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Shum\u00eb vet\u00eb thon\u00eb\nse kur i lidh duart p\u00ebrpara gjoksit, njeriu ka nj\u00eb hall, mbyllet n\u00eb vetvete dhe\ns\u2019do q\u00eb t\u00eb ngacmohet nga askush\u2026 N\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb, ai shtr\u00ebngon gjoksin, ruan\nzemr\u00ebn. Po kur njeriu rri \u201ck\u00ebmb\u00eb mbi k\u00ebmb\u00eb\u201d me k\u00ebmb\u00eb t\u00eb kryq\u00ebzuara, q\u00eb i\nshtr\u00ebngon me nj\u00ebra-tjetr\u00ebn? Mendohet se me k\u00ebt\u00eb q\u00ebndrim, njeriu rehatohet dhe\nmbron organet e veta gjenitale. Nd\u00ebrkaq, specialist\u00ebt thon\u00eb se edhe nga ky\nq\u00ebndrim mund t\u00eb nxjerr\u00ebsh disa p\u00ebrfundime p\u00ebr gjendjen psikologjike dhe\nkarakterin e bashk\u00ebbiseduesit. Ekzistojn\u00eb dy lloje t\u00eb q\u00ebndrimit \u201ck\u00ebmb\u00eb mbi\nk\u00ebmb\u00eb\u201d. I pari \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00ebndrimi standard dhe i dyti, q\u00ebndrimi \u201cky\u00e7\u201d. Le t\u2019i\nshohim me radh\u00eb\u2026<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n 1. Q\u00ebndrimi\nstandard, i zakonsh\u00ebm<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Quhet standard\nq\u00ebndrimi kur nj\u00ebr\u00ebn k\u00ebmb\u00eb e hedh mbi tjetr\u00ebn (zakonisht, t\u00eb djatht\u00ebn mbi t\u00eb\nmajt\u00ebn) dhe i mbledh t\u00eb dyja n\u00ebn vete. Ky q\u00ebndrim, q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb karakteristik p\u00ebr\neuropian\u00ebt, australian\u00ebt dhe neozelandez\u00ebt, tregon nj\u00eb gjendje shpirt\u00ebrore\npaksa t\u00eb nder\u00eb, tregon q\u00eb bashk\u00ebbiseduesi merr nj\u00eb pozicion mbrojt\u00ebs ose t\u00eb\nvet\u00ebp\u00ebrmbajtur. Sidoqoft\u00eb, ky q\u00ebndrim duhet par\u00eb n\u00eb kompleksitet me disa\nfaktor\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00eb. K\u00ebshtu, p\u00ebr shembull, njeriut ia ka \u00ebnda t\u00eb rrij\u00eb k\u00ebshtu pasi\nka ndenjur p\u00ebr nj\u00eb koh\u00eb t\u00eb gjat\u00eb n\u00eb karrige ose n\u00eb nj\u00eb kolltuk jo shum\u00eb t\u00eb\nrehatsh\u00ebm. Njeriu vendoset n\u00eb nj\u00eb pozicion t\u00eb till\u00eb instiktivisht edhe kur ka\nftoht\u00eb. N\u00eb rast se kryq\u00ebzimi i k\u00ebmb\u00ebve p\u00ebrkon me kryq\u00ebzimin e duarve, kjo do t\u00eb\nthot\u00eb se njeriu q\u00eb merr k\u00ebt\u00eb pozicion, po m\u00ebrzitet nga biseda dhe do t\u2019i b\u00ebj\u00eb\nbisht asaj. N\u00eb rast se nj\u00eb tregtar, p\u00ebr shembull, ka nd\u00ebrmend t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb ndonj\u00eb\nbised\u00eb p\u00ebr biznes ose \u201callishverishe\u201d t\u00eb tjera me nj\u00eb njeri q\u00eb merr nj\u00eb\npozicion t\u00eb till\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb ta l\u00ebr\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb bised\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00eb her\u00eb tjet\u00ebr, sepse\nbashk\u00ebbiseduesi as q\u00eb ka nd\u00ebrmend t\u00eb marr\u00eb ndonj\u00eb vendim me r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi. Ky\npozicion \u00ebsht\u00eb mjaft i p\u00ebrhapur edhe midis grave n\u00eb shum\u00eb vende t\u00eb bot\u00ebs. Ato\nq\u00ebndrojn\u00eb k\u00ebshtu kur duan t\u00eb shprehin nj\u00ebfar\u00eb kund\u00ebrshtie ndaj propozimeve t\u00eb\nburrave apo miqve t\u00eb tyre, shfaqin, si t\u00eb thuash, nj\u00ebfar\u00eb indiference p\u00ebr\nbised\u00ebn apo propozimin e b\u00ebr\u00eb\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n 2. Pozicioni\namerikan i kryq\u00ebzimit t\u00eb k\u00ebmb\u00ebve n\u00eb form\u00eb \u201cky\u00e7i\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n N\u00eb rast se\nnjeriu i vendos k\u00ebmb\u00ebt n\u00eb form\u00eb ky\u00e7i, dometh\u00ebn\u00eb, nj\u00ebra k\u00ebmb\u00eb mbetet e\nmb\u00ebshtetur n\u00eb dysheme, nd\u00ebrsa tjetra i bie p\u00ebrsip\u00ebr gjys\u00ebm e mbledhur, ky pozicion\ntregon n\u00eb shumic\u00ebn e rasteve se ai njeri ka nj\u00eb shpirt sfidues dhe i p\u00eblqen t\u00eb\nhyj\u00eb n\u00eb gar\u00eb. Ky pozicion \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb i p\u00ebrhapur n\u00eb SHBA, ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht midis\nmeshkujve me shpirt t\u00eb fort\u00eb gare dhe rivaliteti. N\u00eb rast se b\u00ebhet fjal\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb\nshitur di\u00e7ka, \u00ebsht\u00eb e kot\u00eb t\u00eb pres\u00ebsh ndonj\u00eb porosi nga njeriu q\u00eb rri k\u00ebsisoj.\nN\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb pozicion rrin\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb grat\u00eb q\u00eb mbajn\u00eb pantallona bluxhins.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 3. Pozicioni\nk\u00ebmb\u00eb mbi k\u00ebmb\u00eb \u201cky\u00e7\u201d, shtr\u00ebnguar n\u00eb duart e lidhura<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Ky pozicion\n\u00ebsht\u00eb karakteristik p\u00ebr njer\u00ebzit q\u00eb kan\u00eb nj\u00eb pik\u00ebpamje t\u00eb caktuar, t\u00eb cil\u00ebn\n\u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb ta ndryshosh gjat\u00eb diskutimeve. Si rregull, k\u00ebta njer\u00ebz ulen\nduke i hedhur k\u00ebmb\u00ebt nj\u00ebra sip\u00ebr tjetr\u00ebs dhe duke i shtr\u00ebnguar me nj\u00ebr\u00ebn apo me\nt\u00eb dyja duart e lidhura. Ky pozicion tregon se njeriu n\u00eb ato momente \u00ebsht\u00eb\nshum\u00eb kok\u00ebfort\u00eb. P\u00ebr t\u00eb thyer rezistenc\u00ebn e nj\u00eb njeriu t\u00eb till\u00eb duhet nj\u00eb\nq\u00ebndrim i posa\u00e7\u00ebm, jo standard dhe, n\u00eb radh\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb, p\u00ebr ta bindur at\u00eb, duhet\nkoh\u00eb e gjat\u00eb\u2026 <\/p>\n\n\n\n 4. Kryq\u00ebzimi\ni k\u00ebmb\u00ebve n\u00eb pozicionin drejtq\u00ebndrimi<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n N\u00eb rast se do\nt\u2019ju bjer\u00eb rasti t\u00eb ndodheni n\u00eb ndonj\u00eb pritje zyrtare ose mbledhje (gjat\u00eb\npushimeve n\u00eb holl), p\u00ebrqendrojeni v\u00ebmendjen te ndonj\u00eb grup i vog\u00ebl njer\u00ebzish q\u00eb\nq\u00ebndrojn\u00eb me duar t\u00eb lidhura dhe k\u00ebmb\u00eb t\u00eb kryq\u00ebzuara. Ju me siguri do t\u00eb vini\nre se ata, ndryshe nga t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt, q\u00ebndrojn\u00eb paksa n\u00eb distanc\u00eb nga nj\u00ebri-tjetri.\nPo t\u00eb ken\u00eb veshur kostum, \u201cdo t\u2019i ken\u00eb mb\u00ebrthyer t\u00eb gjitha kopsat\u201d. Po t\u00eb\nbisedoni me ta, do t\u00eb konstatoni se disa prej tyre, mbase t\u00eb gjith\u00eb, ndodhen\np\u00ebr her\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb ambient t\u00eb till\u00eb. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Pik\u00ebrisht k\u00ebt\u00eb\npozicion mbajn\u00eb njer\u00ebzit q\u00eb ndodhen n\u00eb nj\u00eb mjedis shoq\u00ebror p\u00ebr her\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb,\nmidis njer\u00ebzve q\u00eb nuk i njohin mir\u00eb\u2026 Krejt e kund\u00ebrta ndodh me njer\u00ebzit e\nnjohur n\u00eb ambiente t\u00eb frekuentuara prej tyre edhe m\u00eb par\u00eb. Ata q\u00ebndrojn\u00eb t\u00eb\nshkujdesur, i afrohen njeri-tjetrit, di\u00e7 i thon\u00eb n\u00eb vesh dhe n\u00eb grup p\u00eblcet\ngazi, her\u00eb i p\u00ebrmbajtur, her\u00eb-her\u00eb, shp\u00ebrthyes. Ata e ndjejn\u00eb veten si n\u00eb\nsht\u00ebpin\u00eb e tyre. Kalon nj\u00ebfare kohe, njihen me t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt dhe grupi i \u201cduarve\ndhe k\u00ebmb\u00ebve t\u00eb kryq\u00ebzuara\u201d kalojn\u00eb nga \u201cpozicioni mbrojt\u00ebs\u201d n\u00eb pozicione m\u00eb t\u00eb\n\u00e7lir\u00ebta, pra, si t\u00eb thuash, hapen si vaji n\u00eb lakra. K\u00ebt\u00eb e tregojn\u00eb gjestet e\ntyre instiktive: Ata hapen, zb\u00ebrthejn\u00eb xhaketat, i l\u00ebn\u00eb duart dhe k\u00ebmb\u00ebt n\u00eb\n\u201cqejfin\u201d e tyre. <\/p>\n\n\n\n K\u00ebrkimet\nshkencore tregojn\u00eb se \u201cteknikat e hapjes\u201d jan\u00eb pothuajse t\u00eb nj\u00ebllojta n\u00eb t\u00eb\ngjitha vendet. Ka shum\u00eb vet\u00eb q\u00eb pohojn\u00eb se i kryq\u00ebzojn\u00eb duart dhe k\u00ebmb\u00ebt jo nga\nndrojtja dhe pasiguria, por nga t\u00eb ftohtit, ama m\u00eb t\u00eb shumtat e her\u00ebs, k\u00ebto\npohime nuk i p\u00ebrgjigjen s\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebs. Po ta shikosh holl\u00eb, do t\u00eb v\u00ebsh re se ka\nnj\u00eb ndryshim t\u00eb duksh\u00ebm midis \u201ckryq\u00ebzimit\u201d t\u00eb k\u00ebmb\u00ebve dhe duarve nga e ftohta\ndhe pozicionit q\u00eb tregon ndrojtje e pasiguri.<\/p>\n\n\n\n S\u00eb pari, n\u00ebse\nnjeriu d\u00ebshiron t\u00eb ngroh\u00eb duart, ai, si rregull, i fut ato n\u00ebn sqetulla dhe nuk\ni vendos p\u00ebll\u00ebmb\u00ebt e hapura mbi b\u00ebrryla, sikurse n\u00eb pozicionet nga ndrojtja apo\npasiguria, pra, n\u00eb pozicionin mbrojt\u00ebs, si t\u00eb thuash. S\u00eb dyti, njeriu q\u00eb\nm\u00ebrdhin, i pushton ll\u00ebr\u00ebt me duar dhe k\u00ebmb\u00ebt i shtr\u00ebngon fort me nj\u00ebra-tjetr\u00ebn,\nsidomos te ky\u00e7et, nd\u00ebrsa n\u00eb pozicionin tjet\u00ebr, si duart, si k\u00ebmb\u00ebt, q\u00ebndrojn\u00eb,\npaksa t\u00eb l\u00ebshuara, m\u00eb t\u00eb lira… <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Shum\u00eb vet\u00eb thon\u00eb se kur i lidh duart p\u00ebrpara gjoksit, njeriu ka nj\u00eb hall, mbyllet n\u00eb vetvete dhe s\u2019do q\u00eb t\u00eb ngacmohet nga askush\u2026 N\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb, ai shtr\u00ebngon gjoksin, ruan zemr\u00ebn. Po kur njeriu rri \u201ck\u00ebmb\u00eb mbi k\u00ebmb\u00eb\u201d me k\u00ebmb\u00eb t\u00eb kryq\u00ebzuara, q\u00eb i shtr\u00ebngon me nj\u00ebra-tjetr\u00ebn? Mendohet se me k\u00ebt\u00eb q\u00ebndrim, njeriu rehatohet […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":20505,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1356],"tags":[2155],"class_list":["post-20504","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-living","tag-qendrimi"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20504","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=20504"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20504\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/20505"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=20504"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=20504"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=20504"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}