{"id":21567,"date":"2019-03-16T21:00:34","date_gmt":"2019-03-16T20:00:34","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=21567"},"modified":"2019-03-16T19:31:45","modified_gmt":"2019-03-16T18:31:45","slug":"%ef%bb%bfa-eshte-ngjites-divorci","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2019\/03\/%ef%bb%bfa-eshte-ngjites-divorci\/","title":{"rendered":"\ufeffA \u00ebsht\u00eb &#8220;ngjit\u00ebs&#8221; divorci?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>&#8211; Kam nj\u00eb pyetje p\u00ebr redaksin\u00eb. Ju lutem, m\u00eb thoni, a \u00ebsht\u00eb ngjit\u00ebs divorci n\u00eb nj\u00ebfar\u00eb m\u00ebnyre? Kam d\u00ebgjuar p\u00ebr shum\u00eb divorce koh\u00ebt e fundit&#8230; Anita.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong><em>Redaksia:<\/em> &#8211; <\/strong>E dashur Anita, faleminderit p\u00ebr pyetjen. M\u00eb b\u00ebn p\u00ebrshtypje q\u00eb ti pyet a \u00ebsht\u00eb \u201cngjit\u00ebs\u201d divorci, si t\u00eb jesh duke folur p\u00ebr nj\u00eb s\u00ebmundje&#8230; N\u00eb fakt, i ke r\u00ebn\u00eb pik\u00ebs! <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Nj\u00eb studim i sociolog\u00ebve dhe psikolog\u00ebve t\u00eb universiteteve Harvard, Broun dhe Kaliforni ka arritur pik\u00ebrisht n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb p\u00ebrfundim: Divorci \u00ebsht\u00eb ngjit\u00ebs, si nj\u00eb virus! <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sipas k\u00ebtij studimi, rritet deri n\u00eb 75 % mund\u00ebsia p\u00ebr t\u2019i th\u00ebn\u00eb lamtumir\u00eb\npartnerit kur miqt\u00eb e ngusht\u00eb apo t\u00eb af\u00ebrmit kan\u00eb vepruar k\u00ebshtu. Ja se si\nkomentohet divorci nga k\u00ebta k\u00ebrkues: Divorci \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb s\u00ebmundje ngjit\u00ebse. N\u00ebse\nnj\u00eb \u00e7ift ka nj\u00eb mik, t\u00eb af\u00ebrm ose koleg q\u00eb divorcohet, do t\u00eb rritet n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb\nbefasishme mund\u00ebsia q\u00eb ai t\u00eb ndahet. Nga ana tjet\u00ebr, divorci i nj\u00eb \u201cmikut t\u00eb\nmikut\u201d, apo nj\u00eb t\u00eb njohuri, rrit me 33% mund\u00ebsin\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019u divorcuar. Prania e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve\nka nj\u00eb efekt moderues mbi k\u00ebt\u00eb form\u00eb \u201ckontaminimi social\u201d, ashtu si\u00e7 e p\u00ebrshkruajn\u00eb\nmjek\u00ebt amerikan\u00eb: influenca e nj\u00eb &nbsp;divorci ne rrethin e ngusht\u00eb t\u00eb miqve\nreduktohet n\u00eb proporcion me numrin e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve q\u00eb ka n\u00eb \u00e7ift. Me pak fjal\u00eb, sa m\u00eb\nshum\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb t\u00eb ket\u00eb, aq m\u00eb i vog\u00ebl \u00ebsht\u00eb efekti kur sheh miqt\u00eb dhe koleg\u00ebt t\u00eb\nndahen. Q\u00eb nj\u00eb divorc t\u00eb \u201ckontaminoj\u00eb\u201d, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e nevojshme q\u00eb ai t\u00eb ndodh\u00eb\naf\u00ebr. Edhe fundi i nj\u00eb martese t\u00eb ndodhur mij\u00ebra kilometra larg n\u00eb distanc\u00eb,\npor n\u00eb nj\u00eb \u00e7ift miqsh apo t\u00eb af\u00ebrmish, mund t\u00eb t\u00eb shtyj\u00eb t\u00eb sillesh ndryshe. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8211; Studiuesit amerikan\u00eb i kan\u00eb bazuar k\u00ebto p\u00ebrfundime n\u00eb statistikat e\nnxjerra prej nj\u00eb grupi t\u00eb madh personash t\u00eb dy sekseve, p\u00ebr 32 vjet. \u201cDivorci\nduhet studiuar dhe kuptuar si nj\u00eb fenomen kolektiv q\u00eb shtrihet p\u00ebrtej atyre q\u00eb\np\u00ebrfshihen direkt\u201d, mbyllet studimi i kryer nga docent\u00ebt e sociologjis\u00eb dhe\npsikologjis\u00eb s\u00eb tre universiteteve prestigjioze amerikane. \u00cbsht\u00eb i njohur fakti\nse t\u00eb famshmit divorcohen m\u00eb shpesh, por teoria e \u201cdivorcit ngjit\u00ebs\u201d gjen nj\u00eb\ntjet\u00ebr konfirmim n\u00eb sjelljen e shum\u00eb \u00e7ifteve t\u00eb martuara q\u00eb, kur dikush nga\nmiqt\u00eb e tyre ndahet, nd\u00ebrpresin \u00e7do lloj raporti me t\u00eb divorcuarit dhe n\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi\nmendohen mir\u00eb para se t\u00eb ftojn\u00eb p\u00ebr dark\u00eb beqar\u00eb t\u00eb divorcuar. Deri tani mendohej\nse ky vendim ndiqej p\u00ebr t\u00eb mos pasur nj\u00eb shembull t\u00eb keq, por tani \u00ebsht\u00eb e qart\u00eb:\nk\u00ebrkojn\u00eb d\u00ebshp\u00ebrimisht t\u00eb evitojn\u00eb kontaminimin. Trauma e nj\u00eb divorci nuk harrohet\nleht\u00eb. Nj\u00eb &nbsp;ndarje nuk l\u00eb vet\u00ebm shenj\u00eb n\u00eb\nnivel psikologjik dhe ekonomik, por sjell me vete edhe shqet\u00ebsime e probleme\nfizike, shpesh, shum\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme. Specialist\u00ebt thon\u00eb se grat\u00eb jan\u00eb ato q\u00eb\npreken m\u00eb shum\u00eb nga s\u00ebmundjet e divorcit dhe kryesisht, nga dhimbjet e kok\u00ebs.\nKjo dhimbje prek nj\u00eb nd\u00ebr kat\u00ebr gra dhe nj\u00eb nd\u00ebr 12 burra e p\u00ebr shum\u00eb njer\u00ebz n\u00eb\nbot\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb arsye e fort\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019u takuar shpesh me neurologun. Kulmin e\narrin mes mosh\u00ebs 30-39 vje\u00e7, por pas nuk ngelen as f\u00ebmij\u00ebt. Njer\u00ebzve q\u00eb u dhemb\nkoka n\u00eb m\u00ebnyre kronike, ashtu si specialistet, e din\u00eb shum\u00eb mir\u00eb se k\u00ebto\ndhimbje nuk largohen kollaj, n\u00ebse p\u00ebr nj\u00eb koh\u00eb t\u00eb gjat\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb abuzuar me ila\u00e7e\nt\u00eb llojeve t\u00eb ndryshme p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjetur qet\u00ebsi. \u201cGrat\u00eb q\u00eb e p\u00ebrjetojn\u00eb keq\ndivorcin, preken me shpesh nga kjo lloj s\u00ebmundjeje. Mesatarisht, atyre u dhemb\nkoka rreth 2-3 her\u00eb n\u00eb jav\u00eb, por nuk p\u00ebrjashtohen rastet kur vuajn\u00eb nga dhimbja\nkronike dhe e p\u00ebrditshme e kok\u00ebs. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cBurrat jan\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb fort\u00eb n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb aspekt. Ata preken m\u00eb shum\u00eb nga s\u00ebmundjet\nkardiovaskulare dhe p\u00ebrqindja e vdekjeve nga infarkti te t\u00eb divorcuarit \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb\ne lart\u00eb\u201d, shpjegojn\u00eb specialist\u00ebt. Po ashtu, nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr shqet\u00ebsim p\u00ebrb\u00ebn edhe\ntensioni i lart\u00eb i gjakut p\u00ebr t\u00eb dyja pal\u00ebt. Si te burrat, ashtu edhe te grat\u00eb\ne divorcuara, vihej re nj\u00eb rritje e tensionit t\u00eb gjakut, q\u00eb lidhet n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb\ndrejtp\u00ebrdrejt\u00eb me stresin e tep\u00ebrt. Sipas shkenc\u00ebtar\u00ebve amerikan\u00eb, e vetmja m\u00ebnyr\u00eb\np\u00ebr t\u00eb mos e d\u00ebmtuar sh\u00ebndetin \u00ebsht\u00eb ajo q\u00eb t\u00eb kemi nj\u00eb lidhje t\u00eb gjat\u00eb e t\u00eb\nlumtur. P\u00ebrndryshe, nj\u00eb eksperienc\u00eb martesore negative dhe problematike \u00e7on n\u00eb\nm\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb pakthyeshme n\u00eb \u00e7rregullime psikofizike. P\u00ebr shembull, p\u00ebr shume vite\nme radh\u00eb, studimet kan\u00eb treguar se ata q\u00eb jan\u00eb beqar\u00eb, kan\u00eb nj\u00eb rrezik m\u00eb t\u00eb\nvog\u00ebl p\u00ebr t\u2018u s\u00ebmurur n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb serioze dhe si ata, edhe personat q\u00eb kan\u00eb fatin\nt\u00eb jetojn\u00eb p\u00ebr gjith\u00eb jet\u00ebn n\u00eb krah t\u00eb njer\u00ebzve t\u00eb duhur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8211; P\u00ebr gjith\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt, k\u00ebshilla e ekspert\u00ebve \u00ebsht\u00eb: \u201cT\u00eb punosh shum\u00eb,\nderisa martesa funksionon dhe ka jet\u00ebgjat\u00ebsi, me kusht q\u00eb kjo t\u00eb mos jet\u00eb nj\u00eb\nlidhje shkat\u00ebrruese\u201d. &nbsp;Kush zgjedh t\u00eb martohet\np\u00ebr her\u00eb t\u00eb dyt\u00eb pas nj\u00eb divorci, \u00ebsht\u00eb e detyrueshme ta zgjedh\u00eb me kujdes\npartnerin dhe t\u2018u q\u00ebndroj\u00eb larg njer\u00ebzve q\u00eb n\u00eb \u00e7far\u00ebdolloj m\u00ebnyre t\u00eb kujtojn\u00eb\nlidhjen e vjet\u00ebr. Sipas nj\u00eb studimi t\u00eb Universitetit t\u00eb Virxhinias, faktori m\u00eb\ni r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm p\u00ebr \u201clumturin\u00eb martesore\u201d t\u00eb grave \u00ebsht\u00eb ai q\u00eb bashk\u00ebshort\u00ebt te p\u00ebrfshihen\nn\u00eb emocionet e tyre dhe kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb madje edhe m\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme sesa ndarja e\ndetyrave. Sipas shkenc\u00ebtar\u00ebve amerikan\u00eb, e vetmja m\u00ebnyr\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb mos e d\u00ebmtuar\nsh\u00ebndetin \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb kemi nj\u00eb lidhje t\u00eb gjat\u00eb e t\u00eb lumtur. P\u00ebrndryshe, nj\u00eb\neksperienc\u00eb martesore negative dhe problematike \u00e7on n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb pakthyeshme n\u00eb\n\u00e7rregullime psikofizike.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&#8211; Kam nj\u00eb pyetje p\u00ebr redaksin\u00eb. Ju lutem, m\u00eb thoni, a \u00ebsht\u00eb ngjit\u00ebs divorci n\u00eb nj\u00ebfar\u00eb m\u00ebnyre? Kam d\u00ebgjuar p\u00ebr shum\u00eb divorce koh\u00ebt e fundit&#8230; Anita. Redaksia: &#8211; E dashur Anita, faleminderit p\u00ebr pyetjen. M\u00eb b\u00ebn p\u00ebrshtypje q\u00eb ti pyet a \u00ebsht\u00eb \u201cngjit\u00ebs\u201d divorci, si t\u00eb jesh duke folur p\u00ebr nj\u00eb s\u00ebmundje&#8230; N\u00eb fakt, i [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":21568,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[86],"tags":[2240],"class_list":["post-21567","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-psikologu","tag-redaksia"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21567","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=21567"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21567\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/21568"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=21567"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=21567"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=21567"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}