{"id":22598,"date":"2019-06-11T21:00:45","date_gmt":"2019-06-11T19:00:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=22598"},"modified":"2019-06-11T19:08:46","modified_gmt":"2019-06-11T17:08:46","slug":"%ef%bb%bfta-le-gruan-se-sben-femije","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2019\/06\/%ef%bb%bfta-le-gruan-se-sben-femije\/","title":{"rendered":"\ufeffTa l\u00eb gruan se s\u2019b\u00ebn f\u00ebmij\u00eb?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

– Problemi q\u00eb kam un\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb goxha i nd\u00ebrlikuar,<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

prandaj doja nj\u00eb opinion tuajin.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Me gruan q\u00eb kam n\u00eb krah, jam i dashuruar tashm\u00eb prej 10 vjet\u00ebsh.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kemi qen\u00eb 5 vjet t\u00eb lidhur e m\u00eb pas, 2 vjet t\u00eb fejuar, gjersa mbaruam shkollat dhe u martuam. E vler\u00ebsoja shum\u00eb, m\u00eb b\u00ebri p\u00ebr vete dhe kemi shkuar gjithnj\u00eb mir\u00eb, por problemin e kam tani… Ne kemi 3 vjet t\u00eb martuar dhe donim t\u00eb b\u00ebheshim me f\u00ebmij\u00eb, por pavar\u00ebsisht tentativave, gruaja ime nuk ngelte shtatz\u00ebn\u00eb. Gruaja b\u00ebnte analizat dhe m\u00eb thoshte se i dilnin shum\u00eb mir\u00eb. Edhe un\u00eb b\u00ebja analiza dhe m\u00eb dilnin shum\u00eb mir\u00eb. Fillova t\u00eb ndihesha keq, por edhe ajo e shikoja q\u00eb po binte n\u00eb depresion. M\u00eb dukej absurde q\u00eb s\u2019po b\u00ebheshim me f\u00ebmij\u00eb. Para 4 muajsh gruaja m\u00eb tha: \u201cT\u00eb kam dashur e t\u00eb dua marr\u00ebzisht, ama t\u00eb kam g\u00ebnjyer p\u00ebr di\u00e7ka…\u201d. Ajo ishte sterile, pra, nuk b\u00ebnte f\u00ebmij\u00eb. E ka ditur prej koh\u00ebsh, por s\u2019ma ka th\u00ebn\u00eb sepse s\u2019donte t\u00eb m\u00eb humbiste. Sinqerisht, e prita shum\u00eb keq dhe n\u00eb at\u00eb koh\u00eb e \u00e7ova n\u00eb sht\u00ebpin e saj, sepse duhet t\u00eb m\u00eb thoshte. M\u00eb pas e mora p\u00ebrs\u00ebri, sepse n\u00eb thelb, e dua, por tani familja m\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb kund\u00ebrv\u00ebn\u00eb q\u00eb ta ndaj. Un\u00eb dua v\u00ebrtet t\u00eb b\u00ebhem baba, dua f\u00ebmij\u00eb, por edhe gruan e dua. Nuk di si t\u00eb veproj, ta ndaj dhe t\u00eb shikoj p\u00ebr nj\u00eb lidhje tjet\u00ebr? Si t\u00eb veproj? Jam n\u00eb nj\u00eb udh\u00ebkryq t\u00eb tmerrsh\u00ebm! Ju, po t\u00eb ishit n\u00eb vendin tim, \u00e7far\u00eb do t\u00eb b\u00ebnit?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

–\nAdoptoje nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb. Gerald <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

– Mendoje\np\u00ebr nj\u00eb moment veten t\u00eb jesh babai i nj\u00eb f\u00ebmije t\u00eb cilit mund t\u00eb mos i duash n\u00ebn\u00ebn.\nDo ishte hall edhe m\u00eb i madh nga ky q\u00eb ke tani. Ky problem q\u00eb ke tani \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00ebr\u00ebsisht\ni zgjidhsh\u00ebm po t\u00eb mendosh q\u00eb ka aq shum\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb q\u00eb u mungojn\u00eb prind\u00ebr t\u00eb\ndashur. Roland <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

– Mos u\nndaj me t\u00eb, adopto nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb te Sht\u00ebpia e F\u00ebmij\u00ebs. Po t\u00eb ishe ti, si do t\u00eb t\u00eb\nvinte t\u00eb t\u00eb ndante gruaja?! Njoh plot \u00e7ifte q\u00eb s\u2019kan\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb e jan\u00eb t\u00eb lumtur.\nB\u00ebni at\u00eb q\u00eb ju do zemra dhe mos d\u00ebgjo llafet lart e posht\u00eb. Ju uroj lumturi n\u00eb\njet\u00eb. Diana <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

– Mos b\u00ebj\ngabimin fatal ta ndash! Sot \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb gjesh dashurin\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb dhe\najo t\u00eb b\u00ebn t\u00eb kalosh \u00e7do penges\u00eb. Nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb faji i saj q\u00eb nuk b\u00ebn f\u00ebmij\u00eb. Po t\u00eb\nishe ti, a do t\u00eb vuaje sikur ajo t\u00eb t\u00eb linte?! P\u00ebr mendimin tim, s\u2019duhet\ndiskutuar fare kjo gj\u00eb se \u00ebsht\u00eb gj\u00ebja m\u00eb e ul\u00ebt. At\u00eb e di tjet\u00ebrkush dhe ajo s\u2019ka\nfaj. Pse, ajo nuk d\u00ebshiron t\u00eb b\u00ebhet mama? Po tani, t\u00eb d\u00ebnohet dhe t\u00eb t\u00eb humbas\u00eb\nedhe ty?! Nuk e ke \u00e7uar ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb nd\u00ebrmend se \u00e7far\u00eb do t\u00eb b\u00ebje po ta lije dhe\nt\u00eb merrje nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr q\u00eb t\u00eb mos e duash, ama t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb? \u00c7far\u00eb do t\u2019i\ndhuroje f\u00ebmij\u00ebs?! Familje kot! Mbaje gruan dhe mos e ndaj, biresojeni nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb\nse ka plot q\u00eb vuajn\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00eb familje. Ervis\n\u2013 Luljeta. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

– E ke v\u00ebn\u00eb\nveten n\u00eb vend t\u00eb saj? Sikur t\u00eb ishe ti ai q\u00eb nuk b\u00ebje dot f\u00ebmij\u00eb? Si do t\u00eb reagoje\nn\u00ebse ajo do t\u00eb t\u00eb braktiste? Estela <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

– Po ta\ndoje me v\u00ebrtet\u00eb, as q\u00eb do ta diskutoje k\u00ebt\u00eb gj\u00eb. Lori <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

– Gjynah\nta ndash… adoptoni nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb. Elona<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

– Po t\u00eb\nisha n\u00eb vendin t\u00ebnd, do ta mbaja gruan dhe po t\u00eb jet\u00eb e mundur t\u00eb merrni nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb\nte t\u00eb af\u00ebrmit dhe ta bir\u00ebsoni. Fat t\u00eb mbar\u00eb! Leonard <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

– N\u00ebse \u00ebsht\u00eb\ndashuria n\u00eb mes, p\u00ebr mua, mos e ndaj. F\u00ebmija \u00ebsht\u00eb kurora e dashuris\u00eb, por Zoti\nka vendosur k\u00ebshtu p\u00ebr ju. Pastaj, mendo sikur t\u00eb ishit ju q\u00eb nuk b\u00ebni f\u00ebmij\u00eb,\nsi do t\u00eb ndiheshit. Rudina <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

–\nAdoptoni nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb dhe e mbyllni hallin. Dashuria mes nj\u00ebri-tjetrit mbi t\u00eb\ngjitha. Matilda <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

– Ti\ngruan e ke marr\u00eb p\u00ebr vete apo p\u00ebr familjen q\u00eb vendos familja jote? Adopto nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb\nn\u00ebse e dashuron si\u00e7 thua. K\u00ebto jan\u00eb sakrificat e dashuris\u00eb. Elezi <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

– Un\u00eb\nthem mos e ndaj zemr\u00ebn q\u00eb ke, dashuria e par\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e bukur, jo e dyta. Mbaj\ngruan q\u00eb ke se do b\u00ebhesh pishman. Panos <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

– Jo\nadoptim. Merre edhe nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr, s\u2019ka gj\u00eb t\u00eb keqe. Avni <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

– N\u00eb fakt,\ns\u2019duhet me t\u00eb dasht\u00eb ajo ty. B\u00ebni s\u2019b\u00ebni f\u00ebmij\u00eb jan\u00eb pun\u00ebt e Zotit, t\u00eb gjesh\ndik\u00eb q\u00eb duhesh tamam, \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb. F\u00ebmij\u00ebn adoptojeni dhe shp\u00ebtoni nj\u00eb jet\u00eb.\nEdra <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

– F\u00ebmija \u00ebsht\u00eb\ndhurat\u00eb e Zotit. N\u00eb qoft\u00eb se e do v\u00ebrtet, mos e l\u00ebr se ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb dashuria jote.\nS\u2019duhet ta nd\u00ebshkosh dhe ti n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb. Po t\u00eb isha n\u00eb vend t\u00eb asaj, s\u2019do t\u00eb\nt\u00eb doja m\u00eb! Eldor <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

– Edhe\nf\u00ebmij\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebnit, nj\u00eb dit\u00eb do largoheshin (do martohen) dhe do ngelje vet\u00ebm me\ngruan duke kaluar dhe mb\u00ebshtetur nj\u00ebri-tjetrin n\u00eb pleq\u00ebri. Po pastaj kur do\nvinte ajo dit\u00eb, do vler\u00ebsoje m\u00eb shum\u00eb gruan apo f\u00ebmij\u00ebt? Duaje gruan t\u00ebnde. Sa\np\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebt jan\u00eb me qindra ata q\u00eb presin nj\u00eb familje t\u00eb ngroht\u00eb t\u2019i adoptoj\u00eb.\nD\u00ebgjo zemr\u00ebn t\u00ebnde. Viktoria  <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

– Mbaj\ndashurin\u00eb q\u00eb ke, s\u2019t\u00eb vjen m\u00eb nj\u00eb rast i till\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb duheni. Sa p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00eb,\nadoptoje nj\u00eb. Agroni<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

– Ajo ka\nb\u00ebr\u00eb gabim q\u00eb s\u2019ta ka th\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb fakt, por ti v\u00ebre veten n\u00eb vendin e saj… N\u00ebse\ns\u2019do t\u00eb b\u00ebje ti f\u00ebmij\u00eb, a do t\u00eb t\u00eb vinte mir\u00eb ty e familjes t\u00ebnde t\u00eb t\u00eb linte\najo? Silva <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

– K\u00ebto\njan\u00eb gj\u00ebra t\u00eb natyrshme q\u00eb ndodhin n\u00eb jet\u00eb. N\u00eb qoft\u00eb se ekziston nj\u00eb dashuri e\nfort\u00eb mes jush, nuk ka vend t\u00eb diskutohet p\u00ebr ndarje. Ngelet t\u00eb vendosni s\u00eb bashku\nse si duhet t\u00eb veproni p\u00ebr nd\u00ebrtimin e jet\u00ebs suaj, qoft\u00eb pa f\u00ebmij\u00eb ose me\nadoptimin e nj\u00eb apo m\u00eb shum\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve. Ju uroj ta zgjidhni pa komplekse k\u00ebt\u00eb\nproblem, n\u00eb dobi t\u00eb dashuris\u00eb q\u00eb keni p\u00ebr nj\u00ebri-tjetrin. Flamuri.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

– Mos e\nhumbni dashurin\u00eb dhe n\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn koh\u00eb, k\u00ebrko t\u00eb kesh edhe f\u00ebmij\u00ebn t\u00ebnd, se\nshkenca sot po b\u00ebn hapa t\u00eb papara edhe n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb fush\u00eb. Ose, n\u00eb fund t\u00eb fundit,\nadoptojeni. Dashamir Sudi. <\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

– Problemi q\u00eb kam un\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb goxha i nd\u00ebrlikuar, prandaj doja nj\u00eb opinion tuajin. Me gruan q\u00eb kam n\u00eb krah, jam i dashuruar tashm\u00eb prej 10 vjet\u00ebsh. Kemi qen\u00eb 5 vjet t\u00eb lidhur e m\u00eb pas, 2 vjet t\u00eb fejuar, gjersa mbaruam shkollat dhe u martuam. E vler\u00ebsoja shum\u00eb, m\u00eb b\u00ebri p\u00ebr vete dhe kemi […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":20625,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[93],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-22598","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-udhekryq"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22598","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=22598"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22598\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/20625"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=22598"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=22598"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=22598"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}