{"id":18919,"date":"2018-06-30T13:18:59","date_gmt":"2018-06-30T11:18:59","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=18919"},"modified":"2018-06-30T13:18:59","modified_gmt":"2018-06-30T11:18:59","slug":"psikologu-pse-behem-kaq-pesimist","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2018\/06\/psikologu-pse-behem-kaq-pesimist\/","title":{"rendered":"Psikologu\/Pse b\u00ebhem kaq pesimist?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>&#8211; P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje! Ju kam shkruar n\u00eb gazet\u00eb edhe m\u00eb par\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtin problem&#8230; Jam 30 vje\u00e7 dhe m\u00eb vijn\u00eb vet\u00ebm mendime negative n\u00eb m\u00ebndje. M\u00eb kap ankthi dhe nuk e p\u00ebrmbaj dot veten.\u00a0 Kam dhe frik\u00eb. K\u00ebto mendimet negative shkaktojn\u00eb frik\u00ebn apo frika shkakton mendimet negative? Ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb m\u00eb duket sikur jam njeri tjet\u00ebr dhe nuk jam n\u00eb vete. A kurohet kjo gj\u00eb pa ndihm\u00ebn e psikologut, por me mendime pozitive dhe me besim n\u00eb vetvete? Faleminderit.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Olta Mu\u00e7a, psikologe, email oltamuca@gmail.com:- <\/strong>P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje! Ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb, ajo \u00e7ka themi dhe ajo \u00e7ka ne mendojm\u00eb ka nj\u00eb ndikim vendimtar sa i p\u00ebrket jet\u00ebs son\u00eb, pasi nj\u00eb mendim i p\u00ebrs\u00ebritur shum\u00eb her\u00eb, me kalimin e koh\u00ebs kthehet n\u00eb nj\u00eb bindje, dhe bindjet kthehen realitet. \u00c7ka do t\u00eb thot\u00eb se bindjet na v\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00eb sjellje t\u00eb caktuara. Duke marr\u00eb parasysh eksperiencat e ndryshme gjat\u00eb dit\u00ebs: frika, ankthi, rrethi social q\u00eb ne b\u00ebjm\u00eb pjes\u00eb, familja \u2013 pasi n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb nd\u00ebrgjegjshme ose jo, ndikojn\u00eb. Madje ne jemi edhe p\u00ebr familjar\u00ebt tan\u00eb ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb. E b\u00ebjm\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb me dashje apo jo, t\u00eb cilat receptori yn\u00eb i transmeton dhe p\u00ebrpunon rrug\u00ebs. P.sh. n\u00ebse ti shkon n\u00eb plazh me iden\u00eb q\u00eb s\u2019di t\u00eb notosh, ti s\u2019do e m\u00ebsosh asnj\u00ebher\u00eb notin. \u00cbsht\u00eb frika ajo q\u00eb e stimulon dhe e kthen n\u00eb ankth. Pastaj, mund t\u00eb\u00a0mbytesh n\u00ebse shkon n\u00eb thell\u00ebsi. Kjo b\u00ebn q\u00eb t\u00eb stimulohen frika dhe ankthi nj\u00ebkoh\u00ebsisht, duke u b\u00ebr\u00eb realiteti yn\u00eb. Ose rasti i makin\u00ebs: \u201cUn\u00eb s\u2019mund t\u2019i jap, s\u2019e m\u00ebsoj dot. \u00cbsht\u00eb e pamundur q\u00eb ta m\u00ebsoj, s\u2019e b\u00ebj kurr\u00eb\u201d! \u2013 nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb kur ti i shtrohesh dhe e m\u00ebson, thua \u201c\u00c7\u2019kam humbur! Pse s\u2019e m\u00ebsova m\u00eb p\u00ebrpara?\u201d Q\u00eb do t\u00eb thot\u00eb, kur nj\u00eb bindje \u00ebsht\u00eb pozitive, ju mund t\u00eb ndiheni m\u00eb mir\u00eb e t\u00eb lumtur, dhe mund t\u00eb filloni e vini n\u00eb veprim gj\u00ebrat e nevojshme p\u00ebr t\u00eb arritur objektivat. P\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb arsye, \u00ebsht\u00eb e nevojshme q\u00eb ju t\u00eb filloni t\u00eb kontrolloni cil\u00ebsin\u00eb e mendimeve tuaja t\u00eb dialogut t\u00eb brendsh\u00ebm, p\u00ebr t\u00eb d\u00ebgjuar z\u00ebrin e brendsh\u00ebm dhe t\u00eb filluarit t\u00eb menduarit n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb pozitive, si: \u201cUn\u00eb mund t\u2019ia dal\u201d, \u201cMund ta b\u00ebj\u201d, \u201cMund t\u00eb m\u00ebsoj t\u00eb notoj, t\u2019i jap makin\u00ebs\u201d. Ti ndjen nj\u00eb k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi e cila \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e madhe dhe t\u00eb b\u00ebn ta shoh\u00ebsh jet\u00ebn me pozitivitet. Duhet b\u00ebr\u00eb kujdes me shprehjet q\u00eb t\u00eb demoralizojn\u00eb, si \u201cS\u2019mundem\u201d, \u201cS\u2019e b\u00ebj dot\u201d, \u201cS\u2019jam i aft\u00eb ta b\u00ebj\u201d \u2013 pasi vet\u00ebm n\u00ebse i heqim k\u00ebto fjal\u00eb nga fjalori yn\u00eb, ne mund t\u2019ia dalim. N\u00eb fakt, jeta jon\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb ajo q\u00eb punon duke i b\u00ebr\u00eb mendime zot\u00ebruese t\u00eb jet\u00ebs son\u00eb. \u00c7do gj\u00eb b\u00ebhet nga m\u00ebnyra jon\u00eb e perceptimit gjat\u00eb nj\u00eb episodi apo ngjarjeje t\u00eb nj\u00eb dite me njer\u00ebz t\u00eb ndrysh\u00ebm q\u00eb t\u00eb ulin vet\u00ebvler\u00ebsimin. N\u00ebse ty t\u00eb ndodh q\u00eb ti je m\u00eb i mir\u00eb se ai\/ajo, ka predispozit\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb diskriminohesh e t\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb t\u00eb ndihesh pesimit, \u00e7ka ndikon negativisht n\u00eb jet\u00ebn ton\u00eb. Frika dhe ankthi jan\u00eb t\u00eb ndryshme, por n\u00eb thelb kan\u00eb iden\u00eb e t\u00eb b\u00ebrit t\u00eb ndihesh pesimist. N\u00ebse perceptoni ndonj\u00eb nga fjal\u00ebt e m\u00ebsip\u00ebrme, pyesni veten n\u00ebse ai mendim ju b\u00ebn t\u00eb ndiheni mir\u00eb apo jo. P.sh. \u201cAskush s\u2019m\u00eb kupton\u201d mund t\u00eb transformoohet n\u00eb \u201cNuk m\u00eb kuptuan \u00e7far\u00eb thash\u00eb pak m\u00eb par\u00eb\u201d \u2013 p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsimet jan\u00eb procese mendore t\u00eb cilat na b\u00ebjn\u00eb ta shnd\u00ebrrojm\u00eb nj\u00eb p\u00ebrvoj\u00eb specifike n\u00eb nj\u00eb m\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsuese e t\u00eb vlefshme n\u00eb fusha t\u00eb tjera. \u00c7do ndryshim i madh p\u00ebrb\u00ebhet nga hapa t\u00eb vegj\u00ebl.<\/p>\n<p>Kete shkrim mund ta lexoni te plote ne gazeten Intervista qe e gjeni n\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha kioskat e Shqip\u00ebris\u00eb dhe t\u00eb Greqis\u00eb. Mund t\u2019ua dergojme edhe n\u00eb adres\u00ebn tuaj te emailit p\u00ebr vet\u00ebm 99 cent n\u00eb muaj. Kontaktoni me ne n\u00eb inbox!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&#8211; P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje! Ju kam shkruar n\u00eb gazet\u00eb edhe m\u00eb par\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtin problem&#8230; Jam 30 vje\u00e7 dhe m\u00eb vijn\u00eb vet\u00ebm mendime negative n\u00eb m\u00ebndje. M\u00eb kap ankthi dhe nuk e p\u00ebrmbaj dot veten.\u00a0 Kam dhe frik\u00eb. K\u00ebto mendimet negative shkaktojn\u00eb frik\u00ebn apo frika shkakton mendimet negative? Ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb m\u00eb duket sikur jam njeri tjet\u00ebr dhe [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":18729,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[86],"tags":[1858],"class_list":["post-18919","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-psikologu","tag-olta"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/18919","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=18919"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/18919\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/18729"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=18919"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=18919"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=18919"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}