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Jam nj\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00eb shum\u00eb e re dhe kam nj\u00eb\nvajz\u00eb 3 vje\u00e7e e gjysm\u00eb. N\u00eb vendin ku\njetoj t\u00eb gjith\u00eb q\u00eb m\u00eb njohin e m\u00eb respektojn\u00eb dhe kush ka dashur t\u00eb m\u00eb q\u00ebndroj\u00eb af\u00ebr, \u00ebsht\u00eb\nrefuzuar nga ana ime . Theksoj se jam e martuar, por bashk\u00ebshorti im ndodhet n\u00eb\nburg dhe un\u00eb prej vitesh jetoj n\u00eb nj\u00eb sht\u00ebpi me qera, me vajz\u00ebn time. Ndihem\nshum\u00eb e vetmuar, por nuk kam besim tek asnj\u00ebri. M\u00eb thoni ju lutem, a \u00ebsht\u00eb kjo\nm\u00eb e mir\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019u mbrojtur nga e keqja? Xhuljeta<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Olta Mu\u00e7a, psikologe, email\noltamuca@gmail.com:-<\/strong>\nFaleminderit p\u00ebr pyetjen e drejtuar. Njeriu \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb q\u00ebnie e cila e ka tejet\nt\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb njoh\u00eb qenien e tij. Ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb nj\u00eb e mire quhet e keqe e keqja\n\u00ebsht\u00eb e mir\u00eb. Shoq\u00ebria njer\u00ebzore lind me njeriun si individ , por ajo fillon me\nform\u00ebsimin e saj pik\u00ebrisht kur fillon celula e par\u00eb e k\u00ebsaj shoq\u00ebrie q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb\nfamilja pa familje njer\u00ebzit s\u2019do t\u00eb mund t\u00eb ekzistonin, po ashtu si\u00e7 ekzistojn\u00eb\nedhe shum\u00eb q\u00ebnie t\u00eb tjera t\u00eb gjalla. N\u00eb realitet gj\u00ebrat sa m\u00eb t\u00eb lehta jan\u00eb aq\nm\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb e kemi ne, por njeriu \u00ebsht\u00eb krijuar si q\u00ebnie e dob\u00ebt e si e\ntill\u00eb ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb e gabueshme. M\u00eb t\u00eb mirat e k\u00ebqijat e saj por ne n\u00eb realitet n\u00eb\nfakt e mira dhe e keqja jan\u00eb dy nocione . Tep\u00ebr t\u00eb gj\u00ebra q\u00eb mbartin n\u00eb vetvete\nsubjektivitet shpesh edhe t\u00eb kund\u00ebrt n\u00eb vetvete . Por ka nj\u00eb mase t\u00eb p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt\nn\u00eb mes t\u00eb gjitha krijesave njer\u00ebzore se cfar\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e mir\u00eb apo e keqe .<\/p>\n\n\n\n P\u00ebrshembull,\ne keqja apo e liga mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrkufizohet si e kund\u00ebrta e t\u00eb mir\u00ebs si n\u00eb fe dhe\netik\u00eb e keqja \u00ebsht\u00eb cil\u00ebsia moralisht e gabuar e t\u00eb gjykuarit arsyetuarit. T\u00eb\nvepruarit t\u00eb njeriut n\u00eb parim apo jet\u00eb ose ndryshe \u00ebsht\u00eb ajo q\u00eb shkakton d\u00ebm,\ndhimbje, padrejt\u00ebsi, vuajtje, shkat\u00ebrrim ose fatkeq\u00ebsi t\u00eb ndryshme por t\u00eb\nmbrohesh nga e keqja duhet pak pun\u00eb ose zgjidhja m\u00eb e mir\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u2019i l\u00ebsh t\u00eb\nshkojn\u00eb. Jo t\u00eb gjith\u00eb njer\u00ebzit jan\u00eb t\u00eb till\u00eb ka dhe njer\u00ebz t\u00eb mir\u00eb. Por, si\u00e7\nthuhet t\u00eb mir\u00ebs dhe t\u00eb keqes hapi der\u00ebn kur t\u00eb vjen se shmang dot . \u00cbsht\u00eb cikli\ni jet\u00ebs n\u00eb t\u00ebr\u00ebsi e ajo q\u00eb t\u2019i thua mua m\u00eb respektojn\u00eb ato q\u00eb m\u00eb njohin, ose n\u00eb\nvendin ku un\u00eb jetoj. \u00cbsht\u00eb di\u00e7ka e bukur pasi shoq\u00ebria jon\u00eb ka filluar t\u00eb ndryshoj\u00eb.\nP\u00ebr t\u00eb q\u00ebn\u00eb nj\u00eb shoq\u00ebri e hapur pasi n\u00eb fakt t\u00eb gjith\u00eb njer\u00ebzit kan\u00eb traumat e\ntyre, t\u00eb gjith\u00eb kan\u00eb problemet e tyre, t\u00eb gjith\u00eb jemi t\u00eb gabuesh\u00ebm si q\u00ebnie. E\nr\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb ne t\u00eb luftojm\u00eb e t\u00eb p\u00ebrballemi, t\u00eb shmangesh nga problemet\nher\u00ebt apo von\u00eb do p\u00ebrballesh. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb di\u00e7ka q\u00eb ngelet aty \u00ebsht\u00eb e p\u00ebrkoheshme\n\u00e7do gj\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb relative. Jeta \u00ebsht\u00eb dhurata m\u00eb e bukur q\u00eb ne kemi \u00e7do gj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr\n\u00ebsht\u00eb e p\u00ebrkohshme n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb bot\u00eb ku n\u00eb jetojm\u00eb saq\u00eb ndonj\u00eb her\u00eb na duket si nj\u00eb\n\u00ebnd\u00ebrr e keqe. Jan\u00eb vitet q\u00eb na ikin shpejt e shpejt e n\u00eb se kuptojm\u00eb . Nd\u00ebrsa\nt\u00eb keqen njer\u00ebzit e kan t\u00eb lindur madje lindin me at\u00eb shpirt po ashtu si\nnjer\u00ebzit e mir\u00eb, e realisht t\u00eb keqes s\u2019mund ti mbrohesh po ashtu edhe kur je i\nlumtur \u00ebsht\u00eb di\u00e7ka q\u00eb vjen n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb spontane e rast\u00ebsor\u00eb p\u00ebr ne. E r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishm\u00eb\n\u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb ne t\u00eb ndjehemi t\u00eb lumtur me t\u00eb af\u00ebrmit tan\u00eb, ti japim nj\u00eb mund\u00ebsi p\u00ebr\nt\u00eb qen\u00eb t\u00eb lumtur, thjesht p\u00ebr nj\u00eb kafe apo p\u00ebr t\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb shaka. T\u00eb vler\u00ebsosh\njet\u00ebn e bot\u00ebn , lumturia buron nga brenda nesh pavar\u00ebsisht sesa her\u00eb ngrihemi\napo rr\u00ebzohemi ne. Duhet t\u00eb jemi sa m\u00eb t\u00eb socializuar n\u00eb shoq\u00ebri qoft\u00eb edhe me\nnjer\u00ebzit<\/p>\n\n\n\n t\u00eb\naf\u00ebrt ose jo! Nga ana tjet\u00ebr k\u00ebrko mb\u00ebshtetje nga njer\u00ebzit t\u00eb cil\u00ebt i ke pran\u00eb\nfamiljar\u00eb ose miq, q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb mb\u00ebshtesin n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb moment t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb q\u00eb ti po\np\u00ebrjeton. Fol me ta k\u00ebrko ndihm\u00eb sa m\u00eb shum\u00eb sepse nuk duhet ta p\u00ebrballosh e\nvetme ket\u00eb situat\u00eb . E kuptoj q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb kjo pjes\u00eb p\u00ebr ty t\u00eb p\u00ebrballosh\ne vetme ket\u00eb situat\u00eb, prandaj mb\u00ebshtetja tek njer\u00ebzit m\u00eb t\u00eb af\u00ebrt dhe tek ekspert\u00ebt\ne fush\u00ebs \u00eb sht\u00eb m\u00ebse e nevojshme. Merr pak koh\u00eb edhe p\u00ebr veten, mb\u00ebshtetu tek\ndashuria q\u00eb ndjen p\u00ebr bashk\u00ebshortin e shpreso q\u00eb problemi t\u00eb zgjidhet. E di q\u00eb\n\u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb por un\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebrkoj t\u00eb b\u00ebhesh e fort\u00eb p\u00ebr v\u00ebt\u00ebn t\u00ebnde p\u00ebr\nbashk\u00ebshortin e vajz\u00ebn t\u00ebnde. T\u00eb mundohesh t\u00eb jesh e lumtur sado e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb\nb\u00ebhet jeta , ke arsye e motiv p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb e lumtur . Lumturia s\u00ebsht\u00eb se ka\nndonj\u00eb recet\u00eb specifike ajo thjesht ndjehet tek gj\u00ebrat e vogla t\u00eb padukshme p\u00ebr\nne por edhe t\u00eb bukur nj\u00eb koh\u00ebsisht. N\u00ebse situata p\u00ebrkeq\u00ebsohet dhe ti s\u2019mund ta\np\u00ebrballosh emocionalisht, pavar\u00ebsisht ndihm\u00ebs s\u00eb njer\u00ebzve t\u00eb af\u00ebrt, mund t\u00eb\nkontaktosh me nj\u00eb psikolog. Shpresoj t\u2019ju kem ardhur sado pak n\u00eb ndihm\u00eb. Faleminderit!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Jam nj\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00eb shum\u00eb e re dhe kam nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb 3 vje\u00e7e e gjysm\u00eb. N\u00eb vendin ku jetoj t\u00eb gjith\u00eb q\u00eb m\u00eb njohin e m\u00eb respektojn\u00eb dhe kush ka dashur t\u00eb m\u00eb q\u00ebndroj\u00eb af\u00ebr, \u00ebsht\u00eb refuzuar nga ana ime . Theksoj se jam e martuar, por bashk\u00ebshorti im ndodhet n\u00eb burg dhe un\u00eb prej vitesh […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":20806,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[86],"tags":[1822],"class_list":["post-20883","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-psikologu","tag-olta-muca"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20883","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=20883"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20883\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/20806"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=20883"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=20883"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=20883"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}