{"id":16275,"date":"2017-07-29T13:55:38","date_gmt":"2017-07-29T11:55:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=16275"},"modified":"2017-07-29T13:55:38","modified_gmt":"2017-07-29T11:55:38","slug":"mbyllet-ne-dhome-per-ore-te-tera","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2017\/07\/mbyllet-ne-dhome-per-ore-te-tera\/","title":{"rendered":"Mbyllet n\u00eb dhom\u00eb p\u00ebr or\u00eb t\u00eb t\u00ebra"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>Lorela p\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje! T\u00eb falenderoj shum\u00eb p\u00ebr pozitivitetin q\u00eb ke dhe q\u00eb i\u2019a leht\u00ebson stresin n\u00eb nj\u00eb far\u00eb m\u00ebnyre njer\u00ebzve me fjal\u00ebt e tua plot shpres\u00eb dhe dashuri. Edhe un\u00eb jam nj\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00eb 47 vje\u00e7e q\u00eb kam nj\u00eb shqet\u00ebsim t\u00eb cilin do doja ta ndaja me ju. Un\u00eb kam nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb 23 vje\u00e7e e cila ka patur nj\u00eb lidhje dashurie me nj\u00eb djal\u00eb p\u00ebr rreth 3 vite por ai iku jasht\u00eb me premtimin se do kthehej prap\u00eb dhe kur iku atje tha q\u00eb nuk ka mund\u00ebsi t\u00eb kthehet m\u00eb n\u00eb Shqip\u00ebri. Q\u00eb nga moment q\u00eb ai ka ikur vajza ime po kalon nj\u00eb gjendje stresi dhe as ushqehet por rri vet\u00ebm n\u00eb dhom\u00eb, mundohet t\u00eb buz\u00ebqesh\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb na th\u00ebn\u00eb ne prind\u00ebrve q\u00eb nuk ka gj\u00eb por un\u00eb e kuptoj dhimbjen e saj. Nuk di \u00e7far\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebj me t\u00eb se nuk dua q\u00eb gjendja e saj t\u00eb r\u00ebndohet. Ajo rri e mbyllur n\u00eb dhom\u00eb me or\u00eb t\u00eb t\u00ebra dhe nuk flet me asnj\u00eb. Ju lutem mund t\u00eb m\u00eb jepni ndonj\u00eb k\u00ebshill\u00eb p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb problem? Faleminderit dhe pres p\u00ebrgjigjen tuaj.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Lorela Garuli, psikologe, email <\/strong><a href=\"mailto:lorela_garuli@hotmail.com:-\"><strong>lorela_garuli@hotmail.com:-<\/strong><\/a>P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje e dashur! T\u00eb fal\u00ebnderoj sinqerisht p\u00ebr vler\u00ebsimin! E kuptoj k\u00ebt\u00eb shqet\u00ebsim t\u00ebndin. N\u00eb radh\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb, n\u00eb gjykimin tim kjo \u00e7\u00ebshtje nuk duhet t\u00eb p\u00ebrb\u00ebj\u00eb shqet\u00ebsim n\u00eb vetvete, pra q\u00eb ikja dhe moskthimi i atij djali t\u00eb jet\u00eb p\u00ebr ty apo p\u00ebr an\u00ebtar\u00ebt e tjer\u00eb t\u00eb familjes t\u00ebnde nj\u00eb problem, sepse n\u00eb nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb apo n\u00eb nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr kjo do t\u00eb reflektoj\u00eb n\u00eb klim\u00ebn familjare dhe \u00e7far\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb e rrezikshmja, tek vajza dhe gjendja e saj emocionale. Natyrisht q\u00eb zhg\u00ebnjimet prej lidhjeve dashurore jan\u00eb ato t\u00eb cilat l\u00ebn\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb gjurm\u00eb dhe k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb koh\u00eb t\u00eb sh\u00ebrohen, sidomos kur n\u00eb mes ka element\u00eb t\u00eb zhg\u00ebnjimit, braktisjes, e kur k\u00ebto ndodhin n\u00eb mosh\u00eb t\u00eb re.\u00a0 Megjithat\u00eb, p\u00ebr fat t\u00eb mir\u00eb, natyra njer\u00ebzore \u00ebsht\u00eb e p\u00ebrb\u00ebr\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb till\u00eb, q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e aft\u00eb t\u00eb gjej\u00eb burime dhe forma t\u00eb shumta p\u00ebr t\u00eb shprehur dashurin\u00eb. Duke qen\u00eb se dashuria \u00ebsht\u00eb ndjenj\u00eb e cila ka shum\u00eb dimensione, trajta dhe destinacione, ky \u00ebsht\u00eb momenti q\u00eb vajza jote ta ndjej\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb se kurr\u00eb dashurin\u00eb pa kushte nga ana jote dhe e an\u00ebtar\u00ebve t\u00eb tjer\u00eb t\u00eb familjes. P\u00ebrpiquni q\u00eb t\u2019i q\u00ebndroni af\u00ebr. N\u00ebse ka nevoj\u00eb t\u00eb shprehet, d\u00ebgjojeni. N\u00ebse jo, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb nevoja ta nxisni t\u00eb flas\u00eb. Mund t\u2019i shpjegoni q\u00eb k\u00ebto ndodhi nuk duhet t\u00eb shkaktojn\u00eb d\u00ebme emocionale dhe psikologjike t\u00eb parikuperueshme dhe t\u00eb mos jen\u00eb pika kthese apo ndryshimi drastik n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn sesi vajza do t\u00eb nd\u00ebrtoj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet n\u00eb t\u00eb ardhmen. E them k\u00ebt\u00eb, sepse shpeshher\u00eb ajo q\u00eb ndodh, \u00ebsht\u00eb se kur kemi ndonj\u00eb zhg\u00ebnjim, na humbet besimi dhe optimizmi p\u00ebr m\u00eb tej.<\/p>\n<div class=\"_h8t\">\n<div id=\"js_bp\" class=\"_5wd9 direction_ltr\" data-tooltip-content=\"July 1st, 11:48am\" data-hover=\"tooltip\" data-tooltip-position=\"right\" aria-describedby=\"js_2z\">\n<div class=\"_5wde _n4o\">\n<div class=\"_5w1r _3_om _5wdf\">\n<div class=\"_4gx_\">\n<div class=\"_d97\"><span class=\"_5yl5\">Kete shkrim mund ta lexoni te plote ne gazeten Intervista qe e gjeni n\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha kioskat e Shqip\u00ebris\u00eb dhe t\u00eb Greqis\u00eb. Mund t&#8217;ua dergojme edhe n\u00eb adres\u00ebn tuaj te emailit p\u00ebr vet\u00ebm 99 cent n\u00eb muaj. Kontaktoni me ne n\u00eb inbox!<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Lorela p\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje! T\u00eb falenderoj shum\u00eb p\u00ebr pozitivitetin q\u00eb ke dhe q\u00eb i\u2019a leht\u00ebson stresin n\u00eb nj\u00eb far\u00eb m\u00ebnyre njer\u00ebzve me fjal\u00ebt e tua plot shpres\u00eb dhe dashuri. Edhe un\u00eb jam nj\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00eb 47 vje\u00e7e q\u00eb kam nj\u00eb shqet\u00ebsim t\u00eb cilin do doja ta ndaja me ju. Un\u00eb kam nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb 23 vje\u00e7e e cila ka [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":15923,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[86],"tags":[1194],"class_list":["post-16275","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-psikologu","tag-lorela-garuli"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16275","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=16275"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16275\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/15923"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=16275"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=16275"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=16275"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}