{"id":19169,"date":"2018-08-11T11:49:49","date_gmt":"2018-08-11T09:49:49","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=19169"},"modified":"2018-08-11T11:49:49","modified_gmt":"2018-08-11T09:49:49","slug":"si-ndikon-dhuna-fizike-dhe-verbale-tek-femijet","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2018\/08\/si-ndikon-dhuna-fizike-dhe-verbale-tek-femijet\/","title":{"rendered":"Si ndikon dhuna fizike dhe verbale tek f\u00ebmij\u00ebt?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Jam nj\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00eb e re. Ndodh shpesh q\u00eb burri m\u00eb fyen e m\u00eb ofendon me fjal\u00eb t\u00eb ul\u00ebta, pavar\u00ebsisht se nuk meritoj asnj\u00ebr\u00ebn prej tyre. T\u00eb them t\u00eb drejt\u00ebn, prekem jasht\u00eb mase, por m\u00eb shum\u00eb shqet\u00ebsohem p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebn. Si ndikon nj\u00eb fjalor i till\u00eb e z\u00ebri i lart\u00eb te nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb i vog\u00ebl? Jam e vet\u00ebdijshme q\u00eb sherri n\u00eb sy t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebs vet\u00ebm pasoja sjell p\u00ebr t\u00eb, prandaj jam p\u00ebrpjekur ta bind burrin tim q\u00eb t\u00eb hyjm\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb dhom\u00eb tjet\u00ebr, larg syve t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebs, por, m\u00eb kot. Ju lutem, m\u00eb sqaroni m\u00eb konkretisht p\u00ebr pasojat q\u00eb mund t\u00eb ken\u00eb veprime t\u00eb tilla te f\u00ebmija. Edhe di\u00e7ka tjet\u00ebr m\u00eb g\u00ebrryen p\u00ebrbrenda e s’m\u00eb l\u00eb t\u00eb qet\u00eb: Para disa koh\u00ebsh, kur f\u00ebmija yn\u00eb ishte vet\u00ebm disa muajsh, im shoq, duke e mbajtur n\u00eb krah\u00eb, m\u00eb ka goditur keq. A mund t\u00eb ket\u00eb ndikuar ky veprim te f\u00ebmija, megjith\u00ebse ishte tep\u00ebr i vog\u00ebl? M\u00eb falni q\u00eb u zgjata, por mendoj se me p\u00ebrgjigjen tuaj s’do t\u00eb m\u00eb keni ndihmuar vet\u00ebm mua, por edhe shum\u00eb prind\u00ebr t\u00eb tjer\u00eb, pasi e dim\u00eb q\u00eb \u00e7ifte t\u00eb tilla ka plot…<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Amarilda Garuli, psikologe, email ilda.garuli@gmail.com:-<\/strong> T\u00eb falenderoj p\u00ebr pyetjen , prek nj\u00eb tem\u00eb aktuale q\u00eb shkakton shum\u00eb problematika.<\/p>\n

Dhuna \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb fenomen mjaft shqet\u00ebsues. Rastet e p\u00ebrs\u00ebritura kan\u00eb treguar se d\u00ebmet q\u00eb ajo sjell jan\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnda dhe ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb tejkalojn\u00eb \u00e7do kufi. Dhuna si verbale dhe fizike, p\u00ebr nga lloji jan\u00eb t\u00eb ndryshme por d\u00ebmtojn\u00eb nj\u00ebsoj. Prekin familjen ,individin dhe shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb nes\u00ebr.<\/p>\n

Krijimi i familjes dhe ardhja n\u00eb jet\u00eb e nj\u00eb f\u00ebmije, jan\u00eb procese q\u00eb nxisin vazhdim\u00ebsin\u00eb e jet\u00ebs, t\u00eb motivuar nga dashuria dhe p\u00ebrkushtimi qe kan\u00eb dy njer\u00ebz ndaj nj\u00ebri tjetrit. Nuk mund t\u00eb jemi t\u00eb kulluar dhe problematika t\u00eb ndryshme prishin ekuilibrat\u00a0 dhe krijojn\u00eb nj\u00eb klime konflikti q\u00eb prodhon dhun\u00eb verbale dhe fizike.<\/p>\n

Marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia e prind\u00ebrve, marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia bashk\u00ebshortore ka ndikim t\u00eb madh n\u00eb rritjen dhe zhvillimin e f\u00ebmijes. Nj\u00eb ambjent i ngroht\u00eb\u00a0 familjar, ose e kund\u00ebrta, nj\u00eb ambjent i tensionuar dhe konfliktual midis prinderve jan\u00eb energji, pozitive apo negative qe transmetohen edhe te f\u00ebmija. Mburojat emocionale, barrierat\u00a0 q\u00eb ne t\u00eb rriturit i kemi si mekanizma mbrojt\u00ebs, te f\u00ebmij\u00ebt nuk jan\u00eb krijuar akoma. P\u00ebr pasoj\u00eb ata i p\u00ebrjetojn\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb intensive emocionet, dhe situatat e dhun\u00ebs n\u00eb familje. Duhen vite q\u00eb te f\u00ebmija t\u00eb formohet nje mburoj\u00eb emocionale q\u00eb do e ndihmonte at\u00eb t\u00eb mos i perjetonte me aq intensitet emocionet.<\/p>\n

Konkretisht, disa nga problemet q\u00eb nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb d\u00ebshmitar i dhun\u00ebs p\u00ebrjeton, jan\u00eb:<\/p>\n

Atashim i pasigurt me prind\u00ebrit, vet\u00ebvlersim i ul\u00ebt, \u00e7rregullime n\u00eb sjellje, sjellje antisociale. v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsi n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie me bashk\u00ebmoshatar\u00ebt, probleme me gjumin, problem me ushqimi, ndjehen fajtor\u00eb apo shkaktar\u00eb t\u00eb situat\u00ebs. Kan\u00eb tendenc\u00eb t\u00eb kene karakter agresiv, mund t\u00eb kthehen ata vet\u00eb n\u00eb viktima t\u00eb dhun\u00ebs, shkakton depresion, ankth, probleme n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb dhe aft\u00ebsi t\u00eb ul\u00ebta akademike.<\/p>\n

Kete shkrim mund ta lexoni te plote ne gazeten Intervista qe e gjeni n\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha kioskat e Shqip\u00ebris\u00eb dhe t\u00eb Greqis\u00eb. Mund t\u2019ua dergojme edhe n\u00eb adres\u00ebn tuaj te emailit p\u00ebr vet\u00ebm 99 cent n\u00eb muaj. Kontaktoni me ne n\u00eb inbox!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Jam nj\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00eb e re. Ndodh shpesh q\u00eb burri m\u00eb fyen e m\u00eb ofendon me fjal\u00eb t\u00eb ul\u00ebta, pavar\u00ebsisht se nuk meritoj asnj\u00ebr\u00ebn prej tyre. T\u00eb them t\u00eb drejt\u00ebn, prekem jasht\u00eb mase, por m\u00eb shum\u00eb shqet\u00ebsohem p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebn. Si ndikon nj\u00eb fjalor i till\u00eb e z\u00ebri i lart\u00eb te nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb i vog\u00ebl? Jam e […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":19170,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[86],"tags":[1904],"class_list":["post-19169","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-psikologu","tag-amarilda"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/19169","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=19169"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/19169\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/19170"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=19169"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=19169"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=19169"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}