{"id":19544,"date":"2018-11-12T12:58:17","date_gmt":"2018-11-12T11:58:17","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=19544"},"modified":"2018-11-12T12:58:17","modified_gmt":"2018-11-12T11:58:17","slug":"psikologu-si-te-pershtatem-me-jeten-martesore","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2018\/11\/psikologu-si-te-pershtatem-me-jeten-martesore\/","title":{"rendered":"Psikologu\/Si t\u00eb p\u00ebrshtatem me jet\u00ebn martesore?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>&#8211; P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje gazeta Intervista. Kam nj\u00eb pyetje p\u00ebr psikologen tuaj. Un\u00eb do martohem s\u00eb shpejti por m\u00eb ka kapur nj\u00eb si ankth q\u00eb nuk e shpjegoj se nga m\u00eb vjen. Un\u00eb e dua shum\u00eb t\u00eb fejuarin tim por ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb m\u00eb duket sikur nuk do p\u00ebrshtatem dot me jet\u00ebn martesore, m\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb kthyer n\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtje psikologjike tani. Desha t\u00eb di mendimin tuaj p\u00ebr lidhjen dhe pershtatjen psikologjike t\u00eb nj\u00eb \u00e7ifti n\u00eb martes\u00eb. Si lidhen k\u00ebto marrdh\u00ebnie me dashurin\u00eb dhe jet\u00ebn e p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt? Faleminderit, n\u00eb pritje t\u00eb nj\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje nga ana juaj. Lejdina<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>\u00a0<\/strong><strong>Amarilda Garuli, psikologe, email <\/strong><a href=\"mailto:ilda.garuli@gmail.com:-\"><strong>ilda.garuli@gmail.com:-<\/strong><\/a>P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje Lejdina! T\u00eb falenderoj p\u00ebr pyetjen. Martesa \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb vendim i r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e \u00e7do njeriu. Ajo sjell ndryshim n\u00eb shum\u00eb aspekte. Nj\u00eb nga element\u00ebt m\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebrshtatja me jet\u00ebn e re dhe p\u00ebrshtatja n\u00eb partneritet. Marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia q\u00eb ne krijojm\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme. Sjelljet,zakonet,komunikimi,q\u00ebndrimet,d\u00ebshirat dhe raporti n\u00eb \u00e7ift do t\u00eb na b\u00ebjn\u00eb t\u00eb njohim nj\u00ebri tjerin nga k\u00ebndv\u00ebshtrime t\u00eb tjera. Pjesa e p\u00ebrshtatjes s\u00eb nj\u00eb \u00e7ifti n\u00eb martes\u00eb vjen natyrsh\u00ebm n\u00eb jeten e dy njer\u00ebzve q\u00eb duhen dhe q\u00eb do jetojn\u00eb s\u00eb bashku. Kur kjo gj\u00eb kthehet n\u00eb shqet\u00ebsim paraprak, duhet t\u00eb diskutohet dhe t\u00eb ndahet me partnerin pasi komunikim \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb nj\u00eb ur\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb zgjidhur situatat. Martesa \u00ebsht\u00eb si nj\u00eb pik\u00eb mb\u00ebrritjeje, por n\u00ebse do provoje t\u2019a jetoje dhe t\u2019a ndieje si nj\u00eb pik\u00eb nisjeje, do t\u00eb ndihmonte vazhdim\u00ebsin\u00eb dhe raportin, sepse \u00e7do marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb evolucion i vazhduesh\u00ebm. Si \u00e7do aspekt tjeter n\u00eb jet\u00eb edhe martesa, vendimi p\u00ebr t`u martuar, na \u00e7on t\u00eb p\u00ebrjetojm\u00eb disa faza. N\u00eb fillim \u00ebsht\u00eb entuziazmi, dashuria ndaj partnerit, d\u00ebshirat p\u00ebr t\u00eb nd\u00ebrtuar jet\u00ebn, por nga ana tjet\u00ebr edhe pasiguria shpesh b\u00ebhet pjes\u00eb e mendimeve tuaja dhe ju ndjeheni n\u00eb ankth. T\u00eb flas\u00ebsh dhe t\u00eb ndash mendimin dhe ndjesit\u00eb me partnerin na dihmon p\u00ebr t\u00eb kuptuar situatat por edhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb zgjidhur komunikimin n\u00eb vazhdim. P\u00ebrshtatjen psikologjike gjith\u00ebsecili e zhvillon dhe i jep nga bot\u00ebkuptimi i tij. Prandaj martesa nuk duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb vendi ku \u201cq\u00ebllimi\u201d kthehet t\u00eb p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsojm\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb nj\u00ebri-tjetrin. T\u00eb nd\u00ebrhyjm\u00eb n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb aspekt si pjes\u00eb e d\u00ebshir\u00ebs s\u00eb mir\u00eb q\u00eb duke b\u00ebr\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb gj\u00eb ne p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsojm\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnien ton\u00eb, por jo. Kjo gj\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e mir\u00eb, sepse do ishte sikur t\u00eb shkojm\u00eb p\u00ebrgjithmon\u00eb n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb dhe kjo nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e sh\u00ebndet\u00ebshme dhe pengon p\u00ebrshtatjen dhe lidhjen. Pra jan\u00eb shum\u00eb faktor\u00eb q\u00eb prishin ekuilibrat e vendosur.<\/p>\n<p>K\u00ebt\u00eb shkrim mund ta lexoni t\u00eb plot\u00eb n\u00eb gazet\u00ebn \u201cIntervista\u201d. At\u00eb mund ta blini n\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha pikat e shitjes n\u00eb Shqip\u00ebri si edhe n\u00eb kioskat ku shitet shtypi i huaj n\u00eb Greqi. Mund ta blini edhe online, vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr\u00a0 1 euro ne muaj!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&#8211; P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje gazeta Intervista. Kam nj\u00eb pyetje p\u00ebr psikologen tuaj. Un\u00eb do martohem s\u00eb shpejti por m\u00eb ka kapur nj\u00eb si ankth q\u00eb nuk e shpjegoj se nga m\u00eb vjen. Un\u00eb e dua shum\u00eb t\u00eb fejuarin tim por ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb m\u00eb duket sikur nuk do p\u00ebrshtatem dot me jet\u00ebn martesore, m\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb kthyer n\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtje psikologjike [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":19170,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[86],"tags":[1904],"class_list":["post-19544","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-psikologu","tag-amarilda"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/19544","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=19544"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/19544\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/19170"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=19544"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=19544"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=19544"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}