura dhe\nsuvencionet e asistenc\u00ebn, duhej t\u00eb b\u00ebja bashkim familjar, gj\u00eb q\u00eb ai po e\nzvarriste. Nuk di pse, por ai kurr\u00eb nuk pranoi. M\u00eb sakt\u00eb nxirrte justifikime\np\u00ebr munges\u00eb dokumentacioni. Edhe pse punonte rregullisht nuk benim jet\u00eb normale.\nThoshte se shpenzonte shum\u00eb, qera, uj\u00eb, korenti, ushqime, djali, ndaj duhet t\u00eb\npunoja dhe un\u00eb. Sigurisht q\u00eb doja t\u00eb punoja, edhe pse nuk ndihesha mir\u00eb, por me\norgiton e vog\u00ebl e kisha t\u00eb pamundur. N\u00eb vizit\u00ebn e radh\u00ebs m\u00eb than\u00eb p\u00ebr nd\u00ebrhyrje\nkirurgjikale, por ai neglizhonte p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb lek\u00ebve. Tashm\u00eb kishin filluar\ngrindjet. Shpesh kalonte mas\u00ebn. P\u00ebrve\u00e7 meje, ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb nuk kursente as\nf\u00ebmij\u00ebn. Duke par\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb situat\u00eb vendosa t\u00eb regjistroj \u00e7aste t\u00eb tilla. Nj\u00eb radh\u00eb\nvendosa ta ndjek. E gjeta n\u00eb kaziono, n\u00eb lojrat kompjuterike. Aty debatuam\nashp\u00ebr. Sherri vazhdoi dhe n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi. Tashm\u00eb dihej ku i harxhonte lek\u00ebt.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>-Pse nuk e denoncove n\u00eb polici?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>M\u00eb pas k\u00ebrkoi falje. Mendova se pas atij sherri do hiqte dor\u00eb\ne do i rikthehej familjes. P\u00ebrkundrazi. E shtoi dhe me shum\u00eb si dhun\u00ebn dhe\nlojrat e fatit. Denoncimi n\u00eb polici b\u00ebri q\u00eb t\u00eb jem k\u00ebtu.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>-Mos \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb kthehesh n\u00eb familje?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Dua, por nuk mund t\u00eb marr Orgiton. Ai ka hapur gjyq dhe do ta\nmarri n\u00eb kujdestari. Do t\u00eb hakmerret karshi meje. Edhe pse e di q\u00eb gjyqi nuk\nmund t&#8217;ja japi nj\u00eb dhunuesi, por ai k\u00ebmb\u00ebngul n\u00eb iden\u00eb e tij. Mund te ndodhi q\u00eb\np\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb pamund\u00ebsis\u00eb, gjendjes time sh\u00ebndet\u00ebsore dhe ekonomike, djalin ta\nmarri shteti. Ai \u00ebsht\u00eb gati ta b\u00ebj\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb, si shenj\u00eb hakmarrje t\u00eb \u00e7mendur. Nuk\ndi \u00e7do b\u00ebhet me Orgiton e vog\u00ebl. Si mund ta p\u00ebrballoj dot. S&#8217;pranon\nmarr\u00ebveshje. Kthimi n\u00eb Shqip\u00ebri do ishte shp\u00ebtimi im dhe i Orgitos s\u00eb vog\u00ebl,\npor jam z\u00ebn\u00eb peng. S&#8217;di si do shp\u00ebtoj. Si do t&#8217;ja dal e vetme n\u00eb detin e\ntrazuar plot dallg\u00eb.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ai krijoi furtun\u00ebn, mund t\u00eb l\u00ebshoj\u00eb dhe rrezen e diellit. Jo\nper mua, por p\u00ebr at\u00eb, Orgiton e vog\u00ebl, pjes\u00eb e gjakut t\u00eb tij.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Nuk di sa i pa shpirt do jet\u00eb, n\u00ebse do ta d\u00ebnoj\u00eb t\u00eb birin\nk\u00ebshtu!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Nga S. INOT<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>-Mos i beso atij. Ai g\u00ebnjen. -Ishte nj\u00eb mesazh n\u00eb inboksin tim. &nbsp;Kish marr\u00eb shkak nga nj\u00eb reagim n\u00eb istagram, kur ish i shoqi hidhte foto kujtimesh me t\u00eb birin.&nbsp; -Mund t\u00eb thoni verediknin tuaj, -i thash\u00eb, p\u00ebr t\u00eb shuar kuriozitetin.&nbsp; N\u00eb fakt ai, i shoqi, deri diku m\u00eb kish treguar historin\u00eb e tij, t\u00eb [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":23262,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[94],"tags":[282],"class_list":["post-23261","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-histori-nga-jeta","tag-histori-nga-jeta-2"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/23261","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=23261"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/23261\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/23262"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=23261"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=23261"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=23261"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}