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\u00c7\u00ebshtja n\u00ebse\nduhet t\u00eb jen\u00eb apo jo t\u00eb pranish\u00ebm bashk\u00ebshort\u00ebt n\u00eb lindjen e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve t\u00eb tyre,\nka dal\u00eb tanim\u00eb nga kuadri i diskutimit teorik dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb shtruar p\u00ebr zgjidhje\nkonkrete edhe n\u00eb vendin ton\u00eb. Me sa duket, votat kund\u00ebr mbizot\u00ebrojn\u00eb, por edhe\nato pro, nuk jan\u00eb t\u00eb pak\u00ebta. Nj\u00eb fakt interesant: shumica e atyre q\u00eb jan\u00eb\nkund\u00ebr, p\u00ebrb\u00ebhet kryesisht nga vajzat e fejuara apo grat\u00eb e sapomartuara,\nnd\u00ebrsa ato q\u00eb kan\u00eb qen\u00eb edhe her\u00eb t\u00eb tjera n\u00eb maternitet, thon\u00eb se lindjet q\u00eb\nb\u00ebhen n\u00eb pranin\u00eb e baballar\u00ebve t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebs, jan\u00eb shum\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb lehta se ato n\u00eb\nmunges\u00ebn e tyre. Shum\u00eb mjek\u00eb dhe mami pohojn\u00eb gjithashtu se deri tani, asnj\u00eb\nnga grat\u00eb q\u00eb e ka patur bashk\u00ebshortin t\u00eb pranish\u00ebm n\u00eb procedur\u00ebn e lindjes s\u00eb\nf\u00ebmij\u00ebs nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb penduar p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb\u2026 Le t\u00eb shikojm\u00eb disa nga argumentet pro dhe\nkund\u00ebr q\u00eb paraqesin t\u00eb dyja \u201cpal\u00ebt\u201d…<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Argumentet kund\u00ebr: <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n 1. N\u00ebna natyr\u00eb e ka ndar\u00eb q\u00eb\nlindja e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs t\u00eb jet\u00eb \u201cpun\u00eb grash\u201d e jo \u201cpun\u00eb burrash\u201d. Ato dhimbje u\ntakojn\u00eb grave, n\u00ebnave. Pse t\u00eb ngacmohet m\u00eb kot psikika delikate e meshkujve me\n\u201cdhimbje dhe telashe t\u00eb tjera\u201d si ato t\u00eb lindjes s\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve, kur ky \u00ebsht\u00eb\nekskluzivitet i femrave? Ka shum\u00eb raste kur burrave u ka r\u00ebn\u00eb t\u00eb fik\u00ebt kur kan\u00eb\npar\u00eb nga af\u00ebr se sa vuan gruaja n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb rast.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 2. Ndonj\u00eb prej tyre, pasi\nkishte asistuar n\u00eb lindjen e bashk\u00ebshortes s\u00eb vet, kishte humbur d\u00ebshir\u00ebn p\u00ebr\nseks. Pasi kishte par\u00eb mundimet e s\u00eb shoqes gjat\u00eb lindjes, atij i ishte fiksuar\nideja se p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb ishte fajtor pik\u00ebrisht ai. K\u00ebto tronditje i kishin vrar\u00eb\nnd\u00ebrgjegjen, kishin shkaktuar disbalancim shpirt\u00ebror…<\/p>\n\n\n\n 3. Nga ana psikologjike,\nekziston edhe nj\u00eb rrezik tjet\u00ebr; fill pas lindjes, burri ka rrezik t\u00eb shikoj\u00eb\ntek e shoqja vet\u00ebm n\u00ebn\u00ebn e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs s\u00eb vet dhe jo femr\u00ebn me t\u00eb cil\u00ebn mund t\u00eb\nb\u00ebj\u00eb dashuri\u2026 Kjo d\u00ebshir\u00eb, pas zbulimit t\u00eb enigmave, zbehet, madje edhe mund t\u00eb\nfashitet fare\u2026 <\/p>\n\n\n\n 4. Edhe p\u00ebr vet\u00eb grat\u00eb, nuk\n\u00ebsht\u00eb e mir\u00eb. E kush ua ka ngen\u00eb burrave n\u00eb ato \u00e7aste? Disa gra e kan\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb\nleht\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrballen me dhimbjet dhe mundimet e lindjes vet\u00ebm sesa t\u00eb shikojn\u00eb\nfytyrat e thartuara nga ndjenja e keqardhjes q\u00eb shfaqet n\u00eb fytyrat e\nshqet\u00ebsuara t\u00eb burrave t\u00eb tyre. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Argumentet pro:<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n 1. P\u00ebrderisa f\u00ebmija \u00ebsht\u00eb i\np\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt, pse t\u00eb mos jen\u00eb edhe burrat t\u00eb pranish\u00ebm n\u00eb lindje? Nganj\u00ebher\u00eb,\nasistimi n\u00eb lindje u b\u00ebn mir\u00eb edhe burrave, q\u00eb lidhen k\u00ebshtu m\u00eb shum\u00eb me gruan\ndhe f\u00ebmij\u00ebn e tyre.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 2. \u201cArdhja e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs \u00ebsht\u00eb\nngjarja m\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e familjes, tha nj\u00eb grua e kaluar n\u00eb mosh\u00eb.\nNuk shoh asgj\u00eb t\u00eb keqe n\u00eb faktin q\u00eb kur del p\u00ebr her\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb bot\u00eb nj\u00eb\nf\u00ebmij\u00eb, ta presin t\u00eb dy prind\u00ebrit bashk\u00eb. Prania e bashk\u00ebshort\u00ebve e disiplinon\nm\u00eb shum\u00eb personelin mjek\u00ebsor, ngre tek ata ndjenj\u00ebn e p\u00ebrgjegjesis\u00eb\u201d, vazhdoi\najo. <\/p>\n\n\n\n 3. Burri t\u00eb ndihmon shum\u00eb\ngjat\u00eb lindjes. \u201cKur linda f\u00ebmij\u00ebn para k\u00ebtij, tregon nj\u00eb grua e shtruar n\u00eb\nmaternitet, ai m\u00eb mbante p\u00ebr dore, duke m\u00eb p\u00ebrk\u00ebdhelur me dashuri dhe\ndhimbshuri. Kjo m\u00eb leht\u00ebsont\u00eb dhimbjet, m\u00eb qet\u00ebsonte me fjal\u00eb t\u00eb \u00ebmbla\u2026 Apo kur\ne pash\u00eb q\u00eb me solli nj\u00eb gote uj\u00eb n\u00eb krevat, pasi dola nga salla, sa s\u2019fluturoja\nnga g\u00ebzimi\u201d\u2026 <\/p>\n\n\n\n 4. \u201cUn\u00eb kam lindur dy her\u00eb\nderi tani, tregon nj\u00eb grua tjet\u00ebr dhe t\u00eb dyja her\u00ebt, im shoq m\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb ndodhur\npran\u00eb. Kjo e ka shtuar m\u00eb shum\u00eb dashurin\u00eb ton\u00eb si dy gjysma t\u00eb pandashme t\u00eb nj\u00eb\nfamiljeje t\u00eb vetme\u2026 <\/p>\n\n\n\n 5. \u201cUn\u00eb, t\u00eb them t\u00eb drejt\u00ebn,\nas i kuptoj dot ato gra q\u00eb nuk duan t\u00eb ken\u00eb pran\u00eb bashk\u00ebshort\u00ebt e tyre,\nnjer\u00ebzit m\u00eb t\u00eb af\u00ebrt dhe m\u00eb t\u00eb dashur, gjat\u00eb lindjes s\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve, kur v\u00ebrtet je\nn\u00eb siklet p\u00ebr disa \u00e7aste, por lumturohesh p\u00ebr gjith\u00eb jet\u00ebn. Aq m\u00eb tep\u00ebr, nuk i\nkuptoj dot ata q\u00eb thon\u00eb: \u201cPse duhet ngacmuar kot psikika delikate e meshkujve\nme dhimbje dhe telashe si ato t\u00eb lindjes s\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve, kur lindja e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve \u00ebsht\u00eb\nekskluzivitet i femrave?\u201d. Marr\u00ebzira! Pse i n\u00ebnvleft\u00ebsojn\u00eb k\u00ebsisoj burrat e\ntyre k\u00ebto gra? T\u00eb gjith\u00eb e din\u00eb se meshkujt jan\u00eb edhe shpirt\u00ebrisht, edhe\nfizikisht, m\u00eb t\u00eb fort\u00eb se ne\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n 6. P\u00ebrsa u p\u00ebrket atyre\nenigmave q\u00eb p\u00ebrmend nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr, un\u00eb them se burrat tan\u00eb, na duan edhe m\u00eb shum\u00eb\npas lindjes. Pse, kot e ka b\u00ebr\u00eb natyra q\u00eb i zbukuron dhe i rinon femrat pas \u00e7do\nlindjeje? P\u00ebr mashkullin, femra mbetet fem\u00ebr me hiret, delikates\u00ebn dhe\nfeminitetin e saj n\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha situatat… <\/p>\n\n\n\n 7. Mendimi se \u201cti duhet t\u2019i\ndukesh t\u00ebt shoqi gjithmon\u00eb koketk\u00eb dhe ledhatare ashtu si n\u00eb krevat n\u00eb dit\u00ebt e\npara pas martes\u00ebs, mua m\u00eb duket nj\u00eb kok\u00ebrr budallall\u00ebku q\u00eb s\u2019e ka shokun. Pse,\ninjorant\u00eb jan\u00eb meshkujt, nuk e din\u00eb ata se \u00e7\u2019ndodh me femrat gjat\u00eb gjith\u00eb\nshtatzanis\u00eb dhe n\u00eb procesin e lindjes?! Por n\u00eb fund t\u00eb fundit, n\u00eb momentin m\u00eb\ndelikat, gruaja e men\u00e7ur i lutet mamis\u00eb ta nxjerr\u00eb dy minuta n\u00eb korridor t\u00eb\nshoqin dhe ta ftoj\u00eb me f\u00ebmij\u00ebn e vog\u00ebl n\u00eb dor\u00eb, duke i th\u00ebn\u00eb: \u201cU mundua v\u00ebrtet\njot shoqe, po shiko, shiko se \u00e7\u2019bukurosh (ose bukuroshe) t\u00eb ka falur\u201d\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n 8. P\u00ebrsa i p\u00ebrket mendimit se\nburrat, pas pjes\u00ebmarrjes n\u00eb nj\u00eb lindje, humbasin d\u00ebshir\u00ebn p\u00ebr seks, kjo, m\u00eb\nfalni, por \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb marr\u00ebzi e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb. Un\u00eb nuk besoj kurr\u00eb se prania e burrit\nn\u00eb lindjen e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs s\u00eb tij mund t\u00eb ket\u00eb pasoja t\u00eb tilla. P\u00ebrkundrazi njer\u00ebzit\nq\u00eb e duan nj\u00ebri-tjetrin skena si ajo e lindjes s\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebs i bashkojn\u00eb akoma m\u00eb\nshum\u00eb, i bashkojn\u00eb vuajtjet, pastaj edhe g\u00ebzimi i madh i lindjes s\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebs,\ntha nj\u00eb grua. Po pjes\u00ebmarrja, shtoi ajo, duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb d\u00ebshir\u00eb e t\u00eb dyve dhe\np\u00ebrsa u p\u00ebrket rasteve kur burrat nuk kan\u00eb d\u00ebshir\u00eb t\u00eb jen\u00eb t\u00eb pranish\u00ebm, un\u00eb\nmendoj q\u00eb ne, femrat, t\u00eb mos tregohemi shum\u00eb k\u00ebmb\u00ebngul\u00ebse. Zgjedhja duhet t\u00eb\njet\u00eb e lir\u00eb. Kush do, do, kush s\u2019do, s\u2019ka pse t\u00eb detyrohet\u2026 <\/p>\n\n\n\n Burrat thon\u00eb:\n<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n 1. D\u00ebgjoni, n\u00eb maternitet nuk\nlindin vet\u00ebm f\u00ebmij\u00ebt, por edhe prind\u00ebrit. Kur m\u00eb dhan\u00eb n\u00eb dor\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebn e\nporsalindur, e ndjeva veten baba me kuptimin e plot\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebsaj fjale dhe thash\u00eb:\n\u201cK\u00ebtu n\u00eb maternitet lindin f\u00ebmij\u00ebt, por pag\u00ebzohen si prind\u00ebr edhe baballar\u00ebt\u2026\u201d.\nJam i bindur se \u00e7do mashkull q\u00eb shikon se si lind f\u00ebmija e tij n\u00eb maternitet,\nnuk e braktis kurr\u00eb at\u00eb; aty pag\u00ebzohesh si prind p\u00ebr gjith\u00eb jet\u00ebn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 2. \u2026Pasi kishte lindur vajza\njon\u00eb e par\u00eb dhe gjith\u00e7ka kishte mbetur pas, un\u00eb dola t\u00eb pija nj\u00eb cigare duhan,\nmir\u00ebpo gjithandej kishte tabela ndalimi dhe m\u2019u desh t\u00eb futesha n\u00eb nj\u00eb\nparabanjo. Thitha me nervoziz\u00ebm nja dy-tri her\u00eb cigaren dhe dola n\u00ebp\u00ebrs\u00ebri n\u00eb\nkorridor. Nga salla d\u00ebgjohej e qara e nje f\u00ebmije tet\u00ebr, \u00e7udi po m\u00eb duhej sikur\nedhe at\u00eb t\u00eb qar\u00eb e shoq\u00ebronin f\u00ebmijet q\u00eb tanim\u00eb ishin pran\u00eb n\u00ebnave\u2026 Dhe, n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb kor f\u00ebmij\u00ebsh, un\u00eb\ndallova t\u00eb qar\u00ebt e vajz\u00ebs sime. Ju mund t\u00eb mos besoni, po e d\u00ebgjova dhe u\nderdha sakaq drejt dhom\u00ebs ku fut\u00ebn f\u00ebmij\u00ebn e porsalindur\u2026 Pash\u00eb vajz\u00ebn q\u00eb e\nkishin mb\u00ebshtjell\u00eb n\u00eb shp\u00ebrg\u00ebnj dhe i kishin vendosur nj\u00eb mask\u00eb oksigjeni.\nKujdestarja ngriti paksa dor\u00ebn e djatht\u00eb: \u201cMjaft, mos u afro m\u00eb!\u201d, donte t\u00eb\nthoshte ky gjest. M\u00eb pushtoi sakaq nj\u00eb ndjenj\u00eb inat\u00e7ore, m\u00eb shkrepi vet\u00ebtimthi\nnj\u00eb mendim: \u201cMoj, zonj\u00eb, \u00e7\u2019m\u00eb thua k\u00ebshtu?! Po ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb vajza ime, moj! Esht\u00eb\ngjaku i gjakut tim, \u00ebsht\u00eb pjes\u00eb e trupit tim… Po un\u00eb jam babai i saj, moj!\u201d,\npor s\u2019fola. I buz\u00ebqesha. As vet\u00eb s\u2019e di se si gjith\u00eb ai tension u shnd\u00ebrrua n\u00eb\nbuz\u00ebqeshje\u2026 Ju m\u00eb pyesni n\u00ebse duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb i pranish\u00ebm babai n\u00eb lindjen e\nfemij\u00ebs s\u00eb vet? Kam d\u00ebgjuar t\u00eb flitet shum\u00eb p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb dhe s\u2019dua t\u00eb d\u00ebnoj asnj\u00eb\np\u00ebr mendimet e shprehura; dua t\u00eb them vet\u00ebm se prania ime n\u00eb lindjen e vajz\u00ebs\nishte e domosdoshme edhe p\u00ebr gruan, edhe p\u00ebr mua. Prania ime m\u00eb ndihmoi t\u00eb\nkuptoj se ne meshkujt vuajm\u00eb ende nga shum\u00eb paragjykime t\u00eb vjet\u00ebruara, nga t\u00eb\ncilat duhet t\u00eb shk\u00ebputemi nj\u00eb or\u00eb e m\u00eb par\u00eb. T\u00eb gjitha sa thuhen kund\u00ebr\npjes\u00ebmarrjes son\u00eb n\u00eb procesin e lindjes jan\u00eb pjell\u00eb e k\u00ebtyre paragjykimeve.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 3. Thon\u00eb se po t\u00eb shikoj\u00eb nj\u00eb\nmashkull gruan e tij duke lindur i zbehen t\u00eb gjitha d\u00ebshirat p\u00ebr t\u00eb vazhduar\njet\u00ebn seksuale me t\u00eb. Marr\u00ebzi m\u00eb t\u00eb madhe s\u2019m\u00eb kan\u00eb d\u00ebgjuar vesh\u00ebt! Un\u00eb kam\nasistuar vet\u00eb n\u00eb lindjen e binjak\u00ebve tan\u00eb dhe m\u00eb vjen keq vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr nj\u00eb gj\u00eb: Nuk\ne fiksuam n\u00eb kamera daljen ton\u00eb me t\u00eb dy f\u00ebmij\u00ebt n\u00eb gjoks, vajz\u00ebn un\u00eb e djalin\nime shoqe dhe t\u00eb them t\u00eb drejt\u00ebn, mezi kam pritur plot\u00ebsimin e dit\u00ebve t\u00eb\nlehonis\u00eb\u2026 Kush e di se \u00e7\u2019dreq mashkulli ka qen\u00eb ai q\u00eb sjellin si argument ata\nq\u00eb nuk e pranojn\u00eb pjes\u00ebmarrjen e burrit n\u00eb lindje, po jam i bindur se ai, edhe\npara asaj, nuk ka qen\u00eb normal\u2026 Un\u00eb, edhe po vendos\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb tretin, do t\u00eb\nshkoj\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n K\u00ebto ishin me pak fjal\u00eb argumentet pro\ndhe kund\u00ebr pranis\u00eb s\u00eb babait n\u00eb lindjen e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs s\u00eb vet. A arrit\u00ebn vall\u00eb ata\nq\u00eb jan\u00eb pro t\u00eb bindin kund\u00ebrshtar\u00ebt e tyre? S\u2019e dim\u00eb. Nj\u00eb gj\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e qart\u00eb: Edhe\nn\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb rast, fjal\u00ebn e fundit do ta thot\u00eb vet\u00ebm \u00e7ifti!<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" \u00c7\u00ebshtja n\u00ebse duhet t\u00eb jen\u00eb apo jo t\u00eb pranish\u00ebm bashk\u00ebshort\u00ebt n\u00eb lindjen e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve t\u00eb tyre, ka dal\u00eb tanim\u00eb nga kuadri i diskutimit teorik dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb shtruar p\u00ebr zgjidhje konkrete edhe n\u00eb vendin ton\u00eb. Me sa duket, votat kund\u00ebr mbizot\u00ebrojn\u00eb, por edhe ato pro, nuk jan\u00eb t\u00eb pak\u00ebta. 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