{"id":22015,"date":"2019-04-09T21:00:51","date_gmt":"2019-04-09T19:00:51","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=22015"},"modified":"2019-04-09T19:35:18","modified_gmt":"2019-04-09T17:35:18","slug":"nje-cift-i-persosur-mbi-baza-te-forta-ekonomike","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2019\/04\/nje-cift-i-persosur-mbi-baza-te-forta-ekonomike\/","title":{"rendered":"Nj\u00eb \u00e7ift i p\u00ebrsosur, mbi baza t\u00eb forta… ekonomike!"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Po sikur, p\u00ebr t\u00eb zgjidhur krizat n\u00eb \u00e7ift, t\u00eb aplikonim parimet ekonomike?<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

K\u00ebt\u00eb propozojn\u00eb dy autor\u00ebt e librit \u201c\u00c7iftonomiks\u201d, Paula Sa\u00e7man dhe Xheni Anderson. <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P\u00ebr t\u00eb shp\u00ebtuar, harmonizuar dhe dh\u00ebn\u00eb nxitje \u00e7iftit, ato kan\u00eb p\u00ebrdorur parimet baz\u00eb t\u00eb teoris\u00eb ekonomike, q\u00eb e kan\u00eb quajtur \u00e7iftonomiks. Ja cilat jan\u00eb ato:<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Ndajini pun\u00ebt, sipas \u201cspecializimit\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

N\u00eb parim supozohet se, q\u00eb nj\u00eb \u00e7ift q\u00eb banon s\u00eb bashku t\u00eb shkoj\u00eb mir\u00eb, duhet\nnj\u00eb ndarje e drejt\u00eb e pun\u00ebve t\u00eb sht\u00ebpis\u00eb, t\u00eb tipit 50% nj\u00ebri e 50% tjetri dhe t\u00eb\nnd\u00ebrrojn\u00eb rolet her\u00eb pas here. Por, si\u00e7 e v\u00ebn\u00eb re autoret e \u00c7iftonomiksit, nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb\nq\u00eb ideja e ndarjes s\u00eb detyrave \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e thjesht\u00eb; ajo mbetet nj\u00eb nga\nsubjektet klasike t\u00eb z\u00ebnkave n\u00eb \u00e7ift. At\u00ebhere, \u00e7far\u00eb duhet b\u00ebr\u00eb?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Frym\u00ebzohemi nga teoria e pun\u00ebs e bazuar te ndarja dhe specialiteti i\nsecilit (sipas Adam Smith). N\u00eb fakt, n\u00eb nj\u00eb nd\u00ebrmarrje, si n\u00eb nj\u00eb jet\u00eb n\u00eb \u00e7ift,\nnj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie e bazuar te ndarja e pun\u00ebve, gjat\u00eb s\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebs koh\u00eb dhe me t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn\nngarkes\u00eb, i korresponon m\u00eb shum\u00eb… pun\u00ebs n\u00eb zinxhir. Cili do ta d\u00ebshironte k\u00ebt\u00eb\nn\u00eb sht\u00ebpi? P\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb arsye, n\u00eb vend q\u00eb t\u00eb ndahen t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtat pun\u00eb dhe aktivitete\nn\u00eb 50\/50, \u00ebsht\u00eb mir\u00eb q\u00eb secili t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb di t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb. Sigurisht,\nnuk b\u00ebhet fjal\u00eb k\u00ebtu q\u00eb nj\u00ebri t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb vet\u00ebm pun\u00ebt e v\u00ebshtira dhe tjetri vet\u00ebm t\u00eb\nlehtat por thjesht, t\u2019i p\u00ebrshtatemi s\u00eb bashku situat\u00ebs p\u00ebr t\u00eb fituar koh\u00eb q\u00eb do\nt\u2019i sh\u00ebrbej\u00eb \u00e7iftit p\u00ebr \u00e7lodhje dhe zbavitje. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Shembull praktik:<\/em> N\u00ebse jeni m\u00eb e shpejt\u00eb se partneri n\u00eb\nlarjen e en\u00ebve, nd\u00ebrsa e keni t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb gatuani, ndani detyrat dhe p\u00ebrshtatjani\nato secilit. Q\u00eb t\u00eb dy do t\u00eb fitoni koh\u00eb. Sigurisht q\u00eb ju do t\u2019i lani en\u00ebt shum\u00eb\nm\u00eb shpesh, por nuk do t\u00eb humbisni koh\u00eb duke gatuar dhe anasjelltas. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Kuptoni frik\u00ebn nga humbja (…dhe grinduni m\u00eb\npak) <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Frika e humbjes \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb nga motorr\u00ebt m\u00eb shkat\u00ebrrimtar\u00eb t\u00eb ekonomis\u00eb. Ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb\ne zakonshme, por shum\u00eb m\u00eb e thell\u00eb sesa duket. P\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb saj, ne e\nperceptojm\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb ngritjen sesa uljen e \u00e7mimeve. Meq\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb e urrejn\u00eb\nhumbjen, kjo i shtyn njer\u00ebzit t\u00eb rrezikojn\u00eb gjith\u00e7ka kur ndjehen t\u00eb k\u00ebrc\u00ebnuar.\nKjo shpjegon, p\u00ebr shembull, ato z\u00ebnkat me t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb t\u00eb fuqishme, kur fillon t\u00eb\ngrindesh me tjetrin dhe e ngul gozhd\u00ebn deri n\u00eb fund, duke th\u00ebn\u00eb fjal\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb\ncilat shpesh pendohesh m\u00eb pas. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

K\u00ebshtu pra, z\u00ebnkat e pafund kur do medoemos t\u00eb tregosh se ke t\u00eb drejt\u00eb,\nsikur kjo t\u00eb jet\u00eb e drejta e padiskutueshme, jan\u00eb jo vet\u00ebm \u00eb humbje kohe (besoj\nse e keni v\u00ebn\u00eb re), por gjithashtu, nj\u00eb pasqyrim i frik\u00ebs son\u00eb nga humbja. Kjo\nfrik\u00eb nga humbja n\u00eb loj\u00ebn se kush \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb i forti, na b\u00ebn t\u00eb humbasim edhe m\u00eb\nshum\u00eb: Gjumin, besueshm\u00ebrin\u00eb, mir\u00ebkuptimin. Autoret propozojn\u00eb dy zgjidhje t\u00eb\nthjeshta dhe efikase p\u00ebr t\u00eb rigjetur gjumin, dinjitetin dhe qet\u00ebsin\u00eb n\u00eb \u00e7ift: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

– T\u00eb pres\u00ebsh t\u00eb nes\u00ebrmen! \u201cNata sjell k\u00ebshill\u00eb\u201d, thot\u00eb nj\u00eb fjal\u00eb e urt\u00eb\npopullore. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

– T\u2019i imponosh vetes rregullin e 24 or\u00ebshit. Sapo nj\u00eb situat\u00eb na nervozon,\nevitojm\u00eb reagimin e drejtp\u00ebrdrejt\u00eb dhe presim 24 or\u00eb qet\u00eb-qet\u00eb. N\u00ebse nervozizmi\nkalon, kjo do t\u00eb thot\u00eb se nuk ia vlente t\u00eb zem\u00ebroheshim kaq shum\u00eb; furtuna ka\nkaluar. N\u00ebse vazhdon, t\u00eb pakt\u00ebn k\u00ebsaj radhe, mund t\u00eb flasim qet\u00eb dhe t\u00eb flem\u00eb\ngjum\u00eb. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

3: Prano ligjin e ofert\u00ebs dhe k\u00ebrkes\u00ebs (…dhe b\u00ebni\ndashuri m\u00eb shpesh)<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

N\u00eb fush\u00ebn e marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve seksuale, studimet provojn\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb supozojm\u00eb t\u00eb\ngjith\u00eb: \u00c7iftet e lumtura b\u00ebjn\u00eb dashuri shpesh dhe, n\u00ebse b\u00ebn shpesh dashuri, ke\nm\u00eb shum\u00eb shanse t\u00eb jesh nj\u00eb \u00e7ift i lumtur. Nj\u00eb gj\u00eb, pra, \u00ebsht\u00eb e sigurt\u00eb; t\u00eb b\u00ebsh\ndashuri kur je n\u00eb \u00e7ift \u00ebsht\u00eb di\u00e7ka e mir\u00eb p\u00ebr moralin, por me rutin\u00ebn, stresin,\npun\u00ebn, f\u00ebmij\u00ebt, lodhjen, etj., vendi i seksualitetit zvog\u00eblohet pak nga pak dhe\nn\u00eb fund, seksi \u201cna kushton shtrenjt\u00eb\u201d. Kujdes, kjo nuk do t\u00eb thot\u00eb s\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia\nka nj\u00eb tarif\u00eb t\u00eb caktuar! Seksi na kushton… 40 minuta gjum\u00eb m\u00eb pak, kur t\u00eb\nnes\u00ebrmen keni shum\u00eb pun\u00eb, jeni lodhur, etj. Me nj\u00eb fjal\u00eb, ka shum\u00eb arsye q\u00eb na\nb\u00ebjn\u00eb t\u00eb mendojm\u00eb sa na kushton seksi, por ky \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb rreth vicioz sepse, sa\nm\u00eb pak b\u00ebn dashuri, aq m\u00eb shum\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia do t\u00eb na duket se kushton shtrenjt\u00eb\nsepse:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

– Duhet rifituar ritmi, zakoni i humbur dhe kjo k\u00ebrkon p\u00ebrpjekje e bile, nj\u00ebfar\u00eb\norganizimi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

– Numri i pakt\u00eb i marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve rrit nivelin ton\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebrkesave. Sa m\u00eb rrall\u00eb\nb\u00ebn, aq m\u00eb shum\u00eb k\u00ebrkesa ke prej tij. Me k\u00ebt\u00eb \u00e7mim, duhet q\u00eb t\u2019ia vlej\u00eb!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Por, si\u00e7 thot\u00eb edhe Vudi Alen: \u201cNuk kam pasur kurr\u00eb nj\u00eb orgazm\u00eb t\u00eb keqe.\nOrgazma ime m\u00eb e keqe ka qen\u00eb ashtu si\u00e7 duhet\u201d. P\u00ebr t\u2019i b\u00ebr\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet\nseksuale m\u00eb pak t\u00eb kushtueshme dhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb nj\u00eb \u00e7ift m\u00eb i lumbur dhe q\u00eb b\u00ebn\nseks shpesh, Paula dhe Xheni propozojn\u00eb tre zgjidhje (t\u00eb testuara dhe t\u00eb aprovuara\nnga \u00e7iftet):<\/p>\n\n\n\n

– T\u00eb jemi m\u00eb transparent\u00eb n\u00eb d\u00ebshirat tona: K\u00ebshtu, mbr\u00ebmjeve kur kemi shum\u00eb\nd\u00ebshir\u00eb, m\u00eb mir\u00eb thuajani partnerit pa i r\u00ebn\u00eb rrotull e rrotull. Komunikimi i\nmir\u00eb kursen koh\u00eb, energji, kuptohesh nga tjetri dhe kjo u p\u00eblqen t\u00eb gjith\u00ebve…\nn\u00eb shtrat!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

– T\u00eb ndryshosh zakonet. Zakonet e mira n\u00eb fush\u00ebn e seksualitetit humbasin\nshum\u00eb shpejt. At\u00ebhere, hiqni k\u00ebmish\u00ebn e vjet\u00ebr t\u00eb nat\u00ebs dhe b\u00ebni nj\u00eb depilim t\u00eb\nk\u00ebmb\u00ebve!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

– T\u00eb pranojm\u00eb d\u00ebshirat. N\u00ebse themi ato q\u00eb kemi d\u00ebshir\u00eb, me sakt\u00ebsi, e\nndihmojm\u00eb tjetrin dhe i evitojm\u00eb nganj\u00ebher\u00eb… refuzimet e p\u00ebrs\u00ebritura. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Injorojini \u201cthashethemet e tregut\u201d <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

N\u00eb fush\u00ebn e seksualitetit, t\u00eb gjith\u00eb flasin shum\u00eb, por mos u tregoni naiv\u00eb duke\nbesuar gjith\u00e7ka q\u00eb thuhet. \u00c7ifti i p\u00ebrkryer nuk ekziston, ashtu si n\u00eb ekonomi,\nku quajm\u00eb \u201cthashethemet e tregut\u201d ato fjal\u00eb q\u00eb qarkullojn\u00eb p\u00ebr sukeset dhe d\u00ebshtimet\ne k\u00ebsaj apo asaj nd\u00ebrmarrjeje. Shpesh, thashethemet e tregut jan\u00eb t\u00eb pabazuara,\nprandaj \u00ebsht\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u2019i evitoni. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mos u fusni n\u00eb siklet kur d\u00ebgjoni se filan \u00e7ift b\u00ebn dashuri dy her\u00eb n\u00eb dit\u00eb\nq\u00eb prej 15 vjet\u00ebsh dhe mos besoni se ky \u00e7ifti tjet\u00ebr, q\u00eb puthen e p\u00ebrqafohen n\u00eb\npublik, nuk grinden asnj\u00ebher\u00eb n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi… Jini, mbi t\u00eb gjitha, realist\u00eb!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Po sikur, p\u00ebr t\u00eb zgjidhur krizat n\u00eb \u00e7ift, t\u00eb aplikonim parimet ekonomike? K\u00ebt\u00eb propozojn\u00eb dy autor\u00ebt e librit \u201c\u00c7iftonomiks\u201d, Paula Sa\u00e7man dhe Xheni Anderson. P\u00ebr t\u00eb shp\u00ebtuar, harmonizuar dhe dh\u00ebn\u00eb nxitje \u00e7iftit, ato kan\u00eb p\u00ebrdorur parimet baz\u00eb t\u00eb teoris\u00eb ekonomike, q\u00eb e kan\u00eb quajtur \u00e7iftonomiks. Ja cilat jan\u00eb ato: 1. Ndajini pun\u00ebt, sipas \u201cspecializimit\u201d N\u00eb […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":22016,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[50],"tags":[2428],"class_list":["post-22015","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-intimitet","tag-cifti"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22015","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=22015"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22015\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/22016"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=22015"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=22015"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=22015"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}