{"id":22599,"date":"2019-06-11T22:00:30","date_gmt":"2019-06-11T20:00:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=22599"},"modified":"2019-06-11T19:19:32","modified_gmt":"2019-06-11T17:19:32","slug":"%ef%bb%bf10-gjera-qe-duhen-evituar-pas-seksit","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2019\/06\/%ef%bb%bf10-gjera-qe-duhen-evituar-pas-seksit\/","title":{"rendered":"\ufeff10 gj\u00ebra q\u00eb duhen evituar pas seksit"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Sapo keni b\u00ebr\u00eb dashuri dhe atmosfera e intimitetit, <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

af\u00ebrsis\u00eb e tensionit emocional \u00ebsht\u00eb ende rrotull jush.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nuk ke fituar akoma zot\u00ebrimin e plot\u00eb t\u00eb trupit t\u00ebnd <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

dhe je duke shijuar at\u00eb molisje t\u00eb k\u00ebndshme q\u00eb shkon p\u00ebrtej koh\u00ebs dhe hap\u00ebsir\u00ebs. Por kujdes, sepse rikthimi n\u00eb realitet \u00ebsht\u00eb i shpejt\u00eb e i beft\u00eb dhe gjith\u00eb ajo magji dhe af\u00ebrsi q\u00eb u krijua gjat\u00eb aktit seksual, shuhet p\u00ebr nj\u00eb sekond\u00eb. Evitoni pra analizat e detajuara dhe paranojake mbi performanc\u00ebn n\u00eb shtrat, koh\u00ebzgjatjen dhe rezistenc\u00ebn, fjetjen ngjitur pas nj\u00ebri-tjetrit, diskutimet shum\u00eb t\u00eb nd\u00ebrlikuara. Sidomos grat\u00eb duhet ta kuptojn\u00eb se burrat jan\u00eb ndryshe nga ato; n\u00ebse i z\u00eb gjumi, nuk ndodh sepse jan\u00eb egoist\u00eb dhe t\u00eb pandjesh\u00ebm, por \u00ebsht\u00eb reagimi i tyre fiziologjik. Grat\u00eb duan menj\u00ebher\u00eb konfirmime, t\u00eb ndjejn\u00eb dashurin\u00eb e partnerit, por sidomos, nj\u00eb racion t\u00eb dyfisht\u00eb p\u00ebrk\u00ebdheljesh. Megjithat\u00eb, burrat nuk jan\u00eb k\u00ebshtu, nuk t\u00eb thon\u00eb \u201ct\u00eb dua\u201d dhe nuk t\u00eb mbysin me puthje e p\u00ebrk\u00ebdhelje; duan vet\u00ebm t\u00eb relaksohen dhe t\u00eb shijojn\u00eb momentin. Pik\u00ebrisht sepse u ka p\u00eblqyer! Dhe n\u00ebse v\u00ebshtrimi i tyre \u00ebsht\u00eb i drejtuar n\u00eb boshll\u00ebk, nuk jan\u00eb duke menduar p\u00ebr asgj\u00eb, pra, m\u00eb mir\u00eb mos i pyesni. Burrave nuk u p\u00eblqejn\u00eb nd\u00ebrlikimet. Sa m\u00eb par\u00eb t\u00eb kuptoni se jan\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb thjesht\u00eb dhe t\u00eb drejtp\u00ebrdrejt\u00eb se grat\u00eb, aq m\u00eb shum\u00eb zgjimi pas seksit do t\u00eb jet\u00eb i k\u00ebndsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb dy. Ja pra cilat jan\u00eb 10 gj\u00ebrat q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb evitoni pasi keni b\u00ebr\u00eb dashuri…<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. T\u00eb analizoni at\u00eb q\u00eb sapo ndodhi<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Evitoni kategorikisht t\u00eb filloni komentet e tipit: \u201cT\u00eb p\u00eblqeu?\u201d, \u201cK\u00ebsaj\nradhe zgjati\u201d, ose e kund\u00ebrta \u201cMund ta zgjasje m\u00eb shum\u00eb\u201d, ose \u201cNuk e arrita\norgazm\u00ebn\u201d… Stop analizave t\u00eb detajuara mbi performanc\u00ebn seksuale, koh\u00ebzgjatjen\ndhe rezultatet! Kritikat duhen evituar; mund t\u00eb thoni vet\u00ebm fraza q\u00eb shprehin k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi.\n<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. T\u2019i ktheni kurrizin tjetrit<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kjo gj\u00eb vlen sidomos p\u00ebr burrat, pasi v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb gjesh nj\u00eb grua q\u00eb pasi ka\nb\u00ebr\u00eb dashuri, t\u00eb kthehet nga ana tjet\u00ebr! Edhe n\u00ebse ndiheni i lodhur nga\nperformanca juaj e shk\u00eblqyer, mundohuni t\u2019i mbani syt\u00eb hapur, t\u00eb shihni partneren\ndhe t\u00eb zgjasni at\u00eb gjendje pozitive dhe at\u00eb kontakt psiko-fizik t\u00eb krijuar gjat\u00eb\nmarr\u00ebdh\u00ebnies seksuale. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. T\u00eb hapni celularin<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00cbsht\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb q\u00eb kalojm\u00eb gjithnj\u00eb e m\u00eb shum\u00eb koh\u00eb duke treguar p\u00ebr jet\u00ebn\nton\u00eb n\u00eb rrjetet shoq\u00ebrore, n\u00eb vend q\u00eb ta jetojm\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb, megjithat\u00eb, t\u00eb pakt\u00ebn\npasi t\u00eb keni b\u00ebr\u00eb dashuri, mundohuni t\u00eb mos hapni celularin p\u00ebr t\u2019i hedhur nj\u00eb\nsy Facebook-ut, p\u00ebr t\u2019iu p\u00ebrgjigjur nj\u00eb mesazhi ose p\u00ebr t\u00eb d\u00ebrguar nj\u00eb e-mail\npune. Do t\u00eb ishte fare pa vend. Telefoni duhet t\u00eb q\u00ebndroj\u00eb larg shtratit. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. T\u00eb thoni gj\u00ebra pa vend<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Harrojeni q\u00eb mund t\u2019i shk\u00ebpusni partnerit nj\u00eb \u201ct\u00eb dua\u201d, p\u00ebrk\u00ebdhelje apo\nfraza t\u00eb sheqerosura. N\u00ebse ju duket se po sheh kot n\u00eb boshll\u00ebk, at\u00ebhere mos e\npyesni m\u00eb kot se \u00e7far\u00eb po mendon, pasi mund t\u00eb mos mendoj\u00eb p\u00ebr asgj\u00eb. N\u00ebse nuk\ndoni ta largoni nga vetja, evitoni diskutime t\u00eb tilla, t\u00eb tipit: \u201cLe t\u00eb bashk\u00ebjetojm\u00eb\u201d,\nose t\u00eb k\u00ebrkoni konfirmime t\u00eb tipit \u201cJe i dashuruar me mua?\u201d. Burrat, pasi kan\u00eb\nb\u00ebr\u00eb seks, duan vet\u00ebm t\u00eb relaksohen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. T\u00eb pini duhan<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ja nj\u00eb sken\u00eb klasike: Pasi ke b\u00ebr\u00eb seks, t\u00eb ndez\u00ebsh nj\u00eb cigare. N\u00ebse e b\u00ebni\nt\u00eb dy \u00ebsht\u00eb tjet\u00ebr gj\u00eb, por n\u00ebse e b\u00ebn vet\u00ebm nj\u00ebri, gj\u00ebrat ndryshojn\u00eb. Mos pini\nduhan n\u00ebse nuk doni t\u00eb filloni diskutime t\u00eb kota mbi er\u00ebn e duhanit q\u00eb dep\u00ebrton\nn\u00eb dhom\u00ebn e gjumit, \u00e7ar\u00e7af\u00ebt e djegur apo taketuken q\u00eb duhet zbrazur. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. T\u00eb shkoni menj\u00ebher\u00eb n\u00eb banj\u00eb<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pas p\u00ebrqafimit p\u00ebrfundimtar dhe pasi t\u00eb jeni qet\u00ebsuar, p\u00ebr dik\u00eb mendimi i\npar\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb shkoj\u00eb n\u00eb banjo \u201cp\u00ebr t\u2019u pastruar\u201d nga m\u00ebkati i sapob\u00ebr\u00eb, ose p\u00ebr\nt\u00eb hequr prezervativin e urryer dhe p\u00ebr t\u2019u lar\u00eb. Shijoni m\u00eb mir\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb p\u00ebrqafim\np\u00ebrfundimtar dhe prisni nj\u00eb moment para se t\u00eb shkoni n\u00eb tualet…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. T\u00eb duash me \u00e7do kusht t\u00eb flesh i p\u00ebrqafuar me\ntjetrin<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

N\u00eb kurriz t\u00eb nj\u00ebri-tjetrit apo n\u00eb krah\u00ebt e partnerit, pozicioni klasik, n\u00eb\nt\u00eb cilin as nuk mund t\u00eb marr\u00ebsh frym\u00eb mir\u00eb dhe kur partnerit i duhet t\u00eb duroj\u00eb\npesh\u00ebn mbi gjoks, ose t\u00eb mb\u00ebshtes\u00eb fytyr\u00ebn pas kurrizit me kocka t\u00eb gruas. Pik\u00ebrisht\np\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb nuk duhet ta detyroni t\u00eb flini gjum\u00eb n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb pozicion, vet\u00ebm e vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr\nfaktin se k\u00ebshtu duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

8. T\u00eb visheni dhe t\u00eb ikni<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

T\u00eb b\u00ebsh dashuri nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb si nj\u00eb takim te dentisti! Edhe sikur t\u00eb jeni\ndashnor\u00eb dhe ta keni me nxitim p\u00ebr t\u2019u veshur, p\u00ebr t\u00eb ikur dhe p\u00ebr t\u2019u kthyer n\u00eb\njet\u00ebn tuaj paralele, kjo e veshur \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb ftes\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb edhe tjetri t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn\ngj\u00eb, duke e fshir\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnien seksuale me nj\u00eb \u201cciao\u201d dhe me nj\u00eb puthje n\u00eb\nfaqe. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

9. T\u00eb ndizni televizorin<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kthimi i nxituar n\u00eb realitet dhe n\u00eb zhurm\u00ebn e aparateve elektrosht\u00ebpiake mund\nt\u00eb pres\u00eb. Ndezja e televizorit \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb gjest i paedukat\u00eb, aq m\u00eb tep\u00ebr pastaj\nn\u00ebse nj\u00ebri k\u00ebrkon ta fik\u00eb dhe tjetri, ngre volumin e z\u00ebrit…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

10. M\u00eb fal, po si quhesh? <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebr ata q\u00eb sapo kan\u00eb kaluar nj\u00eb nat\u00eb seksi me nj\u00eb t\u00eb panjohur\nderi para nj\u00eb ore. Tani q\u00eb idili fizik ka mbaruar, ndjen menj\u00ebher\u00eb nevoj\u00ebn ose\nthjesht kureshtin\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019i dh\u00ebn\u00eb nj\u00eb identitet atij\/asaj q\u00eb ke n\u00eb krah…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Sapo keni b\u00ebr\u00eb dashuri dhe atmosfera e intimitetit, af\u00ebrsis\u00eb e tensionit emocional \u00ebsht\u00eb ende rrotull jush. Nuk ke fituar akoma zot\u00ebrimin e plot\u00eb t\u00eb trupit t\u00ebnd dhe je duke shijuar at\u00eb molisje t\u00eb k\u00ebndshme q\u00eb shkon p\u00ebrtej koh\u00ebs dhe hap\u00ebsir\u00ebs. Por kujdes, sepse rikthimi n\u00eb realitet \u00ebsht\u00eb i shpejt\u00eb e i beft\u00eb dhe gjith\u00eb ajo […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":20801,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[50,88],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-22599","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-intimitet","category-seksologu"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22599","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=22599"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22599\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/20801"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=22599"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=22599"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=22599"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}