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– P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje redaksi! Un\u00eb\nq\u00eb po ju shkruaj, jam nj\u00eb zonj\u00eb 30 vje\u00e7e nga Vlora. N\u00eb mosh\u00ebn 15 vje\u00e7are, u\nnjoha n\u00eb lagjen time me nj\u00eb djal\u00eb 10 vjet m\u00eb t\u00eb madh se un\u00eb. Un\u00eb u dashurova me\nshikim t\u00eb par\u00eb. Ishte dashuria ime e par\u00eb. Ai ishte i drejtuar nga familja e\ntij sepse sapo ishte kthyer nga Greqia pas shum\u00eb koh\u00ebsh dhe nuk njihte njeri.\n\u00c7do gj\u00eb shkonte p\u00ebr bukuri e dashuria jon\u00eb rritej dita-dit\u00ebs, t\u00eb pakt\u00ebn nga ana\nime. Erdhi nj\u00eb dit\u00eb kur familjar\u00ebt tan\u00eb u zun\u00eb dhe nuk na lejonin m\u00eb t\u00eb\ntakoheshim. Edhe pse u ndam\u00eb p\u00ebr syt\u00eb e prind\u00ebrve, ne takoheshim fshehurazi p\u00ebr\ndy vjet rresht. Kur isha 17 vje\u00e7e, u ndam\u00eb sepse nuk e duroja dot m\u00eb situat\u00ebn e\nngarkuar nga tensioni dhe frika q\u00eb ai kishte prej prind\u00ebrve t\u00eb tij. Nuk kishte\nguxim t\u2019u thoshte prind\u00ebrve q\u00eb ne ishim akoma t\u00eb lidhur (ndoshta nuk m\u00eb ka\ndashur kurr\u00eb?) dhe k\u00ebshtu, u ndam\u00eb. N\u00eb mosh\u00ebn 18 vje\u00e7are u njoha me nj\u00eb djal\u00eb\n23 vje\u00e7 q\u00eb m\u00eb ka dashur q\u00eb n\u00eb momentet e para, por un\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb mendoja p\u00ebr\ndashurin\u00eb time t\u00eb par\u00eb. Tani jam e martuar me k\u00ebt\u00eb djal\u00eb, jetojm\u00eb n\u00eb Itali dhe\nkemi kat\u00ebr yje. K\u00ebt\u00eb vit erdha n\u00eb Shqip\u00ebri me f\u00ebmij\u00ebt, pa burrin dhe papritur\nm\u2019u shfaq p\u00ebrpara dashuria ime e par\u00eb. Shum\u00eb i g\u00ebzuar q\u00eb m\u00eb pa, m\u00eb dha numrin e\ntelefonit p\u00ebr t\u2019i telefonuar ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb. Nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb, ai ishte martuar me nj\u00eb\nvajz\u00eb q\u00eb ia kan\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb prind\u00ebrit dhe ka dy f\u00ebmij\u00eb. N\u00eb ato momente, nuk kam fjal\u00eb\nta shpreh se sa e lumtur isha dhe u b\u00ebra kureshtare. Kisha shum\u00eb p\u00ebr ta pyetur.\nI telefonova dhe lam\u00eb takimin ton\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb pas 12 vjet\u00ebsh. U takuam p\u00ebr nj\u00eb\nkafe. P\u00ebr mua, ai moment ishte i paharruesh\u00ebm. U kthyem shum\u00eb vite prapa, por\nshum\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb plakur. Pas takimit, lam\u00eb nj\u00eb takim tjet\u00ebr, por k\u00ebt\u00eb radh\u00eb, diku\ntjet\u00ebr. Shkuam bashk\u00eb n\u00eb sht\u00ebpin\u00eb e nj\u00eb shokut t\u00eb tij dhe aty ndodhi ajo q\u00eb un\u00eb\ne kisha pritur prej 12 vjet\u00ebsh. Ishte e mrekullueshme t\u00eb b\u00ebja dashuri me t\u00eb\ndashurin tim t\u00eb par\u00eb. Un\u00eb, p\u00ebr burrin tim, kam patur gjithmon\u00eb afeksion, por\nnuk e kam dashur dhe k\u00ebt\u00eb e kam kuptuar m\u00eb mir\u00eb se kurr\u00eb at\u00eb dit\u00eb. Edhe pse nuk\ni dham\u00eb asnj\u00eb premtin nj\u00ebri-tjetrit, un\u00eb e kuptova q\u00eb nuk kam reshtur kurr\u00eb s\u00eb\ndashuri dashurin\u00eb time t\u00eb par\u00eb. Nuk e di se \u00e7far\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebj, t\u00eb rri me burrin,\nedhe pse nuk e dua (n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn si mund t\u00eb duhen burr\u00eb e grua) p\u00ebr hir t\u00eb\nf\u00ebmij\u00ebve, apo t\u00eb ndahem? Ju lutem, m\u00eb ktheni nj\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje, se po \u00e7mendem…\nFaleminderit. O. Vlor\u00eb<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Redaksia:- <\/strong>E dashur O. Dua ta nis p\u00ebrgjigjen nga nj\u00eb pyetje, q\u00eb ti e p\u00ebrcakton si dyt\u00ebsore, duke e futur n\u00eb kllapa n\u00eb fillim t\u00eb letr\u00ebs t\u00ebnde. \u201cNdoshta nuk m\u00eb ka dashur?\u201d. Un\u00eb kam p\u00ebrshtypjen se n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb let\u00ebr q\u00eb na ke d\u00ebrguar dhe n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb konfuzion ku e ke futur veten, kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb pyetja m\u00eb e pavend. A t\u00eb ka dashur? \u00c7\u2019r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi ka kjo, kur ai nuk ishte n\u00eb gjendje ta kuror\u00ebzonte dashurin\u00eb tuaj, kur iu dor\u00ebzua pushtetit t\u00eb familjes dhe nuk luftoi q\u00eb ju t\u00eb ishit bashk\u00eb? Por, q\u00eb t\u00eb vazhdojm\u00eb me letr\u00ebn, m\u00eb duhet t\u00eb t\u00eb them se, e fundit gj\u00eb q\u00eb do t\u00eb doja t\u00eb b\u00ebja n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje, do t\u00eb ishte t\u00eb t\u00eb paragjykoja. Mund ta kuptoj shum\u00eb mir\u00eb mallin p\u00ebr t\u00eb dashurin e par\u00eb (me t\u00eb cilin, me sa mund t\u00eb kuptoj, nuk i kishit konsumuar marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet seksuale n\u00eb lidhjen tuaj kur ishit t\u00eb rinj), d\u00ebshir\u00ebn p\u00ebr ta p\u00ebrmbushur k\u00ebt\u00eb lidhje me kontaktin e plot\u00eb intim, d\u00ebshir\u00ebn p\u00ebr t\u2019u rikthyer edhe nj\u00eb her\u00eb n\u00eb koh\u00eb n\u00eb rinin\u00eb e pasioneve t\u00eb forta… Deri n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb moment, po harrojm\u00eb se nga ana tjet\u00ebr, q\u00eb t\u00eb dy ju, keni familjet respektive, mbani p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsit\u00eb tuaja p\u00ebr njer\u00ebz q\u00eb nuk ju kan\u00eb asnj\u00eb borxh n\u00ebse nuk qet\u00eb n\u00eb gjendje t\u00eb krijonit nj\u00eb lidhje p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb kur ishit t\u00eb rinj dhe kishit p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsi vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr veten tuaj… Pra, deri n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb moment, mund t\u00eb kuptohet gjith\u00e7ka si nj\u00eb flirt, si nj\u00eb munges\u00eb q\u00eb po e plot\u00ebsoni dhe si nj\u00eb k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi e munguar, q\u00eb po ia jepni vetes pas shum\u00eb koh\u00ebsh… Momenti m\u00eb i \u00e7uditsh\u00ebm i letr\u00ebs t\u00ebnde, \u00ebsht\u00eb ai ku pyet: \u201cT\u00eb rri me burrin, edhe pse nuk e dua, por p\u00ebr hir t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve, apo t\u00eb ndahem?\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n M\u00eb fal, por mua, kjo pyetje m\u00eb duket si e hedhur n\u00eb er\u00eb. Ulu dhe mendohu\nmir\u00eb me veten. T\u00eb premtoi gj\u00eb i dashuri i par\u00eb? A nuk po sillet ai s\u00ebrish si\ndikur; t\u00eb do, t\u00eb p\u00eblqen, por nuk merr p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsi mbi supe p\u00ebr ty? P\u00ebr nj\u00eb\nnjeri t\u00eb till\u00eb do t\u00eb shkat\u00ebrrosh nj\u00eb familje t\u00eb nd\u00ebrtuar me dashuri (k\u00ebt\u00eb nuk\nmund ta mohosh sot, vet\u00ebm sepse nj\u00eb pasion i momentit, u drejtua p\u00ebr diku\ntjet\u00ebr. Jam e bindur se, shum\u00eb shpejt, kur pasioni t\u00eb shuhet, do t\u00eb habitesh me\nveten se si arrite t\u00eb dyzoheshe n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb pik\u00eb), do t\u00eb ndash nj\u00eb familje me kat\u00ebr\nf\u00ebmij\u00eb? M\u00eb fal, por, kjo m\u00eb duket fare pa vend. <\/p>\n\n\n\n E dashur zonj\u00eb, t\u00eb fal\u00ebnderoj edhe nj\u00eb her\u00eb q\u00eb na ke shkruar, ndoshta u\ntregova shum\u00eb e ashp\u00ebr n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje, por m\u00eb beso, pas disa koh\u00ebsh,\nrilexoje k\u00ebt\u00eb gazet\u00eb dhe jam e sigurt\u00eb se do t\u00eb arrish n\u00eb p\u00ebrfundimin se\nvendimet, nuk merren n\u00eb momente pasioni t\u00eb verb\u00ebr, q\u00eb fatkeq\u00ebsisht, nuk zgjat,\npor pas nj\u00eb reflektimi t\u00eb gjat\u00eb, aq m\u00eb tep\u00ebr kur k\u00ebto vendime prekin jet\u00ebt e\nnjer\u00ebzve m\u00eb t\u00eb af\u00ebrt q\u00eb kemi e q\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb i duam n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb jet\u00eb… Do t\u00eb t\u00eb\nlutesha shum\u00eb t\u00eb na shkruaje s\u00ebrish. Edhe nj\u00eb her\u00eb, faleminderit. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" – P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje redaksi! Un\u00eb q\u00eb po ju shkruaj, jam nj\u00eb zonj\u00eb 30 vje\u00e7e nga Vlora. N\u00eb mosh\u00ebn 15 vje\u00e7are, u njoha n\u00eb lagjen time me nj\u00eb djal\u00eb 10 vjet m\u00eb t\u00eb madh se un\u00eb. Un\u00eb u dashurova me shikim t\u00eb par\u00eb. Ishte dashuria ime e par\u00eb. 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