{"id":2007,"date":"2014-07-31T18:53:20","date_gmt":"2014-07-31T18:53:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=2007"},"modified":"2014-07-31T18:53:20","modified_gmt":"2014-07-31T18:53:20","slug":"ne-lidhje-jeni-e-ngjitur-si-vinovili-apo-e-larget-si-ariu-i-shpellave-3","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2014\/07\/ne-lidhje-jeni-e-ngjitur-si-vinovili-apo-e-larget-si-ariu-i-shpellave-3\/","title":{"rendered":"N\u00eb lidhje, jeni e ngjitur si vinovili apo e larg\u00ebt si ariu i shpellave?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong><em>Para disa shekujsh, t\u00eb dashuruarit komunikonin fal\u00eb p\u00ebllumbave udh\u00ebtar\u00eb! N\u00eb koh\u00ebn e Mesjet\u00ebs, kalor\u00ebsit ishin gati t\u00eb jepnin jet\u00ebn p\u00ebr t\u00eb dashur\u00ebn e zemr\u00ebs s\u00eb tyre (koh\u00eb t\u00eb arta!). Sot, me mjetet e shpejta t\u00eb komunikimit, kodet e lidhjeve dashurore kan\u00eb ndryshuar dhe ndodh jo rrall\u00eb q\u00eb ta teprosh&#8230; ose t\u00eb mos b\u00ebsh aq sa duhet! Verifikoni me an\u00eb t\u00eb testit t\u00eb m\u00ebposht\u00ebm, n\u00ebse dini ta dozoni vrullin tuaj dashuror.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>1. Sa her\u00eb i d\u00ebrgoni sms t\u00eb dashurit\/\u00ebs?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>a. Sa her\u00eb mendoni p\u00ebr t\u00eb (nuk llogariten m\u00eb, n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb nivel).<\/p>\n<p>b. P\u00ebr t\u2019iu p\u00ebrgjigjur kur ju d\u00ebrgon ai\/ajo.<\/p>\n<p>c. Rrall\u00eb, preferoni m\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u2019i telefononi.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>2. Ideja q\u00eb t\u00eb takoheni me t\u00eb dashurin tuaj \u00e7do dit\u00eb, ju duket:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>a. Minimumi p\u00ebr nj\u00eb lidhje t\u00eb sh\u00ebndetshme dhe serioze.<\/p>\n<p>b. Nj\u00eb ide e mir\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb ardhmen, sidomos n\u00ebse m\u00ebson t\u00eb laj\u00eb en\u00ebt!<\/p>\n<p>c. Deprimuese! Ju keni nevoj\u00eb t\u00eb rrini edhe vet\u00ebm.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>3. Keni kaluar nj\u00eb fundjav\u00eb t\u00eb dy, si t\u00eb dashuruar, pra, keni q\u00ebndruar dy dit\u00eb rresht me partnerin:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>a. Ia kaluam mir\u00eb, megjith\u00ebse ai shk\u00ebputej shpesh (fliste n\u00eb telefon p\u00ebr pun\u00ebn)&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>b. Shk\u00eblqyesh\u00ebm, por \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithashtu mir\u00eb kur kthehesh n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>c. Kjo, ju dha mund\u00ebsi t\u00eb kalonit ca koh\u00eb me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>4. Pas nj\u00eb z\u00ebnke me t\u00eb dashurin, ju ndjeni d\u00ebshir\u00ebn p\u00ebr:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>a. Ta p\u00ebrqafuar<\/p>\n<p>b. T\u2019u izoluar, p\u00ebr t\u00eb reflektuar m\u00eb mir\u00eb.<\/p>\n<p>c. Ta rrahur<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>5. Ai nuk ju ka telefonuar gjith\u00eb dit\u00ebn:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>a. Ju e keni provuar vet\u00eb, por pa rezultat. Nga shqet\u00ebsimi, i keni b\u00ebr\u00eb thonjt\u00eb cop\u00eb.<\/p>\n<p>b. Ai duhet t\u00eb ket\u00eb shum\u00eb pun\u00eb, ashtu si edhe ju.<\/p>\n<p>c. Po pastaj?<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>6. Sa miq keni n\u00eb profilin tuaj t\u00eb Facebookut?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>a. Afro 150<\/p>\n<p>b. Nuk e dini<\/p>\n<p>c. Nd\u00ebrmjet 500-1000 miq<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>7. N\u00eb dashuri, cila do t\u00eb ishte deviza juaj nd\u00ebrmjet k\u00ebtyre tre shprehjeve?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>a. Secili k\u00ebrkon gjysm\u00ebn e tij\/saj.<\/p>\n<p>b. N\u00ebse ti m\u00eb do, un\u00eb largohem, n\u00ebse t\u00eb dua un\u00eb, kujdes&#8230; (nga opera \u201cKarmen\u201d)<\/p>\n<p>c. M\u00eb mir\u00eb vet\u00ebm se n\u00eb shoq\u00ebri t\u00eb keqe.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>8. Partneri juaj rrezikon t\u00eb mungoj\u00eb p\u00ebr Sh\u00ebn Valentin, pasi do t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb nj\u00eb udh\u00ebtim jasht\u00eb vendit:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>a. E pamundur! Ju mendoni t\u00eb udh\u00ebtoni me t\u00eb, p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb s\u00eb bashku.<\/p>\n<p>b. E b\u00ebni t\u2019ju premtoj\u00eb q\u00eb do t\u2019ju marr\u00eb n\u00eb telefon, p\u00ebr nj\u00eb puthje virtuale.<\/p>\n<p>c. Nuk jeni shum\u00eb e dh\u00ebn\u00eb pas Sh\u00ebn Valentinit.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>9. Partneri ju ka v\u00ebn\u00eb q\u00eb tani nofk\u00ebn \u201ckavanoz vinovili\u201d:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>a. E gjith\u00eb kjo sepse doni ta p\u00ebrqafoni fort kur kthehet nga puna.<\/p>\n<p>b. Ishte ironike, at\u00ebhere&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>c. Mbase n\u00eb ndonj\u00eb fest\u00eb i ngjiteni pas, kur nuk njihni njeri aty.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>10. T\u00eb shtun\u00ebn n\u00eb dark\u00eb, ai ju thot\u00eb se do t\u00eb dal\u00eb me shok\u00ebt&#8230; Reagimi juaj:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>a. Mund t\u00eb vij edhe un\u00eb n\u00ebse pi birr\u00eb?<\/p>\n<p>b. Mos u kthe shum\u00eb von\u00eb!<\/p>\n<p>c. Po dal edhe un\u00eb me shoqet, at\u00ebher\u00eb. Kush t\u00eb kthehet i pari n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi, t\u00eb ngroh\u00eb krevatin, duke pritur tjetrin&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>11. Nj\u00eb shoqe ju telefonon, duke ju th\u00ebn\u00eb se keni koh\u00eb pa u par\u00eb dhe se do t\u00eb donte t\u00eb takoheshit:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>a. I thoni se nuk keni koh\u00eb; keni parashikuar t\u00eb dilni me t\u00eb dashurin.<\/p>\n<p>b. I propozoni t\u00eb dilni t\u00eb nes\u00ebrmen, pasi sot nuk keni mund\u00ebsi.<\/p>\n<p>c. Pranoni menj\u00ebher\u00eb, keni kaq koh\u00eb q\u00eb nuk shiheni&#8230; Partneri\/ja do t\u2019ju kuptoj\u00eb.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>12. Ju propozojn\u00eb nga puna t\u00eb shkoni dy muaj p\u00ebr specializim n\u00eb nj\u00eb vend t\u00eb larg\u00ebt:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>a. Nuk mund t\u00eb pranoni, dy muaj \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb koh\u00eb kaq e gjat\u00eb!<\/p>\n<p>b. I thoni se do ta mendoni propozimin e tyre.<\/p>\n<p>c. Pranoni menj\u00ebher\u00eb; nj\u00eb mund\u00ebsi e till\u00eb, rrall\u00eb t\u00eb jepet.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>13. Nuk keni shum\u00eb koh\u00eb q\u00eb njiheni, por ai ju propozon t\u00eb njiheni me prind\u00ebrit e tij:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>a. Pranoni gjith\u00eb entuziaz\u00ebm; ju k\u00ebt\u00eb gj\u00eb prisnit.<\/p>\n<p>b. Ju vjen paksa e papritur dhe i thoni se duhet ta mendoni mir\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb hap.<\/p>\n<p>c. I thoni se \u00ebsht\u00eb ende her\u00ebt dhe se keni nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr m\u00eb shum\u00eb koh\u00eb, q\u00eb t\u00eb njiheni me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>14. \u00cbsht\u00eb p\u00ebrvjetori i puthjes suaj dhe ai e ka harruar:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>a. Varni turinjt\u00eb dhe i thoni se ishte i r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm p\u00ebr ju.<\/p>\n<p>b. P\u00ebrpiqeni t\u2019ia kujtoni ju, me ndonj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb.<\/p>\n<p>c. Nuk i jepni shum\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi harres\u00ebs.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>15. Nj\u00eb shoqja juaj ju thot\u00eb se i shoqi do t\u00eb shkoj\u00eb n\u00eb emigracion dhe vet\u00ebm pas disa koh\u00ebsh do t\u00eb mund t\u00eb bashkohet me t\u00eb. Ju i thoni se:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>a. Nuk do t\u00eb mund ta duronit k\u00ebt\u00eb gj\u00eb.<\/p>\n<p>b. Do t\u00eb jet\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb. P\u00ebr fat t\u00eb mir\u00eb, me k\u00ebto mjetet e reja t\u00eb komunikimit, larg\u00ebsit\u00eb jan\u00eb shkurtuar.<\/p>\n<p>c. Nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb ndonj\u00eb gj\u00eb e madhe, shum\u00eb vet\u00eb e b\u00ebjn\u00eb.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Rezultatet<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>N\u00ebse keni m\u00eb shum\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje a. Ju jeni si nj\u00eb \u201ckavanoz vinovili\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Ju jeni shum\u00eb i\/e ngjitur (pas si shum\u00eb). D\u00ebshira q\u00eb keni p\u00ebr t\u00eb kontrolluar gjith\u00e7ka q\u00eb ka lidhje me partnerin, ju shtyn t\u00eb keni q\u00ebndrimin e atij\/asaj q\u00eb fut hund\u00ebt pak si shum\u00eb. Nuk arrini t\u00eb mos rrini ngjitur tij, kur e keni pran\u00eb. P\u00ebr fat t\u00eb mir\u00eb, ai \u00ebsht\u00eb i duruesh\u00ebm dhe ju do! Mjaft m\u00eb me frik\u00ebn q\u00eb keni se mund t\u2019ju tradhtoj\u00eb, sepse, me karakterin q\u00eb keni, ai do t\u2019ia kishte mbathur me koh\u00eb. Kini pra pak m\u00eb shum\u00eb besim tek ai dhe te vetja juaj. Kini parasysh se edhe ju keni shum\u00eb vlera&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>N\u00ebse keni m\u00eb shum\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje b. Dini ta dozoni si duhet pranin\u00eb tuaj<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>N\u00eb dashuri ju p\u00eblqen t\u00eb jeni e pavarur n\u00eb disa momente. P\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb arsye, i lini pavar\u00ebsin\u00eb tuaj partnerit, sidomos kur e shihni q\u00eb ai ka nevoj\u00eb. Jeni e pranishme dhe e disponueshme p\u00ebr t\u00eb, por pa e tepruar. E keni kuptuar se dhuntia m\u00eb e mir\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019u b\u00ebr\u00eb e domosdoshme n\u00eb syt\u00eb e tij, \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb ai t\u2019ju d\u00ebshiroj\u00eb! Me nj\u00eb fjal\u00eb, ju ndodh t\u00eb zhdukeni her\u00eb pas here (n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb strategjike), p\u00ebr ta b\u00ebr\u00eb at\u00eb t\u2019ju vij\u00eb nga pas&#8230; N\u00ebse do t\u2019i shkonit gjithnj\u00eb nga pas, ai do ta humbiste interesin p\u00ebr ju, pasi do t\u00eb mendonte se ju \u201cka n\u00eb xhep\u201d! Ju, pra, e keni kuptuar mir\u00eb loj\u00ebn e dashuris\u00eb!<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>N\u00ebse keni m\u00eb shum\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje c. Jeni si nj\u00eb ari<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Jo ari pellushi, por si ariu i shpellave, t\u00eb cilit i p\u00eblqen t\u00eb ruaj\u00eb gjith\u00eb lirin\u00eb dhe pavar\u00ebsin\u00eb e vet. N\u00eb dashuri nuk jeni e leht\u00eb, jeni nj\u00eb personalitet i eg\u00ebr dhe q\u00eb pasionon meshkujt, megjith\u00ebse e keni t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u2019i lini t\u00eb hyjn\u00eb n\u00eb intimitetin tuaj. Nisur nga kjo, partneri\/ja q\u00eb keni, \u00ebsht\u00eb shpesh i detyruar t\u00eb luaj\u00eb loj\u00ebn e t\u00eb ngjiturit, gj\u00eb q\u00eb ju acaron (edhe m\u00eb shum\u00eb). Nj\u00eb k\u00ebshill\u00eb: Tregohuni m\u00eb i\/e but\u00eb me t\u00eb! Kjo do ta bind\u00eb q\u00eb jeni v\u00ebrtet e tija dhe do ta b\u00ebj\u00eb t\u00eb l\u00ebshoj\u00eb pe pak m\u00eb shum\u00eb.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Para disa shekujsh, t\u00eb dashuruarit komunikonin fal\u00eb p\u00ebllumbave udh\u00ebtar\u00eb! N\u00eb koh\u00ebn e Mesjet\u00ebs, kalor\u00ebsit ishin gati t\u00eb jepnin jet\u00ebn p\u00ebr t\u00eb dashur\u00ebn e zemr\u00ebs s\u00eb tyre (koh\u00eb t\u00eb arta!). Sot, me mjetet e shpejta t\u00eb komunikimit, kodet e lidhjeve dashurore kan\u00eb ndryshuar dhe ndodh jo rrall\u00eb q\u00eb ta teprosh&#8230; ose t\u00eb mos b\u00ebsh aq sa [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[51],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2007","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-test"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2007","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2007"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2007\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2007"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2007"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2007"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}