{"id":22469,"date":"2019-05-22T15:00:57","date_gmt":"2019-05-22T13:00:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=22469"},"modified":"2019-05-22T13:27:42","modified_gmt":"2019-05-22T11:27:42","slug":"%ef%bb%bfdua-ti-braktis-njerezit","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2019\/05\/%ef%bb%bfdua-ti-braktis-njerezit\/","title":{"rendered":"\ufeffDua t\u2019i braktis njer\u00ebzit"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>&#8211; Un\u00eb, prej nj\u00eb periudhe 6-7 vje\u00e7are vuaj nga nj\u00eb form\u00eb depresioni ankthioz.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong> Kam kaluar nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebri t\u00eb zymt\u00eb, t\u00eb dhunshme e me probleme ekonomike&#8230;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong> Kam p\u00ebrdorur edhe drog\u00eb e alkool, por kam vite q\u00eb i kam l\u00ebn\u00eb.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong> Tani, kam k\u00ebt\u00eb ankth t\u00eb thell\u00eb, kam paranoj\u00eb t\u00eb madhe, nuk mbushem me frym\u00eb dhe ndjej nj\u00eb shtr\u00ebngim n\u00eb kraharor, sikur po m\u00eb digjet zemra. Kam nj\u00eb lloj sikleti kur jam pran\u00eb njer\u00ebzve, nj\u00eb lloj ngrirjeje e zymt\u00ebsie n\u00eb zem\u00ebr dhe kur m\u00eb afrohen t\u00eb panjohur ose edhe persona t\u00eb rinj apo m\u00eb pak njohje, m\u00eb b\u00ebhet nj\u00eb l\u00ebmsh q\u00eb m\u00eb bllokon frym\u00ebn dhe nj\u00eb agoni q\u00eb m\u00eb mbulon fytyr\u00ebn. Kam ksenofobi, klaustrofobi, kur jam n\u00eb vende t\u00eb mbyllura me persona t\u00eb tjer\u00eb, ndjej trishtim dhe ankth. M\u00eb duket sikur po m\u2019i ngulin syt\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb, sikur po m\u00eb han\u00eb shpirtin, jam pa sens humori dhe i lodhur shpirt\u00ebrisht e fizikisht. M\u00eb vjen shpesh t\u00eb fle gjum\u00eb dhe kam situata ankthi kur pres dik\u00eb, kur nj\u00eb shok b\u00ebn presion si me shaka, kur nj\u00eb njeri m\u00eb ec\u00ebn nga pas. Ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb e ndjej veten t\u00eb shkat\u00ebrruar dhe m\u00eb duket sikur kam personalitet t\u00eb dyfisht\u00eb. Ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb m\u00eb pushtojn\u00eb emocione q\u00eb s\u2019i kontrolloj dot, kam eufori ose mendime t\u00eb k\u00ebqia. Nuk rri dot me njer\u00ebz, nuk flas dot, bllokohem, kur m\u00eb pyesin \u00e7far\u00eb pune b\u00ebj, si jam. Mundohem t\u00eb mos shkoj n\u00eb vendet e rrug\u00ebt ku ka shum\u00eb njer\u00ebz. Po ashtu, edhe kur m\u00eb afrohet apo shikon nj\u00eb fem\u00ebr, i largohem, sikur kam nj\u00eb automekaniz\u00ebm q\u00eb do t\u2019i braktis\u00eb njer\u00ebzit. Nga m\u00eb vjen ky ankth i vetvetish\u00ebm? M\u00eb duket vetja sikur jam i mallkuar, i padobish\u00ebm. A mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrdor qet\u00ebsues, a ka ndonj\u00eb mjekim p\u00ebr mua? Si t\u00eb krijoj familje n\u00eb nj\u00eb gjendje t\u00eb till\u00eb, me pamund\u00ebsi p\u00ebr pun\u00eb dhe p\u00ebr t\u2019u integruar n\u00eb komunitet e shoq\u00ebri? Ju lutem doktor, m\u00eb ndihmoni&#8230;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong><em>Dr. Jashar Demiri, psikolog klinicist: <\/em><\/strong>&nbsp;&#8211; I nderuar let\u00ebrshkrues! Fobit\u00eb e njeriut jan\u00eb\nt\u00eb panum\u00ebrta dhe ne jemi gjithmon\u00eb n\u00eb luft\u00eb me to. E kam shum\u00eb t\u00eb qart\u00eb faktin\nse sa i trembur je ti, por ke jo pak edhe ankth social e depresion reagues. Un\u00eb\nt\u00eb siguroj se t\u00eb gjitha k\u00ebto q\u00eb ti i p\u00ebrshkruan aq qart\u00eb, nuk jan\u00eb as s\u00ebmundje\ndhe as shenja s\u00ebmundjesh. Ti ke ankth, kuptohet, shum\u00eb ankth, pasi mendimet\nkatastrofizuese t\u00eb vijn\u00eb n\u00eb mendje vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr keq dhe je futur tashm\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb\nrreth vicioz. Ky rreth vicioz duhet \u201cthyer\u201d sa m\u00eb par\u00eb me psikoterapi dhe me\ndisa seanca e kura bimore. K\u00ebshtu, shum\u00eb shpejt ti do t\u00eb jesh ai njeriu i qet\u00eb\ne i lir\u00eb q\u00eb e g\u00ebzon jet\u00ebn pa mendimet \u201cshto uj\u00eb e shto miell\u201d me analiza\nkatastrofizuese, duke dashur t\u00eb \u201czbulosh\u201d te vetja \u201cs\u00ebmundje\u201d. Fjal\u00ebt\ndepresion, eufori, paranoj\u00eb, personalitete t\u00eb dyfishta etj. q\u00eb ti i ke p\u00ebrdorur,\nnuk kan\u00eb baz\u00eb reale n\u00eb rastin t\u00ebnd! Po t\u00eb mos jet\u00eb k\u00ebshtu, un\u00eb do t\u2019i djeg n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb\ndemonstrative diplomat q\u00eb kam marr\u00eb brenda e jasht\u00eb vendit dhe t\u00eb gjitha librat\nq\u00eb kam shkruar. Duhet ta dish se sa djal\u00eb i zgjuar qenke e se sa bukur paska funksionuar\nn\u00eb rastin t\u00ebnd ajo q\u00eb quhet m\u00ebshira. Pse M\u00ebshira? Sepse t\u00eb gjitha simptomat e\nankthit t\u00eb kan\u00eb \u201cdetyruar\u201d ta braktis\u00ebsh t\u00eb kaluar\u00ebn e keqe, kur si\u00e7 thua ti,\nke p\u00ebrdorur alkool e drog\u00eb. Per\u00ebndia, me m\u00ebshir\u00ebn e vet ndaj teje, nuk t\u00eb ka\nlejuar m\u00eb tej q\u00eb ti t\u00eb b\u00ebhesh viktim\u00eb e tyre, ndaj t\u00eb ka \u201cshkundur\u201d me k\u00ebt\u00eb t\u00eb mallkuarin\nankth i cili n\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb, n\u00eb rastin t\u00ebnd, \u00ebsht\u00eb kalimtar dhe i trajtuesh\u00ebm.\nAnkthi n\u00eb rastin t\u00ebnd ka qen\u00eb si nj\u00eb m\u00ebsues i rrept\u00eb, ama t\u00eb ka m\u00ebsuar. Kam\ntrajtuar shum\u00eb t\u00eb rinj si puna jote, t\u00eb cil\u00ebt kishin shum\u00eb cil\u00ebsi t\u00eb \u00e7muara,\npor besonin pak ose aspak te vetja dhe ndiheshin t\u00eb s\u00ebmur\u00eb e t\u00eb \u201ck\u00ebputur\u201d, pa\npatur n\u00eb fakt asnj\u00eb lloj s\u00ebmundjeje. Shumica prej tyre jan\u00eb sot njer\u00ebz t\u00eb\nsuksessh\u00ebm dhe ndjehen sh\u00ebndosh\u00eb e mir\u00eb, madje shum\u00eb t\u00eb dobish\u00ebm p\u00ebr familjen e\nt\u00eb af\u00ebrmit, aq sa qeshin kur kujtojn\u00eb apo lexojn\u00eb ato q\u00eb m\u00eb kan\u00eb th\u00ebn\u00eb mua apo\nshkruar dikur n\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb ne terapist\u00ebt e quajm\u00eb \u201clet\u00ebr imagjinare\u201d. Me pak fjal\u00eb,\nata kan\u00eb ndryshuar totalisht m\u00ebnyrat e t\u00eb jetuarit. Ja, ky ishte sh\u00ebrimi! E\npra, secili prej tyre, madje edhe ata q\u00eb e kishin ankthin, stresin apo\ndepresionin reagues, dometh\u00ebn\u00eb jo patologjik, n\u00eb shkall\u00ebn e mesme, e mendonin\nveten njer\u00ebz unik\u00eb, q\u00eb nuk kishin p\u00ebr t\u2019u sh\u00ebruar kurr\u00eb(!). Ata ndiheshin si t\u00eb\n\u201crrezikuar\u201d nga t\u00eb gjitha: Sikur do t\u00eb vdisnin nga zemra apo mbytja, sikur do t\u00eb\n\u00e7mendeshin apo do t\u00eb humbisnin kontrollin, sikur do t\u2019u binte t\u00eb fik\u00ebt e sikur\nt\u00eb gjith\u00eb njer\u00ebzit e v\u00ebrenin dhe e kuptonin gjendjen e tyre. Shum\u00eb nga k\u00ebta,\nsidomos ata q\u00eb e kan\u00eb patur reagimin e frik\u00ebs edhe me atake paniku, kan\u00eb p\u00ebrfunduar\nedhe n\u00eb urgjenc\u00eb dhe atje t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb nj\u00eb serum me lorazepam dhe glukoz\u00eb, porse\nnuk t\u00eb sqarojn\u00eb se s\u2019ka njeriu asnj\u00eb rrezik nga ankthi e paniku. M\u00eb e pakta, t\u00eb\nthon\u00eb: \u201cNuk ke s\u00ebmundje, e ke nervore\u201d. Kjo fjala \u201cnervore\u201d i tremb m\u00eb shum\u00eb\ndisa sepse e mendojn\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb si \u00e7menduri, kur shkenca thot\u00eb se pik\u00ebrisht k\u00ebta\nlloj njer\u00ebzish me ankth e panik, e kan\u00eb zemr\u00ebn shum\u00eb t\u00eb fort\u00eb dhe nuk \u00e7menden\nkurr\u00eb, pasi gjendja e tyre tregon jo \u201cdob\u00ebsi\u201d, por forc\u00eb e q\u00ebndrueshm\u00ebri t\u00eb lart\u00eb\nfizike e mendore dhe as t\u00eb fik\u00ebt nuk u bie, sado q\u00eb turbullohen apo l\u00ebkunden,\npasi zemra e tyre i shton rrahjet, pra, b\u00ebn t\u00eb kund\u00ebrt\u00ebn e asaj q\u00eb duhet p\u00ebr t\u00eb\nr\u00ebn\u00eb t\u00eb fik\u00ebt! Sa \u00e7udi, jan\u00eb po k\u00ebta njer\u00ebz t\u00eb cil\u00ebt shk\u00eblqejn\u00eb edhe nga l\u00ebkura\ne bukuria, por q\u00eb besojn\u00eb se k\u00ebt\u00eb \u201cmallkim t\u00eb papritur\u201d t\u00eb asaj q\u00eb ndiejn\u00eb, ua\ndallojn\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb e ata po \u201cl\u00ebn\u00eb nam(!)\u201d. Ndihem v\u00ebrtet i lumtur dhe me fat q\u00eb\nrruga ime e jet\u00ebs m\u00eb b\u00ebri psikoterapeut dhe q\u00eb pas specializimit tim n\u00eb Lond\u00ebr,\nn\u00eb vitin 1994, kam \u00e7liruar me psikoterapi apo kam sh\u00ebruar me kura speciale\nbimore me mij\u00ebra t\u00eb \u201cs\u00ebmur\u00eb\u201d pa ndonj\u00eb s\u00ebmundje. Kjo mund\u00ebsi p\u00ebr t\u2019i dh\u00ebn\u00eb fuqi\ne kuptim jet\u00ebs s\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve ka b\u00ebr\u00eb q\u00eb edhe jeta ime t\u00eb marr\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb bukuri,\nr\u00ebnd\u00ebsi e kuptim. E them sinqerisht k\u00ebt\u00eb dhe letrat e shumta q\u00eb m\u00eb vijn\u00eb, i\nruaj si d\u00ebshmi.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&#8211; Un\u00eb, prej nj\u00eb periudhe 6-7 vje\u00e7are vuaj nga nj\u00eb form\u00eb depresioni ankthioz. Kam kaluar nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebri t\u00eb zymt\u00eb, t\u00eb dhunshme e me probleme ekonomike&#8230; Kam p\u00ebrdorur edhe drog\u00eb e alkool, por kam vite q\u00eb i kam l\u00ebn\u00eb. Tani, kam k\u00ebt\u00eb ankth t\u00eb thell\u00eb, kam paranoj\u00eb t\u00eb madhe, nuk mbushem me frym\u00eb dhe ndjej nj\u00eb [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":22456,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[86],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-22469","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-psikologu"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22469","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=22469"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22469\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/22456"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=22469"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=22469"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=22469"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}