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P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje, znj. Orjola! Uroj q\u00eb t\u00eb\njeni mir\u00eb por k\u00ebt\u00eb periudh\u00eb po m\u00eb shqet\u00ebson sjellja e tim biri. Ai ka q\u00ebn\u00eb\nmjaft mir\u00eb me m\u00ebsime n\u00eb klas\u00ebn e par\u00eb. Mir\u00ebpo vitin q\u00eb kaloi ne u b\u00ebm\u00eb prind\u00ebr\nt\u00eb nj\u00eb vajze. Im bir pati r\u00ebnie drastike\nn\u00eb m\u00ebsime sepse un\u00eb nuk isha m\u00eb e lir\u00eb si m\u00eb par\u00eb. Ne si prind\u00ebr u p\u00ebrpoq\u00ebm\nshum\u00eb por dit\u00ebn q\u00eb u shp\u00ebrndan\u00eb flet\u00ebt e\nlavd\u00ebrimit, ai kuptoi se nuk ishte pjes\u00eb\ne nxen\u00ebsve t\u00eb dalluar n\u00eb klas\u00eb. Kur kuptoi se e kishin marr\u00eb disa shok\u00eb t\u00eb\ntjer\u00eb, u b\u00eb shum\u00eb keq dhe vet\u00ebm qante. K\u00ebt\u00eb vit na ka premtuar se do t\u00eb studionte shum\u00eb por sa vjen momenti\ni detyrave fillon dhe acarohet dhe nuk mund t\u00eb shkruaj\u00e8 asnj\u00eb fjali pa mua. N\u00eb\np\u00ebrditshm\u00ebri \u00ebsht\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb i shkath\u00ebt, model n\u00eb sjellje, ai nuk ka komplekse\np\u00ebrve\u00e7 shkoll\u00ebs. Ne t\u00eb dy si prind\u00ebr jemi me arsim t\u00eb lart\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqemi t\u00eb\nplot\u00ebsojm\u00eb d\u00ebshirat e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs. Madje, s\u00eb fundmi kam b\u00ebr\u00eb nj\u00eb tabel\u00eb ku f\u00ebmija\nt\u00eb orientohet p\u00ebr detyrat shkollore. Por \u00ebsht\u00eb e pa mundur… Kam r\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb hall\nt\u00eb madh dhe nuk di si t’ia b\u00ebj?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Orjola Plaku, psikologe n\u00eb Fshatin e F\u00ebmij\u00ebve\nSos, <\/strong>e-mail: plakuoriola@gmail.com<\/strong>:-P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje,\ne dashur! Faleminderit q\u00eb keni ndar\u00eb shqet\u00ebsimin tuaj me mua. Un\u00eb e kuptoj\nmjaft mir\u00eb se si ju po ndiheni tashm\u00eb. N\u00eb lidhje me \u00e7\u00ebshtjen q\u00eb po m\u00eb\ndrejtoheni kuptoj se ardhja n\u00eb jet\u00eb e nj\u00eb f\u00ebmije tjet\u00ebr, ka ndikuar n\u00eb\npsikologjin\u00eb e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs tuaj, pasi f\u00ebmija mendon se ‘i vogli\/a do t\u00eb mar t\u00eb\ngjith\u00eb v\u00ebm\u00ebndjen prind\u00ebrore’. Disa f\u00ebmij\u00eb mund t\u00eb zhvendosin ndjenj\u00ebn e\nxhelozis\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb drejtim si\u00e7 mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb shkolla apo shp\u00ebrthime sjellore etj..\nsi nj\u00eb thirrje e br\u00ebndshme p\u00ebr t’u p\u00ebrqendruar edhe tek ai.<\/p>\n\n\n\n a)\nN\u00eb fakt ajo \u00e7far\u00eb un\u00eb do t’ju rekomandoja juve \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb bisedoni\nindividualisht me f\u00ebmij\u00ebn, duke ndar\u00eb pasigurit\u00eb tuaja, si psh: kujtoni se si\njeni ndjer\u00eb ju kur dikush \u00ebsht\u00eb vler\u00ebsuar nga m\u00ebsuesja dhe b\u00ebje f\u00ebmij\u00ebn q\u00eb t\u00eb\nkuptoj\u00eb se nuk duhet t\u00eb krahasohesh me shok\u00ebt pasi secili ka m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn e vet.\nJeta e t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve nuk duhet t\u00eb ndikoj\u00eb n\u00eb t\u00ebnden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Mendoj\nse jeni nj\u00eb prind i kujdessh\u00ebm dhe kam\nbesim q\u00eb ju nuk kritikoni apo gjykoni t\u00eb\ntjer\u00ebt n\u00eb prezence t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve.<\/p>\n\n\n\n B\u00ebjeni\nf\u00ebmij\u00ebn t\u00eb p\u00ebrqendrohet tek vetja.<\/p>\n\n\n\n b-\nFol me t\u00eb se si ndjehet n\u00eb raport me motr\u00ebn dhe n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n N\u00ebse\ne verbalizon se ndjehet xheloz, thuaj se \u00e7far\u00eb kupton n\u00eb lidhje me k\u00ebt\u00eb ndjesi?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ju\nlutem, mos k\u00ebrkoni perfeksion tek f\u00ebmija. Jepi koh\u00eb t\u00eb pushoj\u00eb. Mos i listoni\ndetyrat sepse mund t\u00eb rrisni nivelin e stresit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ftoje\nn\u00eb loj\u00eb dhe ndaje koh\u00ebn me t\u00eb dy f\u00ebmij\u00ebt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n c-\nP\u00ebrforco pozitivisht sjelljet pozitive<\/p>\n\n\n\n Duhet\ntheksuar se kur f\u00ebmija b\u00ebn nj\u00eb detyr\u00eb mjaft mir\u00eb, at\u00eb dit\u00eb dhe n\u00eb vijim\u00ebsi ju\ndo t\u00eb duhet t’i kujtoni se sa kreativ ishte dhe se iu p\u00eblqeu shum\u00eb m\u00ebnyra se si\ni p\u00ebrmbushi detyr\u00ebn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n d-\nShiko p\u00ebr modele pozitive duke i dh\u00ebn\u00eb\nshembuj t\u00eb ndrysh\u00ebm e duke k\u00ebrkuar edhe mendimin e tij. Mund t\u00eb diskutosh edhe\np\u00ebr animacionet me f\u00ebmij\u00ebn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n e-\nVendosini nj\u00eb em\u00ebr tjet\u00ebr xhelozis\u00eb\nbashk\u00eb me f\u00ebmij\u00ebn me q\u00ebllim q\u00eb mendimet negative t\u00e8 z\u00ebvend\u00ebsohen me pozitive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n f)Drejto\nsjelljen e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs kujdesu mos p\u00ebrforco emocionet negative.<\/p>\n\n\n\n g)Monitoro\nduke biseduar vazhdimisht me m\u00ebsuesen p\u00ebr sjelljen e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs. F\u00ebmija juaj \u00ebsht\u00eb\nshum\u00eb i ndjesh\u00ebm dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebrballur me nj\u00eb ndryshim n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e tij. <\/p>\n\n\n\n h)\nQ\u00ebndroji pran\u00eb se n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb situat\u00eb reduktoni nivelin e stresit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n i)\nEksploroni duke biseduar me femij\u00ebn si ndihet n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n j)\nP\u00ebrdor nj\u00eb board ku sh\u00ebnon arritjet ditore t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebs dhe vendosi n\u00eb nj\u00eb\nambjent t\u00eb duksh\u00ebm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n k)\nInkurajoni autenticitetin tek f\u00ebmija.<\/p>\n\n\n\n N\u00ebse kjo situat\u00eb vazhdon\u00a0 dhe ju keni provuar me rekomandimet e mia e nuk ka rezultuar asnj\u00eb ndryshim,\u00a0 ju lutem drejtohuni p\u00ebr nj\u00eb takim me psikologun. P\u00ebr \u00e7do gj\u00eb, jeni t\u00eb lutur t\u00eb m\u00eb shkruani s\u00ebrisht n\u00eb emailin tim t\u00eb cilin e keni t\u00eb shkruar tek infot e materialit.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje, znj. Orjola! Uroj q\u00eb t\u00eb jeni mir\u00eb por k\u00ebt\u00eb periudh\u00eb po m\u00eb shqet\u00ebson sjellja e tim biri. Ai ka q\u00ebn\u00eb mjaft mir\u00eb me m\u00ebsime n\u00eb klas\u00ebn e par\u00eb. Mir\u00ebpo vitin q\u00eb kaloi ne u b\u00ebm\u00eb prind\u00ebr t\u00eb nj\u00eb vajze. 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