{"id":16586,"date":"2017-08-28T10:26:47","date_gmt":"2017-08-28T08:26:47","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=16586"},"modified":"2017-08-28T10:26:47","modified_gmt":"2017-08-28T08:26:47","slug":"vajza-me-genjen","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2017\/08\/vajza-me-genjen\/","title":{"rendered":"Vajza m\u00eb g\u00ebnjen"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje gazeta Intervista. Dua t\u2019j\\u drejtoj nj\u00eb mesazh lidhur me rubrik\u00ebn tuaj t\u00eb psikologut, por si fillim dua t\u2019iu k\u00ebrkoj q\u00eb t\u00eb ngelem anonim. Un\u00eb jam mama e dy vajzave. E madhja \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e sjellshme, e d\u00ebgjueshme kurse e vogla ma sjell shpirtin n\u00eb maj\u00eb t\u00eb hund\u00ebs edhe pse \u00ebsht\u00eb vet\u00ebm 13 vje\u00e7e. E kuptoj q\u00eb i p\u00eblqen shoq\u00ebria, ka qejf t\u00eb dali, ka mosh\u00ebn delicate por ajo q\u00eb mua m\u00eb shqet\u00ebson \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb p\u00ebr \u00e7do gj\u00eb m\u00eb g\u00ebnjen. Un\u00eb jam n\u00eb pun\u00eb dhe nuk mundem ta shoq\u00ebroj gjat\u00eb paradites por mbasdite i rri gjith\u00eb koh\u00ebn n\u00eb kok\u00eb sapo kthehem nga puna. I jam sjell\u00eb urt\u00eb, i kam folur me nerva por ajo s\u2019merr vesh as me t\u00eb mira as me t\u00eb k\u00ebqia e vazhdon p\u00ebrs\u00ebri me g\u00ebnjeshtra. Ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb m\u00eb humbet durimi dhe m\u00eb vjen ta vras. Nuk di m\u00eb si t\u00eb sillem. Ju lutem \u00e7far\u00eb m\u00eb k\u00ebshilloni se jam shum\u00eb e stresuar?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Lorela Garuli, psikologe, email lorela_garuli@hotmail.com:-<\/strong> P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje e dashur! Pyetje apo problematika q\u00eb kan\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb me edukimin jan\u00eb shpesh n\u00eb qend\u00ebr t\u00eb v\u00ebmendjes s\u00eb k\u00ebsaj rubrike dhe kjo nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb rast\u00ebsore, pasi edukimi e mir\u00ebrritja psikosociale e brezave q\u00eb vijn\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb detyr\u00eb komplekse, e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb dhe e nj\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsie t\u00eb vecant\u00eb. Mesa duket, ti je p\u00ebrball\u00eb pyetjes se \u00e7far\u00eb q\u00ebndrimi duhet mbajtur kur f\u00ebmija nuk thot\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebn, n\u00eb rastin konkret nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb q\u00eb po e l\u00eb tashm\u00eb periudh\u00ebn e f\u00ebmij\u00ebris\u00eb dhe ka hyr\u00eb n\u00eb adoleshenc\u00eb. P\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrcaktuar se cila \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00ebnyra m\u00eb e mir\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb reaguar p\u00ebrball\u00eb g\u00ebnj\u00ebshtrave t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebs, n\u00eb radh\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb duhet kuptuar se pse g\u00ebnj\u00ebn. Arsyet mund t\u00eb jen\u00eb nga m\u00eb t\u00eb ndryshmet. Adoleshenca \u00ebsht\u00eb periudha n\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebn individi po k\u00ebrkon t\u00eb formoj\u00eb identitetin e vet, identitet i cili shpeshher\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb jasht\u00eb kornizave t\u00eb prind\u00ebrve dhe rregullave t\u00eb familjes. Ky pro\u00e7es i njohjes s\u00eb vetes kalon n\u00ebp\u00ebr shum\u00eb filtra psikologjik\u00eb, nj\u00eb prej t\u00eb cil\u00ebve q\u00eb ndeshen r\u00ebndom ka t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb me g\u00ebnjeshtr\u00ebn. F\u00ebmija g\u00ebnjen kur ndjen se sjelljet apo perceptimet e tij nuk jan\u00eb n\u00eb p\u00ebrputhje me standardet morale t\u00eb prind\u00ebrve apo me pritshm\u00ebrit\u00eb e k\u00ebtyre t\u00eb fundit ndaj tij.<\/p>\n<p>Kete shkrim mund ta lexoni te plote ne gazeten Intervista qe e gjeni n\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha kioskat e Shqip\u00ebris\u00eb dhe t\u00eb Greqis\u00eb. Mund t&#8217;ua dergojme edhe n\u00eb adres\u00ebn tuaj te emailit p\u00ebr vet\u00ebm 99 cent n\u00eb muaj. Kontaktoni me ne n\u00eb inbox!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje gazeta Intervista. Dua t\u2019j\\u drejtoj nj\u00eb mesazh lidhur me rubrik\u00ebn tuaj t\u00eb psikologut, por si fillim dua t\u2019iu k\u00ebrkoj q\u00eb t\u00eb ngelem anonim. Un\u00eb jam mama e dy vajzave. E madhja \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e sjellshme, e d\u00ebgjueshme kurse e vogla ma sjell shpirtin n\u00eb maj\u00eb t\u00eb hund\u00ebs edhe pse \u00ebsht\u00eb vet\u00ebm 13 vje\u00e7e. E [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":15923,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[86],"tags":[1194],"class_list":["post-16586","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-psikologu","tag-lorela-garuli"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16586","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=16586"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16586\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/15923"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=16586"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=16586"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=16586"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}