{"id":21459,"date":"2019-03-12T20:00:38","date_gmt":"2019-03-12T19:00:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=21459"},"modified":"2019-03-12T16:18:01","modified_gmt":"2019-03-12T15:18:01","slug":"%ef%bb%bfe-dashura-ime-me-genjen","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2019\/03\/%ef%bb%bfe-dashura-ime-me-genjen\/","title":{"rendered":"\ufeffE dashura ime m\u00eb g\u00ebnjen&#8230;"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><br>&#8211; <strong>I drejtohem redaksis\u00eb&#8230; Ju lutem,\nm\u00eb ndihmoni me mendimin tuaj p\u00ebr sikletin e madh psikologjik e shpirt\u00ebror q\u00eb po\nkaloj. Jam M. nga Tirana dhe kam 8 vjet q\u00eb e dua nj\u00eb fem\u00ebr tmerr\u00ebsisht, por ka\nca koh\u00eb q\u00eb m\u00eb g\u00ebnjen, pasi flet me nj\u00eb person n\u00eb telefon dhe n\u00eb sekond\u00eb e\nfshin. Sa her\u00eb e kam par\u00eb n\u00eb telefon n\u00eb befasi, numri i tij \u00ebsht\u00eb aty dhe sms-t\u00eb\ngjithashtu. Ajo m\u00eb g\u00ebnjen duke m\u00eb th\u00ebn\u00eb q\u00eb e urren. \u00c7far\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebj se jam drejt\nfundit?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong><em>Redaksia<\/em><\/strong>: &#8211; I nderuar M., n\u00eb radh\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb, faleminderit q\u00eb na ke\nshkruar, por, t\u00eb them t\u00eb drejt\u00ebn, letra jote m\u00eb ka habitur. T\u00eb kujtoj se ti na\nke shkruar edhe her\u00eb tjet\u00ebr (n\u00eb nr. 870 t\u00eb gazet\u00ebs) dhe ne t\u00eb kemi kthyer nj\u00eb\np\u00ebrgjigje. I bie t\u00eb ken\u00eb kaluar minimalisht 8 muaj q\u00eb nga koha q\u00eb na ke shkruar\np\u00ebr her\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb. E dashura jote vazhdon me t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn sjellje dhe ti vazhdon\nt\u00eb vuash? T\u00eb m\u00eb fal\u00ebsh, por mua m\u00eb duket me t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb e tep\u00ebrt&#8230; Nuk arrij ta\nkuptoj se si mund t\u00eb vazhdosh t\u00eb dashurosh marr\u00ebzisht, si\u00e7 thua ti, nj\u00eb fem\u00ebr q\u00eb\nnuk tregon minimumin e respektit ndaj teje. Urrejtjen nga dashuria e ndan vet\u00ebm\nnj\u00eb fije peri (gjithmon\u00eb n\u00ebse \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb q\u00eb ajo e urren personin t\u00eb cilit\ni shkruan) dhe, n\u00eb momentin q\u00eb ti merresh me nj\u00eb njeri, qoft\u00eb edhe duke e shar\u00eb\napo duke u treguar i ashp\u00ebr ndaj tij, do t\u00eb thot\u00eb se i jep r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi. M\u00eb shkurt; ai\nnjeri ka r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi p\u00ebr vajz\u00ebn q\u00eb ti do! Nuk e p\u00ebrjashtoj mund\u00ebsin\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb t\u00eb\ngabojn\u00eb, por n\u00ebse kan\u00eb kaluar tashm\u00eb 8 muaj q\u00eb nga momenti q\u00eb ti ia ke b\u00ebr\u00eb t\u00eb\nqart\u00eb asaj t\u00eb mos merret me k\u00ebt\u00eb njeri dhe ajo vazhdon nj\u00ebsoj, madje edhe duke\nu justifikuar&nbsp; nj\u00ebsoj (pra, sikur e urren\npersonin tjet\u00ebr!), m\u00eb vjen keq t\u00eb ta them, por lidhja juaj ka marr\u00eb fund.\nP\u00ebrfundimisht, ajo nuk t\u00eb respekton dhe, n\u00ebse nuk ekziston respekti mes dy\nnjer\u00ebzish, \u00e7far\u00eb lidhjeje \u00ebsht\u00eb kjo? Nuk mund t\u00eb v\u00eb n\u00eb dyshim ndjenjat e saj&#8230;\nmbase ajo ju do t\u00eb dyve, edhe ty, edhe at\u00eb, por nuk mund t\u00eb vazhdosh\np\u00ebrjet\u00ebsisht k\u00ebshtu; gj\u00ebrat duhen ndar\u00eb; ose me ty, ose me at\u00eb! N\u00eb momentin q\u00eb nj\u00eb\nlidhje t\u00eb shkakton stres dhe t\u00eb m\u00ebrzit, \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u2019i jap\u00ebsh fund sesa t\u00eb\nvuash pafund\u00ebsisht. \u00cbsht\u00eb n\u00eb doren t\u00ebnde t\u00eb zgjedh\u00ebsh n\u00ebse do t\u00eb vazhdosh me t\u00eb\ndhe nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb t\u00eb torturohesh psikologjikisht e shpirt\u00ebrisht nga xhelozia e\nmosbesimi ndaj saj, apo t\u00eb ndaheni nj\u00eb her\u00eb e mir\u00eb dhe t\u00eb jesh i qet\u00eb me veten.\nE di q\u00eb mund ta p\u00ebrjetosh jo mir\u00eb ndarjen, por mos harro q\u00eb vuajtja e ndarjes \u00ebsht\u00eb\np\u00ebr pak koh\u00eb, nd\u00ebrsa nj\u00eb lidhje e till\u00eb me munges\u00eb besimi dhe korrekt\u00ebsie, t\u00eb\nfal dhimbje gjat\u00eb gjith\u00eb koh\u00ebs. Duhet t\u2019ia b\u00ebsh t\u00eb qart\u00eb vajz\u00ebs q\u00eb nuk ke besim\ntek ajo dhe ta l\u00ebsh t\u00eb lir\u00eb. N\u00ebse e do me t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb shum\u00eb, v\u00ebre para zgjedhjes\nose q\u00ebndroni disa koh\u00eb larg nj\u00ebri-tjetrit q\u00eb edhe ajo t\u00eb kuptoj\u00eb se cilin do me\nt\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb. Me pak fjal\u00eb, ne t\u00eb k\u00ebshillojm\u00eb t\u2019i jap\u00ebsh p\u00ebrpar\u00ebsi mir\u00ebqenies t\u00ebnde\nshpirt\u00ebrore e psikologjike; meriton t\u00eb t\u00eb duan dhe t\u00eb t\u00eb respektojn\u00eb&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&#8211; I drejtohem redaksis\u00eb&#8230; Ju lutem, m\u00eb ndihmoni me mendimin tuaj p\u00ebr sikletin e madh psikologjik e shpirt\u00ebror q\u00eb po kaloj. Jam M. nga Tirana dhe kam 8 vjet q\u00eb e dua nj\u00eb fem\u00ebr tmerr\u00ebsisht, por ka ca koh\u00eb q\u00eb m\u00eb g\u00ebnjen, pasi flet me nj\u00eb person n\u00eb telefon dhe n\u00eb sekond\u00eb e fshin. Sa [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":21460,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[93],"tags":[221],"class_list":["post-21459","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-udhekryq","tag-udhekryq-2"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21459","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=21459"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21459\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/21460"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=21459"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=21459"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=21459"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}