{"id":22048,"date":"2019-04-11T18:00:05","date_gmt":"2019-04-11T16:00:05","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=22048"},"modified":"2019-04-11T16:17:29","modified_gmt":"2019-04-11T14:17:29","slug":"%ef%bb%bfsi-te-veprosh-kur-ke-diference-te-madhe-ne-moshe","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2019\/04\/%ef%bb%bfsi-te-veprosh-kur-ke-diference-te-madhe-ne-moshe\/","title":{"rendered":"\ufeffSi t\u00eb veprosh kur ke diferenc\u00eb t\u00eb madhe n\u00eb mosh\u00eb?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Keni r\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb dashuri me nj\u00eb burr\u00eb 20 vjet m\u00eb t\u00eb madh n\u00eb mosh\u00eb (ose anasjelltas). <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00cbsht\u00eb di\u00e7ka e keqe?<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Jo, thjesht nganj\u00ebher\u00eb e nd\u00ebrlikuar, sepse, megjith\u00ebse n\u00eb parim m\u00eb i riu k\u00ebrkon n\u00eb fillim baban\u00eb ose maman\u00eb e vet n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb lidhje (nuk ka gj\u00eb t\u00eb keqe, n\u00ebse e pranon di\u00e7ka t\u00eb till\u00eb), dashuria nuk njeh mosh\u00eb dhe nuk llogaritet me num\u00ebr vitesh!<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. \u00cbsht\u00eb e dukshme…<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kini parasysh q\u00eb ndodh shum\u00eb m\u00eb shpesh q\u00eb nj\u00eb burr\u00eb t\u00eb joshet nga nj\u00eb grua\nm\u00eb e re, sesa nga nj\u00eb m\u00eb e madhe n\u00eb mosh\u00eb dhe kjo pranohet e kuptohet m\u00eb leht\u00eb\nnga shoq\u00ebria. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. N\u00eb jet\u00ebn e p\u00ebrditshme<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secili sjell di\u00e7ka n\u00eb lidhje, nj\u00ebri eksperienc\u00ebn, tjetri freskin\u00eb dhe kjo, p\u00ebr\nt\u00eb mir\u00eb e p\u00ebr t\u00eb keq! E mir\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb se mund t’i zbulosh tjetrit shum\u00eb gj\u00ebra (kultur\u00eb,\ngj\u00ebra t\u00eb p\u00ebrjetuara, k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsin\u00eb seksuale…), t\u00eb harruara ose t\u00eb panjohura. N\u00eb\nk\u00ebt\u00eb rast 10, 15, 20 vjet\u00ebt e diferenc\u00ebs jan\u00eb nj\u00eb plus p\u00ebr tjetrin. P\u00ebrsa i p\u00ebrket\ns\u00eb keqes…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Ana e keqe<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

T\u00eb p\u00ebrjetosh k\u00ebt\u00eb diferenc\u00eb me nj\u00eb an\u00eb at\u00ebrore (ose m\u00ebm\u00ebsore) \u00ebsht\u00eb pak e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb.\n“Kam p\u00ebrjetuar nj\u00eb histori me nj\u00eb burr\u00eb shum\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb madh se un\u00eb, deklaron\nAna, dhe sa m\u00eb shum\u00eb shkonte koha, aq m\u00eb shum\u00eb kisha p\u00ebrshtypjen se po shkoja\nme tim at\u00eb… Ndihm\u00eb!”. E v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrjetohet edhe ana moralizuese: \u201cUn\u00eb\njam m\u00eb i madh se ti\u201d, pra, “di m\u00eb shum\u00eb”, ose fraza klasike e stilit\n“n\u00eb koh\u00ebn time…”, q\u00eb e thekson m\u00eb kot k\u00ebt\u00eb diferenc\u00eb. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Po juve, ju duket zbabit\u00ebse?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Shpesh, \u00ebsht\u00eb humori (i vullnetsh\u00ebm, apo jo), q\u00eb ju b\u00ebn t\u00eb g\u00eblltisni pilul\u00ebn\ne hidhur. “M\u00eb kujtohet, thot\u00eb Diana, q\u00eb i dashuri im, 21 vjet m\u00eb i madh se\nun\u00eb, m\u00eb fliste koh\u00ebt e fundit p\u00ebr nj\u00eb koncert t\u00eb mrekulluesh\u00ebm t\u00eb vitit 1982…\nProblemi \u00ebsht\u00eb se n\u00eb at\u00eb koh\u00eb, un\u00eb isha 4 muajshe!”. Vet\u00ebm bashk\u00ebpunimi\nmund t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb t\u00eb bien barrierat e koh\u00ebs dhe t\u00eb funksionoj\u00eb me sukses kjo lloj\nlidhjeje. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Po f\u00ebmij\u00ebt?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Problemi m\u00eb i madh \u00ebsht\u00eb se personi m\u00eb i madh n\u00eb mosh\u00eb, ka f\u00ebmij\u00eb nga\nlidhja e par\u00eb, me t\u00eb cil\u00ebt p\u00ebrballet personi m\u00eb i ri, jo pa v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsi, sidomos\nn\u00ebse ata nuk e pranojn\u00eb. \u00c7el\u00ebsi i suksesit \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb krijosh me ta nj\u00eb lidhje,\npor jo shum\u00eb t\u00eb ngusht\u00eb, n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb mos d\u00ebgjosh fraza t\u00eb tipit “ti\nnuk je n\u00ebna ime”. N\u00ebse gjithsecili b\u00ebn nj\u00eb p\u00ebrpjekje, ekuilibri gjendet. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. F\u00ebmij\u00ebt q\u00eb do t\u00eb vijn\u00eb…<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Problem tjet\u00ebr \u00ebsht\u00eb f\u00ebmija i ri q\u00eb do t\u00eb vij\u00eb. N\u00ebse p\u00ebr gruan, mosha \u00ebsht\u00eb\nnj\u00eb frenim, p\u00ebr burrin (kur ai \u00ebsht\u00eb dakord!) \u00ebsht\u00eb ankthi i p\u00ebrllogaritjeve:\n“\u00c7far\u00eb moshe do t\u00eb ket\u00eb ai, kur un\u00eb t\u00eb jem…”. Nga ana tjet\u00ebr, ai \u00ebsht\u00eb\nshpesh m\u00eb i disponuesh\u00ebm e m\u00eb i nd\u00ebrgjegjsh\u00ebm q\u00eb jeta duhet jetuar plot\u00ebsisht!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. Harmonia<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mjafton t\u00eb pranosh dhe bile, t\u00eb ndjehesh mir\u00eb me miqt\u00eb e tjetrit, t\u00eb\npranosh leht\u00ebsisht mbr\u00ebmjet q\u00eb b\u00ebn secili me miqt\u00eb e tij, sepse po ia b\u00ebre\ntjetrit t\u00eb ndjej\u00eb ndryshimin e mosh\u00ebs, do t\u00eb d\u00ebshtoni me siguri. Duhet t\u00eb kesh\nbesim te tjetri dhe t\u00eb mos ndjesh frik\u00eb se lidhja nuk do t\u00eb zgjas\u00eb, se personi\nm\u00eb i ri do t\u00eb largohet dhe do t\u00eb k\u00ebrkoj\u00eb t\u00eb gjej\u00eb nj\u00eb bashk\u00ebmoshatar\/e.\nGjithashtu, kini parasysh se nj\u00eb person nuk mund ta mbash me forc\u00eb dhe, me gjith\u00eb\ndiferenc\u00ebn tuaj, disa persona duan t\u00eb krijojn\u00eb familje edhe me njer\u00ebz m\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebdhenj\nn\u00eb mosh\u00eb… At\u00ebhere, pse t\u00eb mos e shihni t\u00eb ardhmen ngjyr\u00eb roz\u00eb? <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Keni r\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb dashuri me nj\u00eb burr\u00eb 20 vjet m\u00eb t\u00eb madh n\u00eb mosh\u00eb (ose anasjelltas). \u00cbsht\u00eb di\u00e7ka e keqe? Jo, thjesht nganj\u00ebher\u00eb e nd\u00ebrlikuar, sepse, megjith\u00ebse n\u00eb parim m\u00eb i riu k\u00ebrkon n\u00eb fillim baban\u00eb ose maman\u00eb e vet n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb lidhje (nuk ka gj\u00eb t\u00eb keqe, n\u00ebse e pranon di\u00e7ka t\u00eb till\u00eb), dashuria […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":22049,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[50],"tags":[306],"class_list":["post-22048","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-intimitet","tag-intimitet"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22048","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=22048"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22048\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/22049"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=22048"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=22048"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=22048"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}