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– Jam Ina,\n27 vje\u00e7e. Problemi im q\u00ebndron k\u00ebtu… Jam e martuar prej 6 vjet\u00ebsh. Kur u njoha\nme burrin, si dhe n\u00eb fejes\u00eb e martes\u00eb, nuk mori pjes\u00eb asnj\u00eb nga njer\u00ebzit e tij.\nKjo, p\u00ebr arsye se babain e ka t\u00eb martuar me nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr dhe t\u00eb \u00ebm\u00ebn e ka n\u00eb\nItali prej 10 vjet\u00ebsh, bashk\u00eb me t\u00eb motr\u00ebn dhe ato nuk vinin dot p\u00ebr arsye\ndokumentesh. Sa her\u00eb flisja n\u00eb telefon me vjehrr\u00ebn, un\u00eb nuk i thoja \u201cmama\u201d, por\n\u201czonja X\u201d ose n\u00eb em\u00ebr sepse s\u2019m\u00eb duket logjike t\u2019i thuash mama dikujt tjet\u00ebr p\u00ebrve\u00e7\nmamas\u00eb t\u00ebnde biologjike. Kur erdhi vjehrra k\u00ebtu, un\u00eb e respektova n\u00eb maksimum,\nduke e ftuar p\u00ebr drek\u00eb dhe i b\u00ebra edhe dhurata, por kjo tani na ka ngelur e pak\u00ebnaqur\npse nuk i th\u00ebrras \u201cmama\u201d dhe ka shprehur pak\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi te mamaja ime. \u00c7far\u00eb nuk i\nka th\u00ebn\u00eb, q\u00eb s\u2019kam edukat\u00eb etj., madje nd\u00ebrhyn edhe te burri q\u00eb ai t\u00eb ndahet\nprej meje. M\u00eb thoni, ju lutem, si t\u00eb veproj? Me respekt, Ina. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Redaksia<\/em><\/strong>: <\/strong> – E dashur Ina, na\nvjen sinqerisht keq q\u00eb ka akoma n\u00eb Shqip\u00ebri n\u00ebna t\u00eb tilla q\u00eb nd\u00ebrhyrjn\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00ebn\ne nj\u00eb \u00e7ifti. Fatkeq\u00ebsisht, ju nuk jeni e vetmja q\u00eb e vuani nj\u00eb situat\u00eb t\u00eb till\u00eb,\npasi ka plot \u00e7ifte t\u00eb tilla n\u00eb vendin ton\u00eb q\u00eb jan\u00eb ndar\u00eb vet\u00ebm sepse ka hyr\u00eb\nvjehrra n\u00eb mes. Sigurisht, nuk po them q\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha vjehrrat jan\u00eb t\u00eb tilla.\nSjellja juaj ndaj vjehrr\u00ebs \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb korrekte. P\u00ebr letr\u00ebn tuaj, p\u00ebrve\u00e7se e\nkemi diskutuar n\u00eb redaksi, jemi konsultuar dhe me nj\u00eb psikologen ton\u00eb e cila u\nshpreh qart\u00eb q\u00eb s\u2019keni pse t\u00eb ndiheni fajtore. Ju jeni treguar e edukuar dhe e\nsjellshme me t\u00eb, nd\u00ebrsa si shp\u00ebrblim, keni marr\u00eb mosp\u00ebrfilljen dhe thashethemet\ne saj. Me k\u00ebto q\u00eb po ju themi nuk duam t\u2019ju nxisim n\u00eb grindje me t\u00eb, p\u00ebrkundrazi,\njeni ajo q\u00eb jeni treguar deri m\u00eb sot e respektuar. K\u00ebshilla jon\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb jeni\npak m\u00eb indiferente. Ju k\u00ebshillojm\u00eb q\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb konflikt ta bisedoni me burrin tuaj,\nt\u00eb cilin nuk e p\u00ebrmendni aspak n\u00ebse \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb dijeni dhe a ju mb\u00ebshtet ndopak.\nMendoj se k\u00ebtu duhet t\u00eb nd\u00ebrhyj\u00eb ai, t\u2019i tregoj\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00ebs s\u00eb tij se nuk ka t\u00eb\ndrejt\u00eb t\u00eb nd\u00ebrhyj\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e tij private. N\u00eb qoft\u00eb se keni mb\u00ebshtetjen dhe mir\u00ebkuptimin\ne bashk\u00ebshortit, nuk duhet t\u00eb shqet\u00ebsoheni sepse e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb jeni mir\u00eb\nme njeriun tuaj t\u00eb jet\u00ebs, me at\u00eb q\u00eb keni nd\u00ebrtuar familjen. Nd\u00ebrsa sa i p\u00ebrket\nvjehrr\u00ebs, me qet\u00ebsin\u00eb me t\u00eb madhe duhet t\u2019ia b\u00ebni t\u00eb ditur asaj q\u00eb s\u2019ka aspak t\u00eb\ndrejt\u00eb t\u00eb nd\u00ebrhyj\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00ebn tuaj. Mund t\u2019ia shprehni qart\u00eb q\u00eb keni ngelur e pak\u00ebnaqur\nnga sjellja e saj dhe t\u2019i k\u00ebrkoni q\u00eb t\u00eb mos nd\u00ebrhyj\u00eb. B\u00ebjani t\u00eb ditur se e\nrespektoni vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr hir t\u00eb bashk\u00ebshortit tuaj sepse ajo nuk i ka l\u00ebn\u00eb vend\nvetes p\u00ebr respekt. Shkurt dhe qart\u00eb, q\u00ebndrojini pak indiferente sepse m\u00eb duket\nse \u00ebsht\u00eb \u201cllastuar\u201d shum\u00eb nga v\u00ebmendja juaj. N\u00ebse ju jeni e drejt\u00eb dhe korrekte\nndaj saj, ajo s\u2019ka arsye t\u00eb nd\u00ebrhyj\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00ebn tuaj n\u00eb \u00e7ift dhe p\u00ebr m\u00eb tep\u00ebr, t\u2019i\nshprehet n\u00eb at\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb mamas\u00eb suaj. P\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb, duhet t\u00eb k\u00ebrkoni edhe mb\u00ebshtetjen\ne familjes tuaj, q\u00eb t\u00eb mos i japin t\u00eb drejt\u00eb asaj gruaje p\u00ebr ato q\u00eb ka shprehur\nndaj jush. Ju, duke qen\u00eb e mb\u00ebshtetur nga bashk\u00ebshorti n\u00eb radh\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb dhe nga\nfamilja juaj m\u00eb pas, nuk duhet t\u00eb shqet\u00ebsoni aspak sepse ajo nuk do t\u2019ia arrij\u00eb\nkurr\u00eb q\u00ebllimit t\u00eb saj, q\u00eb t\u2019ju ndaj\u00eb. E r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb jeni n\u00eb rregull me\nbashk\u00ebshortin tuaj. Ju e keni respektuar dhe ajo ju \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigjur n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb\nnegative? At\u00ebhere q\u00ebndroni e t\u00ebrhequr dhe mos u p\u00ebrzieni fare me t\u00eb. N\u00ebse ju\nvjen n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi, respektojeni p\u00ebr hir t\u00eb bashk\u00ebshortit tuaj dhe kaq. Ju keni jet\u00ebn\ntuaj dhe askush s\u2019ka t\u00eb drejt\u00eb t\u2019jua trazoj\u00eb at\u00eb, qoft\u00eb kjo edhe n\u00ebna juaj. V\u00ebrini\nkufij dhe kaq. S\u2019ka asgj\u00eb t\u00eb keqe q\u00eb i th\u00ebrrisni n\u00eb em\u00ebr vjehrr\u00ebs suaj. Ndodh edhe\nq\u00eb mamas\u00eb biologjike t\u2019i th\u00ebrras\u00ebsh n\u00eb em\u00ebr. Nuk jemi t\u00eb detyruar t\u2019i th\u00ebrrasim\nt\u00eb tjer\u00ebt si\u00e7 duan ata, por si\u00e7 e ndjejm\u00eb dhe p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb, s\u2019ka pse na gjykon\nkush. Gjith\u00eb t\u00eb mirat.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" – Jam Ina, 27 vje\u00e7e. Problemi im q\u00ebndron k\u00ebtu… Jam e martuar prej 6 vjet\u00ebsh. Kur u njoha me burrin, si dhe n\u00eb fejes\u00eb e martes\u00eb, nuk mori pjes\u00eb asnj\u00eb nga njer\u00ebzit e tij. Kjo, p\u00ebr arsye se babain e ka t\u00eb martuar me nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr dhe t\u00eb \u00ebm\u00ebn e ka n\u00eb Itali prej 10 […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":21386,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[86,93],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-21385","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-psikologu","category-udhekryq"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21385","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=21385"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21385\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/21386"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=21385"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=21385"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=21385"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}