{"id":23131,"date":"2019-08-15T13:28:44","date_gmt":"2019-08-15T11:28:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=23131"},"modified":"2019-08-15T13:28:50","modified_gmt":"2019-08-15T11:28:50","slug":"si-te-bashkejetosh-paqesisht-me-ata-qe-te-rrethojne-tete-rregulla-qe-i-vlejne-gjithkujt","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2019\/08\/si-te-bashkejetosh-paqesisht-me-ata-qe-te-rrethojne-tete-rregulla-qe-i-vlejne-gjithkujt\/","title":{"rendered":"Si t\u00eb bashk\u00ebjetosh paq\u00ebsisht me ata q\u00eb t\u00eb rrethojn\u00eb? Tet\u00eb rregulla q\u00eb i vlejn\u00eb gjithkujt"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/www.informatat.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/09\/1841.jpg\" alt=\"Related image\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong><em>Ka ligje t\u00eb shtetit q\u00eb pasqyrohen n\u00eb Kushtetut\u00eb <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong><em>e n\u00eb vendimet e dekretet e organeve m\u00eb t\u00eb larta t\u00eb pushtetit dhe shkel\u00ebsit e t\u00eb cilave, d\u00ebnohen nga gjykatat.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong><em> K\u00ebto ligje, zakonisht, respektohen nga frika e d\u00ebnimit, megjith\u00ebse shum\u00ebkush edhe mund t\u00eb mos jet\u00eb dakord me to. Por, ka edhe ligje morale, t\u00eb cilat njer\u00ebzit i zbatojn\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb zgjidhur problemet q\u00eb lindin gjat\u00eb p\u00ebrplasjes s\u00eb interesave, karaktereve apo temperamenteve t\u00eb tyre, n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb jetojn\u00eb n\u00eb harmoni pran\u00eb nj\u00ebri-tjetrit. K\u00ebto ligje, natyrisht, nuk kan\u00eb qen\u00eb dhe nuk jan\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrkryera, prandaj njer\u00ebzit, krahas respektimit, p\u00ebrpiqen t\u2019i p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsojn\u00eb vazhdimisht ato, duke \u00ebnd\u00ebrruar krijimin e nj\u00eb njeriu t\u00eb p\u00ebrsosur, ideal&#8230; Sipas nj\u00eb filozofi t\u00eb dit\u00ebve tona, e vetmja rrug\u00eb q\u00eb i lejon njeriut t\u00eb koh\u00ebs t\u00eb jetoj\u00eb n\u00eb t\u00eb ardhmen, \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb kuptoj\u00eb dhe t\u2019i b\u00ebj\u00eb t\u00eb vetat q\u00eb tani ligjet e t\u00eb qenit njeri i v\u00ebrtet\u00eb&#8230; q\u00eb ta quash veten dhe bot\u00ebn q\u00eb t\u00eb rrethon si nj\u00eb organiz\u00ebm t\u00eb gjall\u00eb, unik dhe t\u00eb pandar\u00eb, q\u00eb t\u00eb veprosh vet\u00ebm ashtu sikurse t\u00eb urdh\u00ebron zemra jote! Natyrsh\u00ebm, lind pyetja: \u201cPo a ka tanim\u00eb rregulla ose k\u00ebshilla q\u00eb na m\u00ebsojn\u00eb se si t\u00eb b\u00ebhemi njer\u00ebz?\u201d Sigurisht q\u00eb ka. Ja disa prej tyre, t\u00eb zgjedhura nga mendimet m\u00eb t\u00eb mira t\u00eb sociolog\u00ebve dhe psikolog\u00ebve t\u00eb koh\u00ebs son\u00eb:<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>1. Pranoni se edhe ju nxeheni, zem\u00ebroheni dhe irritoheni, si gjith\u00eb t\u00eb\ntjer\u00ebt. Ky pohim do t\u00eb jet\u00eb hapi juaj i par\u00eb drejt ekuilibrimit t\u00eb ndjenjave\ndhe emocioneve tuaja. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>2. Kuptoni m\u00eb n\u00eb fund se irritimi dhe agresiviteti i tep\u00ebrt jan\u00eb pasoj\u00eb e\ndrejtp\u00ebrdrejt\u00eb e paaft\u00ebsis\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb shfaqur mendimet dhe ndjenjat tuaja.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>3. M\u00ebsoni t\u00eb reagoni ndaj ngacmimeve shpejt, por mos i shprehni emocionet\ntuaja menj\u00ebher\u00eb. Analizojini m\u00eb mir\u00eb faktet dhe p\u00ebrpiquni t\u00eb gjeni m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn sa\nm\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrshtatshme p\u00ebr t\u2019u p\u00ebrgjigjur. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb e domosdoshme jo vet\u00ebm n\u00eb\nshoq\u00ebri, por edhe n\u00eb jet\u00ebn familjare sepse nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb ta l\u00ebndosh nj\u00eb\nnjeri; v\u00ebshtir\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb heq\u00ebsh p\u00ebrshtypjen e keqe q\u00eb l\u00eb ky l\u00ebndim.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>4. M\u00eb n\u00eb fund, sqarojuani t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve se \u00e7\u2019d\u00ebshironi prej tyre, thjesht,\nnjer\u00ebzisht, duke p\u00ebrdorur nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb shprehuri t\u00eb qet\u00eb dhe jo agresive. Po\nt\u00eb p\u00ebrdor\u00ebsh, bie fjala, shprehjen: \u201cun\u00eb do t\u00eb d\u00ebshiroja\u201d, \u201cun\u00eb do t\u2019ju isha\nshum\u00eb mir\u00ebnjoh\u00ebs (apo mir\u00ebnjohese)\u201d ose \u201cun\u00eb&nbsp;\ndo t\u00eb preferoja\u201d, etj. n\u00eb \u00e7far\u00ebdolloj rastesh, reagimi do t\u00eb jet\u00eb shum\u00eb\nm\u00eb i arsyesh\u00ebm. Ta z\u00ebm\u00eb se bashk\u00ebshorti (ose bashk\u00ebshortja) merr nj\u00eb vendim pa\nt\u00eb pyetur fare, pa t\u00eb p\u00ebrfillur. Natyrisht, kjo t\u00eb indinjon, por ti p\u00ebrmbahu\ndhe drejtoju atij n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb: \u201cNuk e di sa kam t\u00eb drejt\u00eb, por koh\u00ebt e\nfundit, po m\u00eb krijohet p\u00ebrshtypja sikur ty nuk t\u00eb intereson fare mendimi im p\u00ebr\nk\u00ebt\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtje. Un\u00eb, natyrisht, do t\u00eb d\u00ebshiroja t\u2019i rrihnim k\u00ebto probleme\nbashkarisht me t\u00eb gjith\u00eb pjes\u00ebtar\u00ebt e familjes, sepse secili ka d\u00ebshirat dhe\nmendimet e veta\u201d.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>5. N\u00eb rast se jeni shum\u00eb i acaruar dhe zem\u00ebroheni p\u00ebr hi\u00e7mosgj\u00eb, k\u00ebrkoni\nte vetja juaj shkaqet e v\u00ebrteta t\u00eb k\u00ebtij acarimi, sepse shpesh ndodh q\u00eb prapa\npak\u00ebnaq\u00ebsis\u00eb ndaj t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve, fshihet pak\u00ebnaq\u00ebsia ndaj vetes, ndaj jet\u00ebs son\u00eb,\nfshihet mosbesimi dhe frika jon\u00eb.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>6. M\u00ebnyra e jetes\u00ebs n\u00eb kushtet e nj\u00eb tensioni dhe aktiviteti t\u00eb lart\u00eb n\u00eb\njet\u00eb ndikon patjet\u00ebr te njeriu q\u00eb ai t\u00eb jet\u00eb i acaruar dhe i gatsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb\nreaguar n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb agresive. Ky tension dhe acarim vjen si pasoj\u00eb e ndeshjes s\u00eb\nreagimit ton\u00eb me sjellje jo adekuate t\u00eb njer\u00ebzve q\u00eb na rrethojn\u00eb, kur na takon\nt\u00eb ndeshemi me agresivitet, munges\u00eb takti, munges\u00eb mir\u00ebdashjeje etj. Po k\u00ebshtu,\nshpesh na irriton edhe lumi i negativiteteve q\u00eb sjellin mjetet e informacionit\nmasiv. P\u00ebr t\u00eb shp\u00ebtuar nga kjo, duhet t\u00eb mos jemi shum\u00eb t\u00eb dh\u00ebn\u00eb pas lajmeve\nsensacionale mbi katastrofat dhe ngjarjet e ndryshme dramatike dhe tragjike.\nK\u00ebto lajme, na \u201ckurdisin\u201d keq. P\u00ebrderisa kemi interes t\u00eb lexojm\u00eb gj\u00ebra t\u00eb\natilla, ne, dashur padashur, me forc\u00ebn e energjis\u00eb son\u00eb,&nbsp; ndihmojm\u00eb q\u00eb ato t\u00eb vazhdojn\u00eb, q\u00eb rrjedha e\nemocioneve negative t\u00eb mos resht\u00eb. Nj\u00eb mij\u00eb her\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb mendojm\u00eb p\u00ebr\ngj\u00ebra t\u00eb mira dhe \u00e7do mbr\u00ebmje t\u00eb mos e mbyllim dit\u00ebn me krime e katastrofa, por\nme \u201clajme t\u00eb mira\u201d.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>7. P\u00ebrvet\u00ebsoni disa teknika vetekuilibrimi, t\u00eb cilat ju ndihmojn\u00eb jo\nvet\u00ebm t\u00eb evitoni irritimin, por dhe t\u00eb vendosni n\u00eb vetvete, n\u00eb shpirtin tuaj,\nnj\u00eb balancim harmonik. Joga, gjimnastika e organeve t\u00eb frym\u00ebmarrjes dhe\npraktikat \u00e7lodh\u00ebse orientale jan\u00eb mjet i fuqish\u00ebm p\u00ebr ta arritur k\u00ebt\u00eb q\u00ebllim.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>8. N\u00eb rast se dikush ose di\u00e7ka ju irriton, shfryt\u00ebzoni t\u00eb ashtuquajtur\u00ebn\n\u201cteknik\u00eb mir\u00ebnjohjeje\u201d. \u00c7\u2019\u00ebsht\u00eb kjo? Ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb teknik\u00eb q\u00eb n\u00eb v\u00ebshtrimin e\npar\u00eb duket naive, por q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb efikase dhe i jep rezultatet shpejt, madje\nshum\u00eb shpejt. Sapo t\u00eb ndjeni se po irritoheni, p\u00ebrpiquni ta fal\u00ebnderoni me\nmendje bashk\u00ebbiseduesin tuaj p\u00ebr gj\u00ebrat pozitive q\u00eb kishte nd\u00ebrmend t\u00eb thoshte.\nFaleni at\u00eb. Faleni veten tuaj p\u00ebr mendimet, fjal\u00ebt q\u00eb thoni dhe emocionet q\u00eb provoni\nndaj tij.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong><em>Shembull:<\/em><\/strong><strong> Ju jeni zem\u00ebruar me shit\u00ebsen sepse n\u00eb vend q\u00eb t\u2019ju tregoje cil\u00ebsin\u00eb e\nmallit q\u00eb ju k\u00ebrkoni, ju p\u00ebrgjigjet ashp\u00ebr, madje edhe ju fyen. Pik\u00ebrisht n\u00eb\nk\u00ebt\u00eb moment, ju mendoni: \u201cFaleminderit q\u00eb po m\u00eb l\u00eb t\u00eb kuptoj se n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb dyqan\nnuk ia vlen barra qiran\u00eb t\u00eb blesh ndonj\u00eb mall. Un\u00eb u nxeha, po ti me fal p\u00ebr\nato q\u00eb mendova dhe ndjeva p\u00ebr ty. Un\u00eb t\u00eb fal ty, fal edhe veten time q\u00eb u\nirritova\u201d. Kjo teknik\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb nd\u00ebrtuar n\u00eb baz\u00ebn e parimit&nbsp; se \u00e7do sjellje niset nga q\u00ebllime t\u00eb mira. N\u00eb\nrast se ju do t\u00eb k\u00ebrkoni n\u00eb \u00e7do ngjarje pik\u00ebrisht di\u00e7ka pozitive, at\u00ebhere shum\u00eb\nshpejt do t\u00eb \u00e7liroheni nga irritimi, do t\u00eb rifitoni qet\u00ebsin\u00eb dhe do t\u00eb m\u00ebsoni\nt\u00eb k\u00ebnaqeni me t\u00eb gjitha shfaqjet e jet\u00ebs\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Ja pra, k\u00ebto ishin disa nga ligjet q\u00eb na m\u00ebsojn\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebhemi njer\u00ebz, t\u00eb\nvendosim n\u00eb shoq\u00ebri dhe, sidomos n\u00eb familjet tona, ekuilibrin shpirt\u00ebror, t\u00eb\nmbetemi t\u00eb k\u00ebnaqur nga nj\u00ebri-tjetri dhe ta g\u00ebzojm\u00eb jet\u00ebn s\u00eb bashku.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Ka ligje t\u00eb shtetit q\u00eb pasqyrohen n\u00eb Kushtetut\u00eb e n\u00eb vendimet e dekretet e organeve m\u00eb t\u00eb larta t\u00eb pushtetit dhe shkel\u00ebsit e t\u00eb cilave, d\u00ebnohen nga gjykatat. K\u00ebto ligje, zakonisht, respektohen nga frika e d\u00ebnimit, megjith\u00ebse shum\u00ebkush edhe mund t\u00eb mos jet\u00eb dakord me to. Por, ka edhe ligje morale, t\u00eb cilat njer\u00ebzit i [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":23132,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[86],"tags":[364],"class_list":["post-23131","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-psikologu","tag-psikologu-2"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/23131","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=23131"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/23131\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/23132"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=23131"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=23131"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=23131"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}