{"id":20128,"date":"2019-01-12T16:30:37","date_gmt":"2019-01-12T15:30:37","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=20128"},"modified":"2019-01-12T15:24:15","modified_gmt":"2019-01-12T14:24:15","slug":"%ef%bb%bfsi-te-pershtatem-me-jeten-martesore","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2019\/01\/%ef%bb%bfsi-te-pershtatem-me-jeten-martesore\/","title":{"rendered":"\ufeffSi t\u00eb p\u00ebrshtatem me jet\u00ebn martesore?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><br><strong>&#8211; P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje gazeta Intervista. Kam nj\u00eb pyetje p\u00ebr psikologen tuaj. Un\u00eb\ndo martohem s\u00eb shpejti por m\u00eb ka kapur nj\u00eb si ankth q\u00eb nuk e shpjegoj se nga m\u00eb\nvjen. Un\u00eb e dua shum\u00eb t\u00eb fejuarin tim por ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb m\u00eb duket sikur nuk do\np\u00ebrshtatem dot me jet\u00ebn martesore, m\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb kthyer n\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtje psikologjike\ntani. Desha t\u00eb di mendimin tuaj p\u00ebr lidhjen dhe pershtatjen psikologjike t\u00eb nj\u00eb\n\u00e7ifti n\u00eb martes\u00eb. Si lidhen k\u00ebto marrdh\u00ebnie me dashurin\u00eb dhe jet\u00ebn e\np\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt? Faleminderit, n\u00eb pritje t\u00eb nj\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje nga ana juaj. Lejdina<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Amarilda Garuli, psikologe, email <\/strong><a href=\"mailto:ilda.garuli@gmail.com:-\"><strong>ilda.garuli@gmail.com:-<\/strong><\/a>P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje Lejdina! T\u00eb falenderoj p\u00ebr\npyetjen. Martesa \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb vendim i r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e \u00e7do njeriu. Ajo\nsjell ndryshim n\u00eb shum\u00eb aspekte. Nj\u00eb nga element\u00ebt m\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm \u00ebsht\u00eb\np\u00ebrshtatja me jet\u00ebn e re dhe p\u00ebrshtatja n\u00eb partneritet. Marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia q\u00eb ne\nkrijojm\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme.\nSjelljet,zakonet,komunikimi,q\u00ebndrimet,d\u00ebshirat dhe raporti n\u00eb \u00e7ift do t\u00eb na\nb\u00ebjn\u00eb t\u00eb njohim nj\u00ebri tjerin nga k\u00ebndv\u00ebshtrime t\u00eb tjera. Pjesa e p\u00ebrshtatjes s\u00eb\nnj\u00eb \u00e7ifti n\u00eb martes\u00eb vjen natyrsh\u00ebm n\u00eb jeten e dy njer\u00ebzve q\u00eb duhen dhe q\u00eb do\njetojn\u00eb s\u00eb bashku. Kur kjo gj\u00eb kthehet n\u00eb shqet\u00ebsim paraprak, duhet t\u00eb diskutohet\ndhe t\u00eb ndahet me partnerin pasi komunikim \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb nj\u00eb ur\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb\nzgjidhur situatat. Martesa \u00ebsht\u00eb si nj\u00eb pik\u00eb mb\u00ebrritjeje, por n\u00ebse do provoje t\u2019a\njetoje dhe t\u2019a ndieje si nj\u00eb pik\u00eb nisjeje, do t\u00eb ndihmonte vazhdim\u00ebsin\u00eb dhe\nraportin, sepse \u00e7do marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb evolucion i vazhduesh\u00ebm. Si \u00e7do\naspekt tjeter n\u00eb jet\u00eb edhe martesa, vendimi p\u00ebr t`u martuar, na \u00e7on t\u00eb\np\u00ebrjetojm\u00eb disa faza. N\u00eb fillim \u00ebsht\u00eb entuziazmi, dashuria ndaj partnerit,\nd\u00ebshirat p\u00ebr t\u00eb nd\u00ebrtuar jet\u00ebn, por nga ana tjet\u00ebr edhe pasiguria shpesh b\u00ebhet\npjes\u00eb e mendimeve tuaja dhe ju ndjeheni n\u00eb ankth. T\u00eb flas\u00ebsh dhe t\u00eb ndash\nmendimin dhe ndjesit\u00eb me partnerin na dihmon p\u00ebr t\u00eb kuptuar situatat por edhe\np\u00ebr t\u00eb zgjidhur komunikimin n\u00eb vazhdim. P\u00ebrshtatjen psikologjike gjith\u00ebsecili e\nzhvillon dhe i jep nga bot\u00ebkuptimi i tij. Prandaj martesa nuk duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb\nvendi ku \u201cq\u00ebllimi\u201d kthehet t\u00eb p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsojm\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb nj\u00ebri-tjetrin. T\u00eb\nnd\u00ebrhyjm\u00eb n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb aspekt si pjes\u00eb e d\u00ebshir\u00ebs s\u00eb mir\u00eb q\u00eb duke b\u00ebr\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb gj\u00eb ne\np\u00ebrmir\u00ebsojm\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnien ton\u00eb, por jo. Kjo gj\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e mir\u00eb, sepse do\nishte sikur t\u00eb shkojm\u00eb p\u00ebrgjithmon\u00eb n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb dhe kjo nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e sh\u00ebndet\u00ebshme\ndhe pengon p\u00ebrshtatjen dhe lidhjen. Pra jan\u00eb shum\u00eb faktor\u00eb q\u00eb prishin\nekuilibrat e vendosur. E r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb ruajm\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnien, komunikimin\ndhe at\u00ebher\u00eb bashk\u00ebjetesa n\u00eb partneritet \u00ebsht\u00eb e pac\u00ebnushme. &nbsp;Element\u00ebt q\u00eb e ndihmojn\u00eb p\u00ebrshtatjen e nj\u00eb\n\u00e7ifti n\u00eb martes\u00eb, mar\u00ebdh\u00ebnien, dashurin\u00eb dhe jetes\u00ebn e p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt jan\u00eb: t\u00eb\nmendosh pozitivisht; t\u00eb analizosh frik\u00ebrat dhe ti ndash me partnerin situatat\nq\u00eb t\u00eb krijojn\u00eb pasiguri; kujdesi p\u00ebr veten do na fokusonte n\u00eb gj\u00ebra q\u00eb na\nk\u00ebnaqin dhe na b\u00ebjn\u00eb t\u00eb ndjehemi pozitiv\u00eb, pasi martesa \u00ebsht\u00eb impenjim, vullnet\ndhe dedikim. T\u00eb krijosh af\u00ebrsi me partnerin, \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb nga m\u00ebnyrat m\u00eb t\u00eb mira\nq\u00eb do t\u00eb na ndihmonin p\u00ebr t\u00eb pasur gjithmon\u00eb nj\u00eb komunikim t\u00eb mir\u00eb, nj\u00eb\nmarr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie t\u00eb mir\u00eb dhe nj\u00eb d\u00ebshir\u00eb p\u00ebr ta ndar\u00eb shqet\u00ebsimin dhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb forcuar\nlidhjen, p\u00ebrshtatjen dhe jetes\u00ebn n\u00eb partneritet. T\u00eb uroj gjith\u00eb t\u00eb mirat!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&#8211; P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje gazeta Intervista. Kam nj\u00eb pyetje p\u00ebr psikologen tuaj. Un\u00eb do martohem s\u00eb shpejti por m\u00eb ka kapur nj\u00eb si ankth q\u00eb nuk e shpjegoj se nga m\u00eb vjen. Un\u00eb e dua shum\u00eb t\u00eb fejuarin tim por ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb m\u00eb duket sikur nuk do p\u00ebrshtatem dot me jet\u00ebn martesore, m\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb kthyer n\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtje psikologjike [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":19894,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[86],"tags":[2006],"class_list":["post-20128","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-psikologu","tag-amarilda-garuli"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20128","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=20128"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20128\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/19894"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=20128"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=20128"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=20128"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}