{"id":1533,"date":"2014-07-16T13:28:09","date_gmt":"2014-07-16T13:28:09","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=1533"},"modified":"2014-07-16T13:28:09","modified_gmt":"2014-07-16T13:28:09","slug":"si-eshte-deshira-jote-sexuale","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2014\/07\/si-eshte-deshira-jote-sexuale\/","title":{"rendered":"Si \u00ebsht\u00eb d\u00ebshira jote seksuale?"},"content":{"rendered":"

N\u00eb latinisht, libido do t\u00eb thot\u00eb d\u00ebshir\u00eb dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb term q\u00eb sot p\u00ebrdoret si sinonim i d\u00ebshir\u00ebs seksuale. Ishte Frojdi ai q\u00eb e b\u00ebri popullor at\u00eb, duke b\u00ebr\u00eb dallimin mes seksit me q\u00ebllim k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsin\u00eb dhe atij me q\u00ebllim lindjen e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve dhe duke e p\u00ebrdorur gjer\u00ebsisht termin libido n\u00eb teorin\u00eb psikoanalitike. T\u00eb kesh nj\u00eb jet\u00eb seksuale t\u00eb k\u00ebnaqshme do t\u00eb thot\u00eb t\u00eb kuptosh d\u00ebshirat dhe prirjet e tjetrit, por para s\u00eb gjithash, t\u00eb kuptosh veten, d\u00ebshir\u00ebn t\u00ebnde seksuale dhe t\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqesh ta k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsh at\u00eb. T\u00eb kesh nj\u00eb jet\u00eb seksuale t\u00eb k\u00ebnaqshme do t\u00eb thot\u00eb gjithashtu t\u00eb kuptosh bllokimet e mundshme dhe t\u00eb analizosh faktor\u00ebt q\u00eb e pengojn\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb d\u00ebshir\u00eb. Ja, p\u00ebrse ju propozojm\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebni, p\u00ebr disa minuta, bilancin tuaj t\u00eb libidos. At\u00ebhere, hormonet tuaja jan\u00eb \u201ct\u00eb nxehta\u201d, apo nj\u00eb er\u00eb e akullt fryn n\u00eb d\u00ebshir\u00ebn tuaj? P\u00ebr t\u00eb kuptuar pra d\u00ebshir\u00ebn tuaj seksuale, b\u00ebni testin e m\u00ebposht\u00ebm…<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

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1. Her\u00ebn e fundit q\u00eb keni b\u00ebr\u00eb dashuri me partnerin, ai:<\/strong><\/p>\n

a. U \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebrgjegjur prekjeve tuaja me k\u00ebmb\u00eb<\/p>\n

b. \u00cbsht\u00eb hedhur n\u00eb sulm i pari.<\/p>\n

c. K\u00ebmb\u00ebnguli q\u00eb t\u00eb kuptonit mesazhin q\u00eb po ju d\u00ebrgonte.<\/p>\n

d. \u00cbsht\u00eb p\u00ebrballur me refuzimin tuaj.<\/p>\n

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2. Shoqja juaj e ngusht\u00eb ju rr\u00ebfen se ka b\u00ebr\u00eb dashuri 4 her\u00eb brenda nj\u00eb nate. Ju, i p\u00ebrgjigjeni:<\/strong><\/p>\n

a. Mir\u00ebseerdhe n\u00eb shoqat\u00ebn ton\u00eb!<\/p>\n

b. Po festonit ritakimin?<\/p>\n

c. Burri yt qenka i fort\u00eb!<\/p>\n

d. Si ia b\u00ebn ti?<\/p>\n

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3. Ju ndodh q\u00eb mendja juaj t\u00eb bredh\u00eb n\u00eb mendime p\u00ebr seksin?<\/strong><\/p>\n

a. \u00c7mendurisht<\/p>\n

b. Me pasion<\/p>\n

c. Shum\u00eb<\/p>\n

d. Pak, ose aspak<\/p>\n

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4. Ideja e t\u00eb b\u00ebrit dashuri n\u00eb nj\u00eb vend publik:<\/strong><\/p>\n

a. Ju eksiton<\/p>\n

b. Ju k\u00ebnaq<\/p>\n

c. Ju frik\u00ebson<\/p>\n

d. Nuk ju shkon n\u00ebp\u00ebr mend<\/p>\n

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5. Partneri juaj b\u00ebn sfilat\u00eb veshur vet\u00ebm me mbathje para jush:<\/strong><\/p>\n

a. Ju i hidheni p\u00ebrsip\u00ebr, pa nj\u00eb, pa dy.<\/p>\n

b. Admironi trupin e tij me muskuj dhe i k\u00ebrkoni t\u00eb heq\u00eb mbathjet<\/p>\n

c. K\u00ebnaqeni vet\u00ebm me pamjen<\/p>\n

d. E injoroni dhe vazhdoni t\u00eb lexoni librin.<\/p>\n

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6. Nj\u00eb shoqja juaj ankohet se b\u00ebn seks vet\u00ebm nj\u00eb her\u00eb n\u00eb jav\u00eb… kur ka shans:<\/strong><\/p>\n

a. Ju vjen keq p\u00ebr t\u00eb; nuk do t\u00eb donit t\u00eb ishit n\u00eb vend t\u00eb saj<\/p>\n

b. E k\u00ebshilloni t\u00eb nxis\u00eb libidon e partnerit<\/p>\n

c. E siguroni, duke i th\u00ebn\u00eb se \u00ebsht\u00eb si qet\u00ebsia para furtun\u00ebs<\/p>\n

d. Nuk e kuptoni pse ankohet.<\/p>\n

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7. Partneri tregohet nism\u00ebtar n\u00eb shtrat, nd\u00ebrsa ju nuk keni d\u00ebshir\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebni dashuri:<\/strong><\/p>\n

a. E pamundur t\u2019i refuzoni<\/p>\n

b. E lini temperatur\u00ebn t\u00eb ngrihet edhe pak m\u00eb shum\u00eb<\/p>\n

c. Pranoni, p\u00ebr t\u2019i b\u00ebr\u00eb qejfin atij<\/p>\n

d. I ktheni kurrizin; tanim\u00eb ai \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00ebsuar.<\/p>\n

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8. Vendi m\u00eb i pazakont\u00eb ku keni b\u00ebr\u00eb dashuri:<\/strong><\/p>\n

a. N\u00eb banjon e nj\u00eb restoranti<\/p>\n

b. N\u00eb makin\u00eb<\/p>\n

c. N\u00eb kuzhin\u00eb<\/p>\n

d. N\u00eb divanin e sallonit.<\/p>\n

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9. P\u00ebr ju, Kamasutra, \u00ebsht\u00eb:<\/strong><\/p>\n

a. Si nj\u00eb Bib\u00ebl; nuk e hiqni nga komodina<\/p>\n

b. Nj\u00eb burim frym\u00ebzimi, i hidhni nj\u00eb sy her\u00eb pas here.<\/p>\n

c. Nj\u00eb er\u00ebz e ardhur nga India<\/p>\n

d. Nj\u00eb lib\u00ebr p\u00ebr ata q\u00eb jan\u00eb t\u00eb fiksuar pas seksit<\/p>\n

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10. Ndjeheni e lodhur, por partneri fillon t\u2019ju p\u00ebrk\u00ebdhel\u00eb:<\/strong><\/p>\n

a. Keni rikuperuar fuqin\u00eb dhe filloni sulmin edhe ju\u2026<\/p>\n

b. I thoni \u201cpo\u201d, me kusht q\u00eb ta b\u00ebj\u00eb ai gjith\u00eb pun\u00ebn.<\/p>\n

c. E lini t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb \u00e7\u2019t\u00eb doj\u00eb<\/p>\n

d. Refuzoni, me ndonj\u00eb pretekst<\/p>\n

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11. Periudhat e gjata t\u00eb munges\u00ebs s\u00eb seksit\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n

a. Ju deprimojn\u00eb<\/p>\n

b. Ju trembin<\/p>\n

c. Ju shqet\u00ebsojn\u00eb<\/p>\n

d. S\u2019ju b\u00ebjn\u00eb p\u00ebrshtypje<\/p>\n

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12. Keni realizuar ndonj\u00eb nga fantazit\u00eb tuaja?<\/strong><\/p>\n

a. Po, dhe jo vet\u00ebm nj\u00eb!<\/p>\n

b. Po, por me nj\u00eb burr\u00eb q\u00eb e donit v\u00ebrtet.<\/p>\n

c. Jo, por nj\u00eb fantazi me partnerin.<\/p>\n

d. Jo, kurr\u00eb.<\/p>\n

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13. Jeni ithtare e seksit t\u00eb shpejt\u00eb?<\/strong><\/p>\n

a. Po, ju p\u00eblqen shum\u00eb.<\/p>\n

b. Her\u00eb pas here, p\u00ebr t\u00eb thyer rutin\u00ebn.<\/p>\n

c. Nuk ju p\u00eblqen, por p\u00ebr t\u2019i b\u00ebr\u00eb qejfin partnerit\u2026<\/p>\n

d. Jo, duhet t\u00eb zgjas\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb.<\/p>\n

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14. Aktualisht, ju b\u00ebni dashuri:<\/strong><\/p>\n

a. Nj\u00eb her\u00eb n\u00eb dit\u00eb<\/p>\n

b. 2-3 her\u00eb n\u00eb jav\u00eb<\/p>\n

c. Nj\u00eb her\u00eb n\u00eb jav\u00eb<\/p>\n

d. Dy her\u00eb n\u00eb muaj<\/p>\n

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15. Keni b\u00ebr\u00eb ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb dashuri vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u2019i b\u00ebr\u00eb qejfin partnerit?<\/strong><\/p>\n

a. Jo, sepse edhe ju e d\u00ebshironi at\u00eb vazhdimisht<\/p>\n

b. Po, nj\u00eb apo dy her\u00eb<\/p>\n

c. Po, shum\u00eb her\u00eb<\/p>\n

d. Jo, ju b\u00ebni dashuri edhe p\u00ebr k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsin\u00eb tuaj<\/p>\n

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16. Jeni beqare dhe, n\u00eb nj\u00eb fest\u00eb, nj\u00eb burr\u00eb ju vjen rrotull:<\/strong><\/p>\n

a. Ju ikni nga festa bashk\u00eb me t\u00eb dhe p\u00ebrfundoni n\u00eb shtratin e tij.<\/p>\n

b. Diskutoni me t\u00eb p\u00ebr ta njohur m\u00eb mir\u00eb dhe pastaj, si ta shihni\u2026<\/p>\n

c. E lini t\u2019ju vij\u00eb rrotull, pa iu p\u00ebrgjigjur me t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn monedh\u00eb<\/p>\n

d. As q\u00eb e kishit v\u00ebn\u00eb re se ju vinte rrotull.<\/p>\n

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17. Cila \u00ebsht\u00eb pyetja e par\u00eb q\u00eb ju vjen nd\u00ebrmend kur takoni nj\u00eb burr\u00eb?<\/strong><\/p>\n

a. \u00cbsht\u00eb i mir\u00eb n\u00eb shtrat?<\/p>\n

b. A \u00ebsht\u00eb ai i duhuri?<\/p>\n

c. A do merremi vesh me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin?<\/p>\n

d. A do t\u00eb zgjas\u00eb lidhja jon\u00eb?<\/p>\n

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18. Partneri juaj ka nj\u00eb problem me ereksionin. Si reagoni ju?<\/strong><\/p>\n

a. E m\u00ebrzitur dhe e zhg\u00ebnjyer, vendosni t\u00eb k\u00ebnaqni veten<\/p>\n

b. Pak e m\u00ebrzitur, ju mundoheni ta ndihmoni q\u00eb t\u00eb dal\u00eb nga kjo situat\u00eb.<\/p>\n

b. E kuptoni dhe p\u00ebrpiqeni ta qet\u00ebsoni.<\/p>\n

d. E leht\u00ebsuar, i ktheni kurrizin dhe flini<\/p>\n

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19. N\u00eb shtrat, ju i thoni shpesh partnerit:<\/strong><\/p>\n

a. Akoma!<\/p>\n

b. Ishte mir\u00eb<\/p>\n

c. Jo sonte<\/p>\n

d. M\u00eb dhemb koka<\/p>\n

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Rezultatet<\/strong><\/p>\n

N\u00ebse keni m\u00eb shum\u00eb a. Libidoja juaj \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb kulmin e saj<\/strong><\/p>\n

Libidoja juaj \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb form\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb. Mendimet e prapa kan\u00eb p\u00ebrfshir\u00eb mendjen tuaj deri n\u00eb at\u00eb pik\u00eb sa ju mendoni vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb dashuri dhe nuk hezitoni t\u2019i thoni partnerit se e d\u00ebshironi. Gjithashtu, nuk hezitoni t\u00eb hidheni n\u00eb sulm sapo libidoja ju ngacmon, edhe pa e ditur n\u00ebse ai gjithashtu ju d\u00ebshiron. Ai nuk ka ve\u00e7se nj\u00eb mund\u00ebsi, t\u2019ju ndjek\u00eb nga pas! D\u00ebshira juaj \u00ebsht\u00eb pa dyshim mikluese p\u00ebr partnerin, por edhe mund ta step\u00eb at\u00eb, sepse mund ta konsideroj\u00eb veten si objekt seksual. Akti seksual \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb shk\u00ebmbim dhe mb\u00ebshtetet te nj\u00eb d\u00ebshir\u00eb e p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt. K\u00ebshtu, pra, p\u00ebrpiquni t\u00eb ndizni edhe d\u00ebshir\u00ebn e tij. Seksi \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb i mir\u00eb kur d\u00ebshira \u00ebsht\u00eb e p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt, apo jo?<\/p>\n

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N\u00ebse keni m\u00eb shum\u00eb b. Libidoja juaj \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb form\u00eb<\/strong><\/p>\n

Libidoja juaj \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb form\u00eb. Ju e d\u00ebshironi partnerin mjaftuesh\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb pasur nj\u00eb aktivitet seksual aktiv dhe q\u00eb ju k\u00ebnaq. Kur libidoja ju ngacmon, ju ia vini veshin dhe ktheheni nga partneri p\u00ebr t\u00eb k\u00ebnaqur d\u00ebshir\u00ebn tuaj. N\u00ebse \u201cviolinat tuaja nuk i bien t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtit tel\u201d, aq m\u00eb mir\u00eb p\u00ebr ju, por n\u00ebse partneri nuk ka d\u00ebshir\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb dashuri, aq m\u00eb keq. Ju ia vini veshin d\u00ebshir\u00ebs suaj, por edhe asaj t\u00eb partnerit, pasi e keni kuptuar se akti seksual p\u00ebrb\u00ebhet nga d\u00ebshirat tuaja dhe ato t\u00eb partnerit tuaj. Nj\u00eb ekuilib\u00ebr i mir\u00eb, p\u00ebr nj\u00eb dyshe t\u00eb k\u00ebnaqur seksualisht!<\/p>\n

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N\u00ebse keni m\u00eb shum\u00eb c. Ju mungon nisma<\/strong><\/p>\n

Libidoja juaj nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb kulmin e saj. N\u00eb \u00e7do rast, kur b\u00ebni dashuri, \u00ebsht\u00eb partneri ai q\u00eb e b\u00ebn hapin e par\u00eb, jo ju. Ai ka argumentet e tij p\u00ebr t\u2019ju bindur\u2026 Ai tregohet nism\u00ebtar dhe ju e ndiqni nga pas, qoft\u00eb sepse arrin t\u2019ju zgjoj\u00eb pak d\u00ebshir\u00ebn, qoft\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019i b\u00ebr\u00eb qejfin. Lodhja, stresi… nj\u00eb gj\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e sigurt\u00eb, ju nuk e keni mendjen te seksi kur shtriheni n\u00eb shtrat. N\u00ebse nuk keni d\u00ebshir\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb seks, flisni me partnerin. Ky sinqeritet \u00ebsht\u00eb i domosdosh\u00ebm n\u00eb \u00e7ift, p\u00ebr t\u00eb vendosur besimin dhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb forcuar lidhjen. T\u00eb b\u00ebsh dashuri \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb jap\u00ebsh, por gjithashtu, t\u00eb marr\u00ebsh k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi.<\/p>\n

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N\u00ebse keni m\u00eb shum\u00eb d. Libidoja juaj \u00ebsht\u00eb me probleme<\/strong><\/p>\n

Libidoja juaj \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb pik\u00eb t\u00eb vdekur. T\u00eb gjitha p\u00ebrpjekjet e partnerit p\u00ebr t\u2019ju eksituar jan\u00eb t\u00eb kota. Shpesht\u00ebsia e marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve tuaja seksuale \u00ebsht\u00eb 1-2 her\u00eb n\u00eb muaj. N\u00ebse kjo situat\u00eb ju shkon p\u00ebr shtat dhe e konsideroni veten t\u00eb k\u00ebnaqur n\u00eb planin seksual, aq m\u00eb mir\u00eb. N\u00eb fund t\u00eb fundit, ajo q\u00eb ka r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb sasia e marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve, por cil\u00ebsia e tyre. Por n\u00ebse vuani nga kjo munges\u00eb libidoje, flisni me partnerin, q\u00eb mund t\u2019ju ndihmoj\u00eb p\u00ebr ta rizgjuar, ose me nj\u00eb specialist. E r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishmja \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb \u00e7dramatizoni situat\u00ebn dhe, mbi t\u00eb gjitha, t\u00eb mos e ndjeni veten n\u00eb faj kundrejt partnerit.<\/p>\n

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N\u00eb latinisht, libido do t\u00eb thot\u00eb d\u00ebshir\u00eb dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb term q\u00eb sot p\u00ebrdoret si sinonim i d\u00ebshir\u00ebs seksuale. Ishte Frojdi ai q\u00eb e b\u00ebri popullor at\u00eb, duke b\u00ebr\u00eb dallimin mes seksit me q\u00ebllim k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsin\u00eb dhe atij me q\u00ebllim lindjen e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve dhe duke e p\u00ebrdorur gjer\u00ebsisht termin libido n\u00eb teorin\u00eb psikoanalitike. T\u00eb kesh nj\u00eb […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[51],"tags":[226],"class_list":["post-1533","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-test","tag-si-eshte-deshira-jote-seksuale"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1533","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1533"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1533\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1533"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1533"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1533"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}