{"id":22330,"date":"2019-05-04T16:00:08","date_gmt":"2019-05-04T14:00:08","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=22330"},"modified":"2019-05-04T12:53:39","modified_gmt":"2019-05-04T10:53:39","slug":"%ef%bb%bf10-arsye-pse-burrat-duhet-te-martohen","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2019\/05\/%ef%bb%bf10-arsye-pse-burrat-duhet-te-martohen\/","title":{"rendered":"\ufeff10 arsye pse burrat duhet t\u00eb martohen"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Burrat shpesh diskutojn\u00eb n\u00eb lidhje me martes\u00ebn, bile m\u00eb shum\u00eb sesa grat\u00eb, t\u00eb cilat kan\u00eb mendime m\u00eb t\u00eb qarta n\u00eb lidhje me t\u00eb.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Disa jan\u00eb t\u00eb bindur se \u00ebsht\u00eb di\u00e7ka e nevojshme, disa e mendojn\u00eb si nj\u00eb zinxhir t\u00eb kot\u00eb n\u00eb qaf\u00eb.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ja, cilat jan\u00eb arsyet pse burrat duhet t\u00eb martohen…<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Nuk do ta ndjeni vetmin\u00eb (tani)<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

N\u00ebse martoheni me njeriun e duhur, ajo do t\u00eb jet\u00eb p\u00ebr ju edhe shoqe, edhe e\ndashur. Do t\u00eb jet\u00eb pran\u00eb jush n\u00eb nevoj\u00eb, n\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb dhe n\u00eb t\u00eb keqe. Kur t\u00eb s\u00ebmureni\nme grip dhe miqt\u00eb nuk do t\u00eb vijn\u00eb t\u2019ju shohin se mos u ngjitet s\u00ebmundja, do t\u00eb\nkujdeset ajo p\u00ebr ju. T\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn gj\u00eb do t\u00eb b\u00ebnit edhe ju p\u00ebr gruan tuaj,\nsigurisht, por t\u00eb martohesh do t\u00eb thot\u00eb se e shfaq publikisht q\u00eb je n\u00eb krah t\u00eb\ntjetrit gjith\u00eb jet\u00ebn. Martesa ka nj\u00eb aspekt psikologjik, me t\u00eb cilin nuk\nkrahasohet as bashk\u00ebjetesa, as t\u00eb qenit prind. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Nuk do ta ndjeni vetmin\u00eb n\u00eb mosh\u00ebn 60 vje\u00e7are<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mbase nuk mendoni se ju duhet nj\u00eb shok jete kur jeni 25 vje\u00e7, me aq shok\u00eb\nbeqar\u00eb rreth e rrotull vetes dhe shum\u00eb gra n\u00eb dispozicion. Megjithat\u00eb, mendoni\nnj\u00ebher\u00eb t\u00eb ardhmen… Miqt\u00eb tuaj do t\u00eb martohen dhe do t\u00eb krijojn\u00eb familje. Nuk\ndo t\u00eb jet\u00eb e leht\u00eb t\u00eb keni dashuri\u00e7ka dhe lidhje joserioze kur n\u00eb vesh\u00ebt tuaj t\u00eb\ndalin qime. Sigurisht, kjo nuk do t\u00eb thot\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebni hapa t\u00eb nxituar, por \u00ebsht\u00eb\nnj\u00eb arsye e mir\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019u kujtuar se martesa ka p\u00ebrpar\u00ebsi q\u00eb zgjasin nj\u00eb jet\u00eb t\u00eb\nt\u00ebr\u00eb, gj\u00ebra q\u00eb beqaria nuk mund t\u2019jua sjell\u00eb. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. P\u00ebrmir\u00ebsohet situata juaj ekonomike<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kur martoheni, edhe pasurit\u00eb tuaja reciproke b\u00ebhen t\u00eb p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebta. Mund t\u00eb\nshisni apartamentin q\u00eb njeri prej jush e mbante \u201cn\u00eb rast nevoje\u201d. Mund t\u00eb blini\nobjekte me vler\u00eb t\u00eb madhe s\u00eb bashku, duke e ditur se nuk do t\u00eb nevojitet t\u2019i\nhidhni brenda 1-2 vjet\u00ebve. Mund t\u00eb b\u00ebni gjith\u00e7ka q\u00eb b\u00ebnit edhe po t\u00eb ishit vet\u00ebm,\npor do t\u00eb ndjeheni m\u00eb t\u00eb sigurt\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb martes\u00eb. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Do t\u00eb fitoni m\u00eb shum\u00eb para<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Le t\u00eb q\u00ebndrojm\u00eb edhe pak n\u00eb an\u00ebn ekonomike. \u00cbsht\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb nga ana\nstatistikore se t\u00eb martuarit fitojn\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb sesa koleg\u00ebt e tyre beqar\u00eb. Ka nj\u00eb\narsye p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb: Punojn\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb! Sipas statistikave, n\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi, nj\u00eb burr\u00eb\ni martuar fiton 1\/3 m\u00eb shum\u00eb para se nj\u00eb beqar, p\u00ebr t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn pun\u00eb. Kjo ndodh\nmbase ngaq\u00eb martesa i b\u00ebn burrat t\u00eb rimendojn\u00eb prioritetet e tyre. K\u00ebshtu, nj\u00eb\nsht\u00ebpi e mobiluar shkon n\u00eb maj\u00eb t\u00eb list\u00ebs s\u00eb prioriteteve dhe shtohen p\u00ebrpjekjet\np\u00ebr ta pasur. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. B\u00ebni shum\u00eb festa (tuajat dhe t\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve)<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Fest\u00eb fejese, fest\u00eb me shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb, fest\u00eb beqarie, dasm\u00eb dhe festa e muajit t\u00eb\nmjaltit. Pastaj jan\u00eb p\u00ebrvjetor\u00ebt, p\u00ebrs\u00ebritje t\u00eb betimit, etj., p\u00ebr t\u00eb mos p\u00ebrmendur\nfestat n\u00eb t\u00eb cilat do t\u00eb jeni ftuar \u00e7ift. Tani mund t\u00eb festoni edhe dy dit\u00eblindje\nn\u00eb vit dhe festa t\u00eb tjera. Me nj\u00eb fjal\u00eb, martesa mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb zbavit\u00ebse.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. Jetoni m\u00eb gjat\u00eb<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P\u00ebrpar\u00ebsit\u00eb e nj\u00eb martese p\u00ebrsa i p\u00ebrket sh\u00ebndetit, jan\u00eb minimale p\u00ebr grat\u00eb,\npor shum\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebdha p\u00ebr burrat. Numrat flasin vet\u00eb: Burrat e martuar jetojn\u00eb m\u00eb\ngjat\u00eb. Arsyet jan\u00eb t\u00eb shumta: Burrat e martuar (ndryshe nga sa mund t\u00eb\nmendohet) kan\u00eb m\u00eb pak strese sesa moshatar\u00ebt e tyre beqar\u00eb. Sipas nj\u00eb studimi,\nata vizitohen m\u00eb shpesh te doktori, mbase ngaq\u00eb i nxit edhe gruaja. Gjithashtu,\nata b\u00ebjn\u00eb edhe m\u00eb shum\u00eb fizkultur\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. B\u00ebni m\u00eb shum\u00eb seks <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00cbsht\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb! T\u00eb martuarit mund t\u00eb ken\u00eb zili beqar\u00ebt duke menduar se\nzbaviten vazhdimisht, por e kan\u00eb gabim. N\u00eb vitin 2006, disa shkenc\u00ebtar\u00eb britanik\u00eb\nstudiuan sjelljen seksuale t\u00eb njer\u00ebzve nga 38 vende dhe nxor\u00ebn p\u00ebrfundimin se,\nn\u00eb t\u00eb 38 vendet, burrat e martuar b\u00ebnin m\u00eb shum\u00eb seks sesa beqar\u00ebt. Me shifra,\n40% e t\u00eb martuarve b\u00ebjn\u00eb seks 2 her\u00eb n\u00eb jav\u00eb, n\u00eb krahasim me 20-25% t\u00eb beqar\u00ebve,\nq\u00eb arrijn\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb seks po kaq shpesh. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

8. B\u00ebni seks m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sigurisht, burrat e martuar e b\u00ebjn\u00eb gjith\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb seks me t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn grua\n(zakonisht), por ky seks \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb i miri. T\u00eb b\u00ebsh seks me gruan t\u00ebnde do t\u00eb\nthot\u00eb se nuk ke at\u00eb ankthin dhe sikletin kur b\u00ebn seks me nj\u00eb t\u00eb panjohur vet\u00ebm\np\u00ebr nj\u00eb nat\u00eb (i cili \u00ebsht\u00eb shpesh m\u00eb i mir\u00eb n\u00eb teori, sesa n\u00eb praktik\u00eb). Meq\u00eb\nmungon ankthi dhe nuk p\u00ebrpiqesh t\u2019i l\u00ebsh mbresa t\u00eb dashur\u00ebs s\u00eb re, mund t\u00eb\nrelaksohesh e ta shijosh seksin ashtu si duhet dhe sa t\u00eb duash.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

9. Jeni njer\u00ebz m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

N\u00eb nj\u00ebfar\u00eb m\u00ebnyre, martesa \u00ebsht\u00eb d\u00ebshmi e dinjitetit tuaj. Pse do t\u00eb\nmartoheshin me ju n\u00ebse nuk do t\u00eb ishit i mir\u00eb dhe me vlera? Por, \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb\nq\u00eb martesa i b\u00ebn burrat edhe m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb. Sipas studimeve, burrat e martuar jan\u00eb\nm\u00eb shoq\u00ebror\u00eb dhe kan\u00eb m\u00eb pak mund\u00ebsi t\u00eb kryejn\u00eb krime, t\u00eb thon\u00eb g\u00ebnjeshtra dhe\nt\u00eb jen\u00eb agresiv\u00eb. Studimi i kryer me v\u00ebllez\u00ebr binjak\u00eb, tregoi se v\u00ebllai beqar\nka m\u00eb shum\u00eb gjasa t\u00eb jet\u00eb joshoq\u00ebror sesa i martuari, pavar\u00ebsisht nga ngjashm\u00ebria\ngjenetike. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

10. \u00cbsht\u00eb m\u00eb e mir\u00eb se bashk\u00ebjetesa<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mund t\u00eb mendoni se i keni t\u00eb gjitha p\u00ebrpar\u00ebsit\u00eb e martes\u00ebs n\u00ebse zgjidhni\nbashk\u00ebjetes\u00ebn, por nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb k\u00ebshtu. N\u00eb librin e tyre \u201c\u00c7\u00ebshtja e Martes\u00ebs: Pse\nt\u00eb martuarit jan\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb lumtur, m\u00eb t\u00eb sh\u00ebndetsh\u00ebm dhe m\u00eb mir\u00eb financiarisht\u201d,\nshkrimtaret Linda Ueit dhe Megi Gallager, tregojn\u00eb se nga studimet, \u00e7iftet q\u00eb\nbashk\u00ebjetojn\u00eb jan\u00eb m\u00eb pak besnik\u00eb sesa t\u00eb martuarit, nuk arrijn\u00eb t\u00eb menaxhojn\u00eb\nkaq mir\u00eb gjendjen e tyre ekonomike dhe nuk merren nj\u00ebri me sh\u00ebndetin e tjetrit.\n<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Me pak fjal\u00eb, n\u00ebse doni t\u00eb shijoni gjith\u00eb p\u00ebrpar\u00ebsit\u00eb e jet\u00ebs, nuk ka\nalternativ\u00eb tjet\u00ebr ve\u00e7 martes\u00ebs. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Burrat shpesh diskutojn\u00eb n\u00eb lidhje me martes\u00ebn, bile m\u00eb shum\u00eb sesa grat\u00eb, t\u00eb cilat kan\u00eb mendime m\u00eb t\u00eb qarta n\u00eb lidhje me t\u00eb. Disa jan\u00eb t\u00eb bindur se \u00ebsht\u00eb di\u00e7ka e nevojshme, disa e mendojn\u00eb si nj\u00eb zinxhir t\u00eb kot\u00eb n\u00eb qaf\u00eb. Ja, cilat jan\u00eb arsyet pse burrat duhet t\u00eb martohen… 1. Nuk do ta […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":22331,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[50],"tags":[2207],"class_list":["post-22330","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-intimitet","tag-burrat"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22330","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=22330"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22330\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/22331"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=22330"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=22330"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=22330"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}