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Dy shok\u00eb nga Gjirokastra na shkruajn\u00eb se d\u00ebshirojn\u00eb t\u00eb dijn\u00eb cilat jan\u00eb shkaqet q\u00eb e shtyjn\u00eb nj\u00eb grua n\u00eb tradh\u00ebti bashk\u00ebshortore. Megjith\u00ebse vet\u00eb problemi \u00ebsht\u00eb delikat dhe shkaqet jan\u00eb t\u00eb shumta e t\u00eb natyrave nga m\u00eb t\u00eb ndryshmet, duke u mb\u00ebshtetur n\u00eb mendimin e psikolog\u00ebve dhe seksolog\u00ebve m\u00eb t\u00eb njohur, po p\u00ebrpiqemi t\u2019ua plot\u00ebsojm\u00eb d\u00ebshir\u00ebn, duke theksuar disa prej motiveve q\u00eb i shtyjn\u00eb grat\u00eb drejt tradhtis\u00eb… <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n 1. Pak\u00ebnaq\u00ebsia\nseksuale ndaj partnerit<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Sipas specialist\u00ebve,\nshkaku kryesor q\u00eb i shtyn grat\u00eb t\u2019i tradhtojn\u00eb bashk\u00ebshort\u00ebt e tyre, sado banal\nq\u00eb t\u00eb duket, \u00ebsht\u00eb pak\u00ebnaq\u00ebsia e tyre nga marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet seksuale bashk\u00ebshortore\ndhe, n\u00eb radh\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb, mungesa e orgazmave gjat\u00eb k\u00ebtyre marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve. \u00c7do\nfemre, sado e \u201cftoht\u00eb\u201d t\u00eb duket, nuk i mungon aft\u00ebsia p\u00ebr ta arritur orgazm\u00ebn\ngjat\u00eb kontaktit seksual dhe, n\u00eb qoft\u00eb se ajo nuk e arrin at\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00eb koh\u00eb pak a\nshum\u00eb t\u00eb gjat\u00eb, at\u00ebhere, n\u00eb kushtet e mospajtimit seksual t\u00eb t\u00eb dy partner\u00ebve,\ndo t\u00eb filloj\u00eb ta k\u00ebrkoj\u00eb k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsin\u00eb gjetk\u00eb… N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb rast, n\u00eb fakt, shum\u00eb gra\nnxitohen dhe zgjedhin rrug\u00ebn m\u00eb t\u00eb shkurt\u00ebr, sepse, sipas mendimit t\u00eb shum\u00eb psikoterapeut\u00ebve,\nky \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb problem q\u00eb zgjidhet pa shum\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsi. P\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb, n\u00eb radh\u00eb t\u00eb\npar\u00eb, ato duhet t\u00eb hyjn\u00eb n\u00eb rrug\u00ebn e dialogut me bashk\u00ebshortin e tyre dhe t\u2019i\nparaqesin atij gjendjen reale. Si rregull, grat\u00eb kan\u00eb frik\u00eb t\u00eb ngren\u00eb para\nbashk\u00ebshort\u00ebve t\u00eb tyre probleme t\u00eb k\u00ebsaj natyre, i kalojn\u00eb ato n\u00eb heshtje dhe e\nl\u00ebn\u00eb pak\u00ebnaq\u00ebsin\u00eb t\u00eb shtohet… Nd\u00ebrkaq, gruaja mund t\u00eb takoj\u00eb fare rast\u00ebsisht\nnj\u00eb njeri me t\u00eb cilin, edhe n\u00eb munges\u00eb t\u00eb lidhjeve emocionale e t\u00eb ndjenjave t\u00eb\ndashuris\u00eb, t\u00eb arrij\u00eb n\u00eb orgaz\u00ebm. Ve\u00e7 k\u00ebsaj, po t\u00eb flasim p\u00ebr an\u00ebn fiziologjike\nt\u00eb problemit, gruan e shtyn n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb rrug\u00eb jo vet\u00ebm pak\u00ebnaq\u00ebsia p\u00ebr arritjen e\norgazmave dhe cil\u00ebsin\u00eb e seksit, por edhe p\u00ebr sasin\u00eb e kontakteve brenda nj\u00eb\nkohe t\u00eb caktuar. Natyrisht, e kemi fjal\u00ebn p\u00ebr grat\u00eb normale, t\u00eb cilat mbeten t\u00eb\npak\u00ebnaqura kur numri i kontakteve seksuale me bashk\u00ebshortin ulet \u201cn\u00ebn norm\u00eb\u201d\np\u00ebr munges\u00eb t\u00eb iniciativ\u00ebs s\u00eb burrit, kur ai fillon e justifikohet se i dhemb\nkoka dhe s\u2019e ndjen veten mir\u00eb, se \u00ebsht\u00eb i lodhur, i m\u00ebrzitur, etj. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Me k\u00ebt\u00eb rast,\npsikolog\u00ebt dhe seksolog\u00ebt kan\u00eb porosi t\u00eb ve\u00e7ant\u00eb p\u00ebr burrat: \u201cMendohuni mir\u00eb\nkur i ktheni kurrizin n\u00eb shtrat bashk\u00ebshortes, pasi ajo ka nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr ju dhe\naf\u00ebrsin\u00eb tuaj, jo vet\u00ebm kur t\u2019ju teket juve, nj\u00eb her\u00eb n\u00eb muaj, por edhe m\u00eb\ndendur\u201d, nd\u00ebrsa grave ata u japin k\u00ebt\u00eb k\u00ebshill\u00eb: \u201cO gra, mos druani, flisni\nhapur me bashk\u00ebshort\u00ebt tuaj, pag\u00ebzojini gj\u00ebrat me emrat q\u00eb kan\u00eb, pa zbutur\nasgj\u00eb. N\u00eb fund t\u00eb fundit, kush do t\u2019ju shaj\u00eb juve sepse doni ta g\u00ebzoni sa m\u00eb\nshum\u00eb jet\u00ebn me bashk\u00ebshort\u00ebt tuaj? Bisedoni p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb shtruar me burrat tuaj\u201d.\nNatyrisht, k\u00ebto biseda duhen b\u00ebr\u00eb me kujdes, duke mbajtur parasysh mas\u00ebn e\nrrethanat konkrete dhe sidomos, an\u00ebn etike, q\u00eb t\u00eb mos i fyejn\u00eb partner\u00ebt e\ntyre, sidomos t\u00eb mos prekin sedr\u00ebn prej mashkulli, e cila n\u00eb k\u00ebto raste, \u00ebsht\u00eb\nshum\u00eb e ndjeshme… <\/p>\n\n\n\n 2. Larja e \u201chesapeve\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n E kemi fjal\u00ebn p\u00ebr\nrastet kur grat\u00eb, me at\u00eb akt, sikur duan t\u2019i thon\u00eb bashk\u00ebshortit: \u201cTani jemi jek\ne jek, s\u2019i kemi asnj\u00eb borxh nj\u00ebri-tjetrit!\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Shkaku i dyt\u00eb, q\u00eb i\nshtyn grat\u00eb n\u00eb tradhti bashk\u00ebshortore, jo m\u00eb pak i p\u00ebrhapur se i pari, esht\u00eb,\nsipas specialist\u00ebve, edhe ndjenja e hakmarrjes. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb mes, rolin nxit\u00ebs e\nluan vet\u00eb burri, shembulli i tij. Ka disa meshkuj, madje, q\u00eb edhe krekosen para\ngrave t\u00eb tyre se ata jan\u00eb \u201cm\u00eb t\u00eb zot\u00ebt\u201d, edhe pas pes\u00eb vjet\u00ebsh martese mund t\u00eb\nmartohen me nj\u00eb tet\u00ebmb\u00ebdhjet\u00eb vje\u00e7are, se ata jan\u00eb n\u00eb gjendje t\u00eb mbajn\u00eb \u201cnj\u00eb\nharem t\u00eb t\u00ebr\u00eb\u201d, etj. Grat\u00eb q\u00eb jan\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb ndjeshme n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb drejtim, me t\u00eb\nmarr\u00eb vesh se bashk\u00ebshorti i tyre ka filluar t\u00eb flirtoj\u00eb me nj\u00ebr\u00ebn ose me\ntjetr\u00ebn, ia shp\u00ebrblejn\u00eb atij k\u00ebt\u00eb tradhti me \u201ct\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn monedh\u00eb\u201d. E b\u00ebjn\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb\nveprim, s\u00eb pari, p\u00ebr t\u00eb treguar se edhe ato nuk jan\u00eb m\u00eb pak t\u00eb zonjat dhe m\u00eb\npak t\u00eb k\u00ebrkuara se partner\u00ebt dhe e dyta, sepse n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb e kalojn\u00eb m\u00eb leht\u00eb\ndhe pa shum\u00eb dhimbje, situat\u00ebn e krijuar\u2026 Por, koncepti i \u201chakmarrjes\u201d p\u00ebrfshin\nnj\u00eb sfer\u00eb t\u00eb gjer\u00eb rrethanash q\u00eb e shtyjn\u00eb gruan t\u00eb z\u00ebr\u00eb dashnor. Ky mund t\u00eb\njet\u00eb edhe synimi p\u00ebr t\u00eb shp\u00ebtuar nga vart\u00ebsia psikologjike, kur burri i privon\ngruas s\u00eb tij t\u00eb drejt\u00ebn p\u00ebr t\u00eb shfaqur prirjet dhe individualitetin e vet, kur\np\u00ebrpiqet ta shnd\u00ebrroj\u00eb at\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb skllave, n\u00eb nj\u00eb amvis\u00eb t\u00eb thjesht\u00eb, etj.\nK\u00ebtyre meshkujve \u00ebsht\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u2019u kujtohet fjala e urt\u00eb se \u201cgruaja e skllav\u00ebruar\nt\u2019i v\u00eb brir\u00ebt m\u00eb t\u00eb gjat\u00eb se gruaja e lir\u00eb\u201d. Gruaja e \u201cskllav\u00ebruar\u201d do t\u00eb\np\u00ebrpiqet ta gjej\u00eb afirmimin e saj n\u00eb syt\u00eb e burrave t\u00eb tjer\u00eb, n\u00eb syt\u00eb e atyre\nq\u00eb mund t\u2019i japin asaj shpres\u00eb se me ta do ta ndjej\u00eb veten m\u00eb shum\u00eb se nj\u00eb amvis\u00eb,\ndo ta ndjej\u00eb veten nj\u00eb grua moderne, t\u00eb emancipuar… <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00cbsht\u00eb interesante,\npor e nj\u00ebjta grua, me meshkuj t\u00eb ndrysh\u00ebm, mund t\u00eb shfaq\u00eb an\u00eb t\u00eb ndryshme t\u00eb\nindividualitetit t\u00eb saj dhe k\u00ebsisoj, mund t\u00eb z\u00ebr\u00eb edhe m\u00eb shum\u00eb se nj\u00eb dashnor.\nLe t\u00eb mos harrojm\u00eb se p\u00ebrqindja e ndarjes s\u00eb \u00e7ifteve, ku burri e mban gruan \u201ct\u00eb\nn\u00ebnshtruar\u201d, \u00ebsht\u00eb shtuar shum\u00eb koh\u00ebt e fundit edhe n\u00eb vendin ton\u00eb\u2026 <\/p>\n\n\n\n 3. Vdekja e\ndashuris\u00eb s\u00eb vjet\u00ebr dhe lindja e nj\u00eb dashurie t\u00eb re<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Edhe vdekja e\ndashuris\u00eb s\u00eb vjet\u00ebr dhe ndjenja e nj\u00eb dashurie t\u00eb re mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhet shkas p\u00ebr ta\nshtyr\u00eb gruan drejt tradhtis\u00eb bashk\u00ebshortore. Ndodh q\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet intime\nfamiljare pas nj\u00ebfar\u00eb kohe t\u00eb kalojn\u00eb n\u00eb rutin\u00eb, krevati bashk\u00ebshortor \u201cftohet\u201d,\ne humbet magjin\u00eb t\u00ebrheq\u00ebse, nd\u00ebrsa bashk\u00ebshort\u00ebt i \u201cmbijn\u00eb n\u00eb sy nj\u00ebri-tjetrit\u201d.\nN\u00eb k\u00ebto e sip\u00ebr, del n\u00eb horizont \u201cAi\u201d, mashkulli ideal i jet\u00ebs t\u00ebnde, t\u00eb cilit\nti nuk i njeh asnj\u00eb t\u00eb met\u00eb e mang\u00ebsi. Ai, para teje, del gjithmon\u00eb i veshur si\ndh\u00ebnd\u00ebrr, me kravat\u00eb, me k\u00ebpuc\u00eb t\u00eb llustruara, ngaher\u00eb i buz\u00ebqeshur, me syt\u00eb q\u00eb\ni shk\u00eblqejn\u00eb nga potenca seksuale dhe g\u00ebzimi i jet\u00ebs\u2026 Atij ti nuk i ke d\u00ebgjuar\nasnj\u00eb r\u00ebnkim apo psher\u00ebtim\u00eb, ai s’di t\u00eb kollitet\u2026 \u201cOh, thua ti me vete, ja, ky\n\u00ebsht\u00eb burr\u00eb! T\u00eb kem gabuar vall\u00eb, kur rash\u00eb n\u00eb krah\u00ebt e atij t\u00eb humburit q\u00eb kam n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi? Me siguri q\u00eb kam\ngabuar. E re kam qen\u00eb, pa p\u00ebrvoj\u00eb kam qen\u00eb\u2026\u201d. Mir\u00ebpo, si thot\u00eb nj\u00eb fjal\u00eb e urt\u00eb\npopullore, \u201catje ku fillojn\u00eb krahasimet e burrit t\u00ebnd me t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt, dashuria ka\nvdekur me koh\u00eb ose \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb grahmat e fundit\u201d. Disa gra, duke u ndodhur n\u00eb nj\u00eb\nsituat\u00eb t\u00eb till\u00eb, natyrisht, kan\u00eb frik\u00eb t’i hyjn\u00eb rrug\u00ebs s\u00eb ndryshimeve, kan\u00eb\nfrik\u00eb t\u2019i nd\u00ebrpresin marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet bashk\u00ebshortore dhe t\u00eb fillojn\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie t\u00eb\ntjera nga e para sheshit, ligj\u00ebrisht, pra, t\u00eb ndahen… At\u00ebhere? At\u00ebhere e shohin\nm\u00eb t\u00eb arsyeshme t\u00eb dyzohen; edhe mishi t\u00eb piqet, edhe helli t\u00eb mos digjet. Ato\nvazhdojn\u00eb t\u00eb flen\u00eb n\u00eb shtratin bashk\u00ebshortor, vazhdojn\u00eb t\u00eb han\u00eb e t\u00eb pin\u00eb me \u201ckatranin\u201d\ndhe shkojn\u00eb ta b\u00ebjn\u00eb \u201cqejfin\u201d me \u201cKatanin\u201d, pra, z\u00ebn\u00eb t\u00eb dashur n\u00eb ilegalitet\nt\u00eb plot\u00eb… Mir\u00eb? Keq? Ndoshta do t\u00eb ishte m\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb shk\u00ebputeshin nga lidhjet\ne para, t’i jepnin mund\u00ebsi edhe atij mjerani ta \u201crregullonte jet\u00ebn\u201d sipas\nm\u00ebnyr\u00ebs s\u00eb vet. Natyrisht, secili e di vet\u00eb \u201cse ku i pikon sht\u00ebpia\u201d, e zgjedh\nvet\u00eb rrug\u00ebn q\u00eb duhet ndjekur, por edhe t\u00eb rrish t\u00eb vuash gjith\u00eb jet\u00ebn p\u00ebr nj\u00eb\ngabim q\u00eb e ke b\u00ebr\u00eb n\u00eb mosh\u00eb t\u00eb re, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e drejt\u00eb. Nga ana tjet\u00ebr, s’ka se\nsi t\u00eb mos mbash parasysh se t\u00eb gjitha sekretet dalin n\u00eb nj\u00eb dit\u00eb t\u00eb bukur dhe\nti mbetesh para syve t\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve ashtu sikurse je: G\u00ebnjeshtare, hipokrite, e\ndyzuar. <\/p>\n\n\n\n 4. Mospajtimet p\u00ebr\nprobleme t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme t\u00eb jet\u00ebs s\u00eb p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Ky \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb shkak\nq\u00eb ndikon edhe drejtp\u00ebrdrejt, edhe indirekt te tradhtia. I r\u00ebnd\u00eb, shum\u00eb i r\u00ebnd\u00eb\n\u00ebsht\u00eb fati i nj\u00eb gruaje q\u00eb e ka bashk\u00ebshortin grindavec. Ndikon drejtp\u00ebrdrejt\nsepse burri grindavec e mban gruan gjith\u00eb koh\u00ebn n\u00eb nj\u00eb tension t\u00eb madh\nshpirt\u00ebror, i krijon strese, t\u00eb cilat ajo p\u00ebrpiqet t\u2019i shkarkoj\u00eb, qoft\u00eb edhe\nduke u shoq\u00ebruar me nj\u00eb mashkull tjet\u00ebr, p\u00ebr t\u00eb zhvilluar nj\u00eb bised\u00eb normale,\np\u00ebr t\u00eb d\u00ebgjuar nj\u00eb z\u00eb t\u00eb qet\u00eb mashkulli. Ndikon t\u00ebrthorazi se burri grindavec e\nm\u00ebrzit aq shum\u00eb t\u00eb shoqen gjat\u00eb gjith\u00eb dit\u00ebs, saq\u00eb n\u00eb mbr\u00ebmje ajo e ndjen veten\nt\u00eb lodhur p\u00ebr t’iu p\u00ebrgjigjur k\u00ebrkesave\nt\u00eb tij p\u00ebr seks\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n Shkaqe t\u00eb tjera<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n K\u00ebto jan\u00eb, me pak\nfjal\u00eb, shkaqet kryesore q\u00eb e shtyjn\u00eb nj\u00eb grua t\u00eb k\u00ebrkoj\u00eb t\u00eb dashur dhe t\u00eb futet\nn\u00eb rrug\u00ebn e tradhtis\u00eb bashk\u00ebshortore, por k\u00ebto p\u00ebrs\u00ebri nuk e shterojn\u00eb\nplot\u00ebsisht pyetjen e shtruar n\u00eb fillim t\u00eb artikullit: Ka, natyrisht edhe shum\u00eb\nshkaqe t\u00eb tjera t\u00eb dor\u00ebs s\u00eb dyt\u00eb dhe t\u00eb tret\u00eb, t\u00eb cilave \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u2019ua\ngjesh rr\u00ebnj\u00ebt\u2026 Sidoqoft\u00eb, nj\u00eb gj\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e qart\u00eb; grat\u00eb duan t\u00eb kompensojn\u00eb at\u00eb \u00e7ka\nu mungon n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e tyre bashk\u00ebshortore dhe kjo, deri diku, \u00ebsht\u00eb brenda\nnatyr\u00ebs njer\u00ebzore. \u00c7do njeri k\u00ebrkon at\u00eb q\u00eb i mungon, apo jo? Ndodh, ta z\u00ebm\u00eb, se\nbashk\u00ebshorti i X-it \u00ebsht\u00eb tullac, i pak\u00ebt n\u00eb trup, nd\u00ebrsa ajo mban ende shoq\u00ebri\nme shokun e universitetit, leshtor, truphedhur, nj\u00eb ma\u00e7o i v\u00ebrtet\u00eb muskuloz\u2026\nMund t\u00eb ndodh\u00eb edhe tjetra: Burri i Y-nit \u00ebsht\u00eb paksa i kursyer n\u00eb l\u00ebdhatime,\nputhjet e nxehta q\u00eb i jep e shoqja, nuk i b\u00ebjn\u00eb asnj\u00eb p\u00ebrshtypje. K\u00ebsisoj,\ndashur padashur, n\u00eb shpirtin e saj ndjehet mungesa e nj\u00eb mashkulli ledhatar, t\u00eb\nndjesh\u00ebm, romantik\u2026 <\/p>\n\n\n\n Me k\u00eb tradhtojn\u00eb?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Edhe dashnor\u00ebt mund\nt’i ndash gjithashtu n\u00eb tri kategori; Dashnor thjesht p\u00ebr seks, dashnor p\u00ebr\nafinitet shpirt\u00ebror dhe dashnor\u00eb virtual\u00eb…<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Dashnor\u00eb p\u00ebr seks<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Dashnor\u00ebt p\u00ebr seks\ni z\u00ebn\u00eb grat\u00eb e pik\u00ebs s\u00eb par\u00eb, q\u00eb kan\u00eb pak\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi t\u00eb theksuara nga marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet\nseksuale me bashk\u00ebshort\u00ebt e tyre, kryesisht ato, q\u00eb nuk arrijn\u00eb orgaz\u00ebm. Ato\nmund t\u00eb jen\u00eb lidhur me nj\u00eb njeri t\u00eb mrekulluesh\u00ebm, t\u00eb sjellsh\u00ebm, pa shum\u00eb\npretendime p\u00ebr gruan si amvis\u00eb, q\u00eb p\u00ebrgatit vet\u00eb m\u00ebngjesin dhe nuk i imponohet\nkurr\u00eb asaj, nj\u00eb njeri i afruar dhe i dhimbsh\u00ebm, q\u00eb i f\u00ebrkon s\u00eb shoqes supet kur\ne sheh t\u00eb lodhur, mir\u00ebpo n\u00eb krevat \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb zero me xhufk\u00eb, si i thon\u00eb fjal\u00ebs,\nose nuk ka qejf t\u00eb puth\u00eb\u2026 <\/p>\n\n\n\n Burri s\u2019do? At\u00ebhere\nz\u00eb nj\u00eb t\u00eb dashur. Nuk ka r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi n\u00ebse ai \u00ebsht\u00eb beqar apo i martuar, mjafton t\u00eb\ndij\u00eb t\u00eb puth\u00eb mir\u00eb\u2026 Gruaja takohet me t\u00eb periodikisht dhe pasi ngarkohet me\nemocione pozitive nga puthjet e tij virtuoze, shkon n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi t\u00eb saj dhe\ndashnori shkon n\u00eb pun\u00eb t\u00eb vet… T\u00eb gjesh nj\u00eb dashnor t\u00eb till\u00eb p\u00ebr seks, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb\nv\u00ebshtir\u00ebsi e madhe. Nj\u00eb t\u00eb till\u00eb e gjen kudo; n\u00eb pun\u00eb, n\u00eb park, n\u00eb oborrin para\npallatit, por sidoqoft\u00eb, specialist\u00ebt v\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb dukje se orgazmat e arrira n\u00eb\nk\u00ebt\u00eb rrug\u00eb, nuk jane orgazma t\u00eb mir\u00ebfillta, jan\u00eb si surrogati i krahasuar me\nkafen\u00eb\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n Dashnor\u00ebt, p\u00ebr\nafinitet shpirt\u00ebror<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Dashnor\u00eb t\u00eb till\u00eb z\u00ebn\u00eb\nato gra q\u00eb nuk e gjejn\u00eb afinitetin shpirt\u00ebror te bashk\u00ebshorti i tyre. Burri i\nnj\u00eb gruaje, fjala vjen, \u00ebsht\u00eb gjigand, me potenc\u00eb t\u00eb madhe seksuale, mir\u00ebpo i\nheshtur si peshk dhe gjall\u00ebrohet vet\u00ebm para ekranit, kur fiton skuadra e tij e\nzemr\u00ebs. Ai njeh vet\u00ebm futbollin, mir\u00ebpo bashk\u00ebshortes s\u00eb tij t\u00eb varf\u00ebr i shkon\nmendja nganj\u00ebher\u00eb edhe te teatri, d\u00ebshiron t\u00eb lexoj\u00eb dhe t\u00eb ndaj\u00eb p\u00ebrshtypjet\np\u00ebr librin e ri me dik\u00eb, ka nevoj\u00eb, n\u00eb fund t\u00eb fundit, edhe p\u00ebr nj\u00eb sh\u00ebtitje t\u00eb\nthjesht\u00eb n\u00eb park e t\u00eb bisedoj\u00eb me t\u00eb shoqin. Po me k\u00eb t\u00eb bisedoj\u00eb? Atij i \u00ebsht\u00eb\nb\u00ebr\u00eb mendja \u201cfutboll\u201d. At\u00ebhere? Lind nevoja p\u00ebr t\u00eb \u201cbiseduar\u201d me dik\u00eb tjet\u00ebr!\nDhe ja, shfaqet n\u00eb horizont ai, t\u00eb cilin zakonisht e quajn\u00eb \u201cshok\u201d, mik sht\u00ebpie\napo fqinj\u00eb dhe fillojn\u00eb bisedat p\u00ebr gjith\u00e7ka. Seks, zakonisht, k\u00ebtyre grave nuk\nu duhet; ato jan\u00eb t\u00eb ngopura me \u201cdemat\u201d e tyre. Ato kan\u00eb nevoj\u00eb vet\u00ebm t\u00eb\nbisedojn\u00eb, t\u00eb shk\u00ebmbejn\u00eb nj\u00eb mendim p\u00ebr nj\u00eb film, p\u00ebr nj\u00eb lib\u00ebr, p\u00ebr nj\u00eb artist\nt\u00eb d\u00ebgjuar, p\u00ebr nj\u00eb lule dhe peizazh t\u00eb bukur, ato kan\u00eb nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb e\nnj\u00eb mashkulli me horizont m\u00eb t\u00eb gjer\u00eb se ai i bashk\u00ebshort\u00ebve t\u00eb tyre\u2026 Me nj\u00eb\nfjal\u00eb, atyre u duhet dhe k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb vet\u00ebm \u201cseks intelektual\u201d. Natyrisht,\nfillimisht, kjo shoq\u00ebri dhe miq\u00ebsi nuk ka asgj\u00eb t\u00eb keqe, por si i thon\u00eb, dardha\ne ka bishtin prapa. \u00c7\u2019do t\u00eb ndodh\u00eb sikur nga af\u00ebrsia shpirt\u00ebrore, nga mendimet\ne p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebta, nga simpatia e thjesht\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00ebri-tjetrin, t\u00eb lind\u00eb dashuria? Shoku,\nmiku, do t\u00eb shnd\u00ebrrohet n\u00eb dashnor. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Dashnor\u00ebt virtual\u00eb<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n N\u00eb grupin e tret\u00eb\nt\u00eb dashnor\u00ebve mund t\u00eb futim ata q\u00eb duken m\u00eb pak t\u00eb rreziksh\u00ebm; q\u00eb zihen rast\u00ebsisht\nn\u00eb telefon, nga nj\u00eb telefonat\u00eb n\u00eb dukje rast\u00ebsore apo n\u00eb internet. Personat q\u00eb\nbisedojn\u00eb nuk njihen dhe kjo, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb tradhti, mir\u00ebpo pasi trashet muhabeti,\ngruas i lind d\u00ebshira ta shikoj\u00eb se me k\u00eb ka kuvenduar ose ka shk\u00ebmbyer mesazhe\ndhe pranon takimin. Zakonisht, grat\u00eb, n\u00eb k\u00ebto raste, mbeten t\u00eb zhg\u00ebnjyera sepse\nedhe gruaja me fantazin\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb zbeht\u00eb, p\u00ebrfytyron se n\u00eb an\u00ebn tjet\u00ebr t\u00eb telefonit\n\u00ebsht\u00eb mish\u00ebrimi i gjall\u00eb i burrit ideal, nd\u00ebrsa burra ideal\u00eb s’ka! Por,\nnatyrisht, ndodh q\u00eb edhe t\u00eb mos p\u00ebsoj\u00eb zhg\u00ebnjim ose t\u00eb \u201ctejkalohet\u201d parashikimi\u2026\n<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ja, k\u00ebshtu jan\u00eb\npun\u00ebt, shoqe dhe mikesha t\u00eb dashura, prandaj, ashtu sikurse k\u00ebshillojn\u00eb\nspecialist\u00ebt, para se t\u00eb hedh\u00ebsh nj\u00eb hap n\u00eb rrug\u00eb, n\u00eb telefon apo n\u00eb internet,\nmendoni thell\u00eb. Natyrisht, mund t\u00eb ndodh\u00eb q\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb faz\u00eb t\u00eb caktuar, familja\njuaj t\u00eb jet\u00eb n\u00eb kriz\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00eb, por \u00ebsht\u00eb mir\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha p\u00ebrpjekjet t\u00eb b\u00ebhen\np\u00ebr t\u00eb shp\u00ebtuar at\u00eb dhe jo p\u00ebr t\u00eb shp\u00ebtuar prej saj\u2026<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Dy shok\u00eb nga Gjirokastra na shkruajn\u00eb se d\u00ebshirojn\u00eb t\u00eb dijn\u00eb cilat jan\u00eb shkaqet q\u00eb e shtyjn\u00eb nj\u00eb grua n\u00eb tradh\u00ebti bashk\u00ebshortore. Megjith\u00ebse vet\u00eb problemi \u00ebsht\u00eb delikat dhe shkaqet jan\u00eb t\u00eb shumta e t\u00eb natyrave nga m\u00eb t\u00eb ndryshmet, duke u mb\u00ebshtetur n\u00eb mendimin e psikolog\u00ebve dhe seksolog\u00ebve m\u00eb t\u00eb njohur, po p\u00ebrpiqemi t\u2019ua plot\u00ebsojm\u00eb d\u00ebshir\u00ebn, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":21020,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[50],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-21019","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-intimitet"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21019","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=21019"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21019\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/21020"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=21019"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=21019"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=21019"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}