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Disa koh\u00eb m\u00eb par\u00eb, pothuajse n\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha qytetet e m\u00ebdha t\u00eb SHBA-s\u00eb u\np\u00ebrhap midis grave t\u00eb martuara \u201cepidemia e himenoplastik\u00ebs\u201d ose th\u00ebn\u00eb m\u00eb\nthjesht, moda e rivendosjes s\u00eb cip\u00ebs s\u00eb virgj\u00ebris\u00eb. Ai q\u00eb t\u00eb habiste m\u00eb shum\u00eb\nishte fakti se n\u00eb dyert e kirurg\u00ebve nuk trokitnin vajza t\u00eb reja q\u00eb, p\u00ebr nj\u00eb\narsye apo tjet\u00ebr e kishin humbur virgj\u00ebrin\u00eb, por gra t\u00eb martuara, t\u00eb cilat p\u00ebr\nvite me radh\u00eb kishin g\u00ebzuar k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsin\u00eb e jet\u00ebs familjare, gra mbi mosh\u00ebn dyzet\nvje\u00e7are, shum\u00eb prej t\u00eb cilave kishin tanim\u00eb edhe f\u00ebmij\u00eb t\u00eb rritur. Po si, pse?\nMotivi kryesor ishte d\u00ebshira e tyre p\u00ebr t\u2019u b\u00ebr\u00eb bashk\u00ebshort\u00ebve nj\u00eb surpriz\u00eb t\u00eb\nk\u00ebndshme n\u00eb p\u00ebrvjetor\u00ebt e martesave, t\u2019u dhuronin, si t\u00eb thuash, p\u00ebr s\u00eb dyti\nvirgj\u00ebrin\u00eb dhe t\u00eb kalonin s\u00eb bashku nj\u00eb muaj t\u00eb dyt\u00eb mjalti, t\u2019i dhuronin t\u00eb\ndashurit mund\u00ebsin\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb provuar zhvirgj\u00ebrimin, \u201cnat\u00ebn e par\u00eb\u201d, tani, n\u00eb\nkushtet kur ata kishin nj\u00eb p\u00ebrvoj\u00eb t\u00eb mjaftueshme. Shp\u00ebrthimi i k\u00ebsaj mode\nngjalli n\u00eb shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb amerikane shum\u00eb debate dhe diskutime. Disa shanin meshkujt\nq\u00eb e pranonin nga grat\u00eb e tyre nj\u00eb dhurat\u00eb t\u00eb till\u00eb, e cila u shkaktonte atyre\ndhimbje dhe telashe, por shumica p\u00ebrqendroheshin n\u00eb faktin se po ngrihej n\u00eb\npiedestal vet\u00eb virgj\u00ebria, po i jepej asaj nj\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi dhe nder q\u00eb nuk e\nmeritonte. E pse i dh\u00ebnka virgj\u00ebria femr\u00ebs nj\u00eb dinjitet t\u00eb till\u00eb t\u00eb ve\u00e7ant\u00eb? <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00c7\u2019\u00ebsht\u00eb himenoplastika?<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n N\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb, himenoplastika nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb fenomen i ri. N\u00eb klinikat e\nvendeve m\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrparuara t\u00eb Per\u00ebndimit, prej koh\u00ebsh kan\u00eb vajtur gra e vajza nga\nAmerika Latine dhe vendet e Lindjes s\u00eb Mesme, p\u00ebr t\u00eb \u201crikuperuar\u201d virgj\u00ebrin\u00eb e\ntyre. Kjo, sepse n\u00eb k\u00ebto vende, meshkujt i preferojn\u00eb shum\u00eb virgj\u00ebreshat. P\u00ebrse\nvall\u00eb? Specialist\u00ebt v\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb dukje se kjo ndodh pasi virgj\u00ebria \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb koncept\nme kuptim evoluciono-biologjik. \u00c7do mashkull do q\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00eb vet\u00eb i pari dhe i\nvetmi q\u00eb krijon marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie intime seksuale me femr\u00ebn, duke d\u00ebshiruar me k\u00ebt\u00eb\nrast q\u00eb t\u00eb ket\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje t\u00eb drejtp\u00ebrdrejt\u00eb me trash\u00ebgimtarin, n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb\nt\u2019i jap\u00eb atij sa m\u00eb shum\u00eb gene nga vetja. Del se edhe njeriu mbetet ende pjes\u00eb\np\u00ebrb\u00ebr\u00ebse e \u201cfaun\u00ebs bot\u00ebrore\u201d, e cila ndahet n\u00eb femra dhe meshkuj. P\u00ebr ta\nkuptuar m\u00eb mir\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb mendim, nj\u00eb psikolog i shquar sjell nj\u00eb shembull konkret:<\/p>\n\n\n\n Historia e nj\u00eb virgj\u00ebreshe<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Eleni ishte 25 vje\u00e7e dhe, munges\u00ebn e p\u00ebrvoj\u00ebs n\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtjet seksuale, kishte\nvite q\u00eb e konsideronte si nj\u00eb t\u00eb met\u00eb fizike. I vinte turp p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb, por\ns\u2019kishte \u00e7far\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebnte. Gradualisht, n\u00eb trupin dhe n\u00eb mentalitetin e vajz\u00ebs\nishte shkrir\u00eb bot\u00ebkuptimi i gjyshes\u2026 mir\u00ebpo filluan ndryshimet. Krahas\nndryshimit t\u00eb l\u00ebkur\u00ebs s\u00eb but\u00eb vajz\u00ebrore, filluan t\u00eb stononin vithet dhe gjoksi\ni pazhvilluar, filluan ca shqet\u00ebsime sh\u00ebndet\u00ebsore, q\u00eb e d\u00ebrgonin nga nj\u00ebra\nklinik\u00eb n\u00eb tjetr\u00ebn. Filluan ila\u00e7et me pika dhe tableta p\u00ebr zemr\u00ebn e tensionin.\nNjer\u00ebzit e vet e k\u00ebshillonin vajz\u00ebn t\u00eb gjente sa m\u00eb par\u00eb nj\u00eb burr\u00eb, t\u00eb martohej\ndhe t\u00eb gjitha hallet do t\u00eb zgjidheshin si me urdh\u00ebr t\u00eb peshkut. Eleni, edhe\nvet\u00eb e kuptonte disi, po ku ta gjente nj\u00eb burr\u00eb p\u00ebrderisa nuk kishte asnj\u00eb\npropozim konkret? Pse, kollaj gjendet burri? Mund t\u00eb gjesh djem t\u00eb rinj q\u00eb duan\nt\u00eb kalojn\u00eb koh\u00ebn me ty, duke t\u00eb shtrir\u00eb n\u00eb krevat q\u00eb mbr\u00ebmjen e par\u00eb t\u00eb\nnjohjes, po Eleni nuk donte k\u00ebshtu dhe ja, kishte mbetur e virgj\u00ebr deri n\u00eb\nmosh\u00ebn 25 vje\u00e7are.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Por, n\u00eb \u00e7\u2019mosh\u00eb mund ta humbas\u00eb nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb\nvirgj\u00ebrin\u00eb?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Sipas specialist\u00ebve, \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb thuhet se cila mosh\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb e\np\u00ebrshtatshme p\u00ebr vajz\u00ebn q\u00eb t\u00eb shk\u00ebputet nga virgj\u00ebria, pasi ky \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb\nproblem q\u00eb varet nga shum\u00eb rrethana dhe ka karakter thjesht individual. Duhen\nevituar ekstremitetet. Specialist\u00ebt jan\u00eb t\u00eb mendimit se humbja e virgj\u00ebris\u00eb\nshpejt, n\u00eb mosh\u00eb t\u00eb vog\u00ebl, \u00ebsht\u00eb e rrezikshme p\u00ebr organizmin e femr\u00ebs, p\u00ebr\nshkak t\u00eb infeksioneve t\u00eb ndryshme q\u00eb mund t\u00eb marr\u00eb, nd\u00ebrsa humbja n\u00eb mosh\u00eb\nmadhore, si rregull, i sjell asaj probleme t\u00eb ndryshme psikologjike. Me kalimin\ne koh\u00ebs, ajo b\u00ebhet e turpshme, mbyllet n\u00eb vetvete, ka frik\u00eb nga kontaktet\nseksuale me partnerin e par\u00eb, etj.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Kulti i virgj\u00ebris\u00eb<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n N\u00eb Angli, n\u00eb mos t\u00eb gjitha vajzat, t\u00eb pakt\u00ebn ato t\u00eb besimit protestant, e\nngren\u00eb n\u00eb kult virgj\u00ebrin\u00eb. Ikon\u00eb e tyre \u00ebsht\u00eb Mbret\u00ebresha e Anglis\u00eb, Elisabeta\ne Par\u00eb. Sipas biograf\u00ebve t\u00eb saj, Elisabeta i ishte betuar Zotit se do t\u2019i\nq\u00ebndronte besnike fes\u00eb dhe do ta ruante p\u00ebrjet\u00eb past\u00ebrtin\u00eb trupore dhe\nshpirt\u00ebrore. Ishte pik\u00ebrisht ky betim, sipas tyre, q\u00eb e ngriti at\u00eb n\u00eb fronin e\nmbret\u00ebresh\u00ebs. Bashk\u00ebkoh\u00ebsit e saj v\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb dukje bukurin\u00eb e pashoqe t\u00eb k\u00ebsaj\nvajze. Me nj\u00eb fjal\u00eb, ajo ishte nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb ideale p\u00ebr t\u2019u fejuar dhe p\u00ebr t\u2019u\nmartuar. Filluan propozimet dhe presioni i kandidat\u00ebve ishte aq i madh, sa nj\u00eb\ndit\u00eb, Elisabeta premtoi se do t\u00eb martohej, por se cilin do t\u00eb zgjidhte, k\u00ebt\u00eb e\nlinte n\u00eb dor\u00ebn e Zotit. Ka njer\u00ebz q\u00eb shtojn\u00eb se nuk ka qen\u00eb vet\u00ebm besimi te\nZoti q\u00eb e la Elisabet\u00ebn t\u00eb virgj\u00ebr. Ata thon\u00eb se ka ndikuar p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb edhe babai\ni saj, mbreti Henriku i Tret\u00eb. Ai, pasi dyshoi p\u00ebr tradhti bashk\u00ebshortore, i\npreu kok\u00ebn s\u00eb \u00ebm\u00ebs s\u00eb saj, Ana Bolejnit, t\u00eb cil\u00ebn e kishte marr\u00eb me dashuri,\npor tronditjen m\u00eb t\u00eb madhe, Elisabeta e p\u00ebsoi kur i ati ekzekutoi, po p\u00ebr\ntradhti bashk\u00ebshortore, gruan e tij t\u00eb pest\u00eb, Kejt Hovardin. T\u00eb gjitha k\u00ebto e\nshtyn\u00eb vajz\u00ebn e re ta urrente seksin dhe t\u00eb vendoste t\u00eb mos martohej kurr\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Sado e \u00e7uditshme t\u00eb duket, vet\u00ebm me k\u00ebt\u00eb mund t\u00eb shpjegohet edhe bukuria e\nElisabet\u00ebs, t\u00eb cil\u00ebn ajo e ruajti deri n\u00eb mosh\u00ebn 25-vje\u00e7are. Ju, sigurisht, do\nt\u00eb qeshni tani me k\u00ebt\u00eb mosh\u00eb, por mos harroni se, n\u00eb koh\u00ebn e saj, grat\u00eb\nplakeshin shum\u00eb shpejt, pasi martoheshin n\u00eb mosha t\u00eb vogla, lindnin \u00e7do vit nga\nnj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb dhe, kur arrinin mosh\u00ebn e saj, dukeshin plaka. Por, duhet theksuar\nse megjith\u00ebse i vuri kryq jet\u00ebs s\u00eb saj seksuale, ajo nuk u shnd\u00ebrrua n\u00eb nj\u00eb \u201ct\u00eb\nmbetur histerike\u201d, por p\u00ebrkundrazi, e drejtoi me urt\u00ebsi vendin, duke arritur\nsuksese t\u00eb papara ekonomike.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Virgj\u00ebria si biznes<\/strong><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Tani,\nkoh\u00ebt kan\u00eb ndryshuar. Bashk\u00eb me to, ka ndryshuar edhe bot\u00ebkuptimi e konceptet e\nnjer\u00ebzve. Revolucioni seksual i ka shkulur nga rr\u00ebnj\u00ebt konceptet e vajzave q\u00eb e\nruanin past\u00ebrtin\u00eb shpirt\u00ebrore dhe fizike, pra, virgj\u00ebrin\u00eb p\u00ebr bashk\u00ebshortin e\ntyre. Tani, njer\u00ebzit tallen me zakonin e pikave t\u00eb gjakut mbi \u00e7ar\u00e7af. N\u00eb\nMesjet\u00eb ama (si dhe n\u00eb disa vende akoma mesjetare t\u00eb bot\u00ebs son\u00eb) virgj\u00ebria\nishte e vetmja pasuri q\u00eb i ruante dinjitetin vajz\u00ebs s\u00eb re. At\u00ebbot\u00eb (edhe tani,\nn\u00eb disa vende), vajz\u00ebn nuk e linin t\u00eb shkonte n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb, at\u00ebhere ajo nuk e\nrealizonte dot veten n\u00eb jet\u00ebn politike, ekonomike apo artistike t\u00eb vendit. Me\nse do t\u00eb krenohej vajza e varf\u00ebr p\u00ebrve\u00e7se me virgj\u00ebrin\u00eb e saj? Mir\u00ebpo, nd\u00ebrsa\nkoncepti te vajzat ka ndryshuar, ka ende shum\u00eb meshkuj q\u00eb kan\u00eb mbetur n\u00eb\nnivelin e Mesjet\u00ebs. Ata ngulmojn\u00eb p\u00ebrs\u00ebri q\u00eb t\u00eb ken\u00eb virgj\u00ebresha n\u00eb shtratin e\ntyre. K\u00ebshtu, lindi nj\u00eb biznes i ri, himenoplastika. Do t\u00eb virgj\u00ebr ti? Urdh\u00ebro,\nun\u00eb jam e virgj\u00ebr! Dhe biznesi, s\u2019mbeti me kaq. Si \u00e7do fenomen n\u00eb jet\u00eb, edhe ai\n\u00ebsht\u00eb zhvilluar. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Ka\nvite q\u00eb disa vajza nga vende t\u00eb ndryshme t\u00eb bot\u00ebs, zbuluan nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb e\nmrekullueshme p\u00ebr ta shnd\u00ebrruar virgj\u00ebrine e tyre n\u00eb para. Virgj\u00ebria po del n\u00eb\ntreg si nj\u00eb mall shum\u00eb i k\u00ebrkuar. \u00c7mimi p\u00ebr t\u00eb fjetur nj\u00eb nat\u00eb me nj\u00eb\nvirgj\u00ebresh\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb i ndrysh\u00ebm n\u00eb vende t\u00eb ndryshme, varion nga 100-400 euro.\nK\u00ebshtu, p\u00ebr shembull, nj\u00eb studente nga Kili, k\u00ebrkoi p\u00ebr virgj\u00ebrin\u00eb e saj 350\nst\u00ebrlina.<\/strong> \u00c7mimin m\u00eb\nt\u00eb lart\u00eb n\u00eb shitjen e virgj\u00ebris\u00eb e ka arritur deri tani anglezja 18-vje\u00e7are\nRoza Rejd. P\u00ebr ta bler\u00eb at\u00eb, dol\u00ebn afro kat\u00ebrqind kandidat\u00eb. Roza zhvilloi me\nta takime t\u00eb ve\u00e7anta dhe vendosi t\u2019ia falte virgj\u00ebrin\u00eb nj\u00eb inxhinieri 44\nvje\u00e7ar. N\u00eb intervist\u00ebn q\u00eb dha pas nat\u00ebs s\u00eb par\u00eb, ajo pohoi se e pati shum\u00eb t\u00eb\nv\u00ebshtir\u00eb\u2026 <\/p>\n\n\n\n Historia m\u00eb skandaloze me shitjen e virgj\u00ebris\u00eb ka ndodhur n\u00eb Itali, me\nfotomodelen e njohur Refaela Fiko. Pasi fjeti nj\u00eb nat\u00eb t\u00eb t\u00ebr\u00eb me nj\u00eb t\u00eb pasur dhe\nmori si shp\u00ebrblim aq para sa t\u00eb blinte t\u00eb nes\u00ebrmen nj\u00eb sht\u00ebpi t\u00eb re n\u00eb Rom\u00eb,\ngazetat u mbush\u00ebn me artikuj q\u00eb e akuzonin at\u00eb si mashtruese, pasi kishin dale\nme dhjet\u00ebra djem q\u00eb kishin pohuar se ajo kishte patur me ta marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie\nseksuale dhe nuk ishte e virgj\u00ebr, se ajo me siguri kishte b\u00ebr\u00eb operacion\nhimenoplastik.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Disa koh\u00eb m\u00eb par\u00eb, pothuajse n\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha qytetet e m\u00ebdha t\u00eb SHBA-s\u00eb u p\u00ebrhap midis grave t\u00eb martuara \u201cepidemia e himenoplastik\u00ebs\u201d ose th\u00ebn\u00eb m\u00eb thjesht, moda e rivendosjes s\u00eb cip\u00ebs s\u00eb virgj\u00ebris\u00eb. Ai q\u00eb t\u00eb habiste m\u00eb shum\u00eb ishte fakti se n\u00eb dyert e kirurg\u00ebve nuk trokitnin vajza t\u00eb reja q\u00eb, p\u00ebr nj\u00eb arsye […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":20578,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[50],"tags":[306,1019],"class_list":["post-20577","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-intimitet","tag-intimitet","tag-virgjeria"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20577","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=20577"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20577\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/20578"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=20577"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=20577"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=20577"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}