{"id":14662,"date":"2016-12-25T15:44:20","date_gmt":"2016-12-25T14:44:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=14662"},"modified":"2016-12-25T15:44:20","modified_gmt":"2016-12-25T14:44:20","slug":"cfare-duan-realisht-femrat","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2016\/12\/cfare-duan-realisht-femrat\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00c7far\u00eb duan realisht femrat?"},"content":{"rendered":"

P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje. Kam lexuar nj\u00eb th\u00ebnie t\u00eb atij q\u00eb njihet si “babai i psikologjis\u00eb” bot\u00ebrore Zigmund Froid,i cili thot\u00eb se dhe pas shum\u00eb viteve studim nga ana ime nuk arrita dot n\u00eb p\u00ebrfundimin t\u00eb kuptoja se \u00e7’far\u00eb duan realisht femrat? Sa jeni ju dakord me nj\u00eb konkluzion t\u00eb till\u00eb nga ana e tij p\u00ebr femrat n\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi? Ky p\u00ebrfundim i tij lidhet me paaft\u00ebsin\u00eb e tij p\u00ebr ta kuptuar realisht se \u00e7’duan femrat apo me t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb dhe aq e qart\u00eb dhe sot e k\u00ebsaj dite kjo \u00e7\u00ebshtje apo ai i gjykoi ashtu p\u00ebr shkak se mund t\u00eb ket\u00eb qen\u00eb antifeminist? Doja mendimin tuaj si psikologe e koh\u00ebve moderne p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtje q\u00eb sipas mendimit tim nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb dhe aq e leht\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019u\u00a0 diskutuar dhe nga psikolog\u00eb t\u00eb ndrysh\u00ebm? Ju faleminderit paraprakisht p\u00ebr p\u00ebrgjigjen.G\u00ebzimi.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Lorela Garuli, psikologe, email <\/strong>lorela_garuli@hotmail.com:-<\/a> P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje G\u00ebzim. T\u00eb p\u00ebrg\u00ebzoj realisht p\u00ebr pyetjen pasi \u00ebsht\u00eb v\u00ebrtet interesante dhe i hap rrug\u00eb nj\u00eb diskutimi q\u00eb b\u00ebhet p\u00ebrher\u00eb, si n\u00eb emisionet televizive, ashtu dhe n\u00eb tavolinat mes miqve e bashk\u00ebbisedimeve m\u00eb t\u00eb ngushta. Kur vjen puna p\u00ebr t\u00eb folur p\u00ebr \u00e7\u00ebshtje q\u00eb lidhen me gjinin\u00eb, t\u00eb gjith\u00eb kemi gj\u00ebra p\u00ebr t\u00eb th\u00ebn\u00eb, q\u00ebndrime p\u00ebr t\u00eb mbajtur dhe argumente pro\/kund\u00ebr. Megjithat\u00eb, k\u00ebto mbeten subjektive, p\u00ebr sa koh\u00eb jan\u00eb opinione personale.<\/p>\n

\u00cbsht\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb q\u00eb Frojdi \u00ebsht\u00eb shprehur pik\u00ebrisht k\u00ebshtu sic e ke cituar ti, por kjo ka dhe nj\u00eb nivel t\u00eb leht\u00eb humori. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb fraz\u00eb n\u00eb fakt, q\u00eb p\u00ebrmban nj\u00eb lloj dileme \u201cekzistencialiste\u201d, duke qen\u00eb se shpeshher\u00eb burrat shprehen se kan\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsi p\u00ebr t\u00eb kuptuar at\u00eb q\u00eb grat\u00eb duan prej tyre. Ekziston pra, ky lloj perceptimi dhe ideje nga ana e burrave, q\u00eb i b\u00ebn ata t\u00eb paqart\u00eb p\u00ebrball\u00eb partnereve t\u00eb tyre. A \u00ebsht\u00eb kjo paqart\u00ebsi rezultat i faktit se ata v\u00ebrtet nuk e kuptojn\u00eb dot se cfar\u00eb grat\u00eb duan, apo kjo ndodh sepse k\u00ebto t\u00eb fundit jan\u00eb shum\u00eb komplekse dhe k\u00ebrkuese?<\/p>\n

P\u00ebr hir t\u00eb s\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebs, n\u00eb gjykimin tim, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb asnj\u00ebra prej t\u00eb dyjave. Ajo q\u00eb ndodh \u00ebsht\u00eb se kjo \u00e7\u00ebshtje i ka bazat thell\u00eb n\u00eb natyr\u00ebn ton\u00eb dhe n\u00eb karakteristikat e personalitetit t\u00eb secil\u00ebs prej dy gjinive. Tradicionalisht, grat\u00eb dhe vajzat jan\u00eb shum\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb ndjeshme ndaj detajeve, emocioneve, ndjenave dhe marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve humane. Q\u00eb n\u00eb fillimet e zhvillimit t\u00eb shoq\u00ebris\u00eb njer\u00ebzore, grat\u00eb kan\u00eb qen\u00eb ato q\u00eb jan\u00eb marr\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb me f\u00ebmij\u00ebt, me aktivitetet brenda sht\u00ebpis\u00eb, nd\u00ebrsa burrat kan\u00eb qen\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb dh\u00ebn\u00eb me gjuetin\u00eb, bujq\u00ebsin\u00eb, tregtin\u00eb dhe udh\u00ebtimet. Do t\u00eb thot\u00eb pra, se q\u00eb t\u00eb vegj\u00ebl ne edukohemi dhe socializohemi n\u00eb m\u00ebnyra shum\u00eb t\u00eb ndryshme sipas gjinis\u00eb p\u00ebrkat\u00ebse, si rezultat i faktit q\u00eb gjinia \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb nga shtyllat kryesore q\u00eb nd\u00ebrton karakterin dhe temperamentin ton\u00eb. P\u00ebr t\u2019ju kthyer pyetjes t\u00ebnde, mendoj se \u00ebsht\u00eb pik\u00ebrisht dallimi gjinor q\u00eb kemi n\u00eb shprehjen e ndjenjave e emocioneve tona, dallim i cili shkakton konfuzion n\u00eb \u00e7astin q\u00eb duam t\u00eb kuptojm\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb partneri d\u00ebshiron, konkretisht, duke qen\u00eb se grat\u00eb dhe vajzat jan\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb ndjeshme pra ndaj element\u00ebve emocional\u00eb n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie, burrat n\u00eb nj\u00ebfar\u00eb m\u00ebnyre jan\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb thjesht\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn sesi i konceptojn\u00eb apo p\u00ebrjetojn\u00eb nevojat e tyre afektive. Kjo mosp\u00ebrputhje n\u00eb nivel p\u00ebrjetimi dhe shprehjeje t\u00eb ndjenjave natyrisht q\u00eb do t\u00eb coj\u00eb n\u00eb keqkuptime apo konflikte. P\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb arsye \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e domosdoshme q\u00eb t\u00eb dim\u00eb t\u00eb themi at\u00eb q\u00eb duam, t\u00eb dim\u00eb t\u00eb flasim me partnerin duke ia b\u00ebr\u00eb t\u00eb qart\u00eb nevojat dhe d\u00ebshirat tona. Askush nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb brenda mendjes ton\u00eb, k\u00ebshtu q\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019ja leht\u00ebsuar pun\u00ebn partnerit dhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb pasar nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie m\u00eb t\u00eb sh\u00ebndetshme, komunikimi i mir\u00eb dhe transparenca jan\u00eb 2 p\u00ebrb\u00ebr\u00ebs thelb\u00ebsor\u00eb.Sa i p\u00ebrket Frojd-it, n\u00ebse do t\u00eb analizonim imt\u00ebsisht teorit\u00eb e tij dhe konceptimin q\u00eb kishte ai mbi gjinin\u00eb fem\u00ebrore, me shum\u00eb gjasa do t\u00eb dallojm\u00eb se ishte pak maskilist. Prandaj, lidhur me k\u00ebt\u00eb th\u00ebnie t\u00eb tij, m\u00eb e drejt\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb ta shpjegojm\u00eb at\u00eb si nj\u00eb c\u00ebshtje q\u00eb vjen si rrjedhoj\u00eb e diferencave tona gjinore.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje. Kam lexuar nj\u00eb th\u00ebnie t\u00eb atij q\u00eb njihet si “babai i psikologjis\u00eb” bot\u00ebrore Zigmund Froid,i cili thot\u00eb se dhe pas shum\u00eb viteve studim nga ana ime nuk arrita dot n\u00eb p\u00ebrfundimin t\u00eb kuptoja se \u00e7’far\u00eb duan realisht femrat? Sa jeni ju dakord me nj\u00eb konkluzion t\u00eb till\u00eb nga ana e tij p\u00ebr femrat n\u00eb […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":14663,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[86],"tags":[1070],"class_list":["post-14662","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-psikologu","tag-lorela"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14662","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=14662"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14662\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/14663"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=14662"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=14662"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=14662"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}