{"id":19893,"date":"2019-01-08T22:00:32","date_gmt":"2019-01-08T21:00:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=19893"},"modified":"2019-01-08T17:10:15","modified_gmt":"2019-01-08T16:10:15","slug":"mesuesja-me-streson","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2019\/01\/mesuesja-me-streson\/","title":{"rendered":"M\u00ebsuesja m\u00eb streson"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><strong>-E dashur psikologe, jam nj\u00eb gjimnaziste n\u00eb vitin e par\u00eb. Dua t\u2019ju\ndrejtohem juve q\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00eb ndihmoni se po shkat\u00ebrrohem nga stresi q\u00eb m\u00eb ka krijuar\nnj\u00ebra nga m\u00ebsueset q\u00eb kam, e cila gjithmon\u00eb m\u00eb ha hakun. Ajo e thot\u00eb me\npaturp\u00ebsi n\u00eb klas\u00eb: \u201c5-a \u00ebsht\u00eb e juaja, 10-a \u00ebsht\u00eb e imja. Do t\u2019ju ngel te\ngjith\u00ebve n\u00eb klas\u00eb\u201d dhe godet tavolin\u00ebn me unazat e saj floriri. Kur hyn ajo n\u00eb\nklas\u00eb, m\u00eb merret fryma, n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi kam presion nga prind\u00ebrit: \u201cPse n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi e\nthua m\u00ebsimin e atje jo?\u201d dhe s\u2019di si t\u00eb veproj. T\u00eb&nbsp; zihem me t\u00eb? Nuk di si t\u00eb veproj. Nuk di as\nsi t\u2019ia shpjegoj prind\u00ebrve&#8230;! Jam n\u00eb hall t\u00eb madh! <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Amarilda Garuli, psikologe, email <\/strong><a href=\"mailto:ilda.garuli@gmail.com:-\"><strong>ilda.garuli@gmail.com:-<\/strong><\/a>P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje ! T\u00eb falenderoj p\u00ebr pyetjen. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb\nnj\u00eb tem\u00eb aktuale dhe q\u00eb p\u00ebrmban shum\u00eb element\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebt duhet t`i analizojm\u00eb\np\u00ebr t\u00eb kuptuar problematik\u00ebn dhe shqet\u00ebsimin tuaj. Vet\u00ebm n\u00eb nj\u00eb prezenc\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00eb\nbashk\u00ebpunimi dhe respekti reciprok midis m\u00ebsuesit dhe nx\u00ebn\u00ebsit mund t\u00eb\nzhvillohet m\u00eb s\u00eb miri pro\u00e7esi akademik dhe pro\u00e7esi i t\u00eb nx\u00ebnit pasi kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb\nshum\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme. Shpesh n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb jan\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrhapura rastet e marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve\nkonfliktuale midis m\u00ebsuesit dhe nx\u00ebn\u00ebsit, si\u00e7 tregoni dhe ju. Kjo gj\u00eb n\u00eb disa\nmomente tregon p\u00ebr nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie pushteti q\u00eb ka m\u00ebsuesi p\u00ebrball\u00eb nx\u00ebn\u00ebsit dhe\nnuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e barabart\u00eb. Para s\u00eb gjithash, nj\u00eb pushtet i qart\u00eb, duke pasur\ndetyr\u00ebn q\u00eb t`i vler\u00ebsoj\u00eb dhe q\u00eb ka mund\u00ebsin\u00eb t\u00eb mari edhe ndonj\u00eb mas\u00eb\ndisiplinore. Nuk mund t\u00eb harrojm\u00eb pushtetin q\u00eb vjen nga dija, kompetencat dhe\ninformacioni q\u00eb ka m\u00ebsuesi ndaj nx\u00ebn\u00ebsit por edhe roli, detyrat dhe\np\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsit\u00eb e nx\u00ebn\u00ebsit. T\u00eb gjitha k\u00ebto b\u00ebjn\u00eb q\u00eb shpesh t\u00eb krijohen situata n\u00eb\nt\u00eb cilat nx\u00ebn\u00ebsi n\u00eb jo pak raste e gjen veten t\u00eb lodhur psikologjikisht dhe kjo\ni vjedh energjin\u00eb dhe e \u00e7fokuson nga detyra kryesore q\u00eb ai ka n\u00eb rrug\u00ebn e\ninformimit dhe t\u00eb dijes. Disa m\u00ebsues kan\u00eb shum\u00eb autoritet dhe q\u00eb e p\u00ebrdorin\npushtetin q\u00eb kan\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb mbajtur disiplin\u00ebn n\u00eb klas\u00eb dhe t`i imponoj\u00eb nx\u00ebn\u00ebsit\nritmin e studimit q\u00eb do ai, apo presioni p\u00ebr not\u00ebn q\u00eb tregoni dhe ju.\nP\u00ebrgjigjia p\u00ebr&nbsp; k\u00ebt\u00eb situat\u00eb shpesh e\nndan klas\u00ebn n\u00eb dy grupe, ata nx\u00ebn\u00ebs q\u00eb i n\u00ebnshtrohen k\u00ebtyre situatave dhe ata\nnx\u00ebn\u00ebs q\u00eb i kund\u00ebrshtojn\u00eb k\u00ebto situata dhe rebelohen. N\u00eb nj\u00eb form\u00eb kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb\nnj\u00eb mobbing n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb, nj\u00eb term q\u00eb n\u00ebnkupton nj\u00eb sjellje jo korrekte dhe t\u00eb\nduhur ndaj nx\u00ebn\u00ebsit n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb rast, p\u00ebr nj\u00eb koh\u00eb t\u00eb gjat\u00eb q\u00eb i krijon v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsi\ndhe e pengon n\u00eb integrimin dhe shfaqjen e aft\u00ebsive n\u00eb klas\u00eb, sepse nj\u00eb m\u00ebsues\nq\u00eb ka k\u00ebt\u00eb sjellje dhe k\u00ebt\u00eb p\u00ebrqasje nuk mund t\u00eb krijoj\u00eb nj\u00eb klim\u00eb edukimi n\u00eb\nklas\u00ebn e tij. Prandaj nuk duhet pranuar. Nj\u00eb m\u00ebsues q\u00eb shfaq n\u00eb klas\u00eb sjelljen\nq\u00eb ju tregoni dhe q\u00eb e bazon menaxhimin e klas\u00ebs te imponimi, princip q\u00eb edhe\nn\u00eb qoft\u00eb se p\u00ebrkrahet, nuk shkon n\u00eb drejtimin p\u00ebr t\u00eb formuar personalitete\nautonome tek nx\u00ebn\u00ebsit dhe t\u00eb rinjt\u00eb. Ne gjithmon\u00eb kemi mund\u00ebsin\u00eb t\u00eb tregojm\u00eb\nvlerat dhe karakteristikat tona, edhe pse m\u00ebsuesi mund t\u00eb mendoj\u00eb ndryshe p\u00ebr\nne, sepse nx\u00ebn\u00ebsi p\u00ebrgjigjet pozitivisht kur nj\u00eb m\u00ebsues \u00ebsht\u00eb pozitiv dhe i\npasionuar n\u00eb pun\u00ebn q\u00eb b\u00ebn dhe kjo reflektohet. Ta ndash problemin me prind\u00ebrit\n\u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme, nj\u00eb nx\u00ebn\u00ebs n\u00eb procesin e formimit t\u00eb tij e ka t\u00eb\ndomosdosh\u00ebm komunikimin dhe shk\u00ebmbimin e ideve, ngjarjeve apo situatave t\u00eb\nndryshme q\u00eb ndodhin sepse prind\u00ebrit jan\u00eb d\u00ebgjuesit dhe ndihmuesit tan\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb\nm\u00ebdhenj. T\u00eb m\u00ebsosh t\u00eb tregosh aft\u00ebsit\u00eb, p\u00ebrgatitjen dhe studimin n\u00eb klas\u00eb, pasi\nkjo \u00ebsht\u00eb e drejta e \u00e7do nx\u00ebn\u00ebsi t\u00eb d\u00ebgjohet dhe t\u00eb ndjehet i vler\u00ebsuar. Ta\ndiskutosh problemin dhe t\u00eb vendos\u00ebsh marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie, sepse kjo merr kuptimin e\nbashk\u00ebveprimit t\u00eb nd\u00ebrsjellt\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebsuesit dhe nx\u00ebn\u00ebsit p\u00ebr harmonizimin e\np\u00ebrpjekjeve t\u00eb tyre p\u00ebr mbar\u00ebvajtjen dhe bashk\u00ebveprimin p\u00ebr arritjen e nj\u00eb\nrezultati n\u00eb veprimtarin\u00eb e p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt. T`i jap\u00ebsh koh\u00eb&nbsp; vetes t\u00eb reflektosh mbi situat\u00ebn. T\u00eb besosh\ndhe ta drejtosh mendimin n\u00eb p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsimin e situat\u00ebs n\u00ebp\u00ebrmjet pun\u00ebs dhe\np\u00ebrmir\u00ebsimit t\u00eb vetes, do t\u00eb na ndihmonte t\u00eb kalonim situat\u00ebn. T\u00eb jet\u00eb fokusi i\npun\u00ebs, p\u00ebrgatitja dhe informimi \u00ebsht\u00eb detyra e duhur dhe impenjimi m\u00eb\nkuptimplot\u00eb p\u00ebr secilin nx\u00ebn\u00ebs. Ju uroj gjith\u00eb t\u00eb mirat!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>-E dashur psikologe, jam nj\u00eb gjimnaziste n\u00eb vitin e par\u00eb. Dua t\u2019ju drejtohem juve q\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00eb ndihmoni se po shkat\u00ebrrohem nga stresi q\u00eb m\u00eb ka krijuar nj\u00ebra nga m\u00ebsueset q\u00eb kam, e cila gjithmon\u00eb m\u00eb ha hakun. Ajo e thot\u00eb me paturp\u00ebsi n\u00eb klas\u00eb: \u201c5-a \u00ebsht\u00eb e juaja, 10-a \u00ebsht\u00eb e imja. 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