{"id":17496,"date":"2017-12-09T08:40:21","date_gmt":"2017-12-09T07:40:21","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=17496"},"modified":"2017-12-09T08:40:21","modified_gmt":"2017-12-09T07:40:21","slug":"mu-fiksua-qe-jam-lesbike","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2017\/12\/mu-fiksua-qe-jam-lesbike\/","title":{"rendered":"M\u2019u fiksua q\u00eb jam lesbike"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje, kam nj\u00eb pyetje p\u00ebr psikologen tuaj Lorel\u00ebn. Jam nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb 21 vje\u00e7e, kam 4 muaj q\u00eb vuaj nga mendime t\u00eb cilat m\u00eb fiksohen dhe m\u00eb shkaktojn\u00eb ankth dhe vet\u00ebm qaj. \u00c7do gj\u00eb filloi nj\u00eb nat\u00eb kur m\u2019u fiksua se isha lesbike. Q\u00eb at\u00eb nat\u00eb gushti, u fiksova keq me k\u00ebt\u00eb mendim dhe gjithmon\u00eb m\u00eb dukej sikur do fiksohesha me goca, fiksohesha me shoqet e mia t\u00eb ngushta mendoja se mos i doja n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb tjet\u00ebr, pastaj k\u00ebto fiksime m\u00eb iknin dhe kur kalonin \u00e7do gj\u00eb kthehej mir\u00eb. K\u00ebto fiksime erdh\u00ebn dhe u r\u00ebnduar duke kaluar n\u00eb mendime nga m\u00eb t\u00eb tmerrshmet. Kam kaluar periudh\u00ebn m\u00eb t\u00eb tmerrshme t\u00eb jet\u00ebs time. K\u00ebt\u00eb problem ia kam th\u00ebn\u00eb vet\u00ebm shoq\u00ebve t\u00eb ngushta dhe motr\u00ebs. K\u00ebto koh\u00eb kam qen\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb por problemi \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb m\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb fiksuar sikur nuk do ndihem fem\u00ebr, m\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb fiksuar dhe \u00e7do veprim q\u00eb kryej m\u00eb duket sikur po e imponoj veten t\u2019a kryej. un\u00eb jam e lidhur dhe kur jam me t\u00eb dashurin ndihem shum\u00eb mir\u00eb, e theksoj shum\u00eb mir\u00eb. Problemi \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb kur jam vet\u00ebm m\u00eb duket sikur do \u00e7mendem. Nuk m\u00eb len\u00eb rehat k\u00ebto mendime, kam shum\u00eb ankthe vet\u00ebm qaj. Un\u00eb e di q\u00eb asgj\u00eb nga ato q\u00eb kam menduar apo mendoj nuk jan\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrteta por problemi \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb kur i mendoj futem kaq thell\u00eb sa m\u00eb duket sikur s\u2019kam shp\u00ebtim. Jam shum\u00eb e frik\u00ebsuar m\u00eb duket sikur e humbas veten time. Nuk jam vizituar askund dhe s\u2019kam pasur asnj\u00ebher\u00eb m\u00eb p\u00ebrpara probleme as t\u00eb k\u00ebtij lloji as probleme t\u00eb tjera. Ju lutem m\u00eb thoni \u00e7far\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebj? Jam n\u00eb pritje t\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigjes tuaj me shum\u00eb ankth.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Lorela Garuli, psikologe, email lorela_garuli@hotmail.com:-<\/strong> P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje e dashur e t\u00eb fal\u00ebnderoj q\u00eb e ndan me ne shqet\u00ebsimin t\u00ebnd. P\u00ebr t\u00eb kuptuar m\u00eb mir\u00eb situat\u00ebn n\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebn ndodhesh, do t\u00eb ishte shum\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme p\u00ebr t\u00eb ditur se cili ishte \u00e7asti i par\u00eb kur u p\u00ebrballe me k\u00ebto mendime, si u ndjeve, \u00e7far\u00eb b\u00ebre, si veprove, a lidhej ky mendim i t\u00eb q\u00ebnit lesbike me ndonj\u00eb ngjarje specifike apo jo. Meq\u00eb un\u00eb k\u00ebtu nuk e kam k\u00ebt\u00eb informacion, drejtoja vetes k\u00ebto pyetje dhe p\u00ebrpiqu t\u2019i kthesh p\u00ebrgjigje, p\u00ebr t\u00eb qart\u00ebsuar shkaqet q\u00eb nxisin k\u00ebto mendime shqet\u00ebsuese p\u00ebr ty. T\u00eb kuptuarit e origjin\u00ebs s\u00eb disa mendimeve fikse \u00ebsht\u00eb e nevojshme p\u00ebr t\u00eb punuar q\u00eb t\u00eb largohen m\u00eb pas. Ka raste q\u00eb stereotipa t\u00eb caktuar gjinor\u00eb nuk p\u00ebrputhen me disa ve\u00e7ori t\u00eb personalitetit ton\u00eb dhe kjo shkakton ankth. P\u00ebrshembull: N\u00ebse na \u00ebsht\u00eb th\u00ebn\u00eb nga familja, shoq\u00ebria, kultura n\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebn b\u00ebjm\u00eb pjes\u00eb, se nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb duhet t\u00eb shfaq\u00eb disa karakteristika specifike p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb \u201cbrenda\u201d gjinis\u00eb s\u00eb saj dhe dikush jo detyrimisht \u00ebsht\u00eb plot\u00ebsisht brenda k\u00ebsaj kornize, mund t\u00eb filloj\u00eb t\u00eb mendoj\u00eb se nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb si t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt, se po b\u00ebn di\u00e7ka t\u00eb gabuar, se nuk do t\u00eb pranohet nga shoq\u00ebria, se do t\u00eb gjykohet e me radh\u00eb.<\/p>\n<p>Kete shkrim mund ta lexoni te plote ne gazeten Intervista qe e gjeni n\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha kioskat e Shqip\u00ebris\u00eb dhe t\u00eb Greqis\u00eb. Mund t&#8217;ua dergojme edhe n\u00eb adres\u00ebn tuaj te emailit p\u00ebr vet\u00ebm 99 cent n\u00eb muaj. Kontaktoni me ne n\u00eb inbox!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje, kam nj\u00eb pyetje p\u00ebr psikologen tuaj Lorel\u00ebn. Jam nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb 21 vje\u00e7e, kam 4 muaj q\u00eb vuaj nga mendime t\u00eb cilat m\u00eb fiksohen dhe m\u00eb shkaktojn\u00eb ankth dhe vet\u00ebm qaj. \u00c7do gj\u00eb filloi nj\u00eb nat\u00eb kur m\u2019u fiksua se isha lesbike. Q\u00eb at\u00eb nat\u00eb gushti, u fiksova keq me k\u00ebt\u00eb mendim dhe gjithmon\u00eb m\u00eb [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":15700,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[40],"tags":[1194],"class_list":["post-17496","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-aktualitet","tag-lorela-garuli"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17496","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=17496"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17496\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/15700"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=17496"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=17496"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=17496"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}