{"id":21771,"date":"2019-03-27T14:30:25","date_gmt":"2019-03-27T13:30:25","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=21771"},"modified":"2019-03-27T14:08:19","modified_gmt":"2019-03-27T13:08:19","slug":"sa-mire-e-njihni-njeri-tjetrin","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2019\/03\/sa-mire-e-njihni-njeri-tjetrin\/","title":{"rendered":"Sa mir\u00eb e njihni nj\u00ebri-tjetrin?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Sa mir\u00eb e njihni veten? Sa i mir\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb komunikimi me seksin tjet\u00ebr? Mbi marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet burr\u00eb-grua jan\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb shum\u00eb studime.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb shkenc\u00ebtar\u00ebt dalin n\u00eb p\u00ebrfundime befasuese. Zbuloni se \u00e7far\u00eb urrejn\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb bashk\u00ebshort\u00ebt tek nj\u00ebri-tjetri!<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Vlen nj\u00ebsoj si p\u00ebr burrat dhe grat\u00eb: Partneri vjen nga nj\u00eb planet\ntjet\u00ebr<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00c7far\u00eb shkakton m\u00eb shpesh zem\u00ebrim n\u00eb \u00e7ift? Nuk e kuptojn\u00eb m\u00eb nj\u00ebri-tjetrin,\napo jan\u00eb problemet financiare? Edhe kur nj\u00eb lidhje martesore ka mbijetuar, jo\nrrall\u00eb takojm\u00eb fam\u00ebkeqen \u201cprishje e lidhjes p\u00ebr arsye t\u00eb monotonis\u00eb\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

E v\u00ebrteta \u00ebsht\u00eb se pas k\u00ebtyre q\u00ebndrojn\u00eb kryesisht arsye pa r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi, t\u00eb cilat\nia marrin frym\u00ebn dal\u00ebngadal\u00eb dashuris\u00eb.
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\n\u00c7far\u00eb nervozon grat\u00eb:<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nuk m\u00eb thot\u00eb asnj\u00ebher\u00eb se sa e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme jam p\u00ebr t\u00eb
\nM\u00eb duhet gjithmon\u00eb t\u00eb sistemoj sht\u00ebpin\u00eb pasi ai di vet\u00ebm t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb l\u00ebmsh
\nNuk m\u00eb kujtohet hera e fundit q\u00eb m\u00eb ka sjell\u00eb lule
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\n\u00c7far\u00eb nervozon burrat:<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Gjithmon\u00eb do t\u00eb dij\u00eb \u00e7do gj\u00eb p\u00ebr mua
\nKur b\u00ebn shopping m\u00eb duhet ta pres me or\u00eb t\u00eb t\u00ebra
\nShpik gjithmon\u00eb ndonj\u00eb pun\u00eb q\u00eb duhet ta b\u00ebj un\u00eb
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\n\u00cbsht\u00eb nj\u00eb konflikt, p\u00ebr t\u00eb cilin Psikologjia njeh tre shkaktar\u00eb kryesor:\n\u201cBurrat dhe grat\u00eb flasin dhe jetojn\u00eb shpesh pran\u00eb dhe nj\u00ebkoh\u00ebsisht kalimthi me\nnj\u00ebri-tjetrin\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Komunikimi <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nd\u00ebrsa bisedat e grave n\u00eb shumic\u00ebn e rasteve nevojiten p\u00ebr t\u00eb shprehur\nndjenjat e tyre, p\u00ebr burrat bisedat jan\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb shk\u00ebmbyer informacion. Klasike\n\u00ebsht\u00eb situata: Ajo shkon n\u00eb sallon bukurie dhe kthehet me nj\u00eb \u201clook\u201d t\u00eb ri n\u00eb\nsht\u00ebpi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ai konstaton pa asnj\u00eb lloj shprehje: \u201cOh, ishe n\u00eb floktore sot\u201d. K\u00ebt\u00eb ajo e\ndi edhe vet\u00eb dhe do t\u00eb donte m\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb d\u00ebgjonte: \u201cZem\u00ebr, dukesh fantastike\u201d.
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\n2. Pritshm\u00ebria nga partneri <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nga dashuria pa kushte e fillimit, ku vlente q\u00eb ta zbuloje dhe ta b\u00ebje p\u00ebr\nvete tjetrin pa rezerva apo kufizime, zhvillohen me kalimin e koh\u00ebs q\u00ebndrime\npritshm\u00ebrie, t\u00eb cilat duhet t\u2019i p\u00ebrmbush\u00eb partneri.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

N\u00ebse ai s\u2019e b\u00ebn k\u00ebt\u00eb, i duhet t\u00eb ndryshoj\u00eb. Kjo \u00e7on thuajse n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb\npashmangshme \u2013 pavar\u00ebsisht nga seksi \u2013 n\u00eb reagim mbrojt\u00ebs.
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\n3. Stresi<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Faktori i tret\u00eb vjen nga jasht\u00eb dhe quhet stresi i p\u00ebrditsh\u00ebm. Nj\u00eb studim i\nUniversitetit zviceran Fribourg \u2013 sipas periodikut Psikologjia sot \u2013 tregon se\nrreth 25 % e \u00e7ifteve jetojn\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje jo t\u00eb lumtur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

N\u00ebse nj\u00eb lidhje q\u00ebndron p\u00ebr nj\u00eb koh\u00eb t\u00eb gjat\u00eb, kjo p\u00ebrqindje mund t\u00eb shkoj\u00eb\nderi n\u00eb 50%. M\u00eb t\u00eb ndjesh\u00ebm ndaj nj\u00eb lidhje jo t\u00eb lumtur jan\u00eb partner\u00ebt q\u00eb\nflasin pak me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin, por q\u00eb t\u00eb dy akuzojn\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00eb mbingarkes\u00eb t\u00eb madhe\nstresi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dhe n\u00eb vend q\u00eb ta p\u00ebrballojn\u00eb s\u00eb bashku k\u00ebt\u00eb stres, \u201cgatuan secili gjell\u00ebn e\nvet \u201c. Lidhja mbetet, n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb, n\u00eb mes t\u00eb rrug\u00ebs. Dhe si p\u00ebrfundim\nkthehen n\u00eb t\u00eb panjohur p\u00ebr nj\u00ebri-tjetrin.
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\n\u00c7far\u00eb duhet b\u00ebr\u00eb?<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Zgjidhja ting\u00ebllon e thjesht\u00eb dhe quhet pranim. Kjo zgjidhje \u00ebsht\u00eb terapia e\np\u00ebrdorur nga profesor\u00ebt amerikan t\u00eb psikologjis\u00eb Neil S. Jacobson dhe Andrew\nChristwnsen.
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\nHapi i par\u00eb: T\u00eb pranosh n\u00ebp\u00ebrmjet t\u00eb kuptuarit<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Partner\u00ebt t\u00eb cil\u00ebt i hedhin nj\u00ebri-tjetrit akuza, natyrisht q\u00eb besojn\u00eb se\ntjetri b\u00ebn di\u00e7ka t\u00eb gabuar. Sipas Christwnsen dhe Jacobson \u00e7ifti duhet t\u00eb\np\u00ebrpiqet ta shoh\u00eb problemin nga nj\u00eb k\u00ebndv\u00ebshtrim tjet\u00ebr.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nuk duhen diskutuar si t\u00eb v\u00ebrteta veset negative t\u00eb hamend\u00ebsuara t\u00eb\npartnerit. P\u00ebrpiquni ta kuptoni dhe t\u00eb zbuloni motivet e v\u00ebrteta t\u00eb problemit\np\u00ebr t\u2019u \u00e7liruar nga paragjykimet.
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\nHapi i dyt\u00eb: Pranim n\u00ebp\u00ebrmjet ndjenj\u00ebs<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kush i thot\u00eb bashk\u00ebshortit apo\nbashk\u00ebshortes pas nj\u00eb z\u00ebnke t\u00eb fort\u00eb, se tani ndihet i vetmuar dhe q\u00eb do t\u00eb\ndonte q\u00eb partneri ta mb\u00ebshtillte n\u00eb krah? Kjo mund t\u00eb konsiderohet si dob\u00ebsi,\npor prej saj mund t\u00eb nxirren avantazhe.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Apo m\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u2019i kthehesh me ashp\u00ebrsi dhe m\u00eb\nn\u00eb fund je m\u00eb i plagosur se asnj\u00ebher\u00eb tjet\u00ebr. K\u00ebto ankthe, sipas mendimit t\u00eb\nekspert\u00ebve, duhen kaluar. Kush hapet, i jep\nmund\u00ebsin\u00eb tjetrit t\u00eb reagoj\u00eb me mir\u00ebkuptim dhe ndjenj\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

“Nuk b\u00ebhet fjal\u00eb t\u00eb fitosh kundrejt tjetrit. N\u00eb \u00e7ift duhet t\u00eb q\u00ebndroj\u00eb\nn\u00eb qend\u00ebr zgjidhja e p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt e problemit. N\u00eb fund t\u00eb fundit, p\u00ebrse na\nnevojitet partneri?”, pyet Profesor A. Christwnsen.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Sa mir\u00eb e njihni veten? Sa i mir\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb komunikimi me seksin tjet\u00ebr? Mbi marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet burr\u00eb-grua jan\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb shum\u00eb studime. Ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb shkenc\u00ebtar\u00ebt dalin n\u00eb p\u00ebrfundime befasuese. Zbuloni se \u00e7far\u00eb urrejn\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb bashk\u00ebshort\u00ebt tek nj\u00ebri-tjetri! Vlen nj\u00ebsoj si p\u00ebr burrat dhe grat\u00eb: Partneri vjen nga nj\u00eb planet tjet\u00ebr \u00c7far\u00eb shkakton m\u00eb shpesh zem\u00ebrim n\u00eb \u00e7ift? […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":16396,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[50],"tags":[306],"class_list":["post-21771","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-intimitet","tag-intimitet"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21771","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=21771"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21771\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/16396"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=21771"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=21771"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=21771"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}