{"id":15776,"date":"2017-06-24T14:44:55","date_gmt":"2017-06-24T12:44:55","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=15776"},"modified":"2017-06-24T14:44:55","modified_gmt":"2017-06-24T12:44:55","slug":"si-te-komunikoj-me-mire-me-femijen-tim","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2017\/06\/si-te-komunikoj-me-mire-me-femijen-tim\/","title":{"rendered":"Si t\u00eb komunikoj m\u00eb mir\u00eb me f\u00ebmij\u00ebn tim?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje Lorela, un\u00eb jam\u00a0 mamaja e nj\u00eb vajze 3 vje\u00e7are. N\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi shoh nj\u00eb sjellje t\u00eb mir\u00eb pasi dhe po e edukojm\u00eb me qet\u00ebsi por \u00e7\u2019po na d\u00ebgjojn\u00eb vesh\u00ebt me k\u00ebto f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e sot\u00ebm, dita-dit\u00ebs po ndryshojn\u00eb. Do doja q\u00eb edhe kur t\u00eb rritet t\u00eb ket\u00eb besim dhe t\u00eb jet\u00eb e hapur, e lirshme n\u00eb komunikim me mua, por p\u00ebr ne prind\u00ebrit jo gjithmon\u00eb kjo gj\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e leht\u00eb. Do doja t\u00eb dija, cila \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00ebnyra m\u00eb e mir\u00eb q\u00eb ne t\u00eb kemi nj\u00eb komunikim t\u00eb mir\u00eb, sot dhe n\u00eb t\u00eb ardhmen? <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Lorela Garuli, psikologe, email lorela_garuli@hotmail.com:-<\/strong> \u00a0P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje e dashur dhe t\u00eb fal\u00ebnderoj q\u00eb na shkruan, mbi t\u00eb gjitha p\u00ebr nj\u00eb c\u00ebshtje e cila lidhet me f\u00ebmij\u00ebt. \u00c7do element q\u00eb na sjell n\u00eb v\u00ebmendje edukimin e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve, \u00ebsht\u00eb e nj\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsie t\u00eb vecant\u00eb, pasi m\u00ebnyra sesi ne i rrisim, zhvillojm\u00eb, sesi i trajtojm\u00eb dhe e konsiderojm\u00eb, ka t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb direkte me personalitetin e tyre dhe me at\u00eb q\u00eb do t\u00eb b\u00ebhen kur t\u00eb jen\u00eb t\u00eb rritur. Sigurisht q\u00eb komunikimi \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb faktor ky\u00e7 n\u00eb mir\u00ebrritjen e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve. Mesazhet q\u00eb ata marrin n\u00eb familje, m\u00ebnyra sesi u transmetohet dashuria, sesi u shpjegohen gj\u00ebrat, si u tregohet se \u00e7far\u00eb duhet b\u00ebr\u00eb dhe \u00e7far\u00eb jo, ndikon n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb direkte n\u00eb konceptin q\u00eb f\u00ebmija do t\u00eb krijoj\u00eb p\u00ebr veten dhe n\u00eb shfaqjen e sjelljeve t\u00eb p\u00ebrshtatshme. Komunikimi \u00ebsht\u00eb shtylla kurrizore e \u00e7do marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieje e si i till\u00eb vlen q\u00eb t\u00eb tregojm\u00eb kujdesin e duhur p\u00ebr t\u00eb.\u00a0 Ka disa rregulla baz\u00eb sesi mund t\u00eb komunikojm\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb m\u00eb efikase dhe m\u00eb t\u00eb sakt\u00eb me f\u00ebmij\u00ebt, n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb zgjidhim problemet, por nj\u00ebkoh\u00ebsisht edhe t\u00eb jemi nj\u00eb shembull e model i mir\u00eb p\u00ebr ta. Fillimisht, duhet t\u00eb jemi koherent\u00eb n\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb themi dhe sesi e themi; pra n\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb quhet komunikimi verbal dhe jo verbal. P\u00ebrmbajtjen e asaj q\u00eb themi duhet ta p\u00ebrshtasim me mimik\u00ebn, gjesten, shikimin, tonin, volumin dhe intonacionin e z\u00ebrit. N\u00eb t\u00eb kund\u00ebrt, f\u00ebmija mund t\u00eb ngat\u00ebrrohet sepse e ka t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00ebkuptoj\u00eb mesazhet e dyfishta apo n\u00ebnkuptimet. \u00cbsht\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme q\u00eb c\u00ebshtjet t\u00eb cilat diskutohen apo problematikat q\u00eb dalin t\u00eb ken\u00eb nj\u00eb lloj radhe dhe hierarkie, n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb dhe f\u00ebmija t\u00eb dij\u00eb t\u2019i jap\u00eb p\u00ebrpar\u00ebsi atyre m\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme.<\/p>\n<div class=\"_h8t\">\n<div id=\"js_1z4\" class=\"_5wd9 direction_ltr\" data-tooltip-content=\"1:17.MD\" data-hover=\"tooltip\" data-tooltip-position=\"right\" aria-describedby=\"js_2h\">\n<div class=\"_5wde _n4o\">\n<div class=\"_5w1r _3_om _5wdf\">\n<div class=\"_4gx_\">\n<div class=\"_d97\"><span class=\"_5yl5\">Kete shkrim mund ta lexoni te plote ne gazeten Intervista qe e gjeni n\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha kioskat e Shqip\u00ebris\u00eb dhe t\u00eb Greqis\u00eb. 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Do doja q\u00eb edhe kur t\u00eb rritet t\u00eb ket\u00eb besim dhe t\u00eb jet\u00eb e hapur, e lirshme n\u00eb [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":15283,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[86],"tags":[1194],"class_list":["post-15776","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-psikologu","tag-lorela-garuli"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15776","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=15776"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15776\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/15283"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=15776"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=15776"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=15776"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}