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(Nga sh\u00ebnimet e psikologes\nD.S. e cila, p\u00ebr t\u00eb mos zbuluar identitetin e klientit t\u00eb saj, d\u00ebshiron t\u00eb\nmbetet dhe vet\u00eb anonime)\u2026<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Para meje u ul nj\u00eb burr\u00eb shtatlart\u00eb, i veshur me gusto, me nj\u00eb fytyr\u00eb t\u00eb\nsaporruar, me nj\u00eb buz\u00ebqeshje t\u00eb p\u00ebrmbajtur, por t\u00ebrheq\u00ebse. Nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb\nse 40-45 vje\u00e7. Esht\u00eb i vendosur t\u00eb m\u00eb flas\u00eb, megjith\u00ebse, me sa duket, i vjen\npaksa r\u00ebnd\u00eb. K\u00ebt\u00eb e tregon nj\u00ebfar\u00eb nervozizmi i brendsh\u00ebm, q\u00eb ndjehet sakaq nga\nm\u00ebnyra se si v\u00ebshtron dhe l\u00ebviz duart. Mbase nervozohet, edhe ngaq\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb i\ndetyruar t\u00eb rr\u00ebfehet para nj\u00eb femre, anipse psikologe\u2026 <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Petrit D.:<\/strong> – Kam 17 vjet martuar. Kemi nj\u00eb djal\u00eb, i\ncili sapo i ka mbushur t\u00eb gjasht\u00ebmb\u00ebdhjetat. Kur isha i ri, d\u00ebshiroja t\u00eb m\u00eb\nlindte edhe nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb, t\u00eb cil\u00ebn mendoja ta edukoja sipas koncepteve t\u00eb mia p\u00ebr\nfemr\u00ebn (buz\u00ebqesh druajtur): Ashtu ma, t’i \u00e7onte meshkujt n\u00eb shtat\u00eb \u00e7ezma dhe t\u00eb\nmos u jepte uj\u00eb, mir\u00ebpo nuk ishte e th\u00ebn\u00eb\u2026 Mbet\u00ebm me nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb p\u00ebr arsye se\nime shoqe pati disa shqet\u00ebsime pas lindjes s\u00eb par\u00eb dhe, pasi kaluan disa vjet,\ns’deshi t’u hynte p\u00ebrs\u00ebri atyre pun\u00ebve\u2026 Marina \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00ebsuese n\u00eb shkoll\u00ebn e\nlagjes q\u00eb e kemi shum\u00eb af\u00ebr sht\u00ebpis\u00eb… Un\u00eb jam elektroauto n\u00eb nj\u00eb repart\nushtarak, por t\u00eb them t\u00eb drejt\u00ebn, tani gjithmon\u00eb e m\u00eb shum\u00eb merrem edhe me\nndonj\u00eb pun\u00eb private jasht\u00eb orarit, si\u00e7 \u00ebsht\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb zakon t\u00eb thuhet, u rregulloj\nmakinat t\u00eb njohurve t\u00eb mi\u2026 Kam ardhur t\u00eb\nkonsultohem me ju, t’ju k\u00ebrkoj nj\u00eb mendim t\u00eb kualifikuar, sepse nuk po e kuptoj\nse \u00e7far\u00eb po ndodh midis nesh, ose m\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb them, se \u00e7far\u00eb po ndodh me mua n\u00eb\nraportet me time shoqe\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n (E shikoj dhe mendoj me\nvete: Po ku e ka hallin ky njeri, vall\u00eb? Klientet femra, t\u00eb cilat pothuajse\ngjithmon\u00eb flasin shum\u00eb, t\u00eb japin mund\u00ebsi “ta lokalizosh” m\u00eb shpejt\nproblemin, nd\u00ebrsa me meshkujt e kam patur gjithmon\u00eb m\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb, sepse ata jan\u00eb\nzakonisht fjal\u00ebpak\u00eb, lakonik\u00eb, madje edhe jo fort t\u00eb predispozuar p\u00ebr t’u\nshprehur pa dorashka\u2026 Nejse le ta d\u00ebgjoj, thash\u00eb me vete\u2026)<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Petrit D.:<\/strong> – Un\u00eb, sikurse ju thash\u00eb, punoj shum\u00eb p\u00ebr\nt\u00eb siguruar mir\u00ebqenien e familjes sime t\u00eb vog\u00ebl, p\u00ebr t’i siguruar gruas mund\u00ebsi\nq\u00eb t\u00eb vishet si shoqet dhe djalit nj\u00eb t\u00eb ardhme sa m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb, pasi ai do t\u00eb\nhyj\u00eb n\u00eb universitet dhe tani, dihet, studimet e larta duan pare t\u00eb madhe\u2026 Edhe\nMarina fiton, natyrisht, por jo aq shum\u00eb\u2026 Rrog\u00eb m\u00ebsuesi, ma\u2026 Ve\u00e7se, ka nj\u00eb t\u00eb\nmir\u00eb ajo, kthehet nga puna n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi m\u00eb shpejt. Kjo i jep mund\u00ebsi t\u00eb jet\u00eb zonj\u00eb\nsht\u00ebpie me kuptimin e plot\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebsaj fjale, nd\u00ebrsa un\u00eb mbetem n\u00eb pun\u00eb. Nejse,\nle t\u00eb futemi n\u00eb tem\u00eb… K\u00ebto koh\u00ebt e fundit gjithmon\u00eb e m\u00eb shpesh po m\u00eb ngacmon\nnj\u00eb pyetje: Mos vall\u00eb jam zhvler\u00ebsuar n\u00eb syt\u00eb e bashk\u00ebfamiljar\u00ebve t\u00eb mi? Sa\nvlej un\u00eb p\u00ebr time shoqe n\u00eb radh\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb? <\/p>\n\n\n\n (P\u00ebrs\u00ebri m\u00eb hyri n\u00eb rrjedh\u00ebn e bashk\u00ebbisedimit ton\u00eb nj\u00eb mendim: Po, po,\nduket qart\u00eb: Ti, more zoti Petrit, ke hyr\u00eb tanim\u00eb n\u00eb at\u00eb periudh\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00ebs, t\u00eb\ncil\u00ebn e quajn\u00eb zakonisht “mosha mesatare”. Ajo karakterizohet nga nj\u00ebfar\u00eb\nkrize p\u00ebr ju meshkujt\u2026 N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb periudh\u00eb, ju filloni t\u00eb rivler\u00ebsoni jet\u00ebn,\nmeditoni gjithmon\u00eb e m\u00eb shpesh p\u00ebr marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet tuaja me bashk\u00ebshorten,\nsidomos\u2026 Secili sipas m\u00ebnyr\u00ebs s\u00eb vet, sigurisht).<\/p>\n\n\n\n Petrit D.:<\/strong> – Kam r\u00ebn\u00eb v\u00ebrtet n\u00eb hall, zonja\npsikologe: Shpesh m\u00eb duket sikur ime shoqe i duhem vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr parat\u00eb q\u00eb fitoj.\nMbase jo vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr ato, por\u2026 M\u00eb duket sikur ajo m\u00eb shikon dhe mendon se \u00e7far\u00eb\nmund t\u00eb marr\u00eb prej meje n\u00eb \u00e7do drejtim. Madje shpesh m\u00eb duket sikur m\u00eb ka zili\naft\u00ebsin\u00eb time p\u00ebr t\u00eb ngar\u00eb makinat dhe mendon: \u201cAh, t\u00eb kisha ndonj\u00eb mund\u00ebsi dhe\nt’ia zhvatja k\u00ebtij burri aft\u00ebsit\u00eb e tij si shofer\u2026 Ta merrja makin\u00ebn dhe t\u00eb\nbridhja dyqaneve ose t’ia mbathja drejt e n\u00eb plazh vet\u00ebm. Shkurt hesapi, m\u00eb\nduket sikur do t\u00eb m\u00eb p\u00ebrvet\u00ebsoj\u00eb gjith\u00e7ka kam un\u00eb, mendjen dhe forc\u00ebn time\nfizike. Shkoj deri atje sa t\u00eb mendoj se koh\u00ebt e fundit ajo flet me mua vet\u00ebm\nkur i duhet t\u00eb “zhvat\u00eb” di\u00e7ka prej meje, kur ma ka nevoj\u00ebn, i duhem\u2026\nJa pra, pik\u00ebrisht, fare padashur, m\u00eb shkon n\u00eb mendje: More, m\u00eb do mua kjo grua,\napo i duhem dhe k\u00ebrkon t\u00eb m\u00eb shfryt\u00ebzoj\u00eb?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Psikologia: – Ndonj\u00eb\nshembull konkret, ju lutem\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Petrit D.:<\/strong> – Po ja, un\u00eb do t\u00eb d\u00ebshiroja q\u00eb, kur\nkthehem nga puna, ajo t\u00eb m\u00eb afrohet, t\u00eb m\u00eb q\u00ebndroj\u00eb m\u00eb pran\u00eb\u2026 T\u00eb m\u00eb pyes\u00eb, p\u00ebr\nshembull, si ia kalova n\u00eb pun\u00eb, a u lodha, a u m\u00ebrzita? Un\u00eb, natyrisht, mund\nt’i tregoj edhe vet\u00eb, pa m\u00eb pyetur ajo, por s’di sepse dua q\u00eb ajo, si t\u00eb\nthuash, t\u00eb tregohet m\u00eb e interesuar, ta ket\u00eb mendjen tek un\u00eb\u2026 Po, t\u00eb them t\u00eb\ndrejt\u00ebn, edhe ndonj\u00eb l\u00ebvdat\u00eb do t\u00eb ma kishte \u00ebnda ta d\u00ebgjoja nga goja e saj se\nun\u00eb, \u00e7’\u00ebsht\u00eb e drejta, e meritoj k\u00ebt\u00eb, meritoj nj\u00eb q\u00ebndrim m\u00eb t\u00eb af\u00ebrt, m\u00eb t\u00eb\nngroht\u00eb, nd\u00ebrsa ajo gjith\u00e7ka q\u00eb b\u00ebj un\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb dhe p\u00ebr at\u00eb sht\u00ebpi e quan si\ndi\u00e7ka t\u00eb zakonshme q\u00eb m\u00eb takon dhe duhet ta b\u00ebj. Sa mir\u00eb nuk i rrihet pa m\u00eb\nkritikuar kur un\u00eb nuk e b\u00ebj ndonj\u00eb pun\u00eb tamam, si\u00e7 duhet?! Pastaj, do t\u00eb\nd\u00ebshiroja q\u00eb edhe si amvis\u00eb ajo t\u00eb p\u00ebrkujdesej pak m\u00eb shum\u00eb p\u00ebr mua. Kur\nkthehem nga puna, shpesh edhe gjell\u00ebn e gjej t\u00eb ftoht\u00eb, sht\u00ebpin\u00eb rr\u00ebmuj\u00eb\u2026 Ja,\npra, shikoni sa probleme m\u00eb kan\u00eb lindur?!<\/p>\n\n\n\n Psikologia: – Zoti Petrit,\nnga p\u00ebrvoja ime e gjat\u00eb kam v\u00ebn\u00eb re se kur lindin n\u00eb familje probleme t\u00eb tilla,\nr\u00ebnd\u00ebsi t\u00eb dor\u00ebs s\u00eb par\u00eb marrin marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet intime-seksuale\u2026 Si i keni ju k\u00ebto\nraporte me bashk\u00ebshorten tuaj?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Petrit D.:<\/strong> – N\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi, n\u00eb rregull jemi; nj\u00eb\nher\u00eb, dy her\u00eb n\u00eb jav\u00eb\u2026 Po, edhe n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb fush\u00eb, t\u00eb them t\u00eb drejt\u00ebn, shpesh e\npyes veten: More jam interesant un\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb si mashkull apo marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet tona\nintime vazhdojn\u00eb p\u00ebr inerci dhe forc\u00eb zakoni? Si s’e mori nj\u00ebher\u00eb kjo grua iniciativ\u00ebn\nvet\u00eb, xhan\u00ebm? Po t\u00eb mos filloj un\u00eb i pari, aha, s’kujtohet\u2026 Madje ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb m\u00eb\nduket sikur e ndjen veten m\u00eb t\u00eb \u00e7liruar, kur e shikon q\u00eb un\u00eb s’kam nd\u00ebrmend t’i\nafrohem. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Psikologia: – Po a ka ndonj\u00eb\nfush\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00ebs n\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebn bashk\u00ebshortja juaj merr e para iniciativ\u00ebn dhe\ntregohet aktive? <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Petrit D.: –<\/strong> Oh, kur i do qejfi, aman \u00e7’tregohet\naktive! Ato q\u00eb ia ka \u00ebnda, sapo vihet n\u00eb teat\u00ebr ndonj\u00eb pjes\u00eb e re\u2026 Sapo reklamohet\nn\u00eb televizor ndonj\u00eb oper\u00eb dhe balet, vin\u00eb biletat si me magji n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n Psikologia: – Po mos e b\u00ebn\np\u00ebr t’ju k\u00ebnaqur juve… Ju p\u00eblqen teatri?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Petrit D.:<\/strong> – Ndonj\u00eb shfaqje estrade, po edhe ndonj\u00eb\nkomedi e shikoj me d\u00ebshir\u00eb edhe un\u00eb, por n\u00eb drama, n\u00eb shfaqjet e operas dhe t\u00eb\nbaletit, as q\u00eb dua t\u00eb vete. Q\u00eb n\u00eb aktin e par\u00eb, m\u00eb vjen p\u00ebr gjum\u00eb\u2026 Edhe ndonj\u00eb\nekspozit\u00eb mund ta shikoj, po lodhem shum\u00eb. Dhe, ku ma gjen: pret bileta p\u00ebr n\u00eb\ndit\u00ebt e pushimit, kur un\u00eb d\u00ebshiroj t\u00eb \u00e7lodhem\u2026 Dhe guxo i kund\u00ebshto, po deshe! \u201cMbete\nsi dru i pagdhendur, or burr\u00eb, thot\u00eb. Arti t\u00eb zhvillon shum\u00eb dhe t\u00eb jep\nk\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi estetike\u201d\u2026 <\/p>\n\n\n\n Psikologia:- Si do t’i\np\u00ebrmblidhnit shkurtazi d\u00ebshirat dhe k\u00ebrkesat tuaja ndaj saj?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Petrit D.:<\/strong> – Kam nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr kujdesin dhe af\u00ebrsin\u00eb e\nsaj, m\u00eb p\u00eblqen kur ajo gatuan mir\u00eb dhe tregon interes p\u00ebr pun\u00ebn time. Dua q\u00eb t\u00eb\nmos merret shum\u00eb me edukimin tim estetik\u2026 Le t\u00eb m\u00eb l\u00ebr\u00eb t\u00eb \u00e7lodhem sipas\nm\u00ebnyr\u00ebs sime. Un\u00eb, me gjith\u00eb qejf do t\u00eb shkoja me t\u00eb sh\u00ebtitje nga Liqeni,\n\u00e7lodhem atje, por t\u00eb them t\u00eb drejt\u00ebn, do t\u00eb doja q\u00eb ngandonj\u00ebher\u00eb t\u00eb tregohej\nm\u00eb aktive edhe n\u00eb raportet tona intime\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n Psikologia: – E shikoj, ju i\nkeni t\u00eb p\u00ebrcaktuara m\u00eb s\u00eb miri q\u00ebllimet dhe d\u00ebshirat tuaja, por nj\u00eb gj\u00eb nuk e\ndi: \u00c7’keni b\u00ebr\u00eb ju q\u00eb t’i arrini ato? A jeni p\u00ebrpjekur ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb t’ia b\u00ebni t\u00eb\nqarta k\u00ebto d\u00ebshira dhe q\u00ebllime bashk\u00ebshortes suaj? <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Petrit D.<\/strong> (Bie n\u00eb mendime): Sigurisht q\u00eb kam folur\np\u00ebr k\u00ebto me t\u00eb\u2026 Ja, para disa dit\u00ebsh, p\u00ebr shembull, i thash\u00eb se do t\u00eb d\u00ebshiroja\nq\u00eb ngandonj\u00ebher\u00eb t\u00eb merrte edhe ajo iniciativ\u00ebn n\u00eb raportet tona intime. N\u00eb\nfillim u fye, por pas disa dit\u00ebsh, na organizoi nj\u00eb “mbr\u00ebmje\nromantike” q\u00eb\u2026 Erdhi rrotull gjith\u00eb mbr\u00ebmjen aq shum\u00eb, saq\u00eb mua m\u00eb zuri\ngjumi mbi divan, duke e pritur at\u00eb t\u00eb dilte nga banja. Ajo u fye shum\u00eb dhe pas\nk\u00ebsaj, s’mori m\u00eb iniciativa t\u00eb tilla, edhe pse un\u00eb i k\u00ebrkova ndjes\u00eb\u2026 <\/p>\n\n\n\n Psikologia:- Po tjet\u00ebr, p\u00ebr\n\u00e7far\u00eb i keni folur?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Petrit D.:<\/strong> – Po ja, nj\u00eb dit\u00eb u nxeha keq. Ishte e\nshtun\u00eb dhe m\u00eb tha t\u00eb vinim p\u00ebr t\u00eb par\u00eb nj\u00eb ekspozit\u00eb t\u00eb re q\u00eb ishte hapur n\u00eb\ngalerin\u00eb e arteve. Un\u00eb i kisha dh\u00ebn\u00eb fjal\u00ebn nj\u00eb shoku se do t’i riparoja\nmakin\u00ebn, kundrejt pages\u00ebs, sigurisht dhe, nuk ishte sasi e vog\u00ebl\u2026 Mir\u00ebpo ajo u\nnevrikos dhe tha se un\u00eb e kan zakon t\u00eb fshihem n\u00eb garazh q\u00eb t\u00eb mos shkoj t\u00eb\nsh\u00ebtis bashk\u00eb me t\u00eb. Aty nuk u p\u00ebrmbajta m\u00eb dhe ia ktheva me t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtin ton: \u201cD\u00ebgjo,\njam velur duke pushuar sipas m\u00ebnyrave t\u00eb tua ala-intelektual\u00e7e dhe me kujdesin\nt\u00ebnd p\u00ebr t\u00eb m\u00eb edukuar mua sipas vetes. N\u00eb rast se un\u00eb punoj elektroauto n\u00eb nj\u00eb\nrepart ushtarak, kjo nuk do t\u00eb thot\u00eb se jam pa kultur\u00eb. N\u00eb fund t\u00eb fundit, edhe\nun\u00eb kam mbaruar shkoll\u00eb t\u00eb lart\u00eb nj\u00ebsoj si ti\u201d\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n Psikologia: – E qart\u00eb. Ju, megjithat\u00eb, keni shpres\u00eb se\ndi\u00e7ka mund t\u00eb ndryshoj\u00eb n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet tuaja. Kjo ndjehet\u2026 Por, me sa shikoj\nun\u00eb, ju ende nuk keni folur me t\u00eb shtruar, pa l\u00ebn\u00eb shkas p\u00ebr fyerje, se \u00e7\u2019k\u00ebrkoni\nprej saj, q\u00eb edhe ajo t’ju kuptoj\u00eb si duhet. Her\u00eb keni pritur me shpres\u00eb se \u201cdo\nta kuptoj\u00eb vet\u00eb\u201d, her\u00eb keni shp\u00ebrthyer me inat e gjaknxeht\u00ebsi. Ka r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi t\u00eb\nbisedohet shtruar me partnerin. P\u00ebr fat t\u00eb keq, jan\u00eb t\u00eb shumt\u00eb njer\u00ebzit q\u00eb bien\nrob\u00ebr t\u00eb iluzionit se “ajo e mendon\nvet\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb dua un\u00eb, por vepron sipas kok\u00ebs s\u00eb saj”. N\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb, edhe\nbashk\u00ebshortja juaj ka nevoj\u00eb t\u00eb informohet prej jush se \u00e7far\u00eb k\u00ebrkoni ju prej\nsaj, nd\u00ebrsa p\u00ebrsa i p\u00ebrket dilem\u00ebs suaj “m\u00eb do, apo i duhem”, pra, se\najo ju “zhvat” dhe “shfryt\u00ebzon”, mendoj se duhet mbajtur\nparasysh nj\u00eb rregull i sprovuar: Secili prej nesh, kur hyn n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie me nj\u00eb\ntjet\u00ebr , di\u00e7ka jep nga vetja dhe di\u00e7ka merr nga tjetri. Vet\u00ebm balancimi i\nk\u00ebtyre “marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve” i shtyn raportet p\u00ebrpara dhe i forcon ato. Dhe,\nmeq\u00eb ra fjala, n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb rast, secili nga partner\u00ebt duhet t\u2019\u2019i jap\u00eb tjetrit paksa\nm\u00eb shum\u00eb nga sa merr dhe t\u00eb ndjej\u00eb k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb. Ja, si mendoni ju,\nbashk\u00ebshortja juaj, vet\u00ebm merr prej jush, vet\u00ebm shikon \u00e7far\u00eb t\u00eb\n“zhvat\u00eb”. Vall\u00eb, ajo nuk ju jep\nasgj\u00eb? Ja, si mendoni ju?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Petrit D.:<\/strong> – Sigurisht. Ajo na p\u00ebrgatit p\u00ebr t\u00eb\nngr\u00ebn\u00eb dhe pastron sht\u00ebpin\u00eb, madje m\u00eb ndihmon edhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb zgjedhur\nveshmbathjen, ka gusto ajo\u2026 Po edhe p\u00ebrsa u p\u00ebrket marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve tona intime n\u00eb\nkrevat, megjith\u00ebse s’dalim nga e zakonshmja, prap\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqet t\u00eb m\u00eb jap\u00eb\nk\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi, si t\u00eb thuash. Shikoni, n\u00eb fund t\u00eb fundit, po t\u00eb gjykosh thell\u00eb, edhe\najo d\u00ebshira e saj p\u00ebr t\u00eb m\u00eb “zhvilluar” nga pak, n\u00eb thelb, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb\nnj\u00eb d\u00ebshir\u00eb keqdash\u00ebse; un\u00eb e vler\u00ebsoj si nj\u00eb p\u00ebrpjekje p\u00ebr t\u00eb q\u00ebndruar sa m\u00eb\nshum\u00eb bashk\u00eb, tjet\u00ebr pun\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb pastaj se merr ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb p\u00ebrsip\u00ebr rolin e\ntutorit\u2026 <\/p>\n\n\n\n Psikologia: – Po ja,\npik\u00ebrisht ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtja: Partneri jep nganj\u00ebher\u00eb jo at\u00eb q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme p\u00ebr tjetrin,\npor at\u00eb q\u00eb vet\u00eb e quan t\u00eb till\u00eb\u2026 K\u00ebsaj i thon\u00eb, si thoni ju ushtarak\u00ebt: Q\u00ebllon,\npor s’bie n\u00eb sh\u00ebnj\u00eb! Gruaja juaj p\u00ebrpiqet t\u00eb organizoj\u00eb sa m\u00eb mir\u00eb pushimin n\u00eb\nkoh\u00ebn tuaj t\u00eb lir\u00eb, nd\u00ebrsa ju p\u00ebrpiqeni t\u00eb fitoni m\u00eb shum\u00eb, duke kujtuar se\nk\u00ebshtu do ta k\u00ebnaqni edhe at\u00eb. Ja pra, t\u00eb dy p\u00ebrpiqeni, t\u00eb dy q\u00eblloni dhe asnj\u00ebri\nnuk bie n\u00eb shenj\u00eb\u2026 Mir\u00ebpo edhe ajo mund t\u00eb mendoj\u00eb k\u00ebshtu si ju: \u201cM\u00eb do mua,\napo i duhem un\u00eb atij si amvis\u00eb\u201d, edhe ajo mund t\u00eb mendoj\u00eb dhe me siguri mendon,\nse si mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb m\u00eb uinteresante p\u00ebr ju\u2026 Ju shkoni drejt nj\u00ebri-tjetrit, t\u00eb dy\np\u00ebrpiqeni t\u00eb forconi marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet tuajaja, p\u00ebrfshi edhe ato m\u00eb intimet, por\u2026\nnuk e merrni vesh njeri-tjetrin\u2026 <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Petrit D. : – Dhe \u00e7’duhet t\u00eb b\u00ebjm\u00eb?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Psikologia: – Duhet t\u00eb\nflisni hapur dhe shtruar me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin, t\u00eb shfaqni dyshimet tuaja, rreziqet\nq\u00eb parashikoni dhe kryesorja \u00ebsht\u00eb t’i tregoni se \u00e7’prisni nga njeri-tjetri.\nDuhet t\u00eb d\u00ebgjoni edhe mendimet dhe d\u00ebshirat e saj. Vet\u00ebm k\u00ebshtu mund t\u00eb arrini,\nsi t\u00eb thuash, n\u00eb nj\u00eb em\u00ebrues t\u00eb p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt. Marina, me sa po kuptoj un\u00eb, ju do\ndhe e vler\u00ebson familjen, madje duket qart\u00eb q\u00eb ajo merr p\u00ebrsip\u00ebr barr\u00ebn m\u00eb t\u00eb\nr\u00ebnd\u00eb p\u00ebr t’u ndihmuar ju q\u00eb lodheni m\u00eb shum\u00eb n\u00eb pun\u00eb dhe k\u00ebrkon t’ju \u00e7lodh\u00eb,\nd\u00ebfrej\u00eb. Kur k\u00ebrkoni q\u00eb t\u00eb tregohet m\u00eb me iniciativ\u00eb n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet intime,\nmos harroni natyr\u00ebn paksa t\u00eb druajtur t\u00eb femr\u00ebs\u2026 Futuni edhe ju paksa n\u00eb\nl\u00ebkur\u00ebn e saj\u2026 Dakord?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n (Un\u00eb, sigurisht, jam e nd\u00ebrgjegjshme, t\u00eb dashur lexues se ju me t\u00eb drejt\u00eb\ndo t\u00eb gjeni nj\u00ebfar\u00eb “skematizmi” n\u00eb gjith\u00eb sa parashtrova m\u00eb lart. Po\nmbani parasysh, ju lutem, se k\u00ebto q\u00eb\nlexuat nuk jan\u00eb proces-verbal autentik i bised\u00ebs son\u00eb me Petritin, por vet\u00ebm\nnj\u00eb p\u00ebrmbledhje e shkurtuar e saj… Ne me Petritin biseduam m\u00eb gjat\u00eb, sidomos\np\u00ebr tem\u00ebn \u201cm\u00eb do, apo i duhem\u201d\u2026 R\u00ebnd\u00ebsi ka fakti q\u00eb Petriti u bind se nuk mund\nt\u00eb quhet \u201cshfryt\u00ebzim\u201d, \u201czhvatje\u201d ajo \u00e7ka pret nj\u00eb bashk\u00ebshort nga tjetri. Fol\u00ebm\nme t\u00eb gjat\u00eb edhe p\u00ebr ndjenj\u00ebn e p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsis\u00eb q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb ken\u00eb partner\u00ebt ndaj\nnjeri-tjetrit dhe ndaj f\u00ebmij\u00ebs s\u00eb tyre t\u00eb p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt dhe po ta shikosh \u00e7\u00ebshtje\nme k\u00ebt\u00eb sy, at\u00ebhere del vetvetiu n\u00eb p\u00ebrfundimin logjik se marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet midis dy\npartner\u00ebve nuk mund t\u00eb jen\u00eb ve\u00e7se t\u00eb nd\u00ebrsjellta dhe se s’mund t\u00eb zgjidh\u00ebsh\nasgj\u00eb n\u00eb rast se do t\u00eb nisesh nga pozita p\u00ebr ta quajtur nj\u00ebrin\n“akuzues” dhe tjetrin, t\u00eb “akuzuar”\u2026 N\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet intime\nfamiljare, fajet dhe meritat jan\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebta\u2026)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" (Nga sh\u00ebnimet e psikologes D.S. e cila, p\u00ebr t\u00eb mos zbuluar identitetin e klientit t\u00eb saj, d\u00ebshiron t\u00eb mbetet dhe vet\u00eb anonime)\u2026 Para meje u ul nj\u00eb burr\u00eb shtatlart\u00eb, i veshur me gusto, me nj\u00eb fytyr\u00eb t\u00eb saporruar, me nj\u00eb buz\u00ebqeshje t\u00eb p\u00ebrmbajtur, por t\u00ebrheq\u00ebse. Nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb se 40-45 vje\u00e7. Esht\u00eb i vendosur […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":21080,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[86],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-21079","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-psikologu"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21079","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=21079"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21079\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/21080"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=21079"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=21079"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=21079"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}