{"id":18918,"date":"2018-06-30T13:16:16","date_gmt":"2018-06-30T11:16:16","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=18918"},"modified":"2018-06-30T13:16:16","modified_gmt":"2018-06-30T11:16:16","slug":"psikologu-si-te-flasim-me-femijet-per-ndjenjat","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2018\/06\/psikologu-si-te-flasim-me-femijet-per-ndjenjat\/","title":{"rendered":"Psikologu\/Si t\u00eb flasim me f\u00ebmij\u00ebt p\u00ebr ndjenjat?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>\u00a0E dashur psikologe, un\u00eb kam nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb 6 vje\u00e7 dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb i zgjuar, shum\u00eb social dhe ka nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebni\u00eb t\u00eb shk\u00eblqyer me f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e tjer\u00eb. Ajo q\u00eb m\u00eb shqet\u00ebson pak ndonj\u00eber\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb se b\u00ebn pyetje q\u00eb m\u00eb v\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb siklet dhe nuk di si t\u2019ja shpjegoj. M\u00eb pyet p\u00ebr ndjenjat, p\u00ebr emocionet dhe do doja t\u00eb m\u00eb jepnit disa k\u00ebshilla si t\u2019i flas dhe shpjegoj q\u00eb edhe t\u00eb kuptoj\u00eb por edhe t\u00eb mos e r\u00ebndoj me fjal\u00eb. Faleminderit<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>\u00a0<\/strong><strong>Lorela Garuli, psikologe, email lorela_garuli@hotmail.com:-<\/strong> P\u00ebrshendetje! T\u00eb fal\u00ebnderoj q\u00eb ke sjell\u00eb nj\u00eb pyetje q\u00eb lidhet me edukimin emocional, i cili \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb i r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm por q\u00eb shpesh mbetet jasht\u00eb v\u00ebmendjes s\u00eb prind\u00ebrve.P\u00ebrvec nevojave dhe interesave, sjellja njer\u00ebzore drejtohet shpeshher\u00eb nga ndjenjat dhe emocionet, t\u00eb cilat ashtu si shum\u00eb element\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00eb q\u00eb i japin jet\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve njer\u00ebzore, do t\u00eb edukohen dhe m\u00ebsohen q\u00eb n\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebri. P\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb arsye, p\u00ebr t\u00eb kuptuar sjelljen e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve dhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb negociuar me ta, \u00ebsht\u00eb e nevojshme q\u00eb prind\u00ebrit t\u00eb ken\u00eb n\u00eb v\u00ebmendje p\u00ebrjetimet ndjesore t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve. N\u00ebse nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb nuk po sillet mir\u00eb, pyetja e par\u00eb dhe kryesore q\u00eb prindi duhet t\u2019i jap\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje \u00ebsht\u00eb se cfar\u00eb ndjen f\u00ebmija, zem\u00ebrim, m\u00ebrzi, frik\u00eb, trishtim, xhelozi?<\/p>\n<p>Pik\u00eb s\u00eb pari, f\u00ebmij\u00ebt duhen m\u00ebsuar q\u00eb t\u00eb flasin p\u00ebr ndjenjat e tyre. \u00cbsht\u00eb e vetmja m\u00ebnyr\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019i menaxhuar dhe kontrolluar. Duke i m\u00ebsuar element\u00eb t\u00eb inteligjenc\u00ebs emocionale, f\u00ebmij\u00ebt do m\u00ebsojn\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb jen\u00eb dhe m\u00eb t\u00eb ndjesh\u00ebm ndaj t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve m\u00eb von\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00eb; duke i m\u00ebsuar t\u00eb em\u00ebrtojn\u00eb ndjenjat p\u00ebrkat\u00ebse do t\u00eb din\u00eb t\u00eb shprehin si ndjehen e cfar\u00eb duan.<\/p>\n<p>Prind\u00ebrit mund t\u2019i nxisin f\u00ebmij\u00ebt t\u00eb flasin p\u00ebr ndjenjat e tyre duke qen\u00eb ata vet\u00eb nj\u00eb shembull i mir\u00eb, duke folur ata vet\u00eb sesi ndihen. Duke nisur fjalit\u00eb me \u201cun\u00eb ndihem\u201d, f\u00ebmija do t\u00eb edukohet t\u00eb etiketoj\u00eb intensitetin e emocioneve t\u00eb veta.T\u00eb folurit p\u00ebr ndjenjat dhe emocionet \u00ebsht\u00eb e kusht\u00ebzuar n\u00eb nj\u00eb mas\u00eb t\u00eb madhe nga edukimi dhe kultura n\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebn b\u00ebjm\u00eb pjes\u00eb. P\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsisht, n\u00eb kultur\u00ebn ton\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt nuk nxiten t\u00eb shprehen lirsh\u00ebm mbi at\u00eb q\u00eb ndjejn\u00eb dhe emocionet ndahen n\u00eb dy grupe: t\u00eb mira dhe t\u00eb k\u00ebqija. Nj\u00eb p\u00ebrqasje e till\u00eb bardh\u00eb e zi kundrejt emocioneve nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e k\u00ebshillueshme. Krejt p\u00ebrkundrazi, prindi duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb empatik dhe nj\u00eb d\u00ebgjues i mir\u00eb, duke u v\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb vendim e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs e duke u p\u00ebrpjekur maksimalisht t\u00eb kuptoj\u00eb gjendjen emocionale t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebs s\u00eb tij. N\u00eb p\u00ebrgjtih\u00ebsi, f\u00ebmij\u00ebt priren t\u00eb shprehen m\u00eb shum\u00eb p\u00ebr emocionet dhe ndjenjat e tyre me personat q\u00eb ndihen m\u00eb t\u00eb lirsh\u00ebm dhe me personin q\u00eb kalojn\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb koh\u00eb.Prindi mund t\u00eb ndaj\u00eb ndjenjat e tij gjat\u00eb dit\u00ebs kur \u00ebsht\u00eb me f\u00ebmij\u00ebn n\u00eb situata dhe momente t\u00eb ndryshme. Kur shohin televizor bashk\u00eb, filma, apo lexojn\u00eb libra e p\u00ebrralla, gjen mund\u00ebsin\u00eb p\u00ebr ta pyetur sesi ndihet nj\u00eb personazh i caktuar dhe pse, cilat jan\u00eb arsyet q\u00eb merr nj\u00eb vendim dhe jo nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr, cfar\u00eb do t\u00eb b\u00ebnte f\u00ebmija n\u00ebse do t\u00eb ishte n\u00eb n\u00ebj situat\u00eb t\u00eb ngjashme.<\/p>\n<p>Kete shkrim mund ta lexoni te plote ne gazeten Intervista qe e gjeni n\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha kioskat e Shqip\u00ebris\u00eb dhe t\u00eb Greqis\u00eb. Mund t\u2019ua dergojme edhe n\u00eb adres\u00ebn tuaj te emailit p\u00ebr vet\u00ebm 99 cent n\u00eb muaj. Kontaktoni me ne n\u00eb inbox!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u00a0E dashur psikologe, un\u00eb kam nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb 6 vje\u00e7 dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb i zgjuar, shum\u00eb social dhe ka nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebni\u00eb t\u00eb shk\u00eblqyer me f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e tjer\u00eb. Ajo q\u00eb m\u00eb shqet\u00ebson pak ndonj\u00eber\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb se b\u00ebn pyetje q\u00eb m\u00eb v\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb siklet dhe nuk di si t\u2019ja shpjegoj. M\u00eb pyet p\u00ebr ndjenjat, p\u00ebr emocionet dhe do [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":15923,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[86],"tags":[1070],"class_list":["post-18918","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-psikologu","tag-lorela"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/18918","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=18918"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/18918\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/15923"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=18918"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=18918"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=18918"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}