{"id":20472,"date":"2019-01-16T22:30:43","date_gmt":"2019-01-16T21:30:43","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=20472"},"modified":"2019-01-16T20:11:19","modified_gmt":"2019-01-16T19:11:19","slug":"cfare-duhet-te-kete-parasysh-nje-vajze-kur-vendos-te-martohet","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2019\/01\/cfare-duhet-te-kete-parasysh-nje-vajze-kur-vendos-te-martohet\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00c7far\u00eb duhet t\u00eb ket\u00eb parasysh nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb kur vendos t\u00eb martohet?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

K\u00ebshilla t\u00eb dobishme<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kur zemra rreh si e \u00e7mendur sapo d\u00ebgjon tingujt e par\u00eb t\u00eb z\u00ebrit t\u00eb tij, kur trupi t\u00eb dridhet dhe t\u00eb mbushet me mornica sapo buz\u00ebt e tij t\u00eb ngrohta prekin buz\u00ebt e tua t\u00eb thara nga ankthi i pritjes, syt\u00eb err\u00ebsohen, bot\u00ebn e sheh vet\u00ebm roz\u00eb dhe logjika mefsht\u00ebsohet. Jan\u00eb ato momente kur \u00e7do vajz\u00eb kujton se gjeti gjysm\u00ebn e vet. Asaj i duket se me k\u00ebt\u00eb njeri do ta kaloj\u00eb jet\u00ebn n\u00eb lumturi deri n\u00eb pleq\u00ebrin\u00eb e thell\u00eb. N\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb, mund t\u00eb mos ndodh\u00eb k\u00ebshtu dhe t\u00eb gjitha k\u00ebto t\u00eb jen\u00eb vet\u00ebm nj\u00eb iluzion. Kjo ndodh sepse njeriu (sidomos vajzat e reja), p\u00ebr vet\u00eb natyr\u00ebn e tij, i marrin shpesh ndjenjat e para pasionante, sidomos t\u00ebrheqjen fizike, si garanci, si parath\u00ebnie se e gjet\u00ebn njeriun e p\u00ebrshtatsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb lidhur jet\u00ebn me t\u00eb. Kuptohet se simpatia dhe t\u00ebrheqja fizike jan\u00eb shenja t\u00eb mira, por p\u00ebr t\u00eb mos u gabuar, duhen llogaritur edhe disa faktor\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00eb. K\u00ebrkimet e reja shkencore tregojn\u00eb se te mashkulli ka edhe disa veti t\u00eb tjera t\u00eb cilat mund t\u00eb sigurojn\u00eb jet\u00ebgjat\u00ebsin\u00eb e marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve tuaja, lumturin\u00eb dhe harmonin\u00eb tuaj n\u00eb jet\u00eb. Por cilat jan\u00eb ato?<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Ai duhet ta ket\u00eb p\u00ebrcaktuar \u00e7far\u00eb q\u00ebllimesh ka dhe \u00e7far\u00eb\ndo t\u00eb arrij\u00eb s\u00eb bashku me ju n\u00eb jet\u00eb<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00c7do mashkull, me t\u00eb\ncilin ju d\u00ebshironi t\u00eb keni marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie serioze, n\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi, e di se \u00e7far\u00eb\nk\u00ebrkon n\u00eb jet\u00eb dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb gjendje t\u00eb t\u00eb tregoj\u00eb p\u00ebr q\u00ebllimet dhe d\u00ebshirat e\ntij, por kur vjen puna p\u00ebr t\u00eb ardhmen e tij personale konkrete e aq m\u00eb tep\u00ebr,\nt\u00eb p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt me ju, ai \u00ebsht\u00eb konfuz. Pothuajse n\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha gjyqet p\u00ebr ndarje,\ndel se shkaku i ndarjes \u00ebsht\u00eb fakti q\u00eb si burri, ashtu edhe gruaja, e kan\u00eb\nkuptuar m\u00eb n\u00eb fund se nuk jan\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00ebri-tjetrin, pasi kan\u00eb patur synime t\u00eb\nndryshme dhe kan\u00eb k\u00ebrkuar nga jeta e p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt, gj\u00ebra t\u00eb ndryshme\u2026 P\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb\narsye, ata duan t\u00eb ndahen sa m\u00eb par\u00eb, p\u00ebr t\u00eb krijuar nj\u00eb familje tjet\u00ebr, n\u00eb t\u00eb\ncil\u00ebn t\u2019i p\u00ebrshtaten m\u00eb mir\u00eb nj\u00ebri-tjetrit. Pik\u00ebrisht p\u00ebr t\u00eb parandaluar situata\nt\u00eb tilla, \u00ebsht\u00eb e nevojshme t\u00eb dish q\u00eb m\u00eb par\u00eb se \u00e7\u2019k\u00ebrkon t\u00eb arrij\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00eb s\u00eb\nbashku me ju i dashuri juaj, \u00e7far\u00eb q\u00ebllimesh ka dhe si mendon ta kaloni\nbashkarisht rrug\u00ebn e gjat\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00ebs.     <\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Ai duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb optimist<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

T\u00eb dh\u00ebnat e fundit\nshkencore pohojn\u00eb se ato gra, partner\u00ebt e t\u00eb cilave jan\u00eb optimist\u00eb, i dalin\njet\u00ebs me gjoks p\u00ebrpara, jan\u00eb t\u00eb gjalla dhe e kan\u00eb t\u00eb zhvilluar ndjenj\u00ebn e\nhumorit, jan\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebnaqura nga marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet martesore dhe jeta e p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt\nfamiljare. P\u00ebrve\u00e7 k\u00ebsaj, shkenc\u00ebtar\u00ebt kan\u00eb v\u00ebn\u00eb re se sa m\u00eb me optimiz\u00ebm ta\nshikoj\u00eb jet\u00ebn mashkulli, aq m\u00eb tep\u00ebr zgjatin marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet martesore q\u00eb lidh ai\nme nj\u00eb fem\u00ebr. Me nj\u00eb fjal\u00eb, grat\u00eb duan t\u00eb ken\u00eb n\u00eb krah nj\u00eb burr\u00eb optimist, q\u00eb t\u2019u\ndal\u00eb p\u00ebr zot asaj e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve dhe t\u00eb p\u00ebrballoj\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsit\u00eb e jet\u00ebs. Konfliktet\ne vogla q\u00eb jan\u00eb t\u00eb paevitueshme n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt familjare, njeriu\noptimist dhe zem\u00ebrgjer\u00eb i zgjidh m\u00eb leht\u00eb. Prandaj, kur t\u00eb zgjidhni njeriun e\njet\u00ebs, mbajeni parasysh edhe k\u00ebt\u00eb k\u00ebshill\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. T\u00eb jet\u00eb gati p\u00ebr t\u00eb ndryshuar p\u00ebr hir tuaj dhe t\u00eb\njet\u00ebs suaj t\u00eb p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Gruaja nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb kurr\u00eb\nn\u00eb gjendje t\u00eb ndryshoj\u00eb karakterin e nj\u00eb mashkulli, por burri, ama, mundet dhe\n\u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb gjendje t\u00eb ndryshoj\u00eb p\u00ebr hir t\u00eb nj\u00eb gruaje. Prandaj, q\u00ebkur jeni n\u00eb\nfillim t\u00eb jet\u00ebs suaj t\u00eb p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt, n\u00eb rast se e vler\u00ebsoni n\u00eb t\u00ebr\u00ebsi nj\u00eb\nmashkull, por shikoni se ai ka di\u00e7ka p\u00ebr t\u00eb ndrequr, thuajani hapur e me\nsinqeritet d\u00ebshir\u00ebn tuaj dhe keni p\u00ebr t\u2019ia arritur q\u00ebllimit. Meshkujt serioz\u00eb i\nvler\u00ebsojn\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet serioze dhe din\u00eb t\u2019u p\u00ebrshtaten atyre apo t\u00eb pakt\u00ebn,\np\u00ebrpiqen. Ai, pasi t\u2019ju d\u00ebgjoj\u00eb juve, do t\u00eb mendohet, do t\u00eb analizoj\u00eb situat\u00ebn\ndhe do t\u00eb nxjerr\u00eb p\u00ebrfundimet e duhura, por p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb, duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb i\npredispozuar, prandaj, para se t\u00eb merrni vendimin p\u00ebrfundimtar p\u00ebr t\u2019u lidhur\np\u00ebrjet\u00ebsisht me nj\u00eb mashkull, shikoni n\u00ebse ai \u00ebsht\u00eb gati t\u00eb ndryshoj\u00eb p\u00ebr hir\ntuaj dhe t\u00eb jet\u00ebs suaj t\u00eb p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt, pra, n\u00ebse do q\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00eb i arsyesh\u00ebm, i\nlakuesh\u00ebm, fleksib\u00ebl. N\u00eb nj\u00eb \u00e7ift, partner\u00ebt, koh\u00eb pas kohe, korrigjojn\u00eb di\u00e7ka te\nvetja…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Ai duhet t\u00eb mbetet gjithmon\u00eb pak enigmatik p\u00ebr ju<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Fillimi i\nmarr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb moment shum\u00eb interesant dhe emocionues sepse ju sapo\nfilloni ta njihni nj\u00ebri-tjetrin, por megjith\u00ebse \u00e7do virtyt q\u00eb zbuloni tek ai ju\ng\u00ebzon, prap\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb mir\u00eb q\u00eb mashkulli t\u00eb mbetet pak enigmatik p\u00ebr ju.\nPavar\u00ebsisht nga af\u00ebrsia dhe afiniteti q\u00eb lind n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet midis dy sekseve,\npavar\u00ebsisht faktit q\u00eb mashkulli t\u2019jua hap\u00eb zemr\u00ebn p\u00ebr \u00e7do gj\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb mir\u00eb q\u00eb n\u00eb\nkarakterin dhe temperamentin e tij, di\u00e7ka t\u00eb mbetet e paqart\u00eb, di\u00e7ka q\u00eb ta\nshfaq\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb rrethan\u00eb t\u00eb caktuar. P\u00ebrndryshe, ai nuk do t\u00eb vazhdoj\u00eb t\u2019ju\nintrigoj\u00eb dhe, nga nj\u00eb dashnor romantik, do t\u00eb shnd\u00ebrrohet n\u00eb nj\u00eb mik e shok t\u00eb\nvjet\u00ebr q\u00eb \u201cia keni pir\u00eb l\u00ebngun\u201d , q\u00eb \u201ci njihni dh\u00ebmb\u00eb e dh\u00ebmball\u00eb\u201d dhe s\u2019keni \u00e7\u2019t\u00eb\nzbuloni m\u00eb tek ai.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. T\u00eb ket\u00eb ndjenj\u00ebn e p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsis\u00eb ekonomike dhe t\u00eb dij\u00eb\nt\u00eb kursej\u00eb parat\u00eb<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Fakti se si i\nharxhon nj\u00eb mashkull edhe nj\u00eb fem\u00ebr parat\u00eb, flet shum\u00eb p\u00ebr karakterin e tyre.\nPsikolog\u00ebt mendojn\u00eb se meshkujt q\u00eb nuk din\u00eb t\u00eb llogarisin shpenzimet e tyre dhe\nnuk duan t\u2019ia din\u00eb p\u00ebr parat\u00eb, nuk din\u00eb t\u00eb kontrollojn\u00eb veprimet e tyre,\nshkojn\u00eb kuturu n\u00eb rrug\u00ebn e jet\u00ebs, jan\u00eb liberal\u00eb dhe u mungon durimi p\u00ebr t\u00eb\nzgjidhur problemet e nd\u00ebrlikuara t\u00eb jet\u00ebs. E keqja \u00ebsht\u00eb se duke mos qen\u00eb shum\u00eb\nkonseguent\u00eb, ata nuk jan\u00eb t\u00eb q\u00ebndruesh\u00ebm dhe mund ta tradhtojn\u00eb bashk\u00ebshorten e\ntyre. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ja, k\u00ebto jan\u00eb disa an\u00eb t\u00eb karakterit t\u00eb mashkullit q\u00eb \u00e7do\nvajz\u00eb duhet t\u2019i m\u00ebsoj\u00eb n\u00eb fillimet e marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve intime, n\u00eb momentet kur\nzemra rreh si e \u00e7mendur sapo d\u00ebgjon tingujt e par\u00eb t\u00eb z\u00ebrit t\u00eb tij, kur trupi\nt\u00eb dridhet dhe t\u00eb mbushet me mornica sapo buz\u00ebt e tij t\u00eb ngrohta prekin buz\u00ebt e\ntua t\u00eb thara nga ankthi i pritjes, syt\u00eb err\u00ebsohen dhe e sheh bot\u00ebn vet\u00ebm roz\u00eb\u2026<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

K\u00ebshilla t\u00eb dobishme Kur zemra rreh si e \u00e7mendur sapo d\u00ebgjon tingujt e par\u00eb t\u00eb z\u00ebrit t\u00eb tij, kur trupi t\u00eb dridhet dhe t\u00eb mbushet me mornica sapo buz\u00ebt e tij t\u00eb ngrohta prekin buz\u00ebt e tua t\u00eb thara nga ankthi i pritjes, syt\u00eb err\u00ebsohen, bot\u00ebn e sheh vet\u00ebm roz\u00eb dhe logjika mefsht\u00ebsohet. Jan\u00eb ato […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":20473,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[50],"tags":[2147],"class_list":["post-20472","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-intimitet","tag-keshilla"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20472","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=20472"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20472\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/20473"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=20472"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=20472"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=20472"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}