{"id":21718,"date":"2019-03-22T20:00:20","date_gmt":"2019-03-22T19:00:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=21718"},"modified":"2019-03-22T15:39:14","modified_gmt":"2019-03-22T14:39:14","slug":"%ef%bb%bfsi-ta-luftoj-agresivitetin-te-djali-im","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2019\/03\/%ef%bb%bfsi-ta-luftoj-agresivitetin-te-djali-im\/","title":{"rendered":"\ufeffSi ta luftoj agresivitetin te djali im?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Kam nj\u00eb pyetje p\u00ebr psikologe Lorel\u00ebn, meq\u00eb edhe ka b\u00ebr\u00eb dy libra p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebt. E ndjek dhe m\u00eb p\u00eblqen si i trajton rastet. Un\u00eb kam nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb, nj\u00eb djal\u00eb\u00a0 t\u00eb mosh\u00ebs 10 vje\u00e7 dhe papritur e papandehur, shfaq shenja agresiviteti, ngacmon shok\u00ebt apo i fyen p\u00ebr hi\u00e7mosgj\u00eb.<\/strong><strong> Nuk di si t\u00eb sillem me t\u00eb, ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb e d\u00ebnoj por nuk m\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb pun\u00eb k\u00ebto lloj d\u00ebnimesh sepse ai b\u00ebhet akoma m\u00eb agresiv edhe ndaj meje dhe kjo gj\u00eb m\u00eb tremb. Dua t\u00eb di, \u00e7far\u00eb e shtyn djalin tim drejt k\u00ebtij agresiviteti dhe cilat jan\u00eb rrethanat q\u00eb mund t\u00eb shmangim q\u00eb k\u00ebto situata mos t\u00eb ndodhin m\u00eb dhe ai t\u00eb sillet normal me shok\u00ebt n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb? \u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Lorela Garuli, psikologe, email <a href=\"mailto:lorela_garuli@hotmail.com:-\">lorela_garuli@hotmail.com:-<\/a><\/strong> P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje! T\u00eb falenderoj p\u00ebr vler\u00ebsimin dhe\nbesimin. Ajo q\u00eb t\u00eb rriturit duhet t\u00eb din\u00eb pik\u00ebs\u00ebpari p\u00ebr castet kur f\u00ebmij\u00ebt\nshfaqin agresivitet dhe zem\u00ebrim, ka t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb me shkaqet se pse kjo ndodh. \u00cbsht\u00eb\nshum\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme q\u00eb prindi t\u00eb dij\u00eb arsyen,e cila mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb: stres,\nfrustrim, ndjenja xhelozie apo konflikti me ndonj\u00eb prej familjar\u00ebve apo\nbashk\u00ebmoshatar\u00ebve. Agresiviteti mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb dhe nj\u00eb form\u00eb alternative e\nshprehjes s\u00eb nj\u00eb pak\u00ebnaq\u00ebsie, m\u00ebrzie apo konflikti t\u00eb brendsh\u00ebm q\u00eb p\u00ebrjeton\nf\u00ebmija. N\u00eb radh\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb, prind\u00ebrit dhe m\u00ebsuesit q\u00eb kan\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb me f\u00ebmij\u00eb\nagresiv\u00eb duhet t\u00eb din\u00eb q\u00eb nuk luftohet me t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn form\u00eb; nd\u00ebshkimet,\nofendimet, t\u00eb b\u00ebrtiturat zakonisht i shtojn\u00eb k\u00ebto sjellje tek f\u00ebmij\u00ebt. Kjo do\nt\u00eb thot\u00eb se puna nis me theksimin e pikave t\u00eb forta t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebs dhe v\u00ebnien sa m\u00eb\nshum\u00eb n\u00eb pah t\u00eb tyre. Sjelljet e d\u00ebshirueshme dhe t\u00eb p\u00eblqyeshme duhet t\u00eb\np\u00ebrforcohen pozitivisht; t\u00eb&nbsp; lavd\u00ebrohen\ndhe t\u00eb nxiten.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Gjithashtu, \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e\nr\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme q\u00eb prindi apo m\u00ebsuesi t\u00eb ket\u00eb t\u00eb sjellje koherente dhe konstante;\npra p\u00ebr t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtin veprim t\u00eb mos reagoj\u00eb ndryshe n\u00eb raste t\u00eb ndryshme. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb\nm\u00ebnyr\u00eb i krijon siguri dhe jo nj\u00eb mjedis t\u00eb paq\u00ebndruesh\u00ebm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sipas rastit dhe sjelljes\nagresive q\u00eb f\u00ebmija shfaq, n\u00ebse b\u00ebhet fjal\u00eb p\u00ebr sjellje jo shum\u00eb problematike,\nmund t\u00eb injorohet. N\u00ebse \u00ebsht\u00eb fjala p\u00ebr veprime t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebs, t\u00eb cilat d\u00ebmtojn\u00eb\ndhe t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt, f\u00ebmij\u00ebs i duhen shpjeguar me durim dhe qet\u00ebsi pasojat e sjelljes\ns\u00eb tij; n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebsohet t\u00eb vihet n\u00eb vendin e tjetrit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dicka tjet\u00ebr shum\u00eb e\nr\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme q\u00eb duhet b\u00ebr\u00eb n\u00eb k\u00ebto raste, \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb f\u00ebmija t\u00eb nxitet t\u2019i shpreh\u00eb\nemocionet dhe ndjenjat verbalisht, pra t\u00eb m\u00ebsoj\u00eb ta thot\u00eb sesi ndihet dhe pse\nndihet ashtu, n\u00eb vend q\u00eb t\u00eb kaloj\u00eb direkt n\u00eb veprime t\u00eb nxituara impulsive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ju uroj gjith\u00eb t\u00eb mirat!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Kam nj\u00eb pyetje p\u00ebr psikologe Lorel\u00ebn, meq\u00eb edhe ka b\u00ebr\u00eb dy libra p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebt. E ndjek dhe m\u00eb p\u00eblqen si i trajton rastet. Un\u00eb kam nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb, nj\u00eb djal\u00eb\u00a0 t\u00eb mosh\u00ebs 10 vje\u00e7 dhe papritur e papandehur, shfaq shenja agresiviteti, ngacmon shok\u00ebt apo i fyen p\u00ebr hi\u00e7mosgj\u00eb. Nuk di si t\u00eb sillem me t\u00eb, ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":19716,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[86],"tags":[2367,1194,364],"class_list":["post-21718","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-psikologu","tag-agresiviteti","tag-lorela-garuli","tag-psikologu-2"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21718","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=21718"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21718\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/19716"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=21718"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=21718"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=21718"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}