{"id":22613,"date":"2019-06-12T20:00:12","date_gmt":"2019-06-12T18:00:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=22613"},"modified":"2019-06-12T23:08:20","modified_gmt":"2019-06-12T21:08:20","slug":"%ef%bb%bfjo-burrat-nuk-jane-keshtu","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2019\/06\/%ef%bb%bfjo-burrat-nuk-jane-keshtu\/","title":{"rendered":"\ufeffJo, burrat nuk jan\u00eb k\u00ebshtu!"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><br><em>10 mite q\u00eb duhen rr\u00ebzuar!<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong><em>E kush tha se burrat nuk jan\u00eb romantik\u00eb?<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong><em> Harroji gj\u00ebrat q\u00eb dije p\u00ebr ta, le t\u00eb bazohemi te t\u00eb dh\u00ebnat e studimeve t\u00eb fundit. <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong><em>Ekziston mund\u00ebsia q\u00eb ata t\u00eb jen\u00eb m\u00eb romantik\u00eb se grat\u00eb? Mendimi i p\u00ebrgjithsh\u00ebm \u00ebsht\u00eb kund\u00ebr, por nj\u00eb studim hedh drit\u00eb mbi t\u00eb dh\u00ebna q\u00eb mund t\u2019ju befasoj\u00eb. N\u00eb nj\u00eb studim n\u00eb internet mor\u00ebn pjes\u00eb 100 mij\u00eb persona dhe surpriza e par\u00eb erdhi pas pyetjes q\u00eb kishte t\u00eb b\u00ebnte me dashurin\u00eb me shikim t\u00eb par\u00eb. 48% e burrave pranuan se u kishte ndodhur t\u00eb dashuronin me shikim t\u00eb par\u00eb, nd\u00ebrsa te grat\u00eb, ky num\u00ebr ishte vet\u00ebm 28%. Sigurisht, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb hera e par\u00eb q\u00eb hidhet posht\u00eb th\u00ebnia se burrat jan\u00eb t\u00eb fort\u00eb dhe aspak romantik\u00eb, prandaj mblodh\u00ebm p\u00ebr ju 10 gj\u00ebra t\u00eb pav\u00ebrteta p\u00ebr burrat&#8230;<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Miti 1: Burrat tradhtojn\u00eb, grat\u00eb jan\u00eb besnike<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00cbsht\u00eb p\u00ebrhapur mendimi se, n\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje, burrat tradhtojn\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb, nd\u00ebrsa\ngrat\u00eb jan\u00eb besnike. Sigurisht, burrat nuk tradhtojn\u00eb vet\u00ebm, ka edhe shum\u00eb gra q\u00eb\ntradhtojn\u00eb, por n\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi, thuhet q\u00eb shum\u00eb burra kan\u00eb tradhtuar m\u00eb shum\u00eb\nse nj\u00eb her\u00eb n\u00eb lidhjen e tyre. Ja, pra, q\u00eb kan\u00eb dal\u00eb n\u00eb drit\u00eb disa t\u00eb dh\u00ebna q\u00eb\ne kund\u00ebrshtojn\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb. Gjat\u00eb nj\u00eb studimi t\u00eb fundit, u zbulua se numri i burrave\nq\u00eb tradhtonin e kalonte vet\u00ebm me 5% at\u00eb t\u00eb grave. Mbase grat\u00eb jan\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb afta\nt\u2019i fshehin lidhjet e tyre, gj\u00eb q\u00eb na shtyn t\u00eb mendojm\u00eb se grat\u00eb kan\u00eb t\u00eb dashur\nm\u00eb t\u00eb q\u00ebndruesh\u00ebm, nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb q\u00eb burrat, preferojn\u00eb lidhjet rast\u00ebsore.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Mitit 2: Burrat thon\u00eb g\u00ebnjeshtra<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Studimet treguan se, kur burrat jan\u00eb t\u00eb lidhur, mund t\u00eb thon\u00eb pak m\u00eb shum\u00eb\ng\u00ebnjeshtra se partneret e tyre. K\u00ebto kan\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb me numrin e ish-t\u00eb\ndashurave, me q\u00ebllimet dhe objektivat p\u00ebr t\u00eb ardhmen, me at\u00eb se kur ka p\u00ebrfunduar\nme sakt\u00ebsi lidhja e kaluar, por edhe t\u00eb tjera. Megjithat\u00eb, k\u00ebto g\u00ebnjeshtra\nduken t\u00eb pafajshme kur mendohet se 15% e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve q\u00eb lindin nuk rriten bashk\u00eb\nme burrin q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb babai i tyre biologjik. Pra, burrat mund t\u00eb thon\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb g\u00ebnjeshtra,\npor jo medoemos ato jan\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebdha se g\u00ebnjeshtrat e grave.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Miti 3: Burrat jan\u00eb t\u00eb ftoht\u00eb dhe t\u00eb larg\u00ebt<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ka shum\u00eb t\u00eb dh\u00ebna q\u00eb e hedhin posht\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb mit dhe studimi p\u00ebr t\u00eb cilin fol\u00ebm\nn\u00eb fillim, e tregon m\u00eb s\u00eb miri k\u00ebt\u00eb. \u00cbsht\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb edhe nj\u00eb studim i dyt\u00eb nga siti\nwww. match.com q\u00eb tregoi se 54% e burrave kishin provuar dashurin\u00eb me shikim t\u00eb\npar\u00eb, kundrejt 44% t\u00eb grave, gj\u00eb q\u00eb tregon se edhe burrat jan\u00eb&#8230; t\u00eb nxeht\u00eb. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Miti 4: Grat\u00eb jan\u00eb m\u00eb romantike<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Nj\u00eb studim i Universitetit t\u00eb Pensilvanis\u00eb, n\u00eb SHBA, ka treguar se shumica\ne t\u00eb marr\u00ebve n\u00eb pyetje mendonin se grat\u00eb ishin romantike t\u00eb pandreqshme, nd\u00ebrsa\nburrat, m\u00eb t\u00eb ftoht\u00eb dhe t\u00eb larg\u00ebt, por vet\u00eb studimi e hodhi posht\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb mit,\nsepse zbuloi se raporti mes burrave dhe grave q\u00eb e thonin t\u00eb par\u00ebt fjal\u00ebt \u201ct\u00eb\ndua\u201d, ishte 3 me 1! K\u00ebto fjal\u00eb q\u00eb kan\u00eb kaq shum\u00eb dometh\u00ebnie, ka m\u00eb shum\u00eb mund\u00ebsi\nt\u00eb thuhen m\u00eb par\u00eb nga burrat sesa nga grat\u00eb. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Miti 5. Grat\u00eb bien m\u00eb shpejt n\u00eb dashuri<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">E tham\u00eb edhe m\u00eb lart se burrat e thon\u00eb m\u00eb shpejt fjal\u00ebn \u201ct\u00eb dua\u201d. I nj\u00ebjti\nstudim q\u00eb p\u00ebrmend\u00ebm m\u00eb lart, tregoi se burrat fillojn\u00eb t\u00eb dashurohen q\u00eb n\u00eb jav\u00ebt\ne para t\u00eb lidhjes, nd\u00ebrsa grat\u00eb, mund t\u00eb duan edhe muaj. Nj\u00eb studim tjet\u00ebr\nzbuloi se burrat fillojn\u00eb t\u2019i mendojn\u00eb fjal\u00ebt \u201ct\u00eb dua\u201d afro 6 jav\u00eb para grave.\nDuket, pra, se burrat jan\u00eb po aq romantik\u00eb sa grat\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Miti 6: Grat\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb presion p\u00ebr t\u00eb pasur f\u00ebmij\u00eb<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Gjat\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhjeje, kur ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb duke shkuar mir\u00eb, ekziston mendimi i p\u00ebrgjithsh\u00ebm\nse jan\u00eb grat\u00eb ato q\u00eb e hapin t\u00eb parat tem\u00ebn e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve, nd\u00ebrsa burrat i\nshmangen sa m\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb munden. Megjithat\u00eb, studime t\u00eb reja kan\u00eb treguar se\nedhe burrat e kan\u00eb po aq t\u00eb fort\u00eb ndjenj\u00ebs e at\u00ebsis\u00eb, bile n\u00eb disa raste, edhe\nm\u00eb t\u00eb fort\u00eb. Rezultatet e studimeve kan\u00eb qen\u00eb t\u00eb qarta: Burrat duan t\u00eb b\u00ebhen\nbaballar\u00eb dhe grat\u00eb, n\u00ebna. Sipas studimit n\u00eb fjal\u00eb, jan\u00eb edhe m\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebdha p\u00ebrqindjet\ne burrave q\u00eb duan t\u00eb ken\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb, 51% t\u00eb mosh\u00ebs 21-35 vje\u00e7, kundrejt 46% t\u00eb\ngrave. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Miti 7. Burrat kan\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr hap\u00ebsir\u00ebn\ne tyre<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Me nj\u00eb fjal\u00eb, doli se burrat dashurohen m\u00eb shpejt dhe duan f\u00ebmij\u00eb, por duan\nedhe hap\u00ebsir\u00ebn e tyre, duan t\u00eb kalojn\u00eb mbr\u00ebmje me shok\u00ebt, t\u00eb ken\u00eb nj\u00eb \u201cshpell\u00eb\u201d\nku t\u00eb relaksohen&#8230; Nga ana tjet\u00ebr, grat\u00eb duan vazhdimisht p\u00ebrqafime dhe p\u00ebrk\u00ebdhelje.\nK\u00ebshtu? Gabim! N\u00eb nj\u00eb studim amerikan t\u00eb vitit 2011, u zbulua se e v\u00ebrteta \u00ebsht\u00eb\nkrejt ndryshe. 77% e grave e konsiderojn\u00eb hap\u00ebsir\u00ebn e tyre personale shum\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme,\nkundrejt 58% t\u00eb burrave. Pastaj, 78% e grave u p\u00ebrgjigj\u00ebn se duan vend dhe koh\u00eb\np\u00ebr interesat e pasionet e tyre, kundrejt 64% t\u00eb burrave. M\u00eb n\u00eb fund, 35% e\ngrave, kundrejt 23% t\u00eb burrave, deklaruan se lidhjet shoq\u00ebrore jan\u00eb t\u00eb\ndomosdoshme! Studimi doli n\u00eb p\u00ebrfundim se, gradualisht, pjes\u00ebtar\u00ebt e \u00e7iftit afrohen\ndhe kan\u00eb tendenc\u00eb t\u00eb ngjajn\u00eb me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin. N\u00eb krahasim me brezat e m\u00ebparsh\u00ebm,\nm\u00eb shum\u00eb burra preferojn\u00eb intimitetin dhe romantizmin n\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje, nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb q\u00eb\ngjithnj\u00eb e m\u00eb shum\u00eb gra, k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb m\u00eb tep\u00ebr pavar\u00ebsi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>8. Burrat jan\u00eb seksoman\u00eb<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Djemt\u00eb e rinj dhe t\u00eb lir\u00eb mund t\u00eb jen\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb dh\u00ebn\u00eb\npas seksit, por kjo mbase ndodh ngaq\u00eb nuk e b\u00ebjn\u00eb aq shpesh sa do t\u00eb d\u00ebshironin.\nN\u00eb lidhje, gj\u00ebrat jan\u00eb ndryshe. Sipas nj\u00eb studimi t\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb me 2000 burra q\u00eb kan\u00eb\nlidhje afatgjata, ka m\u00eb shum\u00eb mund\u00ebsi q\u00eb t\u00eb jen\u00eb ata q\u00eb mohojn\u00eb nj\u00eb seanc\u00eb\nseksi dhe jo grat\u00eb. M\u00eb shum\u00eb se 60% e atyre q\u00eb u mor\u00ebn n\u00eb pyetje u p\u00ebrgjigj\u00ebn\nse e refuzonin seksin m\u00eb shpesh se partneret e tyre, nd\u00ebrsa 40% u p\u00ebrgjigj\u00ebn se\nt\u00eb b\u00ebsh seks nj\u00eb her\u00eb n\u00eb 4 dit\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb e mjaftueshme. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>9. Burrat e kan\u00eb mendjen te seksi 24 or\u00eb n\u00eb 7 dit\u00ebt\ne jav\u00ebs<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">T\u00eb gjith\u00eb e kemi d\u00ebgjuar shprehjen se \u201cburrat vet\u00ebm\naty e kan\u00eb mendjen\u201d. Disa thon\u00eb se e mendojn\u00eb seksin \u00e7do 3 sekonda, t\u00eb tjer\u00eb, \u00e7do\n7 sekonda apo 2 sekonda, por n\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha rastet, ky \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb mit. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Nj\u00eb studim i vitit 2011, tregoi se burrat v\u00ebrtet e\nmendonin seksin m\u00eb shpesh se grat\u00eb, por vet\u00ebm afro 19 her\u00eb n\u00eb dit\u00eb, dometh\u00ebn\u00eb,\naf\u00ebrsisht gati \u00e7do nj\u00eb or\u00eb e nj\u00eb \u00e7erek. Por, ekziston nj\u00eb e dh\u00ebn\u00eb edhe m\u00eb\ninteresante: Burrat mendojn\u00eb p\u00ebr ushqimin po aq shpesh sa p\u00ebr seksin dhe,\npothuajse po aq shpesh sa p\u00ebr gjumin. Me nj\u00eb fjal\u00eb, mendojn\u00eb me t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn shpesht\u00ebsi\np\u00ebr t\u00eb gjitha nevojat e tyre fiziologjike dhe pak m\u00eb shum\u00eb se grat\u00eb. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>10. Kur burrat ndahen, e harrojn\u00eb shpejt lidhjen e\ntyre<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Miti i fundit q\u00eb do t\u00eb hedhim posht\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb ai q\u00eb\nthot\u00eb se, kur mbaron nj\u00eb lidhje, burri kalon 1-2 dit\u00eb n\u00eb gjendje t\u00eb keqe shpirt\u00ebrore,\nm\u00eb pas e merr veten dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb gati p\u00ebr aventura t\u00eb reja. Nga ana tjet\u00ebr, grat\u00eb\nkalojn\u00eb or\u00eb t\u00eb t\u00ebra duke qar\u00eb dhe duke analizuar se \u00e7far\u00eb ka shkuar keq dhe\nkush e ka pasur fajin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Nj\u00eb studim amerikan zbuloi se, kur nj\u00eb lidhje\nkalon nj\u00eb faz\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb, burrat preken m\u00eb shum\u00eb se grat\u00eb. Sigurisht, grat\u00eb k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb\nngush\u00ebllim te shoqet, nd\u00ebrsa burrat duket se i drejtohen pijes. Mbase kjo varet\nnga fakti q\u00eb grat\u00eb n\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi kan\u00eb tendenc\u00eb ta kuptojn\u00eb m\u00eb shpejt kur nj\u00eb\nlidhje \u00ebsht\u00eb duke shkuar drejt fundit, nd\u00ebrsa burrat, kjo i kap n\u00eb befasi. K\u00ebshtu,\ngrat\u00eb p\u00ebrshtaten m\u00eb mir\u00eb ndaj kushteve t\u00eb reja, sepse e kan\u00eb menduar dhe st\u00ebrmenduar\nshum\u00eb n\u00eb t\u00eb shkuar\u00ebn k\u00ebt\u00eb mund\u00ebsi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>At\u00ebhere?\nMendoni p\u00ebrs\u00ebri se burri juaj \u00ebsht\u00eb i ftoht\u00eb, i larg\u00ebt, i fort\u00eb dhe jo\nromantik? Mendon vazhdimisht p\u00ebr seksin, ju g\u00ebnjen pa turp dhe do ta kaloj\u00eb\ngjith\u00eb koh\u00ebn me shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb sesa me ju? N\u00ebse po, at\u00ebhere mendoni\npozitivisht dhe thuajini vetes q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb \u201ci ve\u00e7ant\u00eb\u201d, pasi ai p\u00ebrfaq\u00ebson p\u00ebrjashtimin\nnga rregulli!<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>10 mite q\u00eb duhen rr\u00ebzuar! E kush tha se burrat nuk jan\u00eb romantik\u00eb? Harroji gj\u00ebrat q\u00eb dije p\u00ebr ta, le t\u00eb bazohemi te t\u00eb dh\u00ebnat e studimeve t\u00eb fundit. Ekziston mund\u00ebsia q\u00eb ata t\u00eb jen\u00eb m\u00eb romantik\u00eb se grat\u00eb? Mendimi i p\u00ebrgjithsh\u00ebm \u00ebsht\u00eb kund\u00ebr, por nj\u00eb studim hedh drit\u00eb mbi t\u00eb dh\u00ebna q\u00eb mund t\u2019ju [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":16399,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[50],"tags":[2207],"class_list":["post-22613","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-intimitet","tag-burrat"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22613","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=22613"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22613\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/16399"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=22613"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=22613"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=22613"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}