{"id":22834,"date":"2019-06-28T14:30:33","date_gmt":"2019-06-28T12:30:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=22834"},"modified":"2019-06-28T13:53:45","modified_gmt":"2019-06-28T11:53:45","slug":"%ef%bb%bfpse-pine-grate-dhe-vajzat","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2019\/06\/%ef%bb%bfpse-pine-grate-dhe-vajzat\/","title":{"rendered":"\ufeffPse pin\u00eb grat\u00eb dhe vajzat?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>&#8211; I nderuar Dr. Demiri, <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>jam kamariere n\u00eb nj\u00eb lokal nate te Blloku<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong> dhe trishtohem kur shoh gra e vajza, <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>madje nga familje t\u00eb mira q\u00eb pin\u00eb pije alkoolike e duhan n\u00eb nivele t\u00eb rrezikshme p\u00ebr sh\u00ebndetin. Kur iu luta nj\u00eb vajze t\u00eb re q\u00eb t\u00eb mos pinte m\u00eb, pronarja m\u00eb d\u00ebgjoi dhe m\u00eb tha: \u201cTi do q\u00eb t\u00eb t\u00eb heq nga puna? N\u00eb mos k\u00ebtu, atje ato do t\u00eb pin\u00eb, tha ajo, madje t\u00eb tjerat pijn\u00eb edhe drog\u00eb. Jepi vajz\u00ebs t\u00eb pij\u00eb!\u201d. Dua t\u2019ju pyes doktor, pse pin\u00eb grat\u00eb dhe vajzat?! <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong><em>Dr.\nJashar Demiri, psikolog klinicist: <\/em><\/strong>&nbsp;&#8211; Faleminderit p\u00ebr\nletr\u00ebn, si dhe p\u00ebr shqet\u00ebsimin tuaj human e t\u00eb drejt\u00eb. Nj\u00eb psikoterapise\nangleze, Adrianna Irvine, ka shkruar se t\u00eb pir\u00ebt p\u00ebr \u201cqejf\u201d ushqehet nga\nndjenja t\u00eb fshehura depresioni. M\u00eb tej, ajo vijon: \u201cShum\u00eb nga k\u00ebto vajza t\u00eb reja\nq\u00eb pin\u00eb, nuk ma tregojn\u00eb dot mua pse-n\u00eb, pasi ato nuk e din\u00eb as vet\u00eb. Nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb\nnj\u00eb proces i menduar, por nj\u00eb proces i ndjer\u00eb. T\u00eb pir\u00ebt vjen nga d\u00ebshp\u00ebrimi,\nzem\u00ebrimi, dhimbja dhe nga papun\u00ebsia e vetmia. Po t\u00eb g\u00ebrmojm\u00eb m\u00eb thell\u00eb, kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb\nderi diku e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjith\u00eb. Dhe, k\u00ebto gra futen si pa e kuptuar n\u00eb nj\u00eb\nrreth vicioz t\u00eb pamundur p\u00ebr ta prishur m\u00eb pas pa humbur dinjitetin apo miqt\u00eb&#8230;\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Tek po citoj k\u00ebto\nfjali, tani q\u00eb po shkruaj k\u00ebt\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje, po imagjinoja disa vajza t\u00eb reja q\u00eb l\u00ebkunden\nderi n\u00eb m\u00ebngjes n\u00ebp\u00ebr klube nate dhe t\u00eb nes\u00ebrmen me dhimbje koke e me syt\u00eb e\nskuqur pyesin veten: \u201cPo sikur t\u00eb ken\u00eb mbetur shtatz\u00ebn\u00eb e nuk dihet se me k\u00eb?\u201d.\nRaste t\u00eb tilla nuk jan\u00eb t\u00eb pakta gjat\u00eb k\u00ebtyre 20 viteve kur industria e alkoolit\ndhe e drog\u00ebs, bashk\u00eb me t\u00eb k\u00ebqijat e tjera t\u00eb \u201ccivilizimit\u201d, u fut\u00ebn si pa\n\u201cdogan\u00eb\u201d n\u00eb Shqip\u00ebrin\u00eb e hapur me bot\u00ebn. Kur e pyeta psikologen Alma Pacani se\np\u00ebrse pin\u00eb grat\u00eb, ku i \u00e7on pija dhe cila \u00ebsht\u00eb terapia kund\u00ebr pijes, ajo u p\u00ebrgjigj\nsi m\u00eb posht\u00eb: <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">1. \u00cbsht\u00eb\nfatkeq\u00ebsi p\u00ebr ato gra e burra p\u00ebr t\u00eb cil\u00ebt ikja nga realiteti n\u00ebp\u00ebrmejt alkoolit,\ndrog\u00ebs, duhanit \u00ebsht\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb si nj\u00eb lloj \u201czbavitjeje\u201d e ndoshta edhe e vetmja.\nKjo \u00ebsht\u00eb v\u00ebrtet e trisht\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">2. Atyre q\u00eb i\n\u201cdor\u00ebzohen\u201d alkolit, n\u00eb fakt, u mungon besimi n\u00eb vetvete. Po ashtu, edhe disa q\u00eb\nkonsumojn\u00eb shum\u00eb duhan, kafe t\u00eb shutma, n\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb nuk e b\u00ebjn\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb gj\u00eb nga\n\u201curia\u201d p\u00ebr k\u00ebto substanca, apo p\u00ebr drog\u00ebrat, por m\u00eb shum\u00eb sepse ndihen t\u00eb\npafuqish\u00ebm para jet\u00ebs e p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsive q\u00eb ndjejn\u00eb. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">3. Pirja,\nmegjith\u00ebse prodhon paksa eufori, n\u00eb fakt, \u00ebsht\u00eb krejt e p\u00ebrkohshme dhe si\u00e7 ka\nth\u00ebn\u00eb psikoterapistja angleze, nevoja p\u00ebr t\u00eb pir\u00eb, ushqehet nga ndjenja t\u00eb\nfshehura depresioni q\u00eb vijn\u00eb nga mossuksesi, d\u00ebshp\u00ebrimi, zem\u00ebrimi, dhimbja apo\nvetmia. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">4. Fatkeq\u00ebsisht,\n\u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebrhapur mendimi se nj\u00eb apo dy gota birr\u00eb apo ver\u00eb nuk t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb keq, por\ne keqja m\u00eb e madhe \u00ebsht\u00eb fillimi i \u201cvesit\u201d t\u00eb t\u00eb pirit, i cili po u b\u00eb zakon,\nec e hiqe pastaj, aq sa populli ka edhe nj\u00eb shprehje t\u00eb till\u00eb si \u201cshpirti del,\nhuqi nuk del\u201d, ndaj p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjitha k\u00ebto arsye edhe te Kurani i shenjt\u00eb, alkooli\ntrajtohet si harram, aq sa nuk lejohet as t\u00eb ulesh n\u00eb nj\u00eb tryez\u00eb me ata q\u00eb e pin\u00eb.\nKurse p\u00ebr duhanin nuk flitet pasi duhani nuk ka qen\u00eb shpikur n\u00eb ato koh\u00ebra dhe\n\u201cgjetja\u201d e tij konsiderohet si e keqja e madhe q\u00eb i \u00ebsht\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb njer\u00ebzimit gjat\u00eb\nshekujve. Psikologia Alma Pacani e cila ka b\u00ebr\u00eb me mjaft klient\u00eb seanca me\npsikoterapi p\u00ebr t\u2019i \u00e7liruar nga var\u00ebsit\u00eb, n\u00eb nj\u00eb studim, shkak kryesor t\u00eb var\u00ebsive\nka quajtur kot\u00ebsin\u00eb, munges\u00ebn e motivimit si dhe tek adoleshent\u00ebt, nj\u00eb d\u00ebshir\u00eb\np\u00ebr t\u2019u dukur, duke kujtuar se t\u00eb pir\u00ebt t\u00eb rrit popullaritetin, sidomos ata t\u00eb\ncil\u00ebt ndjehen sadopak ankthioz\u00eb e josocial\u00eb. Ndaj edhe p\u00ebr heqjen e k\u00ebtyre var\u00ebsive,\np\u00ebr \u00e7montimin apo \u201c\u00e7m\u00ebsimin\u201d e tyre, psikologe Alma, vendin kryesor pas\npsikoterapis\u00eb, ia jep punoterapis\u00eb, \u201cgjetjes\u201d s\u00eb vetes n\u00eb aspektin shoq\u00ebror, si\nfunksionim, si njeri t\u00eb dobish\u00ebm e veprues n\u00eb mikro e makromjedis. Gjat\u00eb\nseancave me psikoterapi, kjo psikologe, kam par\u00eb q\u00eb p\u00ebrdor me mjaft sukses nj\u00eb\n\u201cMjet psikologjik\u201d i cili titullohet \u201cRreziku\u201d. K\u00ebt\u00eb mjet, ne psikolog\u00ebt e p\u00ebrdorim\np\u00ebr t\u00eb gjith\u00eb ata klient\u00eb q\u00eb kan\u00eb krijuar var\u00ebsi nga alkooli, droga, bixhozi,\nduhani, seksi apo \u00e7do lloj tjet\u00ebr var\u00ebsie e tepruar dhe e d\u00ebmshme. Ne ia k\u00ebrkojm\u00eb\nklientit t\u00eb na thot\u00eb se \u00e7far\u00eb di ai p\u00ebr k\u00ebto dhe a ka marr\u00eb ai parasysh pasojat\njo vet\u00ebm sh\u00ebndet\u00ebsore, por edhe n\u00eb planin shoq\u00ebror dhe klienti na i thot\u00eb ato.\nAt\u00ebhere ne ia plot\u00ebsojm\u00eb edhe m\u00eb mir\u00eb informacionin, duke ia shtuar aft\u00ebsit\u00eb e\nt\u00eb kuptuarit me psikoterapi konjitive dhe pasi e kemi b\u00ebr\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb, i themi: \u201cTani,\nsupozoje veten n\u00eb fund t\u00eb jet\u00ebs t\u00ebnde n\u00eb \u201cshtratin e vdekjes\u201d dhe \u201cshikoji\u201d k\u00ebto\npasoja te vetja, \u201cqaj\u201d e vuaj p\u00ebr ato q\u00eb ti i shkaktove vetes. B\u00ebje k\u00ebt\u00eb gj\u00eb\ntani&#8230;\u201d. M\u00eb pas i themi: \u201cTani, \u201czgjohu\u201d, g\u00ebzohu e qesh p\u00ebr t\u00eb mos e \u00e7uar d\u00ebm\nt\u00eb tashmen e p\u00ebr t\u00eb mos ardhur abuzimi deri aty sa nuk ka m\u00eb koh\u00eb dhe as nuk\nmund t\u00eb kthehesh m\u00eb mbrapsht, as p\u00ebr mosh\u00ebn e as p\u00ebr mund\u00ebsit\u00eb q\u00eb i pate e nuk\ni shfryt\u00ebzove&#8230;\u201d.\n\nKa klient\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebt aq \u201cthell\u00eb\u201d futen\nn\u00eb k\u00ebto p\u00ebrjetime sa tani i z\u00eb ankthi vet\u00ebm duke i menduar pijet apo drog\u00ebn e\njo m\u00eb duke i p\u00ebrdorur. Kjo lloj frike e \u201cbukur\u201d, do ta quaja, \u00ebsht\u00eb edhe\nfillimi i ndryshimit, pika e tyre e kthes\u00ebs dhe funksionim i \u201cM\u00ebshir\u00ebs\u201d p\u00ebr t\u2019i\nshp\u00ebtuar k\u00ebta njer\u00ebz. T\u00eb tjer\u00ebt i pret rreziku i sigurt\u00eb, jo ai imagjinues, por\nai i v\u00ebrtet\u00eb. \n\n\n\n<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&#8211; I nderuar Dr. Demiri, jam kamariere n\u00eb nj\u00eb lokal nate te Blloku dhe trishtohem kur shoh gra e vajza, madje nga familje t\u00eb mira q\u00eb pin\u00eb pije alkoolike e duhan n\u00eb nivele t\u00eb rrezikshme p\u00ebr sh\u00ebndetin. Kur iu luta nj\u00eb vajze t\u00eb re q\u00eb t\u00eb mos pinte m\u00eb, pronarja m\u00eb d\u00ebgjoi dhe m\u00eb tha: [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":22456,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[86],"tags":[2512],"class_list":["post-22834","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-psikologu","tag-dr-jashar-demiri"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22834","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=22834"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22834\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/22456"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=22834"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=22834"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=22834"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}