P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje, miq t\u00eb gazet\u00ebs \u201cIntervista\u201d! <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Un\u00eb q\u00eb po ju shkruaj jam nj\u00eb grua n\u00eb mosh\u00eb, <\/p>\n\n\n\n
q\u00eb kam kaluar vuajtje t\u00eb m\u00ebdha, por ajo q\u00eb po kaloj tani, nuk krahasohet me asgj\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Si thot\u00eb edhe fjala popullore, \u201cat\u00eb q\u00eb ta b\u00ebn f\u00ebmija, nuk ta b\u00ebn as Per\u00ebndia\u201d. Un\u00eb kam punuar p\u00ebr nj\u00eb koh\u00eb t\u00eb gjat\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb shtypshkronj\u00eb ku ia kam kaluar mjaft mir\u00eb e kam qen\u00eb nj\u00eb pun\u00ebtore e nderuar dhe e respektuar. Kam kaluar mjaft vite t\u00eb bukura me at\u00eb kolektiv pune. Nj\u00eb nga k\u00ebto ka qen\u00eb edhe miq\u00ebsia ime me Drit\u00ebn, e cila tani \u00ebsht\u00eb krushka ime. Si shoqe kishim nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie t\u00eb shk\u00eblqyer, hynim e dilnim me nj\u00ebra-tjetr\u00ebn n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi dhe f\u00ebmij\u00ebt i kishim pothuajse n\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn mosh\u00eb. Organizonim dreka e darka t\u00eb ndryshme familjare bashk\u00eb dhe ia kalonim p\u00ebr mrekulli! Edhe f\u00ebmij\u00ebt tan\u00eb k\u00ebnaqeshin pa mas\u00eb, edhe ne t\u00eb dyja ndjeheshim shum\u00eb mir\u00eb p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb gj\u00eb. Vitet kaluan dhe f\u00ebmij\u00ebt rriteshin, kur nj\u00eb dit\u00eb mor\u00ebm vesh se nj\u00eb shoqja jon\u00eb e p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt kishte par\u00eb djalin tim dhe vajz\u00ebn e Drit\u00ebs n\u00eb nj\u00eb lokal, duke u puthur. Nuk m\u00eb erdhi mir\u00eb q\u00eb e d\u00ebgjova nga t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt sepse kisha pasur gjithmon\u00eb besim te djali im, q\u00eb, po t\u00eb kishte di\u00e7ka serioze n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e tij, do t\u00eb vinte nj\u00eb moment dhe do t\u00eb ma tregonte patjet\u00ebr. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Drit\u00ebs n\u00eb at\u00eb moment i qeshi\nbuza dhe u g\u00ebzua. Tha: \u201cPo t\u00eb rinj jan\u00eb!…\u201d. Un\u00eb, faktikisht, nuk u ndjeva mir\u00eb\ndhe at\u00eb dit\u00eb nuk b\u00ebra si\u00e7 b\u00ebnim zakonisht me Drit\u00ebn q\u00eb mbas pun\u00ebs, pinim nga nj\u00eb\nkafe. At\u00eb dit\u00eb vendosa t\u00eb shkoja n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi, sepse doja t\u00eb flisja urgjentisht me\ntim bir. Nuk pim\u00eb kafe dhe un\u00eb direkt shkova n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi. Djali nuk kishte ardhur\nakoma. I kisha p\u00ebrgatitur si \u00e7do dit\u00eb drek\u00ebn dhe thash\u00eb: \u201cNuk po e ngacmoj derisa\nt\u00eb haj\u00eb, pastaj bisedoj qet\u00eb e qet\u00eb\u201d. Kur ai mbaroi s\u00eb ngr\u00ebni, i thash\u00eb:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– Bir, a mund t\u00eb flasim pak? –\ndhe si\u00e7 jam e drejt\u00eb, ashtu i them gj\u00ebrat drejt e drejt, gj\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt e kan\nshum\u00eb inat tek un\u00eb. I thash\u00eb se nj\u00eb kolegia ime e kishte par\u00eb duke u puthur me An\u00ebn.\n– M\u00eb thuaj t\u00eb lutem arsyen se pse nuk ma ke treguar q\u00eb ke nj\u00eb lidhje me An\u00ebn? –\ni thash\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ai m\u00eb tha se t\u00eb dy donin pak koh\u00eb\np\u00ebr ta kuptuar se \u00e7far\u00eb ndjenin n\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00ebri-tjetrin dhe vet\u00ebm n\u00eb at\u00eb\nmoment do t\u00eb tregonin se kishin di\u00e7ka serioze e t\u00eb bukur bashk\u00eb. Isha shum\u00eb e\ninatosur, nuk doja q\u00eb gj\u00ebrat t\u00eb arrinin deri n\u00eb at\u00eb pik\u00eb, m\u00eb dukej sikur djali\nim kishte shfryt\u00ebzuar shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb time p\u00ebr t\u00eb pasur nj\u00eb lidhje me vajz\u00ebn e Drit\u00ebs,\nedhe pse e njihja shum\u00eb mir\u00eb djalin tim i cili nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb i aft\u00eb ta b\u00ebj\u00eb nj\u00eb gj\u00eb\nt\u00eb till\u00eb sepse \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb djal\u00eb me parime shum\u00eb t\u00eb qarta p\u00ebr jet\u00ebn dhe shum\u00eb i\nmir\u00eb. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kaluan disa koh\u00eb, kur nj\u00eb dit\u00eb\nm\u00eb erdh\u00ebn t\u00eb dy n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi dhe k\u00ebrkuan q\u00eb t\u00eb bisedonim t\u00eb kat\u00ebrt, bashk\u00eb me Drit\u00ebn.\nFol\u00ebm n\u00eb telefon dhe u takuam me Drit\u00ebn n\u00eb nj\u00eb nga kafet ku shkonim gjithmon\u00eb.\nGjat\u00eb bised\u00ebs, t\u00eb dy na treguan q\u00eb ishin b\u00ebr\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00ebri-tjetrin dhe se nuk mund\nt\u00eb jetonin m\u00eb t\u00eb ndar\u00eb secili n\u00eb sht\u00ebpin\u00eb e vet. Me pak fjal\u00eb, ata donin q\u00eb\nshum\u00eb shpejt t\u00eb fejoheshin dhe ne t\u00eb dyja ishim dakord. Nuk kisha \u00e7far\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebja\ndhe nuk kam se \u00e7far\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebj sepse ma do djali dhe nuk kam asnj\u00eb t\u00eb drejt\u00eb t\u00eb nd\u00ebrhyj\nn\u00eb jet\u00ebn e tij… <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Po at\u00eb dit\u00eb, ne vendos\u00ebm edhe\ndat\u00ebn e fejes\u00ebs. Organizuam nj\u00eb fest\u00eb t\u00eb vog\u00ebl n\u00eb sht\u00ebpin\u00eb time, ku ata t\u00eb dy\nshk\u00ebmbyen unazat dhe ia kaluam shum\u00eb bukur at\u00eb dit\u00eb. Mbas disa dit\u00ebsh, Ana erdhi\nt\u00eb jetonte n\u00eb sht\u00ebpin\u00eb ton\u00eb. Gj\u00ebrat kalonin p\u00ebr mrekulli! Ana ka qen\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb\nnj\u00eb vajz\u00eb e qet\u00eb dhe e urt\u00eb, mir\u00ebpo mbas lindjes s\u00eb dy nip\u00ebrve t\u00eb mi, nuk po arrija\nm\u00eb ta njihja. Ajo b\u00ebnte \u00e7do gj\u00eb me q\u00ebllim q\u00eb un\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebrzitesha dhe t\u00eb\nlargohesha nga sht\u00ebpia. K\u00ebt\u00eb gj\u00eb e diskutova edhe me Drit\u00ebn dhe ajo, natyrisht,\nmbronte vajz\u00ebn e saj e thonte q\u00eb ajo nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e till\u00eb. Gj\u00ebrat arrit\u00ebn deri n\u00eb\nnj\u00eb pik\u00eb ku \u00e7do fjal\u00eb e An\u00ebs shkaktonte debat tek un\u00eb dhe te djali im, derisa\nnj\u00eb dit\u00eb, im bir, ai q\u00eb e kam rritur me mund e sakrifica t\u00eb m\u00ebdha, m\u00eb tha: \u201cIk\nnga t\u00eb duash dhe vet\u00ebm k\u00ebtu n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi nuk dua t\u00eb t\u00eb shoh se nuk po na lejon t\u00eb\nkalojm\u00eb nj\u00eb dit\u00eb t\u00eb bukur si familje!\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Djalit tim i isha m\u00ebrzitur aq\nshum\u00eb sa i isha b\u00ebr\u00eb penges\u00eb e lumturis\u00eb. Nuk durova dot m\u00eb dhe bisedova me\nvajz\u00ebn time. Q\u00eb nga ajo dit\u00eb, un\u00eb jetoj te sht\u00ebpia e dh\u00ebndrrit ku dita-dit\u00ebs po\nkaloj n\u00eb depresion, nd\u00ebrsa mendoj se si arriti marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia ime me tim bir deri\nk\u00ebtu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Edhe sot, q\u00eb nga ai moment q\u00eb\nkam ikur, q\u00eb po b\u00ebj gati 4 muaj, ai nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb i gjall\u00eb t\u00eb vij\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00eb takoj\u00eb.\nM\u00eb ka marr\u00eb malli edhe p\u00ebr dy nip\u00ebrit e mi q\u00eb jan\u00eb mrekullia e jet\u00ebs sime dhe nuk\ne di se si jetoj. M\u00eb vjen turp q\u00eb p\u00ebrfundova k\u00ebshtu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nuk e kuptoj tim bir… Ata q\u00eb\nnuk i kan\u00eb prind\u00ebrit, i k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb pavar\u00ebsisht t\u00eb metave t\u00eb tyre sepse mbi t\u00eb\ngjitha jemi njer\u00ebz, nd\u00ebrsa im bir m\u00eb flak n\u00eb rrug\u00eb me mund\u00ebsin\u00eb e par\u00eb q\u00eb i\njepet. E di, jam e sigurt\u00eb q\u00eb edhe atij do t\u2019i vij\u00eb dita q\u00eb do t\u00eb m\u00eb k\u00ebrkoj\u00eb e\ndo t\u00eb ket\u00eb shum\u00eb nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr mua, po nuk e di se kur do t\u00eb jet\u00eb ajo dit\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb.\nE kam rritur me sakrifica t\u00eb m\u00ebdha duke menduar gjithmon\u00eb vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e\nmi e duke i mohuar vetes sime shum\u00eb gj\u00ebra, por vjen nj\u00eb dit\u00eb q\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt nuk ta\ndin\u00eb p\u00ebr asgj\u00eb. Jam n\u00eb nj\u00eb gjendje shum\u00eb t\u00eb keqe e nuk e di a do t\u00eb kem forc\u00eb\nt\u00eb p\u00ebrballoj gjith\u00e7ka. Nuk e di se si do ta kaloj k\u00ebt\u00eb situat\u00eb…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje, miq t\u00eb gazet\u00ebs \u201cIntervista\u201d! Un\u00eb q\u00eb po ju shkruaj jam nj\u00eb grua n\u00eb mosh\u00eb, q\u00eb kam kaluar vuajtje t\u00eb m\u00ebdha, por ajo q\u00eb po kaloj tani, nuk krahasohet me asgj\u00eb. Si thot\u00eb edhe fjala popullore, \u201cat\u00eb q\u00eb ta b\u00ebn f\u00ebmija, nuk ta b\u00ebn as Per\u00ebndia\u201d. Un\u00eb kam punuar p\u00ebr nj\u00eb koh\u00eb t\u00eb gjat\u00eb n\u00eb […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":21166,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[94],"tags":[282,254],"class_list":["post-22859","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-histori-nga-jeta","tag-histori-nga-jeta-2","tag-histori-personale"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22859","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=22859"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22859\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/21166"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=22859"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=22859"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=22859"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}