{"id":19965,"date":"2019-01-09T23:00:35","date_gmt":"2019-01-09T22:00:35","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=19965"},"modified":"2019-01-09T21:47:37","modified_gmt":"2019-01-09T20:47:37","slug":"shenja-qe-lidhja-juaj-eshte-abuzive","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2019\/01\/shenja-qe-lidhja-juaj-eshte-abuzive\/","title":{"rendered":"Shenja q\u00eb lidhja juaj \u00ebsht\u00eb abuzive"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><br><strong><em>Keni ndjer\u00eb\nndonj\u00ebher\u00eb se jeta me partnerin\/en tuaj \u00ebsht\u00eb si thik\u00eb me dy presa? N\u00ebse po, at\u00ebher\u00eb\nka gjasa q\u00eb ajo t\u00eb jet\u00eb problematike ose abuzive. Kjo mund t\u00eb vlej\u00eb si n\u00eb\nplanin psikologjik, ashtu edhe n\u00eb at\u00eb fizik, ose edhe n\u00eb t\u00eb dy s\u00eb bashku. Ja\ndisa shenja t\u00eb pagabueshme se lidhja juaj ju b\u00ebn m\u00eb shum\u00eb keq se mir\u00eb. <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>1. Ushtron\npresion<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">N\u00ebse ndjeni se\npartneri\/ja juaj ushtron presion tek ju deri n\u00eb at\u00eb pik\u00eb sa ndjeni q\u00eb liria dhe\nlumturia juaj varen prej tij\/saj, at\u00ebher\u00eb k\u00ebtu ka nj\u00eb problem. Ndjesia e munges\u00ebs\ns\u00eb ekuilibrit mund t\u00eb l\u00ebr\u00eb shenja t\u00eb thella n\u00eb jet\u00ebn tuaj dhe kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb\nshembull tipik i ushtrimit t\u00eb presionit. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>2. Posesivitet<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Posesiviteti i\ntepruar mund ta d\u00ebmtoj\u00eb shum\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje. \u00cbsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e bezdisshme t\u00eb ndjeni q\u00eb\npartneri\/ja ndjekin nga af\u00ebr aktivitetet tuaja t\u00eb p\u00ebrditshme, kontrollojn\u00eb\nmesazhet dhe emailet tuaja dhe b\u00ebhet xheloz\/e sa her\u00eb q\u00eb nuk jeni me t\u00eb. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>3. Izolim<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Vazhdim i\nposesivitetit \u00ebsht\u00eb edhe p\u00ebrpjekja q\u00eb t\u2019ju shk\u00ebpus\u00eb nga familja, apo shoq\u00ebria,\nt\u2019ju marr\u00eb telefonin ose makin\u00ebn dhe t\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqet t\u2019ju mbush\u00eb mendjen t\u00eb lini\nedhe pun\u00ebn.&nbsp; <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>4. Sjellje\nmanipuluese<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Keni v\u00ebn\u00eb re\nshenjat emocionale t\u00eb nj\u00eb lufte q\u00eb mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhet brenda jush kur partneri\n\/ja&nbsp; juaj k\u00ebrkon angazhim t\u00eb menj\u00ebhersh\u00ebm\nq\u00eb n\u00eb momentin q\u00eb ju ka konfirmuar&nbsp;\ndashurin\u00eb e tij\/saj dhe ju nuk dini si t\u2018i p\u00ebrgjigjeni? Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb\ne djall\u00ebzuar p\u00ebr t\u2019ju bindur q\u00eb t\u00eb lidheni me t\u00eb kur ende nuk jeni gati p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb\nhap t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm dhe kjo sh\u00ebnon fillimin e nj\u00eb lidhjeje jo t\u00eb sh\u00ebndetshme. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>5. Kontroll i\nplot\u00eb<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">P\u00ebrpjekja p\u00ebr t\u00eb\nkontrolluar partnerin me d\u00ebshir\u00ebn e madhe p\u00ebr ta dominuar at\u00eb, bashkangjitur me\nneglizhimin dhe l\u00ebnien pas dore jan\u00eb me siguri shenja t\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhjeje q\u00eb nuk ia\nvlen t\u00eb vazhdohet. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>6. Cikli\nvicioz i dhun\u00ebs- pendimit<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">N\u00ebse partneri\njuaj ndjek ciklin vicioz t\u00eb dhun\u00ebs trupore dhe n\u00eb vazhdim, k\u00ebrkon falje duke\ngjetur justifikime t\u00eb ndryshme p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb, at\u00ebher\u00eb duhet ta lini sa m\u00eb shpejt.\nPendimi dhe dhuna nuk pajtohen me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin dhe tregojn\u00eb se partneri\/ja nuk\nju respektojn\u00eb aspak si qenie njer\u00ebzore. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>7. Ju posht\u00ebron\nvazhdimisht<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Mosp\u00ebrputhjet e\nmendimeve dhe grindjet jan\u00eb t\u00eb zakonshme n\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje, por n\u00ebse ndodhin shum\u00eb\nshpesh, at\u00ebher\u00eb duhet t\u00eb tregoheni t\u00eb kujdessh\u00ebm. Kjo vlen akoma m\u00eb shum\u00eb n\u00ebse\npartneri\/ja juaj kan\u00eb zakon t\u2019ju kritikoj\u00eb dhe t\u2019ju posht\u00ebroj\u00eb vazhdimisht n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb\nq\u00eb t\u2019ju imponohet dhe nuk k\u00ebrkon falje p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>8. I ndryshon\nhumori vazhdimisht<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Shqet\u00ebsimi i\nvazhduesh\u00ebm p\u00ebr ndryshimet e papritura t\u00eb humorit t\u00eb partnerit\/es tuaj,\npasigurit\u00eb dhe&nbsp; k\u00ebrkesat e paar\u00ebsyeshme,\nmund ta kthejn\u00eb edhe lidhjen m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb n\u00eb ferr. &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>9. Akuzon\ngjithmon\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">N\u00ebse partneri\/ja\njuaj akuzon gjithmon\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt p\u00ebr gabimet e tij\/saj, ose shefin, ose familjen\napo juve dhe nuk e merr kurr\u00eb p\u00ebrsip\u00ebr fajin, at\u00ebher\u00eb t\u00eb jeni t\u00eb sigurt\u00eb se\nlidhja juaj \u00ebsht\u00eb duke p\u00ebrballuar probleme. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>10. Pritshm\u00ebri\njorealiste<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Nj\u00eb lidhje mb\u00ebshtetet\nn\u00eb mir\u00ebkuptimin e pikave t\u00eb forta dhe t\u00eb dob\u00ebta t\u00eb tjetrit. K\u00ebshtu, kur nj\u00ebri\nnga dy partner\u00ebt k\u00ebrkon p\u00ebrkryerje nga tjetri, pa qen\u00eb i disponuesh\u00ebm t\u00eb pranoj\u00eb\nedhe defektin m\u00eb t\u00eb vog\u00ebl, at\u00ebher\u00eb lidhja mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhet helmuese. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>11. Ju bie n\u00eb\nqaf\u00eb shpesh<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ndonj\u00eb \u201cshaka\u201d e\nleht\u00eb her\u00eb pas here \u00ebsht\u00eb e pranueshme, por ta ul\u00ebsh dhe ta v\u00ebsh n\u00eb pozit\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb\ntjetrin dhe ta b\u00ebsh t\u00eb ndjehet nj\u00eb zero \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb shenj\u00eb q\u00eb lidhja \u00ebsht\u00eb\nabuzive. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>12. Seks i\ndhunsh\u00ebm<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">N\u00ebse partneri\/ja\njuaj nuk merr parasysh preferencat tuaja dhe p\u00ebrdor dhun\u00ebn dhe detyrimin gjat\u00eb\nseksin, ka ardhur koha t\u2019i jepni fund k\u00ebsaj lidhjeje. N\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje t\u00eb sh\u00ebndetshme\nnuk ka vend p\u00ebr dhun\u00eb, detyrim dhe posht\u00ebrim. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>13. <\/strong><strong>Sjellje <\/strong><strong>flirtuese<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">N\u00ebse partneri\/ja fillojn\u00eb e i\nrrotullojn\u00eb syt\u00eb lart e posht\u00eb duhet t\u00eb filloni t\u00eb shqet\u00ebsoheni, por n\u00ebse fillojn\u00eb t\u00eb flirtojn\u00eb haptas me seksin e kund\u00ebrt, duke mos e \u00e7ar\u00eb kok\u00ebn p\u00ebr at\u00eb q\u00eb ndjeni ju, at\u00ebher\u00eb\nduhet ta mendoni\nseriozisht ndarjen. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>14. <\/strong><strong>Dashuri <\/strong><strong>me <\/strong><strong>kushte<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00abT\u00eb dua,\npor&#8230;\u201d. Kjo gj\u00eb n\u00eb fillim mund t\u00eb\nduket e k\u00ebndshme, por njer\u00ebzit manipulues\ne p\u00ebrdorin\nk\u00ebt\u00eb taktik\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019ju kritikuar, ose k\u00ebrc\u00ebnuar. Me k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb d\u00ebmtohet besimin juaj n\u00eb vetvete dhe n\u00eb\naft\u00ebsit\u00eb tuaja. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>15. <\/strong><strong>K\u00eb<\/strong><strong>rc\u00eb<\/strong><strong>nim <\/strong><strong>p\u00eb<\/strong><strong>r <\/strong><strong>vet\u00eb<\/strong><strong>vrasje<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">T\u00eb\ndashuruarit jan\u00eb t\u00eb ndjesh\u00ebm ndaj\nsulmeve t\u00eb papritura. Kur partneri\/ja juaj\nk\u00ebrc\u00ebnon se\ndo t\u00eb vet\u00ebvritet vet\u00ebm q\u00eb t\u2019i shkoj\u00eb e vetja, dijeni se po shfryt\u00ebzon ndjenjat\ntuaja, gj\u00eb q\u00eb tregon akoma edhe nj\u00eb shenj\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhjeje problematike. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Keni ndjer\u00eb ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb se jeta me partnerin\/en tuaj \u00ebsht\u00eb si thik\u00eb me dy presa? N\u00ebse po, at\u00ebher\u00eb ka gjasa q\u00eb ajo t\u00eb jet\u00eb problematike ose abuzive. Kjo mund t\u00eb vlej\u00eb si n\u00eb planin psikologjik, ashtu edhe n\u00eb at\u00eb fizik, ose edhe n\u00eb t\u00eb dy s\u00eb bashku. Ja disa shenja t\u00eb pagabueshme se lidhja juaj ju [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":16292,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[40,50],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-19965","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-aktualitet","category-intimitet"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/19965","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=19965"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/19965\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/16292"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=19965"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=19965"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=19965"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}