P\u00ebrg\u00ebzimet e mia redaksis\u00eb s\u00eb gazet\u00ebs \u201cIntervista\u201d! Jam Berti nga Durr\u00ebsi dhe do t\u2019ju rr\u00ebfej nj\u00eb m\u00ebkat, q\u00eb faktikisht nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb i imi, edhe pse e pranoj q\u00eb nj\u00eb pjes\u00eb t\u00eb fajit e kam un\u00eb. S\u2019ka gj\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00eb se ajo q\u00eb m\u00eb b\u00ebri gruaja ime! Personi q\u00eb e doja aq shum\u00eb, arriti\u00a0 t\u00eb m\u00eb merrte dhe drit\u00ebn e syve t\u00eb mi, f\u00ebmij\u00ebt.<\/p>\n
N\u00eb rini ishim nj\u00eb \u00e7ift i mrekulluesh\u00ebm dhe megjith\u00ebse tashm\u00eb kan\u00eb kaluar plot 20 vjet, e kujtoj me shum\u00eb mall at\u00eb koh\u00eb, sh\u00ebtitjet p\u00ebrgjat\u00eb bregut t\u00eb detit, momentet e bukura dhe t\u00eb trishtuara q\u00eb kemi kaluar bashk\u00eb. Kujtoj momentin kur u fejuam, shk\u00ebmbimin e unazave, d\u00ebshmi e premtimeve tona t\u00eb p\u00ebrjetshme. Pastaj erdhi lindja e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve… Kam p\u00ebrjetuar emocione shum\u00eb t\u00eb forta kur i mbaja n\u00eb krah\u00eb. Ishim nj\u00eb familje e konsoliduar.<\/p>\n
Un\u00eb pata mund\u00ebsin\u00eb t\u00eb punoja n\u00eb Tiran\u00eb p\u00ebr disa koh\u00eb, sepse atje m\u2019u ofrua nj\u00eb vend pune me pag\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb, k\u00ebshtu q\u00eb p\u00ebr kushte sa m\u00eb t\u00eb larta jetese mora p\u00ebrsip\u00ebr t\u00eb b\u00ebja st\u00ebrmundime dhe ta kaloja nj\u00eb pjes\u00eb t\u00eb madhe t\u00eb koh\u00ebs sime n\u00eb Tiran\u00eb. Kishte raste kur punoja me orar t\u00eb zgjatur dhe nuk mund ta arrija autobusin e fundit p\u00ebr n\u00eb Durr\u00ebs, ndaj edhe e kaloja nat\u00ebn te kunata ime e cila ishte e martuar dhe jetonte n\u00eb Tiran\u00eb. M\u00eb n\u00eb fund, arrita t\u00eb b\u00ebja edhe disa shok\u00eb, k\u00ebshtu q\u00eb koha pa familjen filloi t\u00eb b\u00ebhej m\u00eb pak e zymt\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Kur flija n\u00eb Tiran\u00eb e lajm\u00ebroja gruan dhe ju betohem q\u00eb gjumin nuk e b\u00ebja aspak t\u00eb rehatsh\u00ebm. E di q\u00eb ishte thjesht psikologjike, Durr\u00ebsi nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb aspak larg me Tiran\u00ebn, por doja q\u00eb t\u00eb tre ata t\u00eb ishin m\u00eb af\u00ebr meje, k\u00ebshtu q\u00eb do t\u00eb ndiheshim t\u00eb gjith\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb sigurt\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Edhe pse larg nga nj\u00ebri-tjetri p\u00ebr nj\u00eb pjes\u00eb t\u00eb madhe t\u00eb dit\u00ebs, prap\u00eb se prap\u00eb ne vazhdonim t\u00eb ishim shum\u00eb t\u00eb lidhur dhe jeta po na shkonte p\u00ebr bukuri, por ja q\u00eb nes mes t\u00eb gjith\u00eb k\u00ebtyre gj\u00ebrave t\u00eb mira q\u00eb na kishte falur Zoti, na ra nj\u00eb fatkeq\u00ebsi e madhe. Ime shoqe u s\u00ebmur dhe iu n\u00ebnshtrua nj\u00eb operacioni n\u00eb mit\u00ebr k\u00ebshtu q\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00ebfar\u00eb kohe nuk mund t\u00eb kryente m\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie seksuale.<\/p>\n
Deri n\u00eb at\u00eb koh\u00eb g\u00ebzonim nj\u00eb jet\u00eb seksuale t\u00eb sh\u00ebndetshme, ishim q\u00eb t\u00eb dy ende t\u00eb aft\u00eb p\u00ebr ta k\u00ebnaqur n\u00ebjri-tjetrin dhe kur na nodhi kjo, un\u00eb nuk mendoja fare p\u00ebr t\u00eb ardhmen e raportit ton\u00eb seksual, por doja me gjith\u00eb zem\u00ebr q\u00eb ime shoqe t\u00eb sh\u00ebrohej. Vet\u00ebm kjo gj\u00eb kishte r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi p\u00ebr mua.<\/p>\n
Me gjith\u00eb d\u00ebshir\u00ebn time p\u00ebr t\u2019i q\u00ebndruar pran\u00eb, nuk mund t\u00eb rrija m\u00eb shum\u00eb se tri dit\u00eb, pasi rrezikoja vendin e pun\u00ebs, por pasditeve sundohesha t\u00eb shkoja shum\u00eb shpejt n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi. Gjith\u00eb koh\u00ebn mendoja p\u00ebr sh\u00ebndetin e time shoqeje. Nuk m\u00eb hynte asgj\u00eb n\u00eb sy. N\u00eb nj\u00eb moment mendoja t\u00eb braktisja \u00e7do gj\u00eb, por mendoja pastaj pasojat e papun\u00ebsis\u00eb time. I lutesha Zotit q\u00eb ajo t\u00eb sh\u00ebrohej sa m\u00eb shpejt dhe familjes son\u00eb t\u2019i kthehej lumturia si m\u00eb par\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Pasi kaluan disa muaj dhe un\u00eb isha ndar\u00eb pothuajse krejt\u00ebsisht nga shok\u00ebt e mi (nuk shkoja as n\u00eb kafe me ata pasi isha shum\u00eb i trishtuar dhe nuk doja t\u00eb b\u00ebja asgj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr ve\u00e7se t\u00eb mendoja p\u00ebr time shoqe gjat\u00eb koh\u00ebs q\u00eb e kisha larg), nj\u00eb shok i pun\u00ebs, shefi im, m\u00eb ftoi te darka e dit\u00eblindjes s\u00eb tij. M\u00eb tha se do ta organizonte vet\u00ebm me ne, kolektivin e pun\u00ebs dhe po ngulte k\u00ebmb\u00eb aq shum\u00eb q\u00eb un\u00eb t\u00eb shkoja sa m\u00eb erdhi shum\u00eb zor.<\/p>\n
– Hajde Berti, tani! L\u00ebre m\u00ebnjan\u00eb m\u00ebrzin\u00eb! Jeta i ka edhe t\u00eb mirat, edhe t\u00eb k\u00ebqijat. N\u00ebse vjen me ne, edhe ti harron p\u00ebr disa \u00e7aste problemet e tua, edhe mua do t\u00eb m\u00eb nderoje shum\u00eb me ardhjen t\u00ebnde. Hajde tani, nuk b\u00ebhet k\u00ebshtu…<\/p>\n
Pasi m\u00eb tha k\u00ebto, nuk mund ta refuzoja m\u00eb, aq m\u00eb tep\u00ebr q\u00eb at\u00eb e kisha shef. Mora n\u00eb telefon time shoqe dhe e pyeta n\u00ebse do ta kishte problem q\u00eb un\u00eb t\u00eb shkoja p\u00ebr dark\u00eb me kolektivin p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb rast t\u00eb ve\u00e7ant\u00eb. Ajo m\u00eb tha:<\/p>\n
\u201cMir\u00eb, shko!\u201d<\/p>\n
M\u2019u duk sikur ma tha me gjys\u00ebm z\u00ebri, ndaj edhe e kisha p\u00ebrs\u00ebri me dyshime vajtjen time, por b\u00ebra \u00e7\u2019b\u00ebra, u bashkova edhe un\u00eb me shok\u00ebt. Atje fillova t\u00eb ndihesha mir\u00eb. E dija q\u00eb nj\u00eb gj\u00eb e till\u00eb m\u00eb duhej ndaj edhe fillova t\u00eb shkarkoja gjith\u00eb ato tensione dhe strese q\u00eb m\u00eb ishin akumuluar p\u00ebrgjat\u00eb k\u00ebtyre jav\u00ebve.<\/p>\n
Aty n\u00eb restorantin ku zhvillohej dit\u00eblindja ishin edhe disa miq t\u00eb tjer\u00eb t\u00eb shefit, Artanit dhe midis tyre m\u00eb ra n\u00eb sy nj\u00eb grua nja 40 vje\u00e7e, q\u00eb kishte nj\u00eb sharm t\u00eb papar\u00eb dhe q\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00ebrhoqi q\u00eb n\u00eb momentin e par\u00eb kur e pash\u00eb. Sillej n\u00eb nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb ve\u00e7ant\u00eb, bisedonte n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb shum\u00eb elegante dhe t\u00eb b\u00ebnte p\u00ebr vete.<\/p>\n
Ajo ishte ulur p\u00ebrball\u00eb meje dhe e ndjeva q\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb moment na u prek\u00ebn k\u00ebmb\u00ebt tona n\u00ebn tavolin\u00eb. M\u2019u duk sikur ishte e rast\u00ebsishme, por pasi m\u00eb v\u00ebshtroi disa her\u00eb vjedhurazi ajo e afroi p\u00ebrs\u00ebri k\u00ebmb\u00ebn tek e imja dhe filloi t\u00eb ma f\u00ebrkonte me k\u00ebpuc\u00ebn e saj. Besoj se e pa shum\u00eb mir\u00eb q\u00eb kisha unaz\u00eb n\u00eb gisht, por me sa duket, po i p\u00eblqente loja q\u00eb po b\u00ebnte.<\/p>\n
Ajo dark\u00eb vazhdoi me biseda t\u00eb k\u00ebndshme dhe me v\u00ebshtrime provokuese. Ajo m\u00eb tha me z\u00eb t\u00eb ul\u00ebt kur po \u00e7oheshim p\u00ebr t\u2019u larguar:<\/p>\n
– Makin\u00ebn e kam aty p\u00ebrball\u00eb. M\u00eb prit sa t\u00eb shp\u00ebrndahemi mir\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb mos biem n\u00eb sy.<\/p>\n
Pas k\u00ebtyre fjal\u00ebve, shtanga n\u00eb vend.<\/p>\n
Nuk e di se pse m\u00eb ndodhi k\u00ebshtu. K\u00ebrkesa e saj nuk ishte Mbase ato nuk ishin dhe aq t\u00eb papritura, pasi shihej shum\u00eb qart\u00eb gjat\u00eb gjith\u00eb mbr\u00ebmjes q\u00eb ajo po p\u00ebrpiqej t\u00eb m\u00eb b\u00ebnte p\u00ebr vete.<\/p>\n
P\u00ebr nj\u00eb moment m\u2019u kujtua gruaja dhe u ndjeva keq. Nuk i ktheva p\u00ebrgjigje \u201cmikesh\u00ebs sime t\u00eb re\u201d! Ajo insistoi dhe po p\u00ebrpiqej me patjet\u00ebr q\u00eb un\u00eb t\u2019i shkoja nga pas! N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb moment erdhi nj\u00eb shoku im i pun\u00ebs dhe m\u00eb tha:<\/p>\n
\u201c\u00c7\u2019e vret mendjen kaq shum\u00eb mor burr\u00eb?!\u201d<\/p>\n
Pastaj ai m\u00eb qeshi me n\u00ebnkuptim.<\/p>\n
Nuk dija \u00e7\u2019t\u00eb b\u00ebja! Po mendoja se n\u00eb rast refuzimi t\u00eb ftes\u00ebs do prekej sedra ime prej mashkulli dhe nuk doja q\u00eb t\u00eb dilja (m\u00eb falni p\u00ebr shprehjen) si legen. Ne meshkujt e kemi pak problem at\u00eb q\u00eb mund t\u00eb mendoj\u00eb nj\u00eb fem\u00ebr si ajo. Nuk doja as q\u00eb t\u00eb nes\u00ebrmen n\u00eb pun\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebhesha objekt bisede e t\u00eb qeshurash dhe t\u00eb m\u00eb hidhnin batuta: \u201cNuk ia dilte dot!\u201d ose \u201cNuk \u00ebsht\u00eb fare i aft\u00eb ai kolegu yt i zyr\u00ebs, tjetra ia luajti sy p\u00ebr sy\u201d, ose t\u00eb m\u00eb thonin me tallje \u201cKy po, ky \u00ebsht\u00eb burr\u00eb i ndersh\u00ebm!\u201d. Do mendonin q\u00eb mbase jam impotent q\u00eb nuk shkova me at\u00eb fem\u00ebr…<\/p>\n
E di q\u00eb mes meshkujsh ekzistojn\u00eb ende t\u00eb tilla mentalitete, por nuk kam \u00e7far\u00eb t\u2019i b\u00ebj. Nuk do t\u00eb jem un\u00eb ai q\u00eb do t\u2019i ndryshoj. Nga ana tjet\u00ebr, e pranoj q\u00eb kisha koh\u00eb pa kryer marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie seksuale dhe t\u00eb them t\u00eb drejt\u00ebn, kisha nj\u00eb nevoj\u00eb t\u00eb pashmangshme!<\/p>\n
Nuk e kisha tradhtuar asnj\u00ebher\u00eb time shoqe. P\u00ebr nj\u00ebzet vjet me radh\u00eb i kam q\u00ebndruar asaj shum\u00eb besnik. P\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb gj\u00eb jam plot\u00ebsisht i vet\u00ebdijsh\u00ebm dhe krenar. Po tani?! Po tani \u00e7\u2019do t\u00eb b\u00ebja? T\u00eb ikja me t\u00eb n\u00eb makin\u00eb, t\u00eb shkoja me k\u00ebt\u00eb fem\u00ebr q\u00eb po m\u00eb ofrohej, apo t\u00eb shkoja n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi te kunata (pasi si\u00e7 ju tregova, kur vonohesha shum\u00eb un\u00eb rrija te sht\u00ebpia e kunat\u00ebs k\u00ebtu n\u00eb Tiran\u00eb) dhe t\u2019i telefonoja time shoqeje p\u00ebr t\u2019i uruar \u201cnat\u00ebn e mir\u00eb\u201d?!<\/p>\n
Nuk e di si do t\u00eb ndihesha n\u00ebse do t\u00eb zgjidhja k\u00ebt\u00eb t\u00eb dyt\u00ebn, pasi n\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb, zgjodha t\u00eb par\u00ebn. U tundova dhe… Vajta n\u00eb shtrat me t\u00eb! M\u00eb pas, nuk doja q\u00eb ta kalonim t\u00eb gjith\u00eb nat\u00ebn s\u00eb bashku, e ndaj u \u00e7ova nga krevati shpejt p\u00ebr t\u00eb ikur n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi.<\/p>\n
Kur u zgjova t\u00eb nes\u00ebrmen, kok\u00ebn e ndjeja t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00eb. Shkova n\u00eb pun\u00eb dhe pas saj, nxitova p\u00ebr t\u00eb kapur autobusin e p\u00ebr t\u00eb shkuar n\u00eb sht\u00ebpin\u00eb time.<\/p>\n
Gruaja mezi po m\u00eb priste. M\u00eb tha q\u00eb gjat\u00eb mbr\u00ebmjes nuk kishte qen\u00eb mir\u00eb me sh\u00ebndet dhe kishte dashur q\u00eb t\u00eb isha pran\u00eb saj, por duke qen\u00eb se \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb tolerante, nuk m\u00eb vuri faj. Nisa t\u00eb imagjinoja lloj-lloj gj\u00ebrash. Po mendoja se n\u00eb nj\u00eb moment t\u00eb atill\u00eb, kur ime shoqe kishte nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr mua, un\u00eb jo vet\u00ebm q\u00eb nuk i gjendesha pran\u00eb, por m\u00eb keq akoma… as po mendoja fare p\u00ebr t\u00eb!<\/p>\n
Kaluan dy-tre jave dhe sekreti q\u00eb poo i mbaja, nisi t\u00eb m\u00eb r\u00ebndonte. Nuk doja ta mbaja brenda meje! Po k\u00ebrkoja momentin q\u00eb t\u00eb ishim vet\u00ebm ne t\u00eb dy dhe t\u00eb mos ishin f\u00ebmij\u00ebt n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi dhe aq m\u00eb shum\u00eb, po prisja derisa edhe gjendja e saj sh\u00ebndet\u00ebsore t\u00eb p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsohej. E lam\u00eb nj\u00eb mbr\u00ebmje p\u00ebr t\u00eb darkuar jasht\u00eb dhe vendosa t\u2019ia tregoja gjith\u00eb \u00e7far\u00eb kishte ndodhur at\u00eb nat\u00eb. Nuk mund ta mbaja dot m\u00eb brenda meje at\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb d\u00ebrrmuese.<\/p>\n
K\u00ebshtu b\u00ebra. U p\u00ebrgatita p\u00ebr \u00e7do fjal\u00eb q\u00eb do t\u2019i tregoja. Do t\u2019i thoja vet\u00ebm t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebn pasi ajo kishte t\u00eb drejt\u00eb q\u00eb ta dinte. Ajo nuk priti t\u00eb m\u00eb d\u00ebgjonte deri n\u00eb fund dhe m\u00eb tha e nervozuar se donte q\u00eb t\u00eb divorcoheshim menj\u00ebher\u00eb. Un\u00eb isha i p\u00ebrgatitur p\u00ebr \u00e7do gj\u00eb, por p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb jo, asnj\u00ebher\u00eb n\u00eb bot\u00eb! Ajo m\u00eb tha mes lot\u00ebsh zhg\u00ebnjimi:<\/p>\n
\u201cNuk dua t\u00eb ta shoh m\u00eb fytyr\u00ebn, ndyr\u00ebsir\u00eb dreqi, madje do t\u00eb t\u2019i marr edhe f\u00ebmij\u00ebt dhe nuk do t\u00eb kesh t\u00eb drejt\u00eb t\u2019i shoh\u00ebsh fare, kupton?! M\u00eb ke shkat\u00ebrruar! Ti vajte u harbove me at\u00eb dava lavire dhe ke fytyr\u00eb t\u00eb vish e t\u00eb m\u00eb k\u00ebrkosh t\u00eb falur? As mos e \u00e7o n\u00ebp\u00ebr mend t\u00eb t\u00eb fal!\u201d<\/p>\n
Ishte e pashpjegueshme dhimbja q\u00eb ndjeja n\u00eb ato momente. Nuk mund ta mohoj q\u00eb edhe ime shoqe, ose m\u00eb mir\u00eb ish-bashk\u00ebshortja ime ishte shum\u00eb e fyer dhe e l\u00ebnduar, por shpresoja p\u00ebr nj\u00eb falje, besoja se ne ishim nj\u00eb \u00e7ift tolerant q\u00eb do t\u2019ia falnim nj\u00ebri-tjetrit nj\u00eb gabim t\u00eb till\u00eb q\u00eb mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhet nj\u00eb her\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00eb!<\/p>\n
Ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqem ta v\u00eb veten n\u00eb vendin e saj. \u00cbsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00eb ta pranosh nj\u00eb tradhti, e di, por t\u00eb pakt\u00ebn nuk do t\u00eb ngat\u00ebrroja me t\u00eb edhe f\u00ebmij\u00ebt, ata q\u00eb jan\u00eb drita e syve t\u00eb mi e q\u00eb kam kaq shum\u00eb koh\u00eb pa i par\u00eb!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
P\u00ebrg\u00ebzimet e mia redaksis\u00eb s\u00eb gazet\u00ebs \u201cIntervista\u201d! Jam Berti nga Durr\u00ebsi dhe do t\u2019ju rr\u00ebfej nj\u00eb m\u00ebkat, q\u00eb faktikisht nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb i imi, edhe pse e pranoj q\u00eb nj\u00eb pjes\u00eb t\u00eb fajit e kam un\u00eb. S\u2019ka gj\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00eb se ajo q\u00eb m\u00eb b\u00ebri gruaja ime! Personi q\u00eb e doja aq shum\u00eb, arriti\u00a0 t\u00eb […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[95],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1843","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-rrefime-mekatesh"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1843","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1843"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1843\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1843"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1843"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1843"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}