{"id":20070,"date":"2019-01-11T21:00:34","date_gmt":"2019-01-11T20:00:34","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=20070"},"modified":"2019-01-11T19:44:47","modified_gmt":"2019-01-11T18:44:47","slug":"kam-kaq-shume-pyetje-per-jeten","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2019\/01\/kam-kaq-shume-pyetje-per-jeten\/","title":{"rendered":"Kam kaq shum\u00eb pyetje p\u00ebr jet\u00ebn\u2026!"},"content":{"rendered":"\n


Jam kurioze t\u00eb di p\u00ebrgjigjen e disa pyetjeve t\u00eb cilat po i r\u00ebndis si m\u00eb posht\u00eb : Ku mbaron zgjuarsia e ku fillon budallall\u00ebku ? Dikush lind i zgjuar apo b\u00ebhet? Edukimi lindte ne apo edukohemi duke jetuar? Ne e kontrollojme trurina po truri neve ? N\u00ebse vdekja fshin gjith\u00e7ka , \u00e7\u2019kuptim do t\u2019i mbetej jet\u00ebs ? Nd\u00ebrgjegjja drejton jet\u00ebn apo jeta nd\u00ebrgjegjen ? Kur di\u00e7ka quhet e drejt\u00eb dhe kur e padrejt\u00eb ? Ku q\u00ebndron ndryshimi midis s\u00eb\u00a0 mir\u00ebs dhe s\u00eb\u00a0 keqes ? M\u00eb falni se u zgjata por jan\u00eb pyetje q\u00eb\u00a0 m\u00eb\u00a0 ziejn\u00eb\u00a0 gjat\u00eb\u00a0 gjith\u00eb koh\u00ebs \u2026!<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Olta Mu\u00e7a, psikologe, email\noltamuca@gmail.com:-<\/strong> Faleminderit p\u00ebr pyetjen e drejtuar! N\u00eb  fakt k\u00ebto jan\u00eb pyetje t\u00eb  p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebshme \nq\u00eb  mendohen pothuaj nga t\u00eb\ngjith\u00eb  e normalisht. Jeta s\u2019\u00ebsht\u00eb  e leht\u00eb \nndonjeher\u00eb  ka na b\u00ebn ne t\u00eb  jemi q\u00ebnie relative n\u00eb  realitet. Ka frustrime t\u00eb ndyshme pasi i\nzgjuar njeriu lind q\u00eb n\u00eb krijimin e tij. Po ta v\u00ebsh re f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e sot\u00ebm jan\u00eb\nshum\u00eb t\u00eb zgjuar. I zgjuar lind e do b\u00ebhesh ai\/ajo q\u00eb t\u00eb ka p\u00ebrcaktuar fati t\u00eb b\u00ebhesh\npavar\u00ebsisht pengesave t\u00eb ndryshme q\u00eb hasen rrug\u00ebs . Nd\u00ebrsa buadallall\u00ebku s\u2019ka\nkufij realisht \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb i p\u00ebrhapur . \nVall\u00eb  p\u00ebrse ne jemi kaq pasiv si\nnjer\u00ebz? Pse sulmojm\u00eb nj\u00ebri tjetrin? Pse ndodhin vrasjet e ndryshme? Pse\nsulmojm\u00eb  k\u00ebdo q\u00eb  del p\u00ebrpara nesh?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

T\u00eb marrim me radh\u00eb pyetjet e tua. E para, ku ndryshon budallall\u00ebku\nnga zgjuarsi? N\u00eb fakt gjithmon\u00eb  ka pse\nose \u00e7far\u00eb  por marr\u00ebzia s\u2019ka fund, ka\nekzistuar e do vazhdoj\u00eb  t\u00eb   ekzistoj\u00eb \np\u00ebrpos fakteve t\u00eb  ndryshme apo\np\u00ebrparimit t\u00eb  teknologjis\u00eb ne p\u00ebrs\u00ebri mbetemi\nt\u00eb  pafuqish\u00ebm. Konkretisht nd\u00ebrsa p\u00ebrsa i\np\u00ebrket i zgjuar lind apo b\u00ebhesh . I zgjuar lind nuk b\u00ebhesh, pavar\u00ebsisht n\u00ebse ti\nje i pasur ose i varf\u00ebr . koefi\u00e7enti i inteligjenc\u00ebs s\u2019varet nga shtres\u00ebzimi\nsocial , p\u00ebrshembull Albert Ajnshtajn \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb nga rastet q\u00eb nj\u00eb njeri\ninteligjent lind. Madje nj\u00eb nga theniet me t\u00eb mira t\u00eb tij \u00ebsht\u00eb:\u201c Ti s\u2019mund\nt\u00eb  faj\u00ebsosh forc\u00ebn e gravitetit p\u00ebr\nt\u00eb  r\u00ebn\u00eb \nn\u00eb dashuri \u2018\u2019 edhe pse si i till\u00eb \nai vler\u00ebsohej si nj\u00eb  nga nx\u00ebn\u00ebsit\nm\u00eb  t\u00eb \ndob\u00ebt, t\u00eb  klas\u00ebs e shkoll\u00ebs. Madje\nn\u00eb dit\u00ebt e sotme \u00ebsht\u00eb  m\u00eb  e leht\u00eb \nt\u00eb  mas\u00ebsh kofi\u00e7entin e inteligjenc\u00ebs,\np\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb  teknologjis\u00eb. Jeta jon\u00eb\n\u00ebsht\u00eb  n\u00eb \nprovim t\u00eb  vazhduesh\u00ebm \u00e7\u2019ka na b\u00ebn\nne t\u00eb jemi ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb m\u00eb  t\u00eb  dob\u00ebt ndonj\u00eb her\u00eb  t\u00eb fuqish\u00ebm psikologjikisht .<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. P\u00ebrsa i p\u00ebrket pyetjet n\u00ebse e kontrollojm\u00eb  trurin apo truri neve ? \u00c7\u00ebshtja \u00ebsht\u00eb  q\u00eb \ntruri \u00ebsht\u00eb pjes\u00eb  e sistemit\nnervor q\u00ebndror . E truri i njeriut \u00ebsht\u00eb \ntruri m\u00eb i p\u00ebrsosur, truri \u00ebsht\u00eb i p\u00ebrb\u00ebr\u00eb  n\u00eb  5\npjes\u00eb , truri i madh , truri i mes\u00ebm , truri i nd\u00ebrmjet\u00ebm , truri i vog\u00ebl dhe\npalca kurrizore. P\u00ebrve\u00e7 k\u00ebsaj truri yn\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb pjes\u00eb e panjohur p\u00ebr ne, duke\nqen\u00eb se njeriu realisht mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrdori vet\u00ebm 10 ose15 % max 20 % mund t\u00eb\np\u00ebrdorim n\u00eb trurinton\u00eb . Ne e kontrollojm\u00eb trurin ton\u00eb por edhe kjo varet nga\nkoefi\u00e7enti i inteligjenc\u00ebs q\u00eb ne zot\u00ebrojm\u00eb ose e kemi t\u00eb lindur . <\/p>\n\n\n\n

3.N\u00ebse vdekja fshin gjith\u00e7ka , \u00e7\u2019kuptim do ti mbetej jet\u00ebs? N\u00eb\nfakt jeta jon\u00eb s\u2019p\u00ebrfundon me vdekjen ton\u00eb. Jeta jon\u00eb fillon p\u00ebrs\u00ebri edhe pas\nvdekjes \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb jet\u00eb e tjet\u00ebrsuar e super relative, super e fuqishme e\nhyjnore , por  jeta jone s\u2019\u00ebsht\u00eb pa\nkuptim ne kemi ardhur p\u00ebr t\u00eb plot\u00ebsuar peripecit\u00eb e ndyshme ose ndryshe fatin tone.\nNe jemi t\u00eb destinuar t\u00eb jetojm\u00eb ose t\u00eb b\u00ebhemi, at\u00eb q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e shkruar t\u00eb b\u00ebhemi\nqoft\u00eb  p\u00ebr mir\u00eb ose keq. N\u00ebse biem n\u00eb  depresion e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme \u00ebsht\u00eb  t\u00eb \nk\u00ebrkojm\u00eb  ndihm\u00eb ose terapist ,\npor pa nd\u00ebrprer\u00eb  jet\u00ebn ton\u00eb. Vdekja\n\u00ebsht\u00eb  fundi n\u00eb  k\u00ebt\u00eb \nbot\u00eb  q\u00eb  ne ekzistojm\u00eb \njo n\u00eb bot\u00ebn e p\u00ebrtejme . \u00c8sht\u00eb di\u00e7ka e panjohur p\u00ebr ne n\u00eb realitet, duam\napo s\u2019duam ne, her\u00ebt apo von\u00eb do t\u00eb ndodh\u00eb si fenomen .<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Nd\u00ebrgjegja drejton jet\u00ebn apo jeta nd\u00ebrgjegjen . \u00cbsht\u00eb nd\u00ebrgjegja\najo q\u00eb  drejton jet\u00ebn sot p\u00ebr sot ,\nasgj\u00eb  s\u2019\u00ebsht\u00eb   de\u00e7izive . Kur sot q\u00eb   jemi n\u00eb  \nepok\u00ebn e teknologjis\u00eb  e njer\u00ebzit\njan\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb   materialista .Nd\u00ebrgjegja ekziston\nme njer\u00ebz t\u00eb rrall\u00eb q\u00eb kan\u00eb nd\u00ebrgjegje ose sed\u00ebr e jan\u00eb t\u00eb lindur t\u00eb till\u00eb.\nNd\u00ebrgjegja vler\u00ebsohet si interes personal me pak krip\u00eb e sheqer brenda. Kjo\n\u00ebsht\u00eb   nd\u00ebrgjegja? Nd\u00ebrgjegja drejton\njet\u00ebn ton\u00eb p\u00ebr mir\u00eb ose keq  gjith\u00e7ka\nvaret nga zgjedhjet tona<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Kur di\u00e7ka quhet e drejt\u00eb dhe kur e padrejt\u00eb? Di\u00e7ka quhet e\ndrejt\u00eb kur ti ose ajo b\u00ebn nj\u00eb   veprim\nt\u00eb   drejt\u00eb dhe nuk c\u00ebnon tjetrin ose n\u00eb\nrastin m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb, tjetrit i vijn\u00eb benefite shpirt\u00ebrore ose mat\u00ebriale.\nP\u00ebrshembull, i drejt\u00eb  quhet nj\u00eb   njeri q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb i mir\u00eb shpirt\u00ebrisht , shikon\njet\u00ebn e vet\u00eb, t\u00eb mos nd\u00ebrhyj\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve n\u00eb  aspektin social e psikologjik. Njer\u00ebz t\u00eb\ndrejt\u00eb ka sa t\u00eb duash , nd\u00ebrsa di\u00e7ka quhet e padrejt\u00eb kur nj\u00eb njeri mundohet t\u00eb\nsulmoj\u00eb dik\u00eb tjet\u00ebr pa arsye. Thjesht e b\u00ebn p\u00ebr ego ose e ka inat si p\u00eblqen si\nnjeri, pram und t\u00eb ket\u00eb faktor\u00eb t\u00eb ndrysh\u00ebm . \u00cbsht\u00eb  m\u00eb i\/e mir\u00eb se ai ose ajo ( liria jote\np\u00ebrfundon aty ku fillon liria e tjetrit ) <\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. Ku  q\u00ebndron ndryshimi\nmidis s\u00eb  mir\u00ebs dhe s\u00eb keqes. Ndryshimi\nmidis s\u00eb mir\u00eb s\u00eb keqes \u00ebsht\u00eb  q\u00eb e mira s\u2019ka\nfund , kur dikush \u00ebsht\u00eb  i mir\u00eb ai\n\u00ebsht\u00eb  i mir\u00eb. Nd\u00ebrsa i keq b\u00ebhesh kur t\u00eb\nduash, \u00e7\u2019do gj\u00eb  \u00ebsht\u00eb  e lindur n\u00eb shpirt. Prandaj  \u00ebsht\u00eb \nmir\u00eb  q\u00eb ne t\u00eb ushqejm\u00eb shpirtin\npastaj mendjen e t\u00eb jetojm\u00eb t\u00eb lumtur. Ne mund t\u00eb flasim n\u00eb realitet p\u00ebr shum\u00eb\n\u00e7\u00ebshtje t\u00eb ndryshme por asgj\u00eb s\u2019\u00ebsht\u00eb infinit n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb bot\u00eb e k\u00ebt\u00eb jet\u00eb q\u00eb ne po\njetojm\u00eb . E jo pa shkak \u00e7do t\u00eb mir\u00eb ose t\u00eb keqe q\u00eb ne bejm\u00eb na kthehet mbrapsh,\n\u00ebsht\u00eb universi ai q\u00eb punon p\u00ebr ne p\u00ebr t\u00eb na kthyer mbrapsh \u00e7do gj\u00eb si p\u00ebr mir\u00eb\ne keq. Jan\u00eb njer\u00ebzit ose mendja njer\u00ebzore q\u00eb\u00ebsht\u00eb e panjohur p\u00ebr ne e realisht\nsi kuptojm\u00eb ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb njer\u00ebzit. Ne duhet t\u00eb \nvler\u00ebsojm\u00eb njer\u00ebzit q\u00eb  kemi rreth\ne perqark, t\u00eb  jemi mir\u00ebnjoh\u00ebs e t\u00eb  mundohemi t\u00eb jemi t\u00eb  lumtur me njer\u00ebz q\u00eb  na duan e vler\u00ebsojn\u00eb. Uroj t\u00eb jem p\u00ebrgjigjur\npyetjeve t\u00eb tua! Gjith\u00eb t\u00eb mirat!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Jam kurioze t\u00eb di p\u00ebrgjigjen e disa pyetjeve t\u00eb cilat po i r\u00ebndis si m\u00eb posht\u00eb : Ku mbaron zgjuarsia e ku fillon budallall\u00ebku ? Dikush lind i zgjuar apo b\u00ebhet? Edukimi lindte ne apo edukohemi duke jetuar? Ne e kontrollojme trurina po truri neve ? N\u00ebse vdekja fshin gjith\u00e7ka , \u00e7\u2019kuptim do t\u2019i mbetej […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":20071,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[86],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-20070","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-psikologu"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20070","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=20070"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20070\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/20071"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=20070"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=20070"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=20070"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}