Dashuria \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb ndjenj\u00eb q\u00eb zbut gjith\u00e7ka, por sado e fort\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00eb, ajo shkat\u00ebrrohet shum\u00eb leht\u00eb nga xhelozia. Nuk them se njeriu nuk duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb xheloz, sepse detyrimisht, n\u00eb qoft\u00eb se e do nj\u00eb njeri, at\u00ebhere mund t\u00eb b\u00ebsh veprime xhelozie q\u00eb ta mbash p\u00ebr vete. Un\u00eb e kam fjal\u00ebn p\u00ebr xhelozin\u00eb e s\u00ebmur\u00eb, e cila k\u00ebrkon ta mbaj\u00eb njeriun n\u00ebn kthetra. K\u00ebt\u00eb t\u00eb fundit po p\u00ebrjetoj un\u00eb dhe bashk\u00ebshorti im. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bashk\u00ebshorti im \u00ebsht\u00eb mesoburr\u00eb dhe ka nj\u00eb paraqitje t\u00eb rregullt, por jo t\u00eb\nthuash ndonj\u00eb bukuri e rrall\u00eb, nd\u00ebrsa un\u00eb jam nj\u00eb grua 35 vje\u00e7e dhe mbahem shum\u00eb\nq\u00eb t\u00eb mos kuptohet se vitet kan\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb pun\u00ebn e tyre. Ai ka b\u00ebr\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb pun\u00eb t\u00eb\nmira, n\u00eb zyr\u00eb e pun\u00eb me p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsi, nd\u00ebrsa un\u00eb nuk kam b\u00ebr\u00eb shkoll\u00eb t\u00eb lart\u00eb\ndhe nuk kam nj\u00eb profesion, k\u00ebshtu q\u00eb kam punuar si sanitare dhe vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr pak\nkoh\u00eb si recepsioniste. Ai \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb tip q\u00eb nuk merret me familjen dhe nuk l\u00eb\nasnj\u00eb rast kur \u00ebsht\u00eb fjala p\u00ebr t\u2019u arg\u00ebtuar dhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb qejf, nd\u00ebrsa un\u00eb\nmund t\u00eb quhem me t\u00eb gjith\u00eb goj\u00ebn sht\u00ebpiake e denj\u00eb dhe e fiksuar mbas sht\u00ebpis\u00eb\ne pun\u00ebve t\u00eb saj. Jua tregova n\u00eb fillim t\u00eb gjitha k\u00ebto, q\u00eb ju t\u00eb b\u00ebni dallimin\nmidis ne t\u00eb dyve dhe t\u00eb nxirrni konkluzione mbi jet\u00ebn ton\u00eb dhe n\u00ebse mund t\u00eb\narsyetohet pak gjith\u00eb ajo xhelozi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kur u martuam n\u00eb fillim, un\u00eb nuk isha fare xheloze, madje as m\u00eb shkonte\nmendja se mund t\u00eb ket\u00eb nj\u00eb njeri q\u00eb t\u00eb shikoj\u00eb apo t\u00eb shkoj\u00eb me nj\u00eb burr\u00eb t\u00eb\nmartuar. Un\u00eb kisha vet\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb mendim dhe k\u00ebshtu mendoja se jan\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb. Kisha\nnj\u00eb shoqe dhe e doja si mot\u00ebr. Ajo nj\u00eb dit\u00eb m\u00eb tha se e kishte pare burrin tim\nduke pir\u00eb kafe me nj\u00eb kolege. N\u00eb moment nuk e besova, por m\u00eb von\u00eb fillova t\u00eb\nmendoja p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb gj\u00eb. Kur erdhi n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi e pyeta se \u00e7far\u00eb kishte b\u00ebr\u00eb at\u00eb dit\u00eb,\nsi ia kishte kaluar n\u00eb pun\u00eb, por ai nuk m\u00eb dha shpjegime, vet\u00ebm m\u00eb tha: \u201cMir\u00eb!\u201d.\nN\u00eb mendjen time po endej mendimi se pse m\u00eb g\u00ebnjeu dhe pasi u mundova ta kap\u00ebrdija\ndisa her\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb pyetje m\u00eb n\u00eb fund e pyeta:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– A ke pir\u00eb kafe me ndonj\u00eb grua sot? – ia formulova aq keq pyetjen dhe nuk\ne p\u00ebrdora at\u00eb shprehjen franceze: \u201cDuhet ta rrotullosh 7 her\u00eb gjuh\u00ebn n\u00eb goj\u00eb e\npastaj t\u00eb flas\u00ebsh\u201d. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ai u nevrikos dhe m\u00eb tha:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– Jo, \u00e7\u2019jan\u00eb k\u00ebto iluzione?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– M\u00eb tha Miranda, se t\u00eb kishte par\u00eb duke pir\u00eb kafe me nj\u00eb kolegen t\u00ebnde. Pse\npo m\u00eb g\u00ebnjen? Mos po m\u00eb fsheh ndonj\u00eb gj\u00eb?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– Ehu, do t\u00eb merrem me ty! – m\u00eb tha. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nuk m\u00eb zuri gjumi at\u00eb nat\u00eb dhe shum\u00eb net\u00eb t\u00eb tjera, por ai gjithmon\u00eb nuk m\u00eb\nkthenete p\u00ebrgjigje dhe nuk shqet\u00ebsohej aspak p\u00ebr mendimet e mia. Un\u00eb \u00e7do dit\u00eb\nia shfaqja xhelozin\u00eb time dhe ai nuk e kishte fare problem. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
M\u00eb dhimbte koka aq shum\u00eb sa mora ila\u00e7e p\u00ebr migren\u00eb, por ai nuk ndryshoi as\npik\u00eb as presje n\u00eb sjelljen e tij. Ai me at\u00eb kolege piu kafe dhe nuk e prishi\nfare miq\u00ebsin\u00eb madje aq shum\u00eb shok\u00eb ishin sa n\u00eb nj\u00eb mesazh ajo i shkruante: \u201cSot\nt\u00eb pres se s\u2019b\u00ebn t\u00eb m\u00eb sjell\u00ebsh dokumentet q\u00eb na mbet\u00ebn dje pa plot\u00ebsuar, n\u00eb 7\nte lokali i djesh\u00ebm\u201d. Ai, n\u00eb k\u00ebto raste thoshte: \u201cJan\u00eb p\u00ebr pun\u00eb. Si thua ti, ta\nl\u00eb pun\u00ebn?\u201d. Kjo gj\u00eb m\u00eb mbyllte goj\u00ebn. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nuk vonoi shum\u00eb dhe reforma e hoqi nga puna. Ai ishte i arsimuar dhe gjeti\npun\u00eb shum\u00eb leht\u00eb. Puna e par\u00eb kishte qen\u00eb lule. Ai tani duhet t\u00eb dilte me makin\u00eb\nt\u00eb b\u00ebnte kontrolle orar pa orar dhe t\u00eb \u00e7onte pun\u00ebtor\u00ebt n\u00ebp\u00ebr sht\u00ebpia, pra, as\nnuk i thoje dot pse ishe me k\u00ebt\u00eb n\u00eb makin\u00eb, pse dole n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb orar t\u00eb von\u00eb t\u00eb\nnat\u00ebs, pse nuk erdhe n\u00eb orar kur t\u00eb b\u00ebhem tet\u00eb or\u00eb pun\u00eb? Pra, asnj\u00eb pyetje\nsepse t\u00eb gjitha e kishin nj\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje: \u201cIshte puna e till\u00eb!\u201d. Un\u00eb isha mjaft\nxheloze, por kjo gj\u00eb at\u00eb nuk e prekte aspak, vet\u00ebm po m\u00eb shkat\u00ebrronte mua. Edhe\nai, po t\u00eb ishte njeri me pak sed\u00ebr, do t\u00eb gjendej n\u00eb nj\u00eb situat\u00eb mjaft t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb,\nsepse un\u00eb e shprehja shum\u00eb xhelozin\u00eb me fjal\u00eb duke i th\u00ebn\u00eb \u201cnuk kam besim te ti,\ndyshoj se mos ke nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr\u201d e lloj-lloj fjal\u00ebsh q\u00eb ta l\u00ebndoja, por atij s\u2019ia ndjente\nfare. K\u00ebt\u00eb pun\u00eb e la p\u00ebr t\u00eb shkuar n\u00eb nj\u00eb pun\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb, por p\u00ebr mua\nkjo pun\u00eb e tij do t\u00eb thoshte nj\u00eb kriz\u00eb tjet\u00ebr xhelozie. E keqja ime ishte se k\u00ebt\u00eb\nxhelozi ia shprehja vet\u00ebm atij. Nuk v\u00ebrtetoja asgj\u00eb dhe nuk shkoja t\u00eb\nballafaqohesha me asnj\u00eb nga ato gra q\u00eb un\u00eb dyshoja. Prandaj dhe ai e kishte t\u00eb\nleht\u00eb, se e dinte se k\u00ebto ishin fjal\u00eb q\u00eb ishin th\u00ebn\u00eb e st\u00ebrth\u00ebn\u00eb, pra, si\u00e7\nthoshte si: \u201cT\u00eb lutem nd\u00ebrroje ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb kaset\u00ebn, se k\u00ebt\u00eb e kam m\u00ebsuar\np\u00ebrmend\u00ebsh\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dhe kishte t\u00eb drejt\u00eb. Un\u00eb duhet t\u00eb v\u00ebrtetoja ato q\u00eb thoshja, por nuk isha\naq e guximshme dhe siduket, k\u00ebt\u00eb ai e kishte kuptuar, prandaj ishte aq i qet\u00eb. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
N\u00eb pun\u00ebn e re, ai ishte menaxher n\u00eb\nnj\u00eb resort dhe k\u00ebtu nuk ka nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr koment. Un\u00eb tashm\u00eb isha e xhindosur. Kur\nb\u00ebheshin festa, ai duhet t\u00eb q\u00ebndronte atje deri kur t\u00eb mbaronte dhe m\u00eb pas,\nmerrej me pastrimet, rregullimet, shoq\u00ebrimet e stafit n\u00ebp\u00ebr sht\u00ebpi. Pra, nuk i\ndilte dita e as nata, por i duheshin dy-tre dit\u00eb e disa net. Un\u00eb n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi po\n\u00e7mendesha. Ai ishte i lir\u00eb dhe telefonin her\u00eb e kapte e her\u00eb jo, me\njustifikimin se ishte i z\u00ebn\u00eb e nuk kishte koh\u00eb t\u00eb merrej me mua. Ishte nj\u00eb\ntmerr! Ai po shijonte jet\u00ebn, kurse un\u00eb po i ngrysja dit\u00ebt duke menduar se me k\u00eb\nishte ai e \u00e7`po b\u00ebnte. Eh, \u00e7`jet\u00eb! Nuk durova m\u00eb dhe nj\u00eb dit\u00eb i thash\u00eb se nuk\njetoja dot m\u00eb me t\u00eb dhe doja t\u00eb ndahesha. At\u00eb dit\u00eb rastisi p\u00ebr fat t\u00eb mir\u00eb apo\nt\u00eb keq dhe pasdite erdhi babai im t\u00eb rrinte. Ai i tha:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– Vajza jote do t\u00eb ndahet nga un\u00eb!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
– Po pse? \u2013 tha babi im i habitur. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
– \u00cbsht\u00eb shum\u00eb xheloze. Un\u00eb shkoj n\u00eb pun\u00eb e ajo nuk m\u00eb l\u00eb t\u00eb punoj duke m\u00eb\nmarr\u00eb n\u00eb telefon \u00e7do minut\u00eb e m\u00eb thot\u00eb: \u201cMe k\u00eb je tani?\u201d, \u201cK\u00eb ke af\u00ebr tani?\u201d, \u201cEja\nse u b\u00eb von\u00eb\u201d. K\u00ebshtu, un\u00eb po l\u00eb pun\u00ebn, t\u00eb na mbaj\u00eb kjo e po mbyllem n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi,\nse q\u00ebkur jemi martuar ma ka nxir\u00eb jet\u00ebn me k\u00ebt\u00eb xhelozi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Babi filloi t\u00eb m\u00eb kritikonte e t\u00eb m\u00eb thoshte se ai e kishte pun\u00ebn e till\u00eb\ndhe un\u00eb nuk duhet ta mendoja k\u00ebt\u00eb sepse kisha nj\u00eb burr\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019u admiruar. Jo\nvet\u00ebm babit, por ai u tha t\u00eb gjith\u00ebve p\u00ebr skenat e mia t\u00eb xhelozis\u00eb. Pra, nxori\n\u00e7do gj\u00eb n\u00eb shesh. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
U m\u00ebrzita shum\u00eb, por tashm\u00eb asgj\u00eb nuk kthehej pas. Xhelozis\u00eb iu shtua edhe\nurrejtja p\u00ebr t\u00eb. Ai m\u00eb demaskoi, por t\u00eb them t\u00eb drejt\u00ebn, s`m\u00eb vjen turp q\u00eb e\npranoj se mir\u00eb ma b\u00ebri. Un\u00eb duhet ta kisha z\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb flagranc\u00eb dhe t\u00eb mos flisja\nkot, pa asnj\u00eb baz\u00eb, por kur t\u00eb djeg qum\u00ebshti, i fryn kosit. Mendova ta provoja\nk\u00ebt\u00eb variantin e z\u00ebnies keq, por nuk kisha fuqi. T\u00eb gjitha fuqit\u00eb i kisha\nharxhuar p\u00ebr vite me radh\u00eb. Kishte ardhur koha e p\u00ebrshtatshme t\u00eb ndahesha prej\ntij p\u00ebrfundimisht. Xhelozia e shkat\u00ebrroi lidhjen time, por ai e ndihmoi k\u00ebt\u00eb\nxhelozi me sjelljet e tij. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nga divorci nuk i erdhi keq. Justifikimi ishte: \u201cM\u00eb kishte lodhur me\nxhelozin\u00eb e saj t\u00eb s\u00ebmur\u00eb, shp\u00ebtova nga kjo e tani jam i lir\u00eb t\u00eb punoj e t\u00eb\nngrihem n\u00eb karrier\u00eb se ajo nuk m\u00eb ka l\u00ebn\u00eb t\u00eb punoj duke e mbajtur mendjen se \u00e7\u2019b\u00ebja\nun\u00eb\u201d. Po t\u2019i rendis t\u00eb gjitha ato q\u00eb ka th\u00ebn\u00eb ai p\u00ebr mua nuk do t\u00eb kishte gazet\u00eb\nt`i p\u00ebrmblidhte, k\u00ebshtu q\u00eb po e le me kaq, besoj ju mjaftojn\u00eb. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kjo lidhje nuk kishte fund tjet\u00ebr. P\u00ebr t\u00eb mbajtur nj\u00eb lidhje t\u00eb gjat\u00eb, p\u00ebr\nmendimin tim dhe nga kjo eksperienc\u00eb e hidhur duhet nj\u00eb \u00e7ift q\u00eb nuk e kan\u00eb\nproblem se si e kalon koh\u00ebn partneri kur nuk jan\u00eb me t\u00eb. U intereson vet\u00ebm ta\nkalojn\u00eb sa m\u00eb mir\u00eb kur jan\u00eb bashk\u00eb dhe ta keni nj\u00eb k\u00ebshill\u00eb nga un\u00eb, k\u00ebshtu\nduhet ta mendojn\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb. K\u00ebt\u00eb e thot\u00eb dhe shprehja e famshme tashm\u00eb: \u201cDuhen\ndy vet\u00eb p\u00ebr tango\u201d.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Dashuria \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb ndjenj\u00eb q\u00eb zbut gjith\u00e7ka, por sado e fort\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00eb, ajo shkat\u00ebrrohet shum\u00eb leht\u00eb nga xhelozia. Nuk them se njeriu nuk duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb xheloz, sepse detyrimisht, n\u00eb qoft\u00eb se e do nj\u00eb njeri, at\u00ebhere mund t\u00eb b\u00ebsh veprime xhelozie q\u00eb ta mbash p\u00ebr vete. Un\u00eb e kam fjal\u00ebn p\u00ebr xhelozin\u00eb e […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":21448,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[94],"tags":[249],"class_list":["post-21447","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-histori-nga-jeta","tag-histori"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21447","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=21447"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21447\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/21448"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=21447"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=21447"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=21447"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}