{"id":14774,"date":"2017-01-07T18:58:10","date_gmt":"2017-01-07T17:58:10","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=14774"},"modified":"2017-01-07T20:41:24","modified_gmt":"2017-01-07T19:41:24","slug":"shoh-endrra-me-puthje","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2017\/01\/shoh-endrra-me-puthje\/","title":{"rendered":"Shoh \u00ebndrra me puthje"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje , jam Lina, jam 16 vje\u00e7e. Shum\u00eb shpesh po m\u00eb ndodh t\u00eb shoh \u00ebndrra duke u puthur, nuk e di se \u00e7\u2019kam. Un\u00eb kurr\u00eb nuk kam pasur t\u00eb dashur, pasi m\u00ebsoj shume dhe nuk m\u00eb shkon mendja t\u00eb kem t\u00eb dashur\u00a0 por koh\u00ebt e fundit po shoh \u00ebndrra teksa puth nj\u00eb njeri t\u00eb panjohur, po shoh \u00e7do nat\u00eb. Nuk jam e dashuruar, as nuk kam simpati. Ju lutem m\u00eb ndihmoni si mund t\u2019i heq k\u00ebto \u00ebndrra nga mendja ime.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Lorela Garuli, psikologe, email<a href=\"mailto:lorela_garuli@hotmail.com:-\">lorela_garuli@hotmail.com:-<\/a><\/strong> P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje Lina, fillimisht t\u00eb fal\u00ebnderoj\u00eb p\u00ebr besimin t\u00ebnd tek gazeta Intervista. Un\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrg\u00ebzoj\u00eb p\u00ebr forc\u00ebn q\u00eb ke marr\u00eb p\u00ebr ta ndar\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtjen t\u00ebnde me ne dhe un\u00eb do t\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqem q\u00eb t\u2019i jap p\u00ebrgjigje pyetjes t\u00ebnde dhe t\u00eb jap ca sugjerime q\u00eb mund t\u00eb jen\u00eb t\u00eb dobishme p\u00ebr ty. Lina, nga ajo q\u00eb ke shkruar duket se je e shqet\u00ebsuar p\u00ebr \u00ebndrrat dhe tani d\u00ebshiron q\u00eb t\u2019i ndalosh ato. P\u00ebrpara se t\u00eb kaloj\u00eb n\u00eb dh\u00ebnien e p\u00ebrgjigjes t\u00ebnde un\u00eb dua t\u00eb t\u00eb sqaroj m\u00eb shum\u00eb se si nxiten k\u00ebto \u00ebndrra. Fillimisht, dua t\u00eb them se \u00ebndrrat jan\u00eb procese komplekse dhe t\u00eb pasura prandaj edhe nxisin kureshtjen ton\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019i kuptuar ato. Megjithat\u00eb, akoma nuk e dim\u00eb q\u00ebllimin e \u00ebndrrave, por ekzistojn\u00eb teori t\u00eb ndryshme t\u00eb cilat japin interpretime mbi \u00ebndrrat. Interpretimet p\u00ebr \u00ebndrrat mund t\u00eb ken\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsime por duhet pasur parasysh se \u00e7do \u00ebnd\u00ebrr ka kuptim tjet\u00ebr p\u00ebr personin q\u00eb e sheh prandaj ato duhet analizuar me vet\u00eb personin. Gjithesesi, \u00ebndrrat shpesh lidhen me p\u00ebrjetimet tona gjat\u00eb dit\u00ebs por edhe shprehin n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb simbolike shqet\u00ebsimet, frikat dhe d\u00ebshirat tona t\u00eb pavet\u00ebdijshme. Pra, ato d\u00ebshira tona t\u00eb cilat e kemi t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u2019i pranojm\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e p\u00ebrditshme mund t\u00eb shfaqen n\u00eb m\u00ebnyra t\u00eb ndryshme p\u00ebrmes \u00ebndrrave. Edhe n\u00eb adoleshenc\u00eb k\u00ebto lloj \u00ebndrrash jan\u00eb t\u00eb zakonshme, ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht p\u00ebr arsye se gjat\u00eb adoleshenc\u00ebs ndodhin disa ndryshime fiziologjike si\u00e7 \u00ebsht\u00eb rritja e aktivitetit t\u00eb hormoneve q\u00eb nxisin edhe maturimin seksual, q\u00eb do t\u00eb thot\u00eb se gjat\u00eb k\u00ebsaj moshe ka ndryshime jo vet\u00ebm n\u00eb aspektin psikologjik e emocional por edhe n\u00eb zhvillimin seksual prandaj edhe \u00ebndrrat me tema seksuale jan\u00eb t\u00eb natyrshme. Mir\u00ebpo duke marr\u00eb parasysh faktin se ti po sheh shum\u00eb shpesh \u00ebndrra t\u00eb tilla q\u00eb jan\u00eb pothuajse t\u00eb nj\u00ebjta, at\u00ebher\u00eb mund t\u00eb jen\u00eb shqet\u00ebsuese p\u00ebr ty q\u00eb po i sheh \u00ebndrrat. Lina, \u00a0duke marr\u00eb parasysh p\u00ebrshkrimin e \u00e7\u00ebshtjes t\u00ebnde ting\u00ebllon sikur vazhdimisht po p\u00ebrpiqesh t\u2019i shmangesh an\u00ebs emocionale si\u00e7 \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00eblqesh dik\u00eb ose t\u00eb dashurosh. Ti ke cekur se je e koncentruar vet\u00ebm n\u00eb m\u00ebsimet e tua dhe nuk t\u00eb intereson aspak ana emocionale. Kjo mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb nj\u00eb shkak i k\u00ebtyre \u00ebndrrave q\u00eb ti po i sheh, pra fakti q\u00eb ti i mposht ndjenjat e tua ato mund t\u00eb shfaqen n\u00eb \u00ebndrra, aty ku ti nuk ke mund\u00ebsi m\u00eb t\u00eb nd\u00ebrhysh. Mbase p\u00ebr ta kaluar m\u00eb leht\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb faz\u00eb do t\u00eb ishte mir\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb fillosh dhe t\u00eb mendosh m\u00eb shum\u00eb p\u00ebr aspektin emocional t\u00ebndin&#8230;.!<\/p>\n<p>K\u00ebt\u00eb shkrim dhe t\u00eb tjer\u00eb si k\u00ebto i gjeni n\u00eb gazet\u00ebn Intervista, n\u00eb treg n\u00eb Shqip\u00ebri , Greqi ose mund t\u2019ua d\u00ebrgojm\u00eb n\u00eb inbox p\u00ebr 1 euro n\u00eb muaj.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje , jam Lina, jam 16 vje\u00e7e. Shum\u00eb shpesh po m\u00eb ndodh t\u00eb shoh \u00ebndrra duke u puthur, nuk e di se \u00e7\u2019kam. Un\u00eb kurr\u00eb nuk kam pasur t\u00eb dashur, pasi m\u00ebsoj shume dhe nuk m\u00eb shkon mendja t\u00eb kem t\u00eb dashur\u00a0 por koh\u00ebt e fundit po shoh \u00ebndrra teksa puth nj\u00eb njeri t\u00eb panjohur, [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":14775,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[86],"tags":[364],"class_list":["post-14774","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-psikologu","tag-psikologu-2"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14774","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=14774"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14774\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/14775"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=14774"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=14774"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=14774"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}