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E dim\u00eb mir\u00eb se ka gj\u00ebra q\u00eb duhen evituar kur e ke\nzemr\u00ebn e thyer. Prova jan\u00eb k\u00ebto dhjet\u00eb gabime q\u00eb nuk duhen b\u00ebr\u00eb asnj\u00ebher\u00eb pas\nndarjes!<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n 1. T\u2019u telefonosh gjith\u00eb miqve p\u00ebr t\u00eb shar\u00eb ish-in<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n N\u00eb mosh\u00ebn 15 vje\u00e7are, e kishim zakon t\u00eb k\u00ebrkonim k\u00ebshill\u00ebn e shoqeve para\nse t\u00eb puthnim nj\u00eb djal\u00eb. N\u00eb mosh\u00ebn 20 vje\u00e7are, me shoqen e ngusht\u00eb b\u00ebnim list\u00ebn\nn\u00eb kolonat \u201cpro\u201d dhe \u201ckundra\u201d, p\u00ebr t\u00eb ditur n\u00ebse duhej t\u00eb rrinim me X-in, ose\njo. N\u00eb mosh\u00ebn 30 vje\u00e7are, \u00ebsht\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb evitojm\u00eb (me gjith\u00eb d\u00ebshir\u00ebn e madhe)\nt\u2019u telefonojm\u00eb gjith\u00eb miqve q\u00eb kemi, p\u00ebr t\u2019u ankuar dhe kritikuar \u201ck\u00ebt\u00eb\nbastard\u201d, \u201ck\u00ebt\u00eb pervers impotent\u201d, \u201ck\u00ebt\u00eb derr t\u00eb ndyr\u00eb\u201d. Nga nj\u00ebra an\u00eb, sepse\nai mund t\u00eb ket\u00eb krijuar pak shoq\u00ebri me ta q\u00eb prej koh\u00ebs kur ishit bashk\u00eb dhe nga\nana tjet\u00ebr, sepse ju mund t\u00eb rilidheni p\u00ebrs\u00ebri me t\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb t\u00eb ardhme, ku i\ndihet? At\u00ebhere, veproni si e rritur dhe mbajeni brenda hidh\u00ebrimin gjat\u00eb or\u00ebve t\u00eb\npara, ose flisni vet\u00ebm me shoqen e ngusht\u00eb, q\u00eb t\u00eb mos pendoheni m\u00eb pas p\u00ebr\nsharjen e \u201cperversit impotent\u201d. <\/p>\n\n\n\n 2. T\u2019i telefonosh ish-it para k\u00ebtij ish-i<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Le t\u00eb jemi t\u00eb sinqerta: Sapo ndahemi ose na l\u00ebn\u00eb, kemi vet\u00ebm nj\u00eb d\u00ebshir\u00eb: T\u2019i\ntelefonojm\u00eb t\u00eb dashurit t\u00eb vjet\u00ebr, me t\u00eb cilin kemi qen\u00eb t\u00eb lumtura t\u00eb pakt\u00ebn 4\nmuaj rresht. Kemi d\u00ebshir\u00eb ta shohim n\u00eb sy k\u00ebt\u00eb burr\u00eb me t\u00eb cilin kemi jetuar nj\u00eb\nhistori dashurie reciproke, gj\u00eb q\u00eb na rijep shpres\u00eb (megjith\u00ebse n\u00eb fakt, lidhja\nka qen\u00eb katastrofike) kur mendojm\u00eb se si tjetri, \u201cderri i ndyr\u00eb\u201d, na ka\nbraktisur. Por, ka ardhur koha t\u00eb ndryshoni reflekset e gabuara, sepse t\u00eb rrish\nme ish-in para ish-it, do t\u00eb thot\u00eb thjesht t\u00eb g\u00ebrmosh m\u00eb thell\u00eb n\u00eb t\u00eb shkuar\u00ebn,\nnd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb q\u00eb duhet shkuar p\u00ebrpara. Ide super e keqe!<\/p>\n\n\n\n 3. T\u00eb strehohesh te shoku gej (ose kush\u00ebrira e\nmartuar)<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n N\u00eb k\u00ebto koh\u00eb beqarie t\u00eb sapofilluar, ndjeheni keq shpirt\u00ebrisht dhe ju duhen\nmiq t\u00eb lidhur me qendrat tuaja t\u00eb interesit. E dim\u00eb se keni vet\u00ebm nj\u00eb d\u00ebshir\u00eb:\nT\u00eb kontrolloni profilin e Facebook-ut t\u00eb ish-it tuaj \u00e7do 30 sekonda, por duhet\nt\u00eb b\u00ebni at\u00eb q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb duke b\u00ebr\u00eb edhe ai n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb moment: T\u00eb zbaviteni! Kur t\u00eb\ndilni me shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb e shokut gej, do t\u00eb ndjeheni shpejt nj\u00eb grua e shkret\u00eb, e\nrrethuar nga burra q\u00eb duan burra t\u00eb tjer\u00eb. Edhe me kush\u00ebrir\u00ebn e martuar ju do t\u00eb\nshkoni t\u00eb flini n\u00eb or\u00ebn 22.00 dhe do rrini zgjuar n\u00eb dhom\u00ebn tuaj deri n\u00eb m\u00ebngjes,\np\u00ebrs\u00ebri duke kontrolluar Facebook-un e ish-it. Pra, jo! M\u00eb mir\u00eb telefonojuni\nshok\u00ebve q\u00eb festojn\u00eb gjith\u00eb nat\u00ebn dhe mos harroni se pas nj\u00eb r\u00ebnieje, duhet t\u2019i\nhipni menj\u00ebher\u00eb kalit, p\u00ebrndryshe fillon trauma. Shoku gej do ta kuptoj\u00eb; kush\u00ebrira,\ngjithashtu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n 4. T\u00eb prisni flok\u00ebt<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Ju kuptojm\u00eb… Keni d\u00ebshir\u00eb t\u00eb rimerrni n\u00eb dor\u00eb jet\u00ebn tuaj, t\u2019i b\u00ebni gj\u00ebrat\nm\u00eb mir\u00eb. K\u00ebshtu, pra, keni d\u00ebshir\u00eb t\u00eb ndryshoni gjith\u00e7ka, q\u00eb nga veshjet e deri\nte flok\u00ebt, p\u00ebr t\u00eb filluar nj\u00eb jet\u00eb t\u00eb re. Por, kujdes! Ato q\u00eb shkojn\u00eb me zemr\u00ebn\ne thyer te parukieri, marrin vendime radikale! P\u00ebr fat t\u00eb keq, p\u00ebr t\u00eb joshur\ndhe rihipur n\u00eb kal\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb shpesh m\u00eb e leht\u00eb ta b\u00ebsh me flok\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb gjat\u00eb se 5\ncm. Sidomos, n\u00ebse zakonisht i mbani n\u00eb mes t\u00eb shpin\u00ebs…<\/p>\n\n\n\n 5. T\u00eb grindeni me t\u00eb af\u00ebrmit<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Kur vuan p\u00ebrbrenda, t\u00eb gjith\u00eb njer\u00ebzit t\u00eb nervozojn\u00eb, sepse nuk e kuptojn\u00eb\nq\u00eb kjo ndarje nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb si t\u00eb tjerat, se ju ishit ndryshe dhe sa e trishtuar\nndjeheni. Edhe fjal\u00ebt m\u00eb banale p\u00ebr t\u2019ju ngritur moralin, i perceptoni si t\u00eb\npadurueshme: \u201cDil, do t\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb mir\u00eb, takohu me shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb\u201d, \u201cMerru me veten, b\u00ebj\nat\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00eblqen\u201d, \u201cT\u00eb kisha th\u00ebn\u00eb q\u00eb ishte idiot\u201d… Shkurt, nuk llogariten\nher\u00ebt kur ia keni mbyllur telefonin shoqes suaj q\u00eb nuk e kupton ende se nuk\nkeni d\u00ebshir\u00eb t\u00eb dilni, t\u00eb takoheni me shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb, t\u00eb merreni me veten dhe se,\nthjesht, jeni shum\u00eb e trishtuar p\u00ebr faj t\u00eb atij idiotit…<\/p>\n\n\n\n 6. T\u00eb hani \u00e7\u2019t\u2019ju dal\u00eb para<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n N\u00ebse dilni me shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb dhe hani me t\u00eb ose n\u00ebse vini para tasin e akullores\nkur uleni para televizorit p\u00ebr t\u00eb par\u00eb komedit\u00eb romantike q\u00eb i shihni vet\u00ebm,\napo \u00e7okollatat q\u00eb thon\u00eb se ngren\u00eb moralin, do t\u2019ju duhet t\u00eb b\u00ebni 10 km vrap \u00e7do\nm\u00ebngjes p\u00ebr t\u00eb mos shtuar n\u00eb pesh\u00eb. At\u00ebhere, kujdes me kalorit\u00eb dhe rrofshin\nmoll\u00ebt jeshile! P\u00ebr ato, t\u00eb cilave ndarja u b\u00ebn efektin e kund\u00ebrt, duke u prer\u00eb\noreksin: Mendoni se do t\u00eb humbisni format dhe ndonj\u00eb dark\u00eb, hani pa u ndjer\u00eb n\u00eb\nfaj, nj\u00eb pjat\u00eb plot me patate t\u00eb skuqura. <\/p>\n\n\n\n 7. T\u00eb veproni si nj\u00eb histerike virtuale<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n T\u00eb hiqni brenda nj\u00eb ore ish-in nga miqt\u00eb e Facebook-ut, apo t\u00eb hidhni foto\nn\u00eb instagram me koktejlet q\u00eb pini n\u00ebp\u00ebr diskotekat n\u00eb mod\u00eb, etj., jan\u00eb ide t\u00eb k\u00ebqija\npas ndarjes. Ne nuk jua k\u00ebshillojm\u00eb histerin\u00eb virtuale q\u00eb konsiston n\u00eb p\u00ebrmbysjen\ne gjith\u00eb zakoneve tuaja vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u2019ia p\u00ebrplasur n\u00eb fytyr\u00eb ish-it. Mos u dehni,\nhidhni n\u00eb instagram foto si zakonisht, evitoni statuset n\u00eb Facebook, t\u00eb tipit:\n\u201cTani jam m\u00eb e lumtur se m\u00eb par\u00eb\u201d. Mos e bombardoni internetin me fotot e\ngrupit t\u00eb ri t\u00eb miqve dhe prisni me durim momentin m\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrshtatsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb\nhequr ish-in nga miqt\u00eb. Mos e hiqni menj\u00ebher\u00eb, q\u00eb t\u00eb mos dukeni si e eg\u00ebrsuar, por\nvet\u00ebm kur ai fillon t\u00eb postoj\u00eb gj\u00ebra q\u00eb t\u00eb shqet\u00ebsojn\u00eb. Nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb, ndiqni k\u00ebt\u00eb\nrregull t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb: Hyni vet\u00ebm nj\u00eb her\u00eb n\u00eb dit\u00eb n\u00eb Facebook. N\u00ebse mund ta\nevitoni fare, aq m\u00eb mir\u00eb!<\/p>\n\n\n\n 8. T\u00eb mendoni se jeni n\u00eb Hollivud<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Ky djal\u00eb budalla q\u00eb ju ka l\u00ebn\u00eb me pretekste kot (\u201cNuk takohem aq sa duhet\nme shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb\u201d, \u201cM\u00eb vjen keq, por gjithmon\u00eb kam menduar se gruaja e jet\u00ebs sime\ndo t\u00eb ishte kuqe, jo brune\u201d), ose q\u00eb ju e keni l\u00ebn\u00eb, e lodhur nga karakteri i\ntij i keq, nuk do t\u00eb zbarkoj\u00eb nj\u00eb dit\u00eb te ju, n\u00eb momentin kur ndjeheni m\u00eb e\ndeprimuar, p\u00ebr t\u2019ju th\u00ebn\u00eb gjith\u00e7ka q\u00eb keni \u00ebnd\u00ebrruar t\u00eb d\u00ebgjoni q\u00ebkur ishit e\nvog\u00ebl dhe shihnit p\u00ebrralla me princ\u00ebr e princesha. As nuk do t\u2019ju d\u00ebrgoj\u00eb lule\nn\u00eb zyr\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019ju marr\u00eb me t\u00eb mir\u00eb para koleg\u00ebve, as nuk do t\u2019i telefonoj\u00eb\nfshehurazi shoqes suaj t\u00eb ngusht\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb\nmarr\u00eb vesh si t\u2019ju bind\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb ktheheni mbrapsht, as nuk do t\u2019ju d\u00ebrgoj\u00eb letra\ndashurie… sepse nuk jemi n\u00eb Hollivud! N\u00eb jet\u00ebn e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb, k\u00ebto gj\u00ebra ndodhin\nshum\u00eb rrall\u00eb, bile kurr\u00eb. Nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb, mund t\u2019ju ndodh\u00eb t\u00eb takoni nj\u00eb djal\u00eb\nsimpatik q\u00eb ju p\u00eblqen, kur ju p\u00ebrpiqeni t\u00eb merrni veten pas nj\u00eb ndarjeje…\nBesoj se e njihni k\u00ebt\u00eb skenar, apo jo?<\/p>\n\n\n\n 9. T\u00eb lini gjith\u00e7ka (p\u00ebr t\u00eb ikur larg)<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Papritur, jeni beqare. \u00c7iftet q\u00eb ecin dor\u00eb p\u00ebr dore n\u00eb rrug\u00eb ju bezdisin,\nshefi ju bezdis, mamaja ju bezdis, bile edhe pasqyrimi juaj n\u00eb pasqyr\u00eb ju\nbezdis. Ju duket sikur ju ka mbetur vet\u00ebm nj\u00eb alternativ\u00eb: T\u00eb gjeni nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb\np\u00ebr t\u00eb ikur diku larg nga e gjitha kjo, n\u00eb nj\u00eb shtet ose qytet tjet\u00ebr. Nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb\nide e keqe n\u00ebse e b\u00ebni vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr nj\u00eb fundjav\u00eb, ose gjat\u00eb pushimeve, por t\u00eb lini\ngjith\u00e7ka p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb nj\u00eb ndarjeje dashurore, jo vet\u00ebm q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb ardhur\nkeq, por nuk zgjidh asgj\u00eb. Si\u00e7 e thot\u00eb nj\u00eb proverb i lasht\u00eb kinez: \u201cMurgu q\u00eb\narratiset, nuk i ik\u00ebn dot manastirit t\u00eb tij\u201d. Kudo q\u00eb t\u00eb shkoni, do t\u00eb\nriktheheni nj\u00eb dit\u00eb dhe, nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb, pasqyrimi n\u00eb pasqyr\u00eb mbetet nj\u00eblloj, qofshit\nn\u00eb Tiran\u00eb, apo Honolulu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n 10. T\u00eb b\u00ebni dashuri me ish-in<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Kur merr fund, merr fund. Duket shum\u00eb e leht\u00eb t\u00eb ik\u00ebsh, e sigurt\u00eb n\u00eb\nvetvete, p\u00ebr t\u2019u rikthyer, e pasigurt\u00eb, n\u00eb shtratin e tij… E dim\u00eb mir\u00eb se,\nsapo t\u00eb keni kap\u00ebrcyer doz\u00ebn e k\u00ebshilluar t\u00eb alkoolit, ju do t\u00eb hapni faqen e\nFacebook-ut p\u00ebr t\u00eb par\u00eb ndonj\u00eb drit\u00eb shprese, ose do t\u00eb keni d\u00ebshir\u00eb t\u2019i\ntelefononi p\u00ebr t\u2019u lidhur prap\u00eb me t\u00eb, apo t\u2019i d\u00ebrgoni nj\u00eb sms. T\u00eb gjitha\npretekstet jan\u00eb \u201ct\u00eb mira\u201d… Edhe ai mund t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb tentativa t\u00eb tilla, duke\nardhur te ju t\u00eb diel\u00ebn n\u00eb or\u00ebn 23.00 p\u00ebr t\u00eb marr\u00eb rrobat e tij. P\u00ebr fat t\u00eb keq,\nmegjith\u00ebse rrini or\u00eb e minut\u00eb duke kontrolluar Facebook-un apo telefonin, nuk\njeni ende gati p\u00ebr t\u00eb pasur nj\u00eb lidhje \u201ct\u00eb rast\u00ebsishme\u201d me t\u00eb. Ta themi mes\nnesh… \u00cbsht\u00eb pak e trishtueshme t\u00eb p\u00ebrjetosh nj\u00eb histori dashurie me dik\u00eb, p\u00ebr\nta kthyer at\u00eb n\u00eb histori seksi! N\u00eb k\u00ebto raste, m\u00eb mir\u00eb ngush\u00ebllojeni veten me\nat\u00eb th\u00ebnien e njohur \u201cNj\u00eb bie, mij\u00ebra ngrihen!\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" E dim\u00eb mir\u00eb se ka gj\u00ebra q\u00eb duhen evituar kur e ke zemr\u00ebn e thyer. Prova jan\u00eb k\u00ebto dhjet\u00eb gabime q\u00eb nuk duhen b\u00ebr\u00eb asnj\u00ebher\u00eb pas ndarjes! 1. T\u2019u telefonosh gjith\u00eb miqve p\u00ebr t\u00eb shar\u00eb ish-in N\u00eb mosh\u00ebn 15 vje\u00e7are, e kishim zakon t\u00eb k\u00ebrkonim k\u00ebshill\u00ebn e shoqeve para se t\u00eb puthnim nj\u00eb djal\u00eb. 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