{"id":20985,"date":"2019-02-09T17:00:45","date_gmt":"2019-02-09T16:00:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=20985"},"modified":"2019-02-09T13:53:02","modified_gmt":"2019-02-09T12:53:02","slug":"%ef%bb%bfsi-te-gjesh-partnerin-e-duhur","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2019\/02\/%ef%bb%bfsi-te-gjesh-partnerin-e-duhur\/","title":{"rendered":"\ufeffSi t\u00eb gjesh partnerin e duhur?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ti po k\u00ebrkon nj\u00eb djal\u00eb simpatik, t\u00eb zgjuar dhe t\u00eb mir\u00eb, q\u00eb do t\u00eb lidhet\nseriozisht me ty. Cila \u00ebsht\u00eb strategjia e duhur? T\u00eb kap\u00ebrcesh disa \u201cpengesa\u201d q\u00eb\nnuk e lejojn\u00eb &#8220;radarin\u201d t\u00ebnd ta lokalizoj\u00eb princin e kalt\u00ebr\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Pengesa e par\u00eb<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Ti pret q\u00eb ai t\u00eb shfaqet si me magji<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ti do t\u00eb doje q\u00eb Ai, princi yt i kalt\u00ebr t\u00eb shfaqej papritur n\u00eb jet\u00ebn t\u00ebnde,\npor kjo pritje t\u00eb shtyn shpesh t\u00eb z\u00ebsh pozicionin e viktim\u00ebs dhe t\u00eb ankohesh pa\npushim: &#8220;Nuk po duket! Nuk do t\u00eb vij\u00eb kurr\u00eb!&#8221;. Sugjerimi yn\u00eb: Merri\nvet\u00eb frer\u00ebt e situat\u00ebs n\u00eb dor\u00eb. N\u00eb fund t\u00eb fundit, sa m\u00eb shum\u00eb burra t\u00eb\nnjoh\u00ebsh, aq m\u00eb shum\u00eb mund\u00ebsi ke p\u00ebr t\u00eb njohur partnerin t\u00ebnd t\u00eb ardhsh\u00ebm. Kjo\nduket mjaft logjike, por si realizohet? Mbase ty nuk t\u00eb p\u00eblqejn\u00eb takimet e\norganizuara nga t\u00eb tret\u00eb, por edhe ato kan\u00eb dobin\u00eb e tyre. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb\nmund\u00ebsit\u00eb shtohen dhe n\u00ebse miqt\u00eb e t\u00eb af\u00ebrmit e tu t\u00eb njohin, do t\u00eb din\u00eb \u00e7far\u00eb\ndjali t\u00eb t\u00eb prezantojn\u00eb. Nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb tjet\u00ebr \u00ebsht\u00eb edhe njohja me internet, por\nki parasysh se aty ka lloj-lloj njer\u00ebzish dhe duhet t\u00eb dish t\u00eb zgjedh\u00ebsh. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Pengesa e dyt\u00eb <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Ti ke paragjykime<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">T\u00eb gjitha grat\u00eb kan\u00eb parap\u00ebrgatitur n\u00eb mendjen e tyre nj\u00eb list\u00eb me cil\u00ebsit\u00eb\ne duhura q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb ket\u00eb burri i tyre, por n\u00ebse nuk je pak elastike e nuk b\u00ebn\nl\u00ebshime n\u00eb lidhje me k\u00ebto cil\u00ebsi, mund t\u00eb mbetesh p\u00ebrjet\u00eb beqare. N\u00ebse t\u00eb\np\u00eblqejn\u00eb burrat sportiv\u00eb, brun\u00eb, t\u00eb gjat\u00eb dhe me sy blu, po i kufizon mund\u00ebsit\u00eb\ne tua dhe ndodh q\u00eb nuk ia hedh fare syt\u00eb nj\u00eb djali interesant q\u00eb ke pran\u00eb,\nthjesht sepse ai nuk ka parametrat q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb ket\u00eb princi yt i kalt\u00ebr. Por\nedhe vajzat q\u00eb shoq\u00ebrohen me djem t\u00eb cil\u00ebt u p\u00eblqejn\u00eb, shpeshher\u00eb ndikohen nga\nshoq\u00ebria dhe familja. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">K\u00ebt\u00eb tregon edhe Daniela 26 vje\u00e7e: &#8220;Kisha n\u00eb mendje nj\u00eb djal\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb\nmadh se un\u00eb n\u00eb mosh\u00eb, serioz, avokat ose llogaritar dhe me trup t\u00eb bukur. Kur\nnjoha Andin, ai ishte pothuajse i nj\u00eb moshe me mua, piktor dhe me flok\u00eb t\u00eb\nr\u00ebna. Megjith\u00ebse u kuptuam menj\u00ebher\u00eb me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin, nuk ia prezantova\nfamiljes pa kaluar 6 muaj, sepse kisha frik\u00eb nga reagimi i tyre. N\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb,\nata m\u00eb than\u00eb se kurr\u00eb nuk m\u00eb kishin par\u00eb kaq t\u00eb lumtur dhe dashuria mes nesh\nishte m\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme se paragjykimet e mia apo t\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">P\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb arsye, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb keq t\u00eb pranosh t\u00eb takohesh me nj\u00eb djal\u00eb, i cili\nmund t\u00eb mos p\u00ebrputhet me idealin q\u00eb ke n\u00eb mendje. N\u00ebse nj\u00eb shoqe ose e njohur\ndo t\u00eb t\u00eb prezantoj\u00eb me dik\u00eb, at\u00ebher\u00eb, pse jo? N\u00ebse n\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi t\u00eb p\u00eblqejn\u00eb\ndjemt\u00eb mistrec\u00eb dhe komshiu yt q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb djal\u00eb shum\u00eb i edukuar t\u00eb fton n\u00eb nj\u00eb\ntakim, mund t\u00eb shkosh me mendjen e \u00e7liruar nga paragjykimet, p\u00ebr t\u00eb par\u00eb se\n\u00e7far\u00eb do t\u00eb ndodh\u00eb, n\u00eb vend q\u00eb t\u00eb mbyllesh n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi duke menduar: &#8220;O Zot,\n\u00e7&#8217;po b\u00ebj?&#8221;. Mbase ai nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb aq i eg\u00ebr, i pasur dhe mistrec sa t\u00eb\ndashurit e tu t\u00eb m\u00ebparsh\u00ebm, por kur jeni bashk\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebn t\u00eb ndjehesh mir\u00eb e t\u00eb\nzbavit. Harroji paragjykimet e tua! Mbase m\u00eb mir\u00eb merresh vesh me k\u00ebt\u00eb djal\u00eb,\nsesa me ata q\u00eb mendon ti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Pengesa e tret\u00eb<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Rutina e jet\u00ebs<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Nj\u00eb ekuacion i thjesht\u00eb: N\u00ebse po k\u00ebrkon partner, \u00ebsht\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme t\u00eb\nshoh\u00ebsh dhe t\u00eb t\u00eb shohin sa m\u00eb shum\u00eb djem t\u00eb jet\u00eb e mundur. Por kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb e\nleht\u00eb t\u00eb thuhet, sesa t\u00eb vihet n\u00eb praktik\u00eb, sepse ti mbase frekuenton t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtat\nlokale p\u00ebrdit\u00eb, nga puna shkon n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi dhe anasjelltas. Sugjerimi yn\u00eb: Vizito\nvende t\u00eb tjera, jo vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb par\u00eb ti fytyra t\u00eb reja, por edhe anasjelltas,\nq\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt t\u00eb t\u00eb shohin ty. Nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb e mir\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb njohur njer\u00ebz t\u00eb rinj \u00ebsht\u00eb\nt\u00eb shkosh n\u00eb palest\u00ebr ose t\u00eb regjistrohesh n\u00eb nj\u00eb kurs. K\u00ebshtu do t\u00eb gjesh nj\u00eb\ndjal\u00eb q\u00eb ka di\u00e7ka t\u00eb p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt me ty. P\u00ebrve\u00e7 k\u00ebsaj, nuk ka r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi vet\u00ebm ku\nshkon, por edhe me k\u00eb. N\u00ebse zakonisht del e shoq\u00ebruar me nj\u00eb tuf\u00eb miqsh,\nv\u00ebshtir\u00eb se mund t\u00eb t\u00eb afrohet ndonj\u00eb djal\u00eb. Nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr gj\u00eb q\u00eb mund t\u00eb t\u00eb\nd\u00ebmtoj\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb dal\u00ebsh me shoqen t\u00ebnde shum\u00eb seksi, q\u00eb t\u00ebrheq v\u00ebshtrimet e\ngjith\u00eb burrave kudo q\u00eb shkon. N\u00eb vend t\u00eb saj, dil me shoq\u00ebri t\u00eb re. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">K\u00ebt\u00eb b\u00ebri edhe Alma, 24 vje\u00e7e: &#8220;Nj\u00eb nat\u00eb dola me shoqen time t\u00eb\nklas\u00ebs, t\u00eb cil\u00ebn e kishte l\u00ebn\u00eb i dashuri nj\u00eb nat\u00eb m\u00eb par\u00eb. Ajo donte t\u00eb shkonte\nn\u00eb nj\u00eb fest\u00eb ku e kishin ftuar, por nuk kishte me k\u00eb dhe m\u00eb ftoi mua. N\u00eb\nfillim, k\u00ebrkesa e saj m&#8217;u duk e \u00e7uditshme, pasi un\u00eb nuk shoq\u00ebrohesha shum\u00eb me\nt\u00eb dhe miqt\u00eb e saj ndryshonin nga t\u00eb mit\u00eb. Ata ishin pak m\u00eb t\u00eb ngritur dhe\nintelektual\u00eb. Megjithat\u00eb, ia kalova shum\u00eb mir\u00eb, fola e qesha gjith\u00eb nat\u00ebn dhe u\nzbavita shum\u00eb. M\u00eb pas, nj\u00ebri nga miqt\u00eb e saj m\u00eb k\u00ebrkoi numrin e telefonit. Tani\nai \u00ebsht\u00eb i fejuari im.&#8221; <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Pengesa e kat\u00ebrt<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Ti b\u00ebn krahasimet mes djemve<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ti mund t\u00eb b\u00ebsh krahasimin mes nj\u00eb djali q\u00eb sapo ke njohur me t\u00eb fejuarit e\nshoqeve t\u00eb tua dhe kjo mund t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb q\u00eb pretendenti i mundsh\u00ebm t\u00eb mos duket aq i\nmir\u00eb dhe i p\u00ebrshtatsh\u00ebm. Pse ndodh kjo? Sepse n\u00eb lidhjet e shoqeve t\u00eb tua, ti\ndi vet\u00ebm at\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb thon\u00eb ato dhe kur i takon t\u00eb fejuarit e tyre, ata nuk i\ntregojn\u00eb veset e tyre\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ky ishte gabimi q\u00eb b\u00ebri Adela, 25 vje\u00e7e: &#8220;I krahasoja t\u00eb gjith\u00eb djemt\u00eb\nme Turin, t\u00eb fejuarin e mrekulluesh\u00ebm t\u00eb shoqes sime, Eliz\u00ebs. Ai i d\u00ebrgonte gjithmon\u00eb\nlule n\u00eb zyr\u00eb dhe kur vinte ta takonte ishte i sjellsh\u00ebm dhe i p\u00ebrzem\u00ebrt.\nMegjithat\u00eb u \u00e7udita shum\u00eb kur shoqja ime m\u00eb tha se ata nuk kalonin shum\u00eb koh\u00eb\ns\u00eb bashku, sepse ai ishte gjithnj\u00eb i z\u00ebn\u00eb.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Prandaj, sa her\u00eb q\u00eb e kap veten duke krahasuar lidhjen t\u00ebnde me at\u00eb t\u00eb t\u00eb\ntjer\u00ebve, kujtohu se nuk po sheh kuadrin e plot\u00eb t\u00eb situat\u00ebs. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr penges\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb idealizosh ish-t\u00eb dashurin. Me kalimin e koh\u00ebs\ndhe me shtimin e distanc\u00ebs, \u00e7do ish mund t\u00eb shnd\u00ebrrohet n\u00eb nj\u00eb qenie t\u00eb\nmrekullueshme, defektet e t\u00eb cilit i ke harruar dhe k\u00ebshtu ai kthehet n\u00eb nj\u00eb\nkonkurent t\u00eb pathyesh\u00ebm t\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb djemve t\u00eb tjer\u00eb. Mundohu t\u00eb gjesh tre nga\ndefektet q\u00eb kishte ai dhe n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb do t\u00eb jesh gati t\u00eb gjesh partner t\u00eb\nri.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Pengesa e pest\u00eb<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Ti po k\u00ebrkon n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb d\u00ebshp\u00ebruar<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Po, \u00ebsht\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb tregosh interes p\u00ebr nj\u00eb djal\u00eb n\u00eb disko, fest\u00eb, apo plazh,\npor t&#8217;i ngul\u00ebsh syt\u00eb \u00e7do djali q\u00eb t\u00eb duket interesant do t\u00eb thot\u00eb t\u00eb l\u00ebsh\np\u00ebrshtypjen sikur po thua: \u201cT\u00eb lutem, m\u00eb zgjidh mua, t\u00eb lutem!&#8221;. Djemt\u00eb e\nv\u00ebn\u00eb re menj\u00ebher\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb dhe asnjeri prej tyre nuk do t\u00eb pranonte t\u00eb dilte me nj\u00eb\nvajz\u00eb q\u00eb do t\u00eb zgjidhte cilindo, mjaft q\u00eb t\u00eb kishte t\u00eb dashur. N\u00eb vend t\u00eb\nk\u00ebsaj, relaksohu dhe mundohu t\u00eb zbavitesh sa m\u00eb shum\u00eb. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Linda, 29 vje\u00e7e tregon se e njohu shpirtin e saj binjak kur nuk kishte\nasnj\u00eb d\u00ebshir\u00eb t\u00eb njihej me nj\u00eb djal\u00eb: &#8220;Sapo isha ndar\u00eb nga i dashuri dhe\nnuk doja t\u00eb lidhesha menj\u00ebher\u00eb me nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr. Isha me nj\u00eb grup shoqesh n\u00eb nj\u00eb\nfest\u00eb duke qeshur, k\u00ebrcyer dhe duke pir\u00eb. Kur po shkoja n\u00eb banjo, nj\u00eb djal\u00eb m&#8217;u\nafrua dhe ne fol\u00ebm s\u00eb bashku. Tani jam fejuar me t\u00eb dhe pas pak koh\u00ebsh ai m\u00eb\nrr\u00ebfeu se at\u00eb nat\u00eb i kishte p\u00eblqyer m\u00eb shum\u00eb nga gjith\u00e7ka e qeshura ime.&#8221; <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Prandaj, mos b\u00ebj si tip misterioz ose shum\u00eb koket\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb shum\u00eb seksi.\nVet\u00ebm mundohu t&#8217;ia kalosh mir\u00eb. N\u00ebse nuk do t\u00eb k\u00ebrkosh t\u00eb lidhesh d\u00ebshp\u00ebrimisht\nme nj\u00eb djal\u00eb, at\u00ebher\u00eb ai do t\u00eb vij\u00eb vet\u00eb te ti.&nbsp;\n<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Ti po k\u00ebrkon nj\u00eb djal\u00eb simpatik, t\u00eb zgjuar dhe t\u00eb mir\u00eb, q\u00eb do t\u00eb lidhet seriozisht me ty. Cila \u00ebsht\u00eb strategjia e duhur? T\u00eb kap\u00ebrcesh disa \u201cpengesa\u201d q\u00eb nuk e lejojn\u00eb &#8220;radarin\u201d t\u00ebnd ta lokalizoj\u00eb princin e kalt\u00ebr\u2026 Pengesa e par\u00eb Ti pret q\u00eb ai t\u00eb shfaqet si me magji Ti do t\u00eb doje q\u00eb [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":20323,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[50],"tags":[2243],"class_list":["post-20985","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-intimitet","tag-partneri"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20985","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=20985"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20985\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/20323"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=20985"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=20985"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=20985"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}