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– P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje redaksia! Jam nj\u00eb lexuese e rregullt e gazet\u00ebs tuaj. Arsyeja pse ju shkruaj \u00ebsht\u00eb se kam nj\u00eb problem familjar. Jam nj\u00eb grua e martuar prej 15 vjet\u00ebsh dhe kam dy f\u00ebmij\u00eb; nj\u00eb djal\u00eb dhe nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb, 13 dhe 10 vje\u00e7. Para tre muajsh, lexova disa mesazhe n\u00eb celularin e burrit tim dhe kuptova q\u00eb ai ka nj\u00eb t\u00eb dashur. Ajo i telefonon mbi 10 her\u00eb n\u00eb dit\u00eb. Nuk di si t\u00eb veproj… Atij i thash\u00eb q\u00eb e di q\u00eb ka t\u00eb dashur, por ai e mohon. Ju lutem, m\u00eb jepni nj\u00eb zgjidhje si t\u00eb veproj se jam shum\u00eb e m\u00ebrzitur. Mesazhet nuk jan\u00eb m\u00eb n\u00eb celularin e tij, i ka fshir\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha. Ela nga D. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Redaksia:<\/em><\/strong> – <\/strong>E dashur Ela, t\u00eb jesh e sigurt\u00eb se e kuptoj shum\u00eb mir\u00eb\ngjendjen n\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebn ndodhesh. Fatkeq\u00ebsisht, n\u00eb dit\u00ebt e sotme, nj\u00eb situat\u00eb si\nt\u00ebnden, t\u00eb ngjashme me t\u00eb apo edhe m\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00eb, po e p\u00ebrjeton thuajse gjithkush\nn\u00eb jet\u00ebn e tij familjare. Ideja jon\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb patur nj\u00eb familje t\u00eb sh\u00ebndosh\u00eb, me\nnj\u00eb bashk\u00ebshort\/e besnik\/e, q\u00eb i p\u00ebrkushtohet t\u00ebr\u00ebsisht partnerit\/es t\u00eb\ntij\/saj, thuajse \u00ebsht\u00eb zhdukur… \u00cbsht\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb ardhur keq, por gjithmon\u00eb e m\u00eb\nshum\u00eb po shtohen rastet e divorceve, q\u00eb kan\u00eb n\u00eb baz\u00eb t\u00eb tyre arsye nga m\u00eb t\u00eb\nndryshmet, por mbi t\u00eb gjitha, tradhtin\u00eb. Po t\u2019ju isha p\u00ebrgjigjur para ca\nkoh\u00ebsh, do t\u00eb kisha qen\u00eb drastike n\u00eb k\u00ebshill\u00ebn q\u00eb do t\u2019ju jepja, pasi gjithmon\u00eb\nkam menduar se nuk duhet t\u00eb ket\u00eb l\u00ebshime n\u00eb lidhje me besnik\u00ebrin\u00eb bashk\u00ebshortore…\nBesoj se edhe ti k\u00ebshtu ke menduar; se partner\u00ebt, n\u00eb martes\u00eb nuk duhet t\u00eb\ntradhtojn\u00eb kurr\u00eb. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb idealja, por p\u00ebr fat t\u00eb keq, gjithmon\u00eb e m\u00eb shum\u00eb\npo bindem se idealja nuk ekziston. At\u00ebhere, \u00e7far\u00eb duhet b\u00ebr\u00eb n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb rast? T\u00eb\npranosh se bashk\u00ebshorti mund t\u00eb ket\u00eb edhe nj\u00eb partnere tjet\u00ebr dhe t\u00eb vazhdosh\njet\u00ebn \u201cnormalisht\u201d? T\u00eb nis\u00ebsh luft\u00ebn me t\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb ndahet nga kjo grua tjet\u00ebr,\napo t\u2019i jap\u00ebsh fund martes\u00ebs? Q\u00eb t\u00eb treja jan\u00eb zgjidhje t\u00eb pranueshme, po aq sa\nedhe jan\u00eb vendime t\u00eb v\u00ebshtira p\u00ebr t\u2019u marr\u00eb. P\u00ebr m\u00eb tep\u00ebr, n\u00eb raporte n\u00eb\nndryshme, njeriu mund t\u00eb marr\u00eb vendime t\u00eb ndryshme, p\u00ebr t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn situat\u00eb. P\u00ebr\nt\u00eb qen\u00eb m\u00eb e qart\u00eb, po t\u00eb them se, n\u00eb rend t\u00eb par\u00eb, p\u00ebr ty, mendoj se duhet t\u00eb\njet\u00eb m\u00ebnyra se si sillet bashk\u00ebshorti me ju. A \u00ebsht\u00eb ai njer\u00ebzor dhe i\np\u00ebrgjegjsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr familjen e tij? A i plot\u00ebson ai detyrat familjare? N\u00ebse\np\u00ebrgjigjja e k\u00ebtyre pyetjeve \u00ebsht\u00eb pozitive dhe n\u00ebse ky burr\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb prind i\nmir\u00eb p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e tij, mendoj se nuk duhet ta mendosh mund\u00ebsin\u00eb e ndarjes me\nt\u00eb, por, me nj\u00eb kusht; q\u00eb ai t\u00eb ndahet nga e dashura q\u00eb ka. Un\u00eb nuk jam dakord\nq\u00eb t\u00eb shkat\u00ebrroni familjen p\u00ebr nj\u00eb fem\u00ebr q\u00eb futet n\u00eb mes, pasi me sa duket, nuk\npaska n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb bot\u00eb burr\u00eb q\u00eb nuk tradhton; por nga ana tjet\u00ebr, nuk do t\u00eb isha\ndakord as q\u00eb t\u00eb vazhdosh t\u00eb jetosh me t\u00eb, duke e ditur q\u00eb ai ka edhe nj\u00eb fem\u00ebr\ntjet\u00ebr. N\u00ebse ai \u00ebsht\u00eb i aft\u00eb ta l\u00ebr\u00eb pas t\u00eb kaluar\u00ebn me k\u00ebt\u00eb fem\u00ebr dhe t\u00eb\nkthehet t\u00ebr\u00ebsisht nga familja e tij, at\u00ebhere, l\u00ebre pas edhe ti k\u00ebt\u00eb t\u00eb kaluar\ndhe rind\u00ebrtoje jet\u00ebn sikur kjo kriz\u00eb t\u00eb mos kishte ndodhur… ama, n\u00ebse ai nuk\nheq dor\u00eb prej k\u00ebsaj femre dhe, m\u00eb keq akoma, nis t\u00eb sillet keq me ty e me\nf\u00ebmij\u00ebt, ai nuk meriton t\u00eb ket\u00eb familje. \u00cbsht\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb se familja \u00ebsht\u00eb e shenjt\u00eb,\npor p\u00ebr aq koh\u00eb sa pjes\u00ebtar\u00ebt e saj, e sidomos kryefamiljari e konsideron si t\u00eb\ntill\u00eb. N\u00ebse raportet p\u00ebrmbysen, nuk ke pse t\u00eb jetosh n\u00eb nj\u00eb ferr, vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb\nruajtur nj\u00eb familje t\u00eb \u201crreme\u201d. N\u00eb rastin e fundit, un\u00eb do t\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebshilloja t\u00eb\nk\u00ebrkoje ndihm\u00ebn e njer\u00ebzve t\u00eb tu m\u00eb t\u00eb af\u00ebrm. T\u00eb jet\u00eb nj\u00eb i tret\u00eb, nga ana\njote, q\u00eb t\u00eb flas\u00eb me t\u00eb dhe ta nd\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsoj\u00eb se \u00e7far\u00eb pasojash ka p\u00ebr jet\u00ebn e\np\u00ebr familjen e tij nj\u00eb sjellje e till\u00eb. N\u00ebse ai, as k\u00ebshtu, nuk heq dor\u00eb nga e\ndashura q\u00eb ka, do t\u00eb thot\u00eb se ai ka zgjedhur at\u00eb dhe ti, duhet t\u00eb zgjedh\u00ebsh t\u00eb\nb\u00ebsh jet\u00ebn t\u00ebnde, me f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e tu. N\u00ebse ndodh t\u00eb ket\u00eb ndryshime n\u00eb situat\u00ebn\nt\u00ebnde familjare dhe ti ke nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr k\u00ebshill\u00eb tjet\u00ebr, t\u00eb lutem, mos hezito t\u00eb\nna shkruash. Me respekt, redaksia.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" – P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje redaksia! Jam nj\u00eb lexuese e rregullt e gazet\u00ebs tuaj. Arsyeja pse ju shkruaj \u00ebsht\u00eb se kam nj\u00eb problem familjar. Jam nj\u00eb grua e martuar prej 15 vjet\u00ebsh dhe kam dy f\u00ebmij\u00eb; nj\u00eb djal\u00eb dhe nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb, 13 dhe 10 vje\u00e7. Para tre muajsh, lexova disa mesazhe n\u00eb celularin e burrit tim dhe kuptova […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":19938,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[93],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-21238","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-udhekryq"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21238","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=21238"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21238\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/19938"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=21238"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=21238"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=21238"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}